Hey everyone, I'm new here in the forum but have been following the MM blog for years and the lifestlye.
I'm gonna put down my situation, which is causing me stress/anxiety and sleeplessness (but maybe shouldn't! depending how you look at it). I guess I'm just gonna put my situation out there and see what people think, maybe there will be some feedback to help me stay calmer etc.
I've got 1.2 million CAD in investments. My average return going back to the financial crisis (which I avoided, purposefully) has been 17% a year. This recent year it is so far 37%. I am highly diversified with well over 100 stocks, but I use my interest and background in geopolitics, poli sci and economics, and my interest in current events and analysis to pick sectors and stocks. Mostly blue chips. I saw Covid coming and make a big gain around that, as well as seeing the need/trends around Cold War 2.0 with China, nearshoring, nuclear power, European and Asian re-armarment etc (even anticipating the Ukraine war - just based on Putin's/Russian speeches and troops movements back then). So, my main claim to fame would be operating around big changes and events and long term trends/sectors.
I lost my job 1.5 years ago (am in Canada), when remote work ended, and haven't been able to get anything since. Not even min wage. Networked a lot, studied new things, applied to over 1,000 jobs (custom covers letters often etc). Many are in the same boat as me, we have rising unemployment and extremely high immigration still, making it almost untenable. I don't think it will change for the better in the coming years. The only opportunity left would be doing dog sitting like with the Rover app and selling stuff off the street. Which would be ok (a few hundreds bucks here and there, enough for groceries and basics). I would say for my situation, we need to assume jobs are not an option (not even part time or min wage). Unemployment in my city is at the level of the financial crisis now but hundreds of thousands of more people come every year.
So I always wanted to retire early, but, I am forced into it now. Maybe sooner than I wanted.
I can easily live on 3-5K per year for all my food, clothes, and anything I want. My rent will be zilch or a few hundred a month, living at home in an upper house unit with a future roomate. It is quite big and I have a big attic room above everything. Don't mind sharing, someone to talk to etc. Maybe not forever though. It has multile extra rooms though. I can't even use it all anyways!
I could spend 15-20K on two more epic world tours in the coming years (i.e. this fall/winter). I like long term travel. Have done it in the past for years, digital nomad style. Once I go everywhere, my trips would end up shorter though in the long run, maybe 3-5K normally in the future. I travel for adventure and culture and don't indulge abroad too much, but am comfortable always and splurge on seeing things and experiences.
Single and no kids. Is it possible to have kids? Am 39/male. Hard to date 'unemployed', never works, but now I tell people I manage boutique investments and it works better. The government here also pays about 20K if you have 2 kids now until 16. So I would count on that, if I had no job but had kids (and not likely ever to get a job again). But dating here with FIRE is pretty rough. Very materialistic society here it seems too. Women often reject me because they say they love restaurants, shopping, live theatre, etc. I don't mind those, just not all the time per se. I've done them before lol. I'm also on a low glycemic diet anyway (preventative) so am just not into restaurants much, which also screws up my gym routine because that food doesn't have enough energy.
I could also always move to Costa Rica, Ecuador, etc, and retire there. I find the people/women less judgemental abroad too and I'd have a girlfriend no problem. Exit tax is huge though. But could buy a home there, family, anything is possible. Kids would grow up with more opportunity there than here too. People I know do really well in Costa Rica. And btw, I do like these countries and know the issues for the most part, and I speak a lot of Spanish now. Been all over much of the world and to South America many times for long stretches... was a digital nomad for 4 years or so before. Very comfortable abroad. Would miss family, and friends to a lesser extent.
I could stay single and live an international playboy life too. I guess.
So do people think I have enough? Based on the 4% rule I think so. I literally don't have any other options/choice anyway in this labour market here. Retraining is a tough call because it can take years and a lot of money and honestly I have no energy anymore, and every field is flooded with labour here.
At 65 some extra government benefits kick in which would be about 20K per year. Eventually I'd inherit half a house which is worth 2 mil. Could keep living in it too probably.
Is having kids possible, do FIRE people do that much? Or opt out and just live the food life?
Do people find dating and explaining themselves super tough with FIRE? (of course, it is not so hard in other countries... they're more Pura Vida!)
P.S. I just moved back home to my upstairs unit, am still setting up. So partly I think I gotta give it more time here to see how life goes.
But the feeling of being rejected by women, jobs, and sometimes being aimless or being a failure or not fitting in is hard. On the other hand I got hobbies, gym, biking, books etc, friends, so I can amp up these things and side projects! I think having 2 feet in the door on both worlds, retirement, and still applying for jobs... is screwing me up, feeling like I'm not where I'm supposed to be... straddling both worlds... not fully enjoying my situation like I could... and just generally a bit confused about things, including family ideas etc or living here or moving abroad...
Anyone else gone through all that junk? : )