Life Situation: Widowed, 46-year-old male with one 8-year-old son. Switched to part-time remote work in September 2018. It’s an ideal situation and I plan to ride it out as long as possible. I don’t see it lasting too much longer to be honest though. Hence the reason for the reality check.
Gross Salary/Wages: Part-time salary is ~$50K. My son qualifies for SS survivors benefits under my late wife’s earning record. That’s ~$18K per year. I qualify for the same amount until his 16th birthday if my earned income is < $17K. I’m well above that, so I’m not collecting this now.
Current expenses: I have over 10 years of tracked spending, but only one year without my wife. My wife and I were naturally frugal. Not extreme by any means, but we liked to stash money away. She died in late 2017 and we spent $37K that year. Without her in 2018, I spent $31K. This comparison still floors me a little because they were very similar spending years. An additional full-size human living in our house only cost an extra $6K.
Expected ER expenses: I calculate my ER expenses to be ~$54K per year. This includes home repairs, future car replacement, taxes, health care and a larger travel budget. There is a lot of discretionary spending in here.
Housing (taxes, insurance, repair budget): $8600
Utilities: $4900
Food: $7800
Transportation (car, gas, insurance, tags): $4100
Health (the big question mark): $6000
Shopping (I never spend the full amount): $4800
Summer Camp: $2000
Misc (I never spend this amount either): $5600
Vacation: $10000
Income taxes: almost non-existent in the beginning. Will pivot child expenses to taxes in future years.
ER Income:
Social Security Survivor Benefits
Son’s SS benefit until 2028: $18K
My SS benefit until 2026: $18K
In addition to the survivor benefit associated with a minor child, I can collect on my late wife’s record starting at 60 and then switch to my earning record later. These are real numbers based on current law. Of course, this all could change, but it is what it is today.
My SS survivor benefit starting at 60: $17K
Switch to my record at 70: $29K
Withdrawal Rates:
2020-2026: 1.5% ($36K SS + $18K savings)
2027-2028: 3.1% ($18K SS + $36K savings)
2029-2031: 4.6% ($54K savings)
2032-2041: 3.2% ($17K SS + $37K savings)
2042 and beyond: 2.2% ($29K SS + $25K savings)
Withdrawal Rates with 25% SS reduction starting in 2032:
2020-2026: 1.5%
2027-2028: 3.1%
2029-2031: 4.6%
2032-2041: 3.6%
2042 and beyond: 2.8%
Is there a good way to average WD rates? Sure, I can average them in Excel, but the resulting number gets lower the longer I estimate my life since my withdrawal rate is lower in later years. This doesn’t seem right and there must be a better way.
Assets:
401K: $640K
Roth: $170K
Taxable: $200K
MM: $155K
Total investable (not including home value): $1,165,000
House (paid-off): $360K
Liabilities: None
Specific Question(s): My wife was a stay-home-parent. I’ve been a stay-home-parent since she passed and want to continue to be one until he is fully grown. If continued employment comes my way that works with the school calendar/hours, I would take it. But, I don’t want to HAVE to take it. I want my current numbers to work without ever working again. The truth is, I will probably make more money along the way. I also have the very real possibility of meeting someone to share expenses with in the future.
My wife and I had a goal/dream of early retirement, but I’ve mostly abandoned that idea since her death and switched to a “can we survive on SS and savings so I can be a stay-home-parent” mindset. I feel like what I’m doing is not early retirement anymore, it’s just taking over my wife’s job as the primary caregiver.
If this were you, how well would you sleep at night based on the above numbers?