I feel silly asking this, but I feel like I need some impersonal advice regarding when to put a stop to having kids. My wife and I currently have 3 daughters: 4.5, 3.5, and 1.5. About 6 months ago we discussed whether we'd want to have a 4th kid, and my wife decided that she was done. Given that she has the very difficult job of carrying and delivering the child, when she said she didn't want a fourth that made the decision easy in my mind.
Recently however, she thinks she may be changing her mind and the discussion is reopened. Where before I didn't really give it much thought, now I'm trying to figure out what I want. On one hand, I love kids (mine in particular) and who knows, maybe it will be a boy this time! On the other hand, it would introduce some logistical challenges:
-We both work full-time, and currently split kid-schlepping duties with me dropping off and her picking up. 4 small kids would not fit safely in my sedan, so we'd need to make some work schedule changes unless I get a larger vehicle.
-Finding babysitters for date nights and such is already a little challenging with 3 littles.
-While financially we can "afford" another child, it would slow down our savings.
We are blessed that we both have good-paying jobs, and are able to have the choice in this. How did you decide your family was complete?
EDIT: I should add that I'm scheduled to get snipped in a couple weeks, so there is a little bit of urgency in the decision though I could delay the procedure.