Author Topic: At the last minute - we backed out of our move to downsize.  (Read 2503 times)

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Literally were supposed to move to a house about half the size of our current house on .25ac lot.

We backed out.  I'm still not sure, but here were our main concerns:

1.  I've been under a TON of street lately, especially with my mother being diagnosed with stage IV cancer and traveling across country literally every other week to see her and help with finances/healthcare etc.  I also have 5 commercial rental properties and a business I manage, while also making time for my family.

2.  We were nervous about being so close to people.  I think we realized how much we like a bit of buffer from people.

3.  There was a main road that accessed the subdivision that has been getting busier by the year.  With an additional ~300 homes to be build just south of this sub division, and an eventual connection to the interstate, we didn't like the though of heavy amounts of fast moving traffic.

4.  We would've had 3 mortgages until the other 2 sold.  The housing market is fairly robust here with things moving relatively quick, but then again, our houses aren't the showpiece ones.  They both need work, but I'm confident they would've both been sold at or near our listed price point.

Now we're back to square one.  I'm still under quite a bit of stress between everything, but our goal is to still downsize but remain in our rural area.  I'm finding it, as much as we are unhappy with some things with our current house( too big, some sub-par construction, backyard goes to sheer cliff to river) , there are also many other things we enjoy about it(beautiful views, gated street to allow my children to play safely, clean, good neighbors).

Our problem is that we're wanting to stay in a relatively small geographic area where there is probably only about 50 houses total.  We're looked at some other houses, but it's usually one thing or another we don't like about them.  No cable, no natural gas, little to no views, unpaved driveways, etc.

I dunno.  I just can't t think clearly with everything going on my my life, and as much as I want a simple life and more manageable home, I just felt that the additional stress of moving while going through everything here was just pushing me over the edge.  I've get more agitated, can't think & make decisions, forget simple and important things literally minutes later.  I'm just not in a clear state now and just thought it wasn't a good time to make such a big financial decision.

Just venting.  I feel I made the correct decision, but also keep thinking about an easier to manage house, that gives us most of the things we're looking for for our family.

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Re: At the last minute - we backed out of our move to downsize.
« Reply #1 on: June 19, 2016, 07:54:56 AM »
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I just can't t think clearly with everything going on my my life, and as much as I want a simple life and more manageable home, I just felt that the additional stress of moving while going through everything here was just pushing me over the edge. 

Sounds to me like you made the right choice for now. You've got enough to deal with (so sorry to hear about your mum). Can you just make a mental decision to stick with where you are for the next X period of time (say a year or whatever you're comfortable with) and enjoy the positives and not worry about the negatives knowing that you're not going to stay there forever. Then in a year (or whatever) you can start actively looking again.

I know for me it's really important to say "I'm not making any decisions about this now" and move on (even if temporarily) because otherwise it just sucks up mental energy which is often really counterproductive if I'm not in a position to make a change.

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Re: At the last minute - we backed out of our move to downsize.
« Reply #2 on: June 19, 2016, 07:55:11 AM »
Sounds like your instincts are right on all counts - a downsize will be for the best in the long run, but you're not in a place to deal with it right now. That's okay - downsizing is something that helps over the long term, so waiting a while, even a year, won't hurt, and making the wrong move might. Take care of yourself, and best wishes for your family and your mother.

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Re: At the last minute - we backed out of our move to downsize.
« Reply #3 on: June 19, 2016, 10:47:06 AM »
Meh, there's always another house, but this is your only life. Make room for what's important and ignore the rest. Best wishes too you and your mom. <<Hugs>>

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Re: At the last minute - we backed out of our move to downsize.
« Reply #4 on: June 19, 2016, 01:47:00 PM »
Best wishes to you and your family.
It sounds like you made a good choice for now. You can always reassess in a few months.

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Re: At the last minute - we backed out of our move to downsize.
« Reply #5 on: June 19, 2016, 05:51:45 PM »
Literally were supposed to move to a house about half the size of our current house on .25ac lot.

We backed out.  I'm still not sure, but here were our main concerns:

1. I've been under a TON of street lately, especially with my mother being diagnosed with stage IV cancer and traveling across country literally every other week to see her and help with finances/healthcare etc.  I also have 5 commercial rental properties and a business I manage, while also making time for my family.

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I dunno. I just can't t think clearly with everything going on my my life, and as much as I want a simple life and more manageable home, I just felt that the additional stress of moving while going through everything here was just pushing me over the edge.  I've get more agitated, can't think & make decisions, forget simple and important things literally minutes later.  I'm just not in a clear state now and just thought it wasn't a good time to make such a big financial decision.

Just venting.  I feel I made the correct decision, but also keep thinking about an easier to manage house, that gives us most of the things we're looking for for our family.

I can totally relate.  Dealing with a parent with stage IV-B cancer, have several rental properties to monitor and have a family to manage.  It's A LOT.  I'm trying to not make too many sudden moves, while still moving our family, faith, and finances forward as life goes on.  It's a big series of jobs to juggle.   Best of luck!