Hi everyone!
I'm at a place in life where I know I'm ahead of the curve, but I know I can't have it all and I don't want to make bad decisions that undo my gains. I'm hoping someone with more wisdom than myself can mentor me a bit. My job is driving me insane, I loathe working on salary and being expected to be present whether or not I'm being productive. I feel like I'm in prison all day. *But* it pays well, and I'm making good financial progress. My serious girlfriend just quit her job to go to school for nursing. She'll be done in ~3 years. I have promised to provide her ~$700/month for her to live on.
Here's my financials:
Age: 28
Current income: 115K before taxes. Currently saving between $2k - $4k/month
Housing: $150K condo, mortgage is paid off, ~$300/mo expenses -- utilities, HOA, etc
Retirement savings: $28K 401(k), $7k Roth IRA
Cash savings: $14k
$10k car, paid off
$5k motorcycle, paid off
Somewhat inaccessible inheritance in stock fund: $130k (difficult to access, would have to have a very good reason)
Education/experience: masters degree in computer science, 5+ years experience in software development
My goals: I want to work 20-30 hours a week on a business of my own or at least on something that is meaningful to me. I want to provide a good financial safety net for my girlfriend (future wife) and for the possibility of having kids within 5 years. I want a small plot of land to grow my own food and the time to do it.
I have been wanting to work on creating a business on the side, but I get so burnt out from work that I can't find the motivation for it. I feel like to get any momentum on that goal, I need to make it my primary focus.
Basically, I'm frightened of giving up the high-paying job because it will turn my cash flow negative and I will face criticism from family. It seems like a clearly bad financial decision. It also seems like bad timing with my girlfriend just starting nursing school.
On the flip side, my startup job is stressful enough that it is badly affecting my health and my very good relationship and it is preventing me from doing many things that are important to me. If I were single I think I would temporarily move to a country with low cost of living and offset my expenses with the rental income from my condo while I proved business viability.
I'm feeling a bit stuck (the irony of being "stuck" in a relatively good situation is not lost on me). If I stay on the career treadmill for another 10-15 years, I think I could easily become completely financially independent. If I jump off, I am afraid about my ability to re-join the workforce if I realize it was a bad decision.
Can anyone give me some advice? I'm just feeling a little lost and need some guidance. Thank you so much!