Don't know if I'm ready for a barrage of face punches, but here goes.
DH & I just bought a 4000+ sqft house out in the country. DH hated the feeling of constant home improvement projects in our 1200 sqft beater in town and has been itching to move for at least a year. I loved the neighborhood & the neighbors, the fenced-in backyard for our 4 kids, the lawn-mowing business my oldest kid started, and it being close to everything, but it's true that it was getting pretty crammed. DH's career has really taken off, and he is an amazing dad and a big hobbyist (archery, rock climbing, hunting, etc). He has become less Mustachian as his pay has gone up, but with the amount of money he takes in, it hasn't been a big deal.
But I woke up the first morning here with soul-crushing regret for saying yes to this. I hoped that living here for a while would help me change my mind, but a few weeks in, it turns out I still don't like huge houses, no sidewalks, and having to drive 15 minutes to go anywhere (biking is not an option on these country roads). It's also just not a house that's conducive to having small children, and I miss being able to bike/walk with my kids to the park, talk to my neighbors, etc. It certainly didn't help that the seller's agent was totally incompetent and created a bunch of drama right before closing, burning any bridges that we could have made with the seller.
On the other hand, DH doesn't care about the fancy as much as the possibilities with this kind of house. He wants to build a bouldering wall in the garage, have a foosball and a ping pong table in the basement, zipline in the backyard--essentially to make it a teenager's paradise so that the kids' friends will want to be here. He feels terrible for pushing me so hard; whenever he wants to do something, he gets so excited/giddy and can't really stop talking about it. I'm also a big pushover who doesn't like saying no, so now I just feel a lot of resentment that I bought this house for everyone but me (my parents also wouldn't visit because my house was too small). I would just deal with it, but it's started to settle into a deep depression where I have a way shorter fuse with my kids now, don't feel like putting anything on the walls, etc. I'm terrified this is going to wreak havoc on my parenting/marriage.
So... what to do now? The market is absolutely insane right now. The sellers way overpriced this house (which is why it sat on the market for 6 months), but houses in town like the one we are fixing up to sell are gone within hours, so fat chance on snagging one of those anyway (it's just gotten worse year after year). It's also financially just really stupid to move out of a house right after buying it anyway. DH says he's willing to move after a year and take the financial hit (the other house doubled in price, so after selling it, we can pay this one off by the end of next year).
Anyone out there make a huge mistake like this? And any advice on how to not be such a people-pleaser?