You've done very well given that you started just 10 years ago, but let's be honest: for your age you have minimal savings, your household income is on the low side for a high cost area, and after expenses you have only $700/month in wiggle room.
Since you have virtually no taxable savings, we can safely assume that this money goes to things you didn't list: home repairs, medical expenses, car repairs, vacations, gifts. It'll be a challenge for you to retire comfortably at 67, let alone retire early.
Getting your wife on board is key. If you're set on staying in your current home, why not use the high costs and extra space to your advantage? Start a home business that your wife can run. Make a room into a home office and take the home office deduction. Or, there are other at-home jobs she can get, like customer service for JetBlue or something. Getting started on a project like that would help get her out of the funk she is likely to be in, being at home alone all day with nothing to do but watch TV and wait for your daughter to call.
Another suggestion: buy a bike for your daughter! How far do you live from her school and ballet class?