This isn't me, but a close officemate. We work in a government agency.
This is the scenario :
Giŕl A and Girl B were my previous officemates. Both girls are very close and treat eaćh other likč sisters.
Girl A is in a relationship with Guy A. Girl B is in a relationship with Guy B.
Girl A and Guy A broke up. Guy B then made the moves on Girl A (she was his crush), and eventually something happened between them.
Guy A eventually found out and threatened Guy B (tell Girl B what happened), but they worked things between them.
At this point, girl A and guy B no longer talk to each other. However, girl A noticed that girl b treated her differently (if they were very close before, they aren't now)
Things got messy, when Guy A's ex-girlfriend knew what transpired between Girl A and Guy B. Guy A's ex-gf threatened Girl A that she would tell Girl B on what she did.
This was what prompted Girl A to call me and asked me what i would do. She is up for promotion (about to be regularized), but if she stays in the office and ex-gf carries out the threat, it will be a mess between girl a and girl b. She is even considering to leave the agency.
I warned Girl A before of the consequences of cheating with Girl B's bf, and as much as i wanted to tell Girl B of that her boyfriend was a cheat... i would be betraying the confidence Girl A gave me. I would be involving myself in a situation where it wasn't my business.
I'm caught in a dilemma now too. When girl A asked me what she should do, i told her the possible scenarios:
1. Ex-gf carries out her threat
A. Girl A tells Girl B before ex-gf can >>> high probability that their friendship will be f*ck*d.; slight possibility that girl b wilĺ forgive her
B. Girl A allows ex-gf to tell girl B>>> high probability that their frienship will be f*ck*d; very very small possibility that girl b will forgive her
2. Ex-gf shuts up
A. Girl A contacts Guy A to tell ex-gf to shut up and don't meddle >>> could work...
B. Pray for a miracle >>> this is hard... REALLY HARD... success rate is undetermined.
3. Girl A resigns from work
A. She's expressing that she's guilty
B. She won't be seeing Girl B and Guy B anymore.
C. Goodbye regular position
My mom noticed how disturbed I was and wanted me to minimize contact with her (since i have a strong tendency to be affected by other people's stories/negativities)... while i do know the consequences of her actions are none of my business, i do know how it feels when you're down and you need someone to talk to. To ask for advice. To ask for guidance.
I guess posting in this forum is also one way of unloading that burden.
What are your thoughts?