Hi all! I'm a long time occasional lurker who's posting for the first time, so please excuse any poor etiquette. I'll try to give you the cliffs notes and can fill in the details if needed.
In short, we recently bought a new home to fit our expanded family. We're 4 in total, ages 35, 35, 4, and 7 months. We won't have any more kids. My wife and I both work. Together we make about 180K/yr and pay about $2,400/mo. in daycare and school loans. We don't carry any other debt. We save about 28% of our take-home and the rest feeds our moderately frugal life. We live in CT with very high taxes and a high overall cost of living.
We'd been living in a rent-free apartment and home shopping for just over a year when we purchased something at the top of our monthly price range. It's also further from work than we'd been living (roughly a 40-minute commute one-way on average), hasn't been renovated in a while, and doesn't have A/C. That said, it's in a really nice neighborhood, a great community, and a high-quality school district.
We're really concerned we may have made the wrong decision. We ended up there because the property had a lot of the characteristics we desire and because the school system is really great, but we're having a hard time justifying the price given the fact that our school loans (4.5%) won't be paid off for another 8 years. We're trying hard to semi-retire in our early 50's, and we think we may have just shot ourselves in the foot.
It seems like we're at a crossroads here. We can keep the house, which will probably require either my wife to work another day (she's reluctant to do so while the kids are still young) or shave 2-5% off our savings rate. We'd get about $700/mo. in relief when my daughter goes to kindergarten in a year and doesn't need daycare anymore. This would help, but it would me much better to employ that money to paying down school debt. Alternatively, we're thinking about selling the house, eating about $30K in the sale, paying off my wife's school loans, and living rent-free for another year while we build up enough money for another 20% down payment. The downside there is that the living conditions are tight, and we're up against the clock to get our daughter into a better school system in 2019.
I realize this is sort of detail light, and I'd be happy to include more if people are interested in the discussion. I'm wondering if anyone else has been in a similar situation and/or might have some perspective to offer. No one in my family or network of friends cares anything about the concept of semi-retirement, so I've go no one to confide in. Hence, I reach into the community for some help.