Life Situation: MFJ, Ages 32 & 33 with a 2 and 4 year old and plans to have 1-2 more
Gross Salary/Wages: Promoted last week: 103K me, 98K DH, total $201K
2019 Individual amounts of each Pre-tax deductions:
Me Trad 401k - $19,000 + 6% match
DH Trad 401K - $19,000 + 6% match
HSA - $5,800 (Employer match for the rest to max)
Me Roth IRA - $6,000
DH Roth IRA - $6,000
Dependent Care FSA (for daycare) - $5,000
Med/Dental/etc - $4,500
Adjusted Gross Income: 147K (not counting Roth contributions since after tax)
Taxes: not sure, this year we backloaded our 401K (lowered our contributions for a house purchase earlier in the year and then upped them after closing) and also just got promoted so it’s all skewed.
Fed: $12,017
SS: $11,043
Medicare: $2,583
State: $7,041
Take Home: $114K -> $9.5K/month
Current Expenses (monthly):
Mortgage P&I: $1,980
Mortgage Escrow (property tax & Insurance): $969
Daycare: $2,009
Groceries: $850 (includes diapers, wipes, household products, and Costco purchases)
Eating out/cafeteria: $411
Alcohol (been hosting parties): $31
Phones: $28 (airvoice wireless, two lines)
Electric: $196 (averaging out high summers – large new house with central air and pool)
Internet: $54
Oil: $100 (averaging out, usually concentrated in winter)
Water: $32 (on septic so no sewer charge)
Auto Gas: $122
Auto Maint: $85
Auto Insurance, Reg, & tax: $185
Life Insurance: $31
Cats: $100
Subscriptions: $34 (Netflix, amazon prime, kindle unlimited)
Hobbies: $125 (sewing and video games)
Clothing: $75 (once a year purchase for adults, replacement/sizing up for kids)
Travel: $100 (we dont really take vacations anymore but have to visit family, I hate travelling)
Misc Shopping: $500 (target, amazon, friends small businesses – gifts for birthdays, xmas, cat litter, emotional wants)
Total: $8,017/month
Assets:
Emergency Fund: $26.2K
Checking: $15.7K
Me 401K: $227.9K
DH 401K: $185.2K
Me Roth IRA: $58.8k
DH Roth IRA: $58.7K
Taxable: $10.4K
Me HSA: $10.4K
DH HSA: $19.7K
House Value: $562.5K
Total: $1,175.5K ($613K investments)
Plus a paid for car and truck
Liabilities:
Mortgage: $446K, 30 year loan started this year @3.375%
Net Worth: $729.5K
So obviously we have a fire house of cash coming in, and I think we do a good job of diverting a lot of it into savings before it gets to us... but we have definitely inflated our lifestyle. We bought our dream house this year so our mortgage and utility costs went up. This house was something we were saving for years for though so definitely part of the plan. We also have two young kids and plan to have some more, also expected costs. What I didn’t anticipate was the ease to which food and convenience items would significantly increase with young kids. I knew costs would increase but we are definitely getting take out, or prepared foods, or stuff from amazon in an attempt to survive two working parents and young kids.
I don’t want to inflate any further and have already taken some steps to de-inflate (we did have one of those meal subscriptions for months so we didn’t have to grocery shop as often, that’s done). I think we have done really well in certain areas (we don’t hire out yard stuff or cleaning, cheap cells, no cable, etc) but our food and shopping categories are TERRIBLE. In the last six months we have pretty much been spending our take home (had 401K contributions at 29% to catch up for 2019) but next year we should have extra cash. We expect to need a larger vehicle once #3 comes (wont buy it until #3 is born just in case life throws us a curve ball in having more kids) and I always save throughout the year to max out our Roths at the beginning of the next year. Is it worth the stress of getting the food and shopping categories down at this point in life so we can save more? I do intend to tackle the shopping… I know its mostly emotional spending on my part and hope recognizing that will help lower it. But the food… just struggling, we are both sooooo tired when we get home from work but also want a life on the weekends. I would love the option to work part time if/when kid #3 or #4 comes but right now that would mean large decrease to our savings rate, thinking I need all the spending under control before thinking that would be an option?
Any sage advice?