I assembled my own ebike too, and posted a bunch about it in this thread:
https://forum.mrmoneymustache.com/continue-the-blog-conversation/electric-bikes/100/I first tried a rear wheel motor, which had a bunch of problems, and a horrible retailer (Dillenger). With a rear rack-mounted battery and the rear wheel motor, it was extremely unbalanced towards the rear of the bike. After forcing Dillenger to take back their pile of shit (had to involve credit card company), I bought a mid-drive kit from Luna Cycle, who were a dream to work with.
From Luna, I bought a BBSHD, with 11.5ah battery (water bottle mount, "dolphin" case), and the fancy Luna charger. I am using the stock BBSHD 52T metal chainring, which works fine for on-pavement commute use. I would want a smaller chainring for offroad use.
From Nashbar, I bought a cheap 700c hybrid Schwinn with disc brakes, linked in the thread above. Highly recommend getting something with disc brakes. If you get cable brakes (not hydraulic), the Luna kit's brake levers are usable with cable discs, and tie in to the battery cut-off switch. If you get hydraulic brakes, there is an additional part you will need to make the battery cut-off tie in. (When you pull the brake lever, it cuts power from the battery.) I only used the front brake lever from Luna; IIRC they also supply a rear brake lever which also had the cut-off. Since my bike came with brake levers + shifters integrated into one unit, I am using the stock rear brake lever/shifter assembly.
IMHO the mid-drive is far easily to install than a rear wheel motor, and far easier to deal with removing the rear wheel for any reason (such as flat tires). The rear wheel motor must be bolted on with nuts, which means that side-of-the-road flat tire changes will require large heavy wrenches. IIRC, all the rear wheel motors (including the crap one I had) require a freewheel (not a cassette), which must be purchased separately and installed.
The mid-drive uses the stock wheels, stock cassette, and quick-releases (assuming your bike came with them from the factory, which all these cheap hybrids will). Flat tire changes are as easy as on a non-motorized bike, other than the bike weighing a lot. Installation of the mid-drive motor itself is easy, but requires you to remove the stock crank arms and bottom bracket. My Schwinn weighed a bit under 30# stock, and is about 50# with the ebike stuff (motor, battery, controls, etc), and the misc stuff I added: rear rack + trunk bag, fenders, spare tube + tools, bottle cage, front + rear flashy lights. It's very heavy when you pick it up, but the added ebike weight is all down low, and centered well. It handles well, not rear-heavy or top-heavy at all.
For other comparison to your situation: I'm your height and a little heavier, and my commute is 18 miles each way, with about 1500' of net elevation difference (probably closer to 1800' total in gain/loss). Going home is a lot of uphill. I have to recharge my battery at work; I could not do a round trip on one charge. With the 17.5ah battery you are thinking about, and having a totally flat commute, you may well be able to do a round trip without recharging at work.