I was recently at a team dinner at work and was discussing how I want to go on a year-long sabbatical and do a round-the-world type trip after a few years of working. One of my coworkers said "I don't know about that, are we even allowed to do that?" his comment started a table-wide discussion around what the company policy says around taking time off.
I let the conversation derail and didn't offer any counter-points. Mum's the word after all. But I've never even entertained the idea of someone telling me what I'm "allowed" to do regarding big life plans, let alone my employer! What is this, kindergarten?
If I want to do something that would in some way affect my working arrangement, I notify my employer with plenty of notice and we figure out an arrangement. If an agreement can't be made I do it anyway and go work somewhere else. And even if we do work something out, I keep a contingency plan in my back pocket.
I see this type of mentality in a lot in other places too ("I have to drive a truck to impress women", "We need an extra bedroom because my in-laws won't sleep on an air mattress") and it's so foreign to me. As long as you're within the law and not hurting anyone, why let outside forces dictate your way of life?
I think some of this is related to stability. I, for one, am kind of boring and like stability. The idea of quitting work for a year to travel, or up and move to Central America like my neighbors plan to do next year, kind of gives me the heebee jeebies.
And with the job market being what it is, I think a lot of people want to know that they have a "job" and "income". Of course, many people spend all they earn, so that's part of the reason. I knew two young engineers that I worked with at one company want to take a sabbatical. 6 months to a year. The first just quit because, well let's just face it - he wasn't the best engineer, and he was kind of unmotivated. He traveled around the world for 10 months (and blogged about it too, I enjoyed reading it). But he's drifted around ever since, about a decade. He came back to town, worked a little bit, but that fell through and then he moved home to practice yoga and live with his parents (that was about 2 years ago).
The other was pretty frugal by all accounts and wanted a 6 month sabbatical. Note: our company actually had a sabbatical policy, but it had to be approved. And they denied it. So he quit.
I think they were shocked. They were pretty used to "holding all the cards". He enjoyed his time in Central America, got cancer and recovered, and has moved on to better things.
Come to think of it, one of my young coworkers at my current company quit to move to Central America too - for about a year, to teach English. Hm. There must be something about that place!
On a similar vein, my neighbor likes to travel a lot. They took a 3 week trip last year and had their kids out of school, and actually got into trouble for it (you can't miss school!) (Absenteeism is a big problem at our school in general - mostly parents who just don't get their kids there, less of the middle class trips, but the Principal doesn't want to distinguish the two, understandably.)
She's planning another trip during school time, and said "I'm just going to call them in sick. What would YOU do?" I said, "I dunno, truthfully, I don't take my kids out of school."