Author Topic: [UK] Getting soft - time to toughen up and increase income with baby in tow  (Read 4646 times)

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What Iím saying is, youíre currently in a bubble. Youíre not in the real world. When that bubble bursts youíre in for a shock. A truly massive shock, particularly if youíre still arty and not really earning much.

You're generally right, except for this bit. What you probably don't know but most of the others who have commented on here do is that the fact that losing the free house is a FREAKING HUGE DEAL is absolutely something I am aware of. I've talked about it in my journal (which above commenters have followed for a while) but didn't mention it here because I just wanted to talk about things I can do right now or very soon. I'm not actually totally naive! I just tend to compartmentalise conversations.

And NGU is also potentially right that Mr SLTD is way underpaid in monetary terms compared to what he could have earned had he gone into, say, management consultancy (as many of our friends/peers have) - because the free house is factored in to his total compensation. Obviously changing fields is difficult but we know that his EFFECTIVE pay is more like £3000/month. It's just that not all of it comes in the form of money.

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Also, I know you're all desperate for an update on the cereal situation! Things have been changing with BabySLTD and I reckon I'll soon be able to get my own breakfast again while he has a wiggle on his playmat. We're currently getting him to sleep in his cot, though, and while it is going well I don't want to push him in other areas at the same time. So I'm giving myself a slight grace period with another few boxes of fancy cereal so Mr SLTD can leave my breakfast out, and then it'll be back on the porridge/homemade bread. It seems easier that way than auditioning new cereal options as the ultra low cost of future breakfasts ought to compensate sufficiently. I have only ever eaten three kinds of cereal in my life - clearly my mushiness sensitivity is off the charts.

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Hey, so just one thing that occurred to me reading your last post... Do you have a sling for babe? Carrying my baby in a sling literally changed my life. I finally had 2 hands free. I could actually do things including eating and peeing. I could even - with a bit of practice - breastfeed in it. Hands free!!

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Hey, so just one thing that occurred to me reading your last post... Do you have a sling for babe? Carrying my baby in a sling literally changed my life. I finally had 2 hands free. I could actually do things including eating and peeing. I could even - with a bit of practice - breastfeed in it. Hands free!!

Yes, but I don't use it any more because he's such a chunker my back can't keep up with how fast he's growing! I'm eagerly awaiting him being old enough for a back carry, though.

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Hey, so just one thing that occurred to me reading your last post... Do you have a sling for babe? Carrying my baby in a sling literally changed my life. I finally had 2 hands free. I could actually do things including eating and peeing. I could even - with a bit of practice - breastfeed in it. Hands free!!

Yes, but I don't use it any more because he's such a chunker my back can't keep up with how fast he's growing! I'm eagerly awaiting him being old enough for a back carry, though.

It's a form of progressive weight training. Every day, you're lifting a slightly heavier weight. We were both far stronger a few years after having children than before, due to regularly having to carry say a sleeping 6 year old from car to bed.