When I was pursuing my undergrad degrees I took a graduate level class in Human Sexuality as an elective. One of the best modules of the class was a section focused on different loving styles, similar to how Myers-Briggs outlines behavioral decision making preferences.
One big 'take away' for me was that the criteria for love and a successful relationship varies dramatically by person, and it is important to both parners in a relationship understand their own 'loving style/needs' and those of their partner. For some people love has nothing to do with material matters, they are romantics. For others, marriage is about financial, religious, or lifestyle compatability, they are pragmatic. For others still, friendship is what matters most, they dont need flowers or money, just a best friend and time together. Other couples socialize separately with their boy or girl friends, and they dont particularly pal around with their partner (this is very common in Japan).
I would recommend considering what is needed by each of you from your relationship and whether your needs can be met by the other, without judging based in your own preferences. It is not intrinsically wrong for a partner to seek financial security and love their partner for it, in fact it is common. It is also not uncommon for a partner to seek specific criteria, such as a religious match above romance, or vice versa. Knowing what you need and communicating that to your partner, transparently, is the key.
Good luck learning more about yourself and using that insight to be happier. Dont let others judge you, and try to make sure your life partner understands your loving needs so they can meet them.
[edit: I will add that one of the most common relationship mistakes, including on advice giving, is assuming others feel love the same way we do. For example, several have posted ideas like, `you either lover her or you don't'. That is the romantic loving relationship style. However, a significant percentage of people do not pick partners that way, and for them something like a large debt impacting the ability to be successful or raise children could impact their feelings. It is fascinating stuff to study. When couples have different styles, misscommunication about love and the relationship is often the result.]