Wife is a CPA in the Big Four. I'm in finance.
Another vote for moving closer. With many folks we know moving out of town, we paid more for our location, but now walk/bike to work in less than 30mins/17mins daily. And since we're in town, we have access to metros, RelayRides, Uber, regional rail, buses, etc if the need to commute by other means arises.
Not always easy: understood. But it was a difficult move for us, too: paid off tremendously!