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This situation boggles my mind. It's happening to a close female relative of mine (the wife in the husband/wife situation).

The wife drove about a week ago to another state to visit her parents. Husband had been acting a bit strange recently, per the wife (strange = forgetful, irritated). His mother passed away last year and suffered from dementia. So it's conceivable that it's hitting him.

He calls his wife while she's at her parents and tells her to just stay and not come home...that he's filing for divorce.

He claims the wife owes him several thousand dollars, and he won't let her have her belongings (furniture, clothes, title to her car that's solely in her name). She sold another older car recently and gave him $5,000 of the $5,500 she got for it. She "owes" him about another $5,000.

Now, the wife has managed to waste A LOT of money in the last 10 years that she obtained from a previous ex-husband. I mean A LOT. She has nothing now except a house in another state that is being rented (under contract to sell to renters in about 1 year). Her equity will be about $50,000. The rent payment she receives now doesn't cover what she owes monthly on her consolidated credit card debt (about $390).

The husband is an armed prepper, and he has been a bit weird lately. Legally, he can't hold her stuff. But is calling the police a good idea? It will make him mad. Plus all of us are in another state.

Legal aid says they can't help her until she's divorced?? Couldn't they advise her on bankruptcy or how to handle a husband holding her belongings hostage?

Not sure of the best way to advise her to proceed.

(Why am I involved? She is staying with her parents--they live below the poverty line--and the parents are stressed. I'm trying to intervene so this problem doesn't fall in their laps and cause them health problems. Plus the wife in this situation is overly dramatic, emotional, and weak...incapable of being logical and rational in this situation.)

This whole situation just flabbergasts me. Seems like it's something you'd see on one of those "Judge Judy" shows. Thanks for any advice.

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« Reply #1 on: March 17, 2016, 03:20:03 PM »
I would advise her to get in touch with an organization that assists domestic violence victims in the state where she and her husband reside.  Where I live, the YWCA provides this.  They can tell her how local law enforcement handles situations such as a safe return to get one's possessions.  Keep in mind that it can be hard to discern all the facts in case like this, especially second or third hand.

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« Reply #2 on: March 17, 2016, 03:32:37 PM »
Well, she shouldn't give him anything, for starters. As PP noted, she needs to get legal counsel and help. In addition to domestic violence resources, she can likely get some assistance with the process of filing for divorce at the court house (at least in my area there is some help available for forms and the general process and such). Ultimately, if they can't agree on how things should be divided then the court will decide. Obviously, she needs to close any jointly held credit cards (or get her name off them) and make sure he doesn't have access to her bank account. I don't think the police are going to go in on their own absent a court order and get her stuff. Mostly likely she is going to have to travel back to deal with at least some of these issues. Hopefully she has some friends who can help her out and give her a place to stay.

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« Reply #3 on: March 17, 2016, 03:49:28 PM »
Until there is some sort of a court order, no, he can't unilaterally lock her out of her residence and take her stuff.

He hasn't even filed for divorce. Just words.

If she feels he is a danger, she could potentially get a temporary restraining order against him. In that order, in most states, the judge can order one party to leave the residence.

If she files for divorce, then the judge can in limited circumstances make certain temporary orders re: property and assets.

She needs a divorce attorney from the town or county where her husband lives. Failing that, she needs a legal aid organization in that county. Move quickly because this kind of stuff doesn't age well.

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« Reply #4 on: March 17, 2016, 05:07:04 PM »
This is a matter for an attorney to solve. They can assist with necessary paperwork like financial restraining orders to prevent the husband from draining the bank accounts, as well as assistance with getting her belongings.

The best way you can "help" her is to get her to call and hire an attorney, stat.
 
Tough situation. Good on you for being a friend and providing good advice.

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« Reply #5 on: March 17, 2016, 05:33:47 PM »
Until there is some sort of a court order, no, he can't unilaterally lock her out of her residence and take her stuff.

He hasn't even filed for divorce. Just words.

If she feels he is a danger, she could potentially get a temporary restraining order against him. In that order, in most states, the judge can order one party to leave the residence.

If she files for divorce, then the judge can in limited circumstances make certain temporary orders re: property and assets.

She needs a divorce attorney from the town or county where her husband lives. Failing that, she needs a legal aid organization in that county. Move quickly because this kind of stuff doesn't age well.

+1 She needs to file for divorce ASAP. Being afraid of him isn't helping the situation. Allowing him to intimidate her only makes the situation worse. She should demand- not ask- that he allow her to get her things. If he agrees, she should take at least one person with her as a witness. If he refuses, she should contact the police. She needs to begin legally disentangling herself from this mess before it becomes even worse.

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« Reply #6 on: March 17, 2016, 10:01:33 PM »
I would advise her to get in touch with an organization that assists domestic violence victims in the state where she and her husband reside.  Where I live, the YWCA provides this.  They can tell her how local law enforcement handles situations such as a safe return to get one's possessions.  Keep in mind that it can be hard to discern all the facts in case like this, especially second or third hand.

He hasn't hit her. He has told her from several states away to not come home, that he changed the locks, and that she couldn't have her stuff until she "paid him back." Does all that count as domestic violence?

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« Reply #7 on: March 17, 2016, 10:06:04 PM »
Well, she shouldn't give him anything, for starters. As PP noted, she needs to get legal counsel and help. In addition to domestic violence resources, she can likely get some assistance with the process of filing for divorce at the court house (at least in my area there is some help available for forms and the general process and such). Ultimately, if they can't agree on how things should be divided then the court will decide. Obviously, she needs to close any jointly held credit cards (or get her name off them) and make sure he doesn't have access to her bank account. I don't think the police are going to go in on their own absent a court order and get her stuff. Mostly likely she is going to have to travel back to deal with at least some of these issues. Hopefully she has some friends who can help her out and give her a place to stay.

She has no money. Are there pro-bono divorce lawyers? She hasn't had a job in decades.

I don't think they have any joint accounts.

I had her call the sheriff in her home state (where her husband is). They told her to call Legal Aid in that county and get a Writ of Assistance. Legal Aid isn't open until Monday so we'll see what they say.

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« Reply #8 on: March 17, 2016, 10:12:26 PM »
Thanks all for the responses! We'll see what Legal Aid says.

It would be nice if she had some money to pay a lawyer, but there is nothing but thousands in credit card debt to show for her seven-figure settlement from an ex-husband. It's a crazy situation!

One good note...her tone has shifted a bit away from "why doesn't he want me anymore" and more towards "I'm going to get a bundle from him in the divorce." It's nice to see some anger!

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« Reply #9 on: March 18, 2016, 02:32:49 AM »
The wife has two problems: the state of her marriage and the state of her finances.

On the marriage, I'm not sure I'd recommend the wife going straight to divorce on the basis of one phone call, when there is no indication on the basis of what we have been told so far either of violence or threats of violence.  The husband is grieving the loss of his mother, and is possibly ill.  If there is anything she can safely do to reconcile with her husband, or at least establish friendly communication with him?  Do they have mutual friends who could be asked to get in touch with him and find out more of what he is thinking? I would encourage that, rather than going straight to lawyers or police.  If she could get his agreement go back to see him so they could talk that would be a start.

On the money side, her problem is not that she is bankrupt, but that she is lacking cash flow.  The solution to that is called a job.  It certainly isn't to consult lawyers or bankruptcy professionals who will charge her money she doesn't currently have to hand.

If I were OP, I'd be giving tough love to the wife and reserving most of my sympathy, support and advice for her parents.
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« Reply #10 on: March 18, 2016, 08:39:13 AM »
The wife has two problems: the state of her marriage and the state of her finances.

On the marriage, I'm not sure I'd recommend the wife going straight to divorce on the basis of one phone call, when there is no indication on the basis of what we have been told so far either of violence or threats of violence.  The husband is grieving the loss of his mother, and is possibly ill.  If there is anything she can safely do to reconcile with her husband, or at least establish friendly communication with him?  Do they have mutual friends who could be asked to get in touch with him and find out more of what he is thinking? I would encourage that, rather than going straight to lawyers or police.  If she could get his agreement go back to see him so they could talk that would be a start.
No chance of reconciliation. Husband is adamant. I've talked to him and texted him in a very friendly way. She has talked and texted to him multiple times. No way.

I suspected him of being a gold-digger at the beginning of their relationship about 9 years ago. But after a while he seemed okay, even loving for years. I think he's fine having a wife who can pay her own way, and that when she can't, it's a deal-breaker.

He's not grieving his mother at all. (I wasn't clear in my post about that.) His mother was a burden to him. I mentioned her because I thought maybe he's getting the same mental issues she had.

On the money side, her problem is not that she is bankrupt, but that she is lacking cash flow.  The solution to that is called a job.  It certainly isn't to consult lawyers or bankruptcy professionals who will charge her money she doesn't currently have to hand.
Definitely! But she's too old and sick to work, she says. (No one in the family believes that.) She's focused on trying to get Medicaid and SSI. There may be a part-time secretarial job opening up nearby soon. It would pay between $100 and $200 a week. It's something at least--assuming she gets the job. Might take a few weeks or months before that job opens up. In six years, she'll get half of rich ex-husband's soc security. (Those two were married almost 20 years.)

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« Reply #11 on: March 18, 2016, 09:33:19 AM »
He sounds legitimately mentally incompetent to me. If he's sick, there's no reason to take anything he says personally, her husband is just gone. It sounds like there aren't enough resources to save herself (by getting safe and securing her assets) and her husband (by making sure he has the help he needs). She might just have to focus on starting over. I hope I'm wrong. What a terrible situation.

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« Reply #12 on: March 18, 2016, 09:53:15 AM »
I didn't see the OP say anything about domestic violence. She should just borrow a truck and go back to the house and get her stuff. If he won't let her in or let her take her things then she can call the cops and they'll come out while she gets her stuff. She probably can't take furniture or anything that would be perceived as joint ownership at that point but she can walk right out with her clothes, etc.

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« Reply #13 on: March 18, 2016, 10:37:49 AM »
I would advise her to get in touch with an organization that assists domestic violence victims in the state where she and her husband reside.  Where I live, the YWCA provides this.  They can tell her how local law enforcement handles situations such as a safe return to get one's possessions.  Keep in mind that it can be hard to discern all the facts in case like this, especially second or third hand.

He hasn't hit her. He has told her from several states away to not come home, that he changed the locks, and that she couldn't have her stuff until she "paid him back." Does all that count as domestic violence?

For many DV organizations, including the one that I worked at in the past, this scenario would qualify her for at least some services.  We defined DV broadly, to include financial abuse.  And even if she doesn't qualify for services directly from the DV agency, they will know what other services might be available to her in her region.  It's certainly worth giving them a call.

If she is concerned about her safety, I would NOT recommend going alone to try to collect her belongings.  Even if the husband has not been physically violent in the past, she is better placed than any of us to judge whether that might be a possibility.  If she thinks it's a possibility, she should trust her gut and not go to the joint residence without some kind of escort.

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« Reply #14 on: March 18, 2016, 01:19:16 PM »
I know a couple where the guy was under a lot of stress and decided to sit out on the porch with his gun to protect his property (from other people, not the wife). When the family contacted the police, they were told to get out of the immediate area (to avoid any confusion about who was involved) and the police came and got the guy and put him under psychiatric observation for 24 hours. Granted this is in a region where sitting out on your porch with a loaded gun is not considered normal behavior. But it suggests to me that if the wife can go and attempt to get her things and the husband displays any unstable behavior, particularly if a weapon is involved, the cops may clear him out for long enough for her to get the basics. 

This isn't necessarily fair, but my observation is that cops are very quick to believe women's accusations of violence against male partners, at least in terms of physically taking the guy out of the situation temporarily. I'm not suggesting she lie! But if she goes and reports honestly that she feels unsafe, that might be enough for them.

And, seriously, I can see her wanting to bring someone along as a witness/moral support, but the idea of calling a bunch of legal aid and the cops etc. without even making an attempt (given there's been no history of violence) seems pretty feeble. I wouldn't be surprised if he talks big on the phone after psyching himself up over several days of solitude but then doesn't actually walk the walk when faced with her in person.  OP, if it you who accompanies her, do protect yourself. You don't want some altercation and then her switching sides to restore domestic order and blaming you.

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« Reply #15 on: March 18, 2016, 01:29:30 PM »
I have to agree with the people who are questioning what's going on here.  You are not a part of their marriage and cannot comment either way on the possibility of reconciliation.  The guy sounds like he has gone off the rails for some reason.   If I was her, I would first be concerned about my husband's mental health and safety, not calling legal aid for divorce advice.  What part of the story is missing here?

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« Reply #16 on: March 18, 2016, 01:33:49 PM »
And, seriously, I can see her wanting to bring someone along as a witness/moral support, but the idea of calling a bunch of legal aid and the cops etc. without even making an attempt (given there's been no history of violence) seems pretty feeble. I wouldn't be surprised if he talks big on the phone after psyching himself up over several days of solitude but then doesn't actually walk the walk when faced with her in person.  OP, if it you who accompanies her, do protect yourself. You don't want some altercation and then her switching sides to restore domestic order and blaming you.
+1 without knowing any more about the situation. The OP hasn't mentioned anger, or threats, or anything like that. I can see where people would assume the situation is hostile but we know what assuming does.

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« Reply #17 on: March 18, 2016, 06:26:45 PM »
And, seriously, I can see her wanting to bring someone along as a witness/moral support, but the idea of calling a bunch of legal aid and the cops etc. without even making an attempt (given there's been no history of violence) seems pretty feeble. I wouldn't be surprised if he talks big on the phone after psyching himself up over several days of solitude but then doesn't actually walk the walk when faced with her in person.  OP, if it you who accompanies her, do protect yourself. You don't want some altercation and then her switching sides to restore domestic order and blaming you.
+1 without knowing any more about the situation. The OP hasn't mentioned anger, or threats, or anything like that. I can see where people would assume the situation is hostile but we know what assuming does.

The only threat is that he won't let her have her belongings, and he changed the locks. I'm assuming he would block her way into the house to get the stuff. He was pretty adamant about her not getting her belongings until she pays him several thousand dollars. I talked to him and that's what he said. I can picture him in my head standing there in the doorway with a gun in a holster on his hip saying, "You got my money?"

At this point, with all the stress he's caused, I'm actually hoping he does something stupid with an officer present and gets to spend a night or two in jail to cool off. I need to quit thinking vengeful thoughts.

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« Reply #18 on: March 18, 2016, 07:08:43 PM »
My inclination would be to go to the local police station, explain what happened, tell them you are afraid he might be a danger to himself or others, and ask what can be done to get personal items from the house.

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« Reply #19 on: March 18, 2016, 10:03:16 PM »
My inclination would be to go to the local police station, explain what happened, tell them you are afraid he might be a danger to himself or others, and ask what can be done to get personal items from the house.

All of us, including the wife, are 10 hours from the husband. She called the sheriff in the husband's state and county. They said to call the area Legal Aid and get a Writ of Assistance, so that's what the wife is pursuing. The legal aid office is not open until Monday.

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« Reply #20 on: March 19, 2016, 07:14:23 AM »
My inclination would be to go to the local police station, explain what happened, tell them you are afraid he might be a danger to himself or others, and ask what can be done to get personal items from the house.

All of us, including the wife, are 10 hours from the husband. She called the sheriff in the husband's state and county. They said to call the area Legal Aid and get a Writ of Assistance, so that's what the wife is pursuing. The legal aid office is not open until Monday.

If she wants to get her stuff back or anything else accomplished, she has to go back.

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« Reply #21 on: March 19, 2016, 08:08:51 AM »
I would advise her to get in touch with an organization that assists domestic violence victims in the state where she and her husband reside.  Where I live, the YWCA provides this.  They can tell her how local law enforcement handles situations such as a safe return to get one's possessions.  Keep in mind that it can be hard to discern all the facts in case like this, especially second or third hand.

He hasn't hit her. He has told her from several states away to not come home, that he changed the locks, and that she couldn't have her stuff until she "paid him back." Does all that count as domestic violence?

For many DV organizations, including the one that I worked at in the past, this scenario would qualify her for at least some services.  We defined DV broadly, to include financial abuse.  And even if she doesn't qualify for services directly from the DV agency, they will know what other services might be available to her in her region.  It's certainly worth giving them a call.

If she is concerned about her safety, I would NOT recommend going alone to try to collect her belongings.  Even if the husband has not been physically violent in the past, she is better placed than any of us to judge whether that might be a possibility.  If she thinks it's a possibility, she should trust her gut and not go to the joint residence without some kind of escort.

+1.  "Actually hit[ting] her" is not the only definition of domestic violence.  Threats, financial manipulation, emotional abuse and manipulation are all other variants that are legitimate.  This is both financial manipulation and a threat (he told her to not come home and that she can't get in...that's a threat to me).  He's been said to be an armed prepper and could be suffering from the onset of dementia or other mental illness.  So I can understand her concerns for safety.  There's no guarantee that when she shows up he won't be in same frame of mind as the one when he made that phone call.  I would contact Legal Aid on Monday and potentially a domestic violence service in her area and discuss options.  And getting really honest, if it were me I would have my dad with me when I go back to my DH with two pistols on his hips and an unloaded gun in the car.  Tell DH that dad is only there to help me get things quickly.  It helps that my dad is 6'5", strong, and we live in an area where it would not be considered weird to shoot animals out the kitchen window or sit on your front porch with a gun.  So there's that...  She probably should take someone along, potentially armed, to actually help her move stuff out, be a witness, and be protection if necessary.

And for everyone telling her she has to go back...I agree, but who is going to pay for her to stay in a hotel?  I doubt she'll be welcomed home with open arms right away.  She doesn't have any money.  Even getting a job on Tuesday won't get her paid for at least two weeks.  Her parents don't have money.  Is OP willing to take that burden on? 

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« Reply #22 on: March 19, 2016, 01:40:40 PM »
I would advise her to get in touch with an organization that assists domestic violence victims in the state where she and her husband reside.  Where I live, the YWCA provides this.  They can tell her how local law enforcement handles situations such as a safe return to get one's possessions.  Keep in mind that it can be hard to discern all the facts in case like this, especially second or third hand.

He hasn't hit her. He has told her from several states away to not come home, that he changed the locks, and that she couldn't have her stuff until she "paid him back." Does all that count as domestic violence?

For many DV organizations, including the one that I worked at in the past, this scenario would qualify her for at least some services.  We defined DV broadly, to include financial abuse.  And even if she doesn't qualify for services directly from the DV agency, they will know what other services might be available to her in her region.  It's certainly worth giving them a call.

If she is concerned about her safety, I would NOT recommend going alone to try to collect her belongings.  Even if the husband has not been physically violent in the past, she is better placed than any of us to judge whether that might be a possibility.  If she thinks it's a possibility, she should trust her gut and not go to the joint residence without some kind of escort.

+1.  "Actually hit[ting] her" is not the only definition of domestic violence.  Threats, financial manipulation, emotional abuse and manipulation are all other variants that are legitimate.  This is both financial manipulation and a threat (he told her to not come home and that she can't get in...that's a threat to me).  He's been said to be an armed prepper and could be suffering from the onset of dementia or other mental illness.  So I can understand her concerns for safety.  There's no guarantee that when she shows up he won't be in same frame of mind as the one when he made that phone call.  I would contact Legal Aid on Monday and potentially a domestic violence service in her area and discuss options.  And getting really honest, if it were me I would have my dad with me when I go back to my DH with two pistols on his hips and an unloaded gun in the car.  Tell DH that dad is only there to help me get things quickly.  It helps that my dad is 6'5", strong, and we live in an area where it would not be considered weird to shoot animals out the kitchen window or sit on your front porch with a gun.  So there's that...  She probably should take someone along, potentially armed, to actually help her move stuff out, be a witness, and be protection if necessary.

And for everyone telling her she has to go back...I agree, but who is going to pay for her to stay in a hotel?  I doubt she'll be welcomed home with open arms right away.  She doesn't have any money.  Even getting a job on Tuesday won't get her paid for at least two weeks.  Her parents don't have money.  Is OP willing to take that burden on?

Yes, she'll be going back. Two of us relatives will be going with her. And I can certainly be intimidating if I have to be. It's just that all of me isn't much against a bullet. Not that I think he'll shoot at us, but I just can't be sure given his strange behavior. I also can't imagine a shoving match will help matters at all. I'd just rather the sheriff be with us. We'll see what they say on Monday. She has a bunch of text messages on her phone (that I haven't seen) that she thinks will help with the domestic violence angle.

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« Reply #23 on: March 19, 2016, 03:35:46 PM »
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And getting really honest, if it were me I would have my dad with me when I go back to my DH with two pistols on his hips and an unloaded gun in the car.  Tell DH that dad is only there to help me get things quickly.  It helps that my dad is 6'5", strong, and we live in an area where it would not be considered weird to shoot animals out the kitchen window or sit on your front porch with a gun.  So there's that...  She probably should take someone along, potentially armed, to actually help her move stuff out, be a witness, and be protection if necessary.

Sorry, but this is horrible and potentially very dangerous advice. If the husband really is loopy enough to be provoked into something physical, bringing your own emotionally invested armed band along in case of a confrontation can only make things much, much worse.

If the wife does not feel safe retrieving her things - even if she has a flicker of a doubt - she should call the police to accompany her. They know how to handle this sort of thing. No offense meant to your dad.

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« Reply #24 on: March 19, 2016, 07:28:20 PM »
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And getting really honest, if it were me I would have my dad with me when I go back to my DH with two pistols on his hips and an unloaded gun in the car.  Tell DH that dad is only there to help me get things quickly.  It helps that my dad is 6'5", strong, and we live in an area where it would not be considered weird to shoot animals out the kitchen window or sit on your front porch with a gun.  So there's that...  She probably should take someone along, potentially armed, to actually help her move stuff out, be a witness, and be protection if necessary.

Sorry, but this is horrible and potentially very dangerous advice. If the husband really is loopy enough to be provoked into something physical, bringing your own emotionally invested armed band along in case of a confrontation can only make things much, much worse.

If the wife does not feel safe retrieving her things - even if she has a flicker of a doubt - she should call the police to accompany her. They know how to handle this sort of thing. No offense meant to your dad.
That's the plan—a police escort. Thanks, acepedro45.

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« Reply #25 on: March 19, 2016, 09:04:12 PM »
If she needs a place to stay, I would start with the DV shelter. They take in victims just like her.

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Re: Husband/Wife Domestic Squabble - Illegal Seizure of Property?
« Reply #26 on: April 03, 2016, 06:57:33 AM »
Everything work out with this?
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Re: Husband/Wife Domestic Squabble - Illegal Seizure of Property?
« Reply #27 on: April 03, 2016, 01:58:16 PM »
This still isn't worked out. Apparently you cannot get a police escort if a man you're married to is holding on to your personal property...at least until divorce papers have been served.

Luckily, the divorce papers have showed up. She can now obtain a Writ of Assistance, which will get us a police escort. Now we have to find a weekend where all of us (wife plus two of us) are free. Might not be until May. It will be a two or three day affair. All three of us live at least 10 hours away from where her property is.

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Re: Husband/Wife Domestic Squabble - Illegal Seizure of Property?
« Reply #28 on: April 03, 2016, 02:12:43 PM »
Ugh, sorry to hear that. Was hoping to hear the husband came to his senses, or at the least she had gotten her stuff.

Good luck to her (and you)!
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