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Megma

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Re: MMM ladies, used wedding dress? Yes or no?
« Reply #50 on: December 05, 2016, 03:21:32 PM »
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Re: MMM ladies, used wedding dress? Yes or no?
« Reply #51 on: December 06, 2016, 08:00:19 AM »

Wow my David's bridal experience was so different ...
It might spend on the location. A friend of mine had a horrible experience trying dresses on there in our area. Or maybe the associate was having a bad day. I bought a prom dress there ten years ago and it was fine.
That makes sense -- different management, you know.  In our case, we had an appointment and should've had a sales associate assigned just to us; instead, they were shorthanded, and our "helper" kept running off to work with other customers, leaving us to twiddle our thumbs.  I started pulling dresses myself and helping my daughter.  Regardless of the staff, they only had tiny dressing rooms (with no mirrors in them!), which made dressing difficult.  Nowhere else in my daughter's wedding dress search did I encounter dressing rooms sized as if they belonged in Target.   

For what it's worth, I got married 9 years old, and the puffy, strapless dresses that were all the rage were not for me.  I ordered a white bridesmaid's dress on-line (~$200) and got it altered (~75).  IMO the result was beautiful.  Not sure why bridesmaid dresses come in white....but might as well capitalize on it.
All white weddings are "a thing" in the South, just as black bridesmaids' dresses were briefly in vogue.  The issue with white bridesmaids' dresses is that they may not be pure white (or even soft ivory, which is the thing today instead of stark paper-white), and that can make a veil or other headpiece tricky.  Not impossible -- not by any means -- but tricky. 

The trick to being ok emotionally with reselling a wedding dress is to designate a fun purpose for the money you'll get. We used the money from selling mine to buy a plane ticket to an outer island (we live on Oahu and got a ticket to the Big Island) to go backpacking. So now when I think about my wedding dress, I think about how we had an awesome backpacking trip with it before we found out I was pregnant with my first kid. Makes all sentimental regret at not having my dress disappear.

And the truth is...who needs that thing sitting in my closet mocking me for never ever being able to fit in it again?
That's brilliant!  I don't think most dresses will bring enough for big trips though.   

I bought one on eBay. I compared my measurements to the dress measurements before buying, but I have a large ribcage and wasn't able to zip it. Since it wasn't returnable I got it altered to have a lace-up back, which ended up looking really nice. Overall no regrets.
Again, brilliant.  I would never have considered this a possibility.

I bought a Juliet-style cap at a fabric store and all the fabric and veiling. She also made the bridesmaids' dresses. My dress and veil were under $125. Of course, that was a long time ago.
And ask around!  I made my own veil (ridiculously easy, and I think it cost about $20-25), and it wasn't until after my wedding that I saw my new sister-in-law's wedding pictures.  She had the most lovely Juliette cap -- I would've asked to borrow it, had I realized she had it. 

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Re: MMM ladies, used wedding dress? Yes or no?
« Reply #52 on: December 06, 2016, 12:45:52 PM »
Nothing wrong with a used gown.  There are plenty of sales around from trunk shows and at stores though.

Absolutely do not try on a dress outside your budget though. For real.  Dress regret is a real issue. I'm on a wedding forum and the number of women who struggle with this is absurdly high.

Secondly. There is nothing wrong with an expensive gown of you can afford it.  There is no reason to shame someone for purchasing a more expensive gown.

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Re: MMM ladies, used wedding dress? Yes or no?
« Reply #53 on: December 06, 2016, 12:55:05 PM »
There is no reason to shame someone for purchasing a more expensive gown.


Have you been on this forum before? We have entire sub-forums dedicated shaming people for expensive purchases when less expensive ones would have been sufficient.

/But who gives a damn about the judge-pants internet people. Buy the dress you want.

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Re: MMM ladies, used wedding dress? Yes or no?
« Reply #54 on: December 06, 2016, 02:22:35 PM »
Hi Diane C,

The wedding was fun and super casual, had our 3 sons as our wedding party and we had BBQ and cupcakes afterwards.  Now DH is retired and I'm no longer at risk of being called up myself.  We get to be civilians without all that hanging over our heads.  Been married now for 9 years, but still have this gorgeous wedding dress to give away.  Thinking I'm going to post a separate forum entry later tonight with an official offer to the MMM ladies...maybe I can make it a bit of a contest...

Sorry for the hijack OP!

Yes, used wedding dresses are awesome, especially if they come with stories :)
This is not a hijack at all! It adds a nice dimension to the discussion, attracts more people, who provide more ideas for the OP. Win-win!

It also moves your story onto page two, so it doesn't get buried. Heh heh, wink wink. They call 'em feel good stories for a reason.
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Re: MMM ladies, used wedding dress? Yes or no?
« Reply #55 on: December 06, 2016, 02:48:03 PM »
my wedding dress was $60 on eBay.  donated it later to a local charity collecting used prom dresses (the dress was silver, not white). 

my veil cost $0 since I didn't have one.

no regrets with any of it!

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Re: MMM ladies, used wedding dress? Yes or no?
« Reply #56 on: December 06, 2016, 03:15:53 PM »
Costco!  Costco does/did trunk sales for wedding dresses.  I bought mine for $600 and then spent a couple hundred on alterations.  I then sold it via consignment to a bridal consignment shop and recouped the alteration costs.

I'm not sure where you are located, but in my city, we have at least one consignment shop dedicated to wedding dresses.