Hey neighbor, I'm a bit south of you, in the Poconos, and have a bit of semi-useful advice to offer........ The Subaru situation is a bit more complicated than it first appears. Subaru has developed a nasty reputation for two expensive issues, leaking head gaskets, and continually failing wheel bearings. Now some may claim that these issues are resolved in more recent models, but it's a risk I'm not willing to take. The heads seem to run at least $2000 to repair and the wheel bearings are $600 to $1000. I follow another forum where an independent garage owner in VT. commented on the Subaru situation. Subaru wagons are wildly popular there and he has a ton of customers that own them. They are very loyal, and in his experience seem quite willing to spend the EXTRA $4-5K in repairs it takes to keep them on the road for the life of the car. Repairs that, as he noted, are pretty unhead of with a lot of other brands. We have a Honda CRV for our family car ,and I would really hope you would at least give it a thought as a worth competitor. Somehow Honda seems to have done a great job of building stone reliable "appliances", not passionate, exciting cars, just rock solid transportation appliances. This one is a 2010, it does nothing exceptionally well, or poorly, it gets the same MPGs as every other similar sized suv out there, but it's one of the most reliable vehicles on the planet and the wife loves it, so it will be here for at least another decade or two.
As for the Audi, wow you may be playing with fire there. I have the Passat, (which is the same car without AWD). We are going to dump it as soon as it has the decency to run for a whole week without lighting the check engine light. Seriously, I do a lot of my own work, and have a great friend who is a world class independent mechanic, to tackle what I can't handle. We both agree that these are about the most frustrating cars out there. They are overengineered, underbuilt, and exceptionally complex. I have dropped about $3k into repairs and maintenance in this car in the last year. Some of the issues are enough to make me want to fly to Germany, just to choke a VW/Audi engineer. The flywheel self destructed, as it's an incredibly complex device full of moving parts, designed to make the car idle a tiny bit smoother. A typical flywheel is a solid disc of steel that should last forever, and costs about $200. This one self destructed at 90K miles and costs $777. The entire front of the car needs to be removed to change a timing belt! The dipstick tube just self destructed the other day. A dipstick tube is typically metal, and lasts forever without a second thought. This piece of crap is plastic, and deteriorates into a crumbly mess with the structural integrity of a potato chip, as the car ages. Bottom line with any older German car like these is that yours might run for the next five years with only oil changes and tires, or it might develop a $4000 problem tommorow. Hope it all works out well for you, but my humble advice would be to lose that Audi ASAP and then make your next move. Good luck, keep us up to date on your choices.