I took the liberty of reading through some of your previous posts, and I have a couple suggestions:
- If you haven't really considered it yet, I'd strongly r recommend opening yourselves to couples' counseling. Not because things are bad now but because things could get bad so fast. You have a strong family and you both seem to love your kids, which is excellent. However - you mention your husband has previous issues with gambling. You two also seem to have a strained relationship with your in-laws (who you will be moving back to) in terms of financial support expectations. You personally love the outdoors and nature and want to have your kids experience the outdoors, yet your husband is very much a homebody who doesn't necessarily appreciate being outside the same way you do.
So, I say you may want to explore couples' counseling because your expectations and his expectations don't seem to be aligned. It's clear that past 'arguments' haven't helped re-center you two, as you're now on your way back to the city. I think you two need to be on the same page, or at least acutely aware of each other's wants and needs.
- Going off a few of those themes, set some boundaries. Don't completely give up your ability to have your kids outdoors, make sure to let your husband know that is supremely important to you. Same goes with the other themes (in-laws, etc.).
- Maybe you've already done this, but consider the bond you and your husband have with your friends and family. If in 4 years, neither friends nor family has really come out to stay with you, how important are you guys to them? I suspect there is an unequal relationship there with you two getting the short end of the stick.
Best of luck!