Thanks for all the responses!
SKL-HOU We do disclose the noise, and have from day one. And we do have plans to build a small house in the backyard for ourselves. That will help with some of the noise, but since its a warm climate year round, the kids do spend a lot of time playing outside. So I will have to teach them to play quietly and use their quiet voices inside and outside!
MerryMcQ--love the TV as a privilege only when guests are staying!
Mamagoose--yes! that's what I mean! I've had my kids in a hotel room and it was HELL because it wasn't babyproofed. Actually writing that in the description is a great idea. Thanks for the encouragement.
Axecleaver--Yes! As I've been writing and thinking about this today, I've realized that I've been lazy as a parent. It's time to educate my children instead of just sighing, "oh boys will be boys". Bad parent! When I was a first grade teacher we worked on our "Stamina". We had a little chart, like a temperature gauge, and we'd color in the boxes for how many minutes we could "Stay in our seats, work the whole time, and work silently". We'd try to do one more minute than the day before. The students got it and enjoyed working on it. I think I could do this with my kids. We'll have set aside quiet time activities where we color, read books, listen to stories, do playdoh, and we'll run work on increasing our quiet time Stamina. We can also talk about volume and practice turning it up and down. And my husband and I need to model using our quiet voice as well, even when we're upset.
Isn't it always the case that the best things in life come through our tribulations?