We have a lot of big decisions and changes we need to make in the next few years, so I want to get it all written down where random strangers from the internet can help me think things through more thoroughly. I've been mostly lurker status around here for a few years, but have learned a lot and come to realize the mustachian mentality is more in line with our habits than most of my friends and family (although I admit we haven't been very intentional about it). Advice, personal experience and wisdom are all very much welcome as we try to untangle the pros and cons of what to do next.
The short story: we are a family of four (me - 35, DH - 35, DS1 - 4, DS2 - 2) taking advantage of our location independent status and the LCOL in Russia. After ten years of nose-to-the-grindstone working hard I got burned out trying to juggle kids and work. Let's just say family support in the US is pathetic; mothers are expected to be superheros, and I hated that I couldn't give myself 100% to both my work and my family. My husband is a well-educated underemployed translator and I was the high earner. Prior to having children DH was fully employed but underpaid so we made the decision that he would stay home with the boy and work just 15 hours a week (flexible hours, from home). Everything fell apart pretty quickly; DS1 was a little monster and spent his days screaming and his nights nursing. DH was not coping and was on the verge of a mental breakdown. I was in the midst of a big project at work with mandatory overtime and was the slacker in the office for only putting in 50 hours a week. It was two years of extreme stress and sleep deprivation, oh, and pregnancy. Luckily, DS2 was an angel baby that slept and smiled (and was, sadly, mostly ignored). When I went back to work we were finally able to get both boys into a daycare (albeit unlicensed) so DH could start to recover. But it was expensive and they watched TV all day. And DH was still only working 15 hours a week. Obviously this was NOT how we planned for that phase of our lives to go.
Anyway, we hit upon the idea of moving to Russia because the exchange rate is awesome and Americans can get 3-year multiple-entry tourist visas. We gave ourselves 9 months to get our house in order, wrap up projects at work, and get our paperwork taken care of. Our house is successfully rented to some great renters, our (dramatically pared down) belongings are stored in a second garage on the property, and we've been in Russia for almost a year now. DH has slowly been able to pick up more and more work so we have been surprisingly able to save a little while we're here (our original estimates had us just breaking even).
We can stay for two more years, if we wish, but our current plan is to move home next June (2020). DS1 will be able to start kindergarten and he continues to be extremely challenging. We suspect he is gifted, likely ODD and possibly ADHD as well -- it is very likely he will need, at a minimum, behavioral therapy when we return. Barring any major breakthroughs with his behavior, I don't think it would be wise to stay two more years and delay therapy/school. We really need to come home next summer to see family anyway, and I can't bear the thought of enduring the 30 hours of travel and 12 hour time change with two small children for anything more than a one-way trip.
Without further ado…
DH monthly income $3k (SE contractor, steady and increasing assignments)
Total monthly expenses $1400 (6 month average of actual outflow, minus rental mortgage/expenses). I could work out the breakdown, but expenses are already so low that it doesn't seem worth the effort to bother detailing where every dollar goes. I am naturally intentional about our spending, and DH is really pretty careful too. Excess cash is piling up in high-yield savings until we figure out what our next move will be. I plan to contribute $12k to our ROTHs and maybe open up a solo 401k for DH?
Rental mortgage PITI+trash $1500
Rental income $2000
Cash flows +$500, but if I run a proper calculator that accounts for turnover, maintenance and management fees (a friend is managing it for free right now) it works out to +$200. No major maintenance expected in the next few years; it is a higher-end rental for our area. The lease is up September 1st, but current tenants have not given 60 day notice and are expecting child #2 in September so we anticipate they will stay at least through the winter. ROI calculation comes in at 7% so it really isn't a great long-term rental.
Taxes: $2.4k ($5.2k SE, $-2.8k federal, $0 state) I think that's how it will work out? I think we can actually do ROTH conversion on $18-20k for free as well; any non-refundable credits will get wasted otherwise. When we move home we may qualify for the EITC, further reducing our SE tax burden.
ASSETS
House: Owe $134k @4.375% 12 years remaining, EMV Zillow $320k, Redfin $400k. Purchased for $300k in 2013. We made the mistake of paying extra on our mortgage for years and now realize how stupid that was. Not sure how to undo that one; maybe we can refinance in the future?
Not really an asset, but we kept one car and my dad is driving it occasionally to keep it decent. 2008 Toyota Yaris
ROTH IRAs: $82k
Traditional 401k and IRAs: $112k
Taxable brokerage: $17k
High Yield Savings: $45k
TOTAL: $256k
So here is where it gets complicated. I left an $85k +average bennies and occasional bonuses job that I loved. My position has been filled, but I could probably get a different engineering position within the company for similar pay and bide my time for a position to open up in my department. I know enough about the other departments to know that I would not enjoy it nearly as much and perhaps not at all. I used to be extremely driven, but since having kids I feel like I'm over it. There is a LOT of opportunity for growth in this company, but I guess I don't feel like I have the energy for achievement anymore. Maybe that will change once the kids are in school? There are occasional contracting jobs available which would probably be the best way to stay on their radar without the time-sucking commitment of full time.
I also would really like to have another child. I feel like I didn't get to enjoy the first year of either of their lives because I had to go right back to work. DH and I are both from big families so we always imagined having at least three. But I really don't want another unless I can stay home with baby at least until preschool (3 years old).
1. How long can I stay out of the workforce before I become "unemployable?" I guess the other big problem is that my experience is in a very recession-susceptible industry (aviation), so while they have been steadily hiring engineers for the last seven years, it doesn't mean they will be forever.
2. Is there a way we can make ends meet living in 'Merica on my husband's income? What would be the best way to do that? Keep the house rented out and buy or rent a smaller, less-desirable location place? If I'm not working we could still be location independent, after all. Sell our house and do the above-mentioned? Or, move back into our house and find ways to make extra money?
I consider myself fairly enterprising and have many interests with not enough time to pursue them all. I would love to raise goats for milk and meat, raise chickens for eggs (have done this in the past) and meat, raise a pig for meat, keep bees (have done this too), establish an edible perennial landscape and gardens, tap maple trees (have all the supplies for a small operation, average 8 gallons of syrup a year), get qualified to teach fitness classes, be a ski patrol and/or snowboard instructor, and those are just the things that come to mind at the moment. Our house is in an amazing location and we really love it. I know, emotional attachment to a house is ridiculous; maybe if we start looking we can find something that suits us better. We have 1.68 acres so can support most of my dreams, but we are technically in the city limits so some of them are not legal (goats, pig, more than 5 chickens but who's counting?).
Another thought I had was to AirBnb the entire house out for a few prime weekends every year (less than 14 days total, to avoid increasing taxable income). It is a busy tourist town and there are a number of event weekends (graduation, marathon, tall ships, sled dog races, etc) every year that max out the hotels in the area.
3. I bet we could get $1k per night, but what do we do with our stuff? Has anyone done this? We usually like to leave town those weekends and visit family anyway because the inundation of people isn't our thing. But I can't picture how it would work; to what extent do we have to move our stuff out? I guess it would be very motivating to keep every room/drawer/closet clean, minimalist, and organized! Seriously though, everyone has that one drawer and closet that you hope no one looks in...
Our expenses if we move back into our house should be (mostly based on actuals from when we lived there last)
Mortgage (PITI): $1450
Trash/Recycling: $25
Electricity: $55
Water, gas, sewer, street lights: $105
Internet: $65
Phones: $50
Auto Insurance: $50
Auto gas, registration, maintenance: $150 (total guess, but certainly generous)
Food: $600
Life Insurance (term for DH and myself): $50
Taxes: $0 (EITC and CTC should wipe out SE)
Health Insurance: ? Free, Medicaid?
Behavioral Therapy: ??
SINKING FUNDS
Medical: $200
New car: $100
Travel: $50
Home maintenance: $100
Clothing: $50
TOTAL: $3100
So, it looks like we would be running short by just a hundred dollars a month. We have excess at the moment, so I'm thinking about bulking up the sinking funds now which would buy us some time to find ways to either increase income or trim spending. We have always been tight with our money, but money has never been tight, if that makes sense. Money world be really tight for the first time ever and it makes me nervous. We've never actually budgeted before, just been mindful.
4. Retirement. This plan allocates zero dollars to retirement savings, which seems like a terrible idea. If we contribute $12k to our ROTHs this year is there any chance we could just let them grow for the next 30 years and be close to our number? DH's job is so flexible that it wouldn't really cramp our style if he had to work until 65, although I don't foresee myself never earning income again. But, for the sake of crunching the numbers, let's say we didn't contribute after this year, where would we be in 30 years? Our asset allocation is relatively aggressive (80/20) with equities divided equally between VTSAX, VFWAX, VFSAX, and IJS (the four-fund approximation of the Ultimate Buy and Hold portfolio).
5. Solo 401k, ROTH conversions, and the EITC. I believe any substantial ROTH conversions will kill our EITC, so 2019 might be the only year we could really convert a good pile (we don't qualify for EITC this year because we aren't living in the US). In addition to the $18-$20k of "free tax space" we expect to have available, do I have this right that we could also pile a bunch of money into a solo 401k (thus even further lowering our taxable income) which would create even more space for free ROTH conversions? Or maybe all of the solo 401k contribution could just be ROTH; I guess that would be less complicated assuming we can open an account like that. We need to sharpen the pencil on how much cash we want to hoard right now because this is an opportunity too good to pass up!
Say we put an additional $20k into a solo 401k this year; now how does the number look in 30 years? $242k @ 6% per year = WOAH! $1.4 million. How about 20 years? $775k.
6. Is 6% a realistic assumption? If so, woohoo!! No more full-time employment for this girl! Bring on the homestead!
So, after getting my thoughts all written down and numbers crunched, my current thought is to move back into our house when we return next June and see if we can find more places to cut or additional streams of income. I'll stay in touch with my previous employer and maybe pick up an occasional contract position to keep my foot in the door (if we decide to go for child #3 this might not happen for another four years). I'll resume my homesteading dreams and see how much we can move the needle on our food costs and also work to barter spare maple syrup, eggs, honey, etc for other needs/homestead expansion supplies. We'll casually peruse the housing market keeping our eyes out for something even more perfect (cheaper, smaller, more land, lower taxes). We have to keep in mind that an occasional contract job will kill our EITC and Medicaid, so will have to be mindful of the pros and cons of keeping that door open. Similarly, DH may have opportunities to continue to increase his workload, but at some point we'll hit a cliff of dramatically diminishing returns.
7. What am I missing? Am I thinking this through in a logical manner? Are there any glaring errors in my estimations?