Author Topic: Devil's Advocate: Non financial reasons to hold a job  (Read 3803 times)

EscapeVelocity2020

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Re: Devil's Advocate: Non financial reasons to hold a job
« Reply #50 on: February 14, 2020, 09:11:32 PM »
If you suffer from anxiety or depression then working can definitely give your life more purpose.  That's all that is keeping me from RE at 39yo. I used to think hobbies alone would be enough but it eventually became clear to me that I needed to keep working, at least for now.  If that changes then I'll retire.

I wonder about this for myself sometimes but think the way I'll approach it is to take a sabbatical and leave the option of returning on the table.

That to me is the ideal way to do it - work part time or consult on an as-needed basis to keep sane.  Anxiety and depression are such a formidable beast and have scared me so much that I'm afraid to open that door again.

Yeah, I think our family got most of the value of ER / SAHP when my spouse quit when the kids were infants.  I had to keep working at the time since we weren't quite FI and I was valued as the provider; but now the kids are self-sufficient, we are FI, and the concept of being home all the time for the next 6 years (until the second is off to college) gives me chills about filling my time in a valuable way.  I am probably too hard on myself, but anxiety and depression could be an issue.  We have also had some great international opportunities with my job (living in Norway, Dubai, and France) that I'd have some FOMO if I hear about colleagues and neighbors getting these plum jobs while I'm sitting at home. 

After the kids are at college and we can live our own lives on our own schedule where-ever we want to be doing whatever, I think I'll be more excited about ER again...

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Re: Devil's Advocate: Non financial reasons to hold a job
« Reply #51 on: February 15, 2020, 12:50:30 PM »
I think it's all very personal.  We are FI but not RE, and that decision was based on the following:

1.  Staying married.  DH is a natural spendypants and wants a much higher level of luxury in retirement than our current investments would support, and has no desire to quit yet.

2.  Access to high-level, intellectually stimulating work in the area I've trained for.  I have a very low boredom threshold, and while I could volunteer or set up my own shop, I would not have access to the same brain-twister work I enjoy.  (This is also the big driver for DH: he is doing very advanced tech work that requires investments that start with a "B," so once he quits, that's all gone)  I also really, really like the people I work with -- and I'm an introvert, so that doesn't come easily.  And the work I do matters to them, too -- not just financially, but I have a big responsibility within the firm, and people appreciate my doing it.  Plus they think I'm wicked smart, which is good for my ego.

We're sharing the same life....except  I fear my DH will be the one that sits and surfs the web once RE

I don't seem to make friends easily - people seem to enjoy my company, but unless I make the effort, there isn't any social interaction - I get sufficient social interaction from work with the 5 minutes of fluff talk before a web-ex call starts (I work from home), or from the various on-line chat mediums the company uses.

I get alot of satisfaction out of what I do, it stretches my brain, and it is generally not too stressful.   I like being around people, but have not yet found my tribe outside of work.   I'm reasonably bright but fortunate that I'm not the smartest person in the room at work.....too often I am in social situations, and I keep trying to optimize things around me.