First post in these parts! Is it uncouth to nominate yourself? Not sure what I am after: advice? consolation? sympathy? suggestions?
I've played the three D's of defense: Delay, distract, deflect.
I've gone through the 7 stages of grief: denial, anger, pleading, acceptance, bargaining, wait what are the 7 stages of grief?
Spouse is still dead set on it. And I have already delayed 6 years and I can't hold out much longer. Technically "we can afford it." It will only result in a net worth reduction of around $200,000 10 years from now (/s). I promised spouse would get it after we had $1M (which seemed so far away), and when we needed a new vehicle. We are nearly to $1M depending how you count, and our Honda Civic, which has half as many doors and paint as a typical Civic would have, is not especially suitable to transporting larger children in child seats (we also have a Subaru Forester). The obvious solution is a luxury SUV!
Naturally spouse went straight for the most expensive one on the list: Mercedes GLE 350 4Matic, new, the one without tax credits for PHEV or the resulting lower fuel demand. There still might be a little negotiation. I've been saying at least get a CR-V, or a minivan, or an electric vehicle, or even a Volvo XC90 which is just as nice, offers better value, and comes in a PHEV. Spouse's wealthiest friend, whose cheapest house is 13,000 square feet on a lake, strongly recommended a Toyota Sienna minivan as the best possible vehicle which could be bought for any amount of money, and the friend drives this vehicle daily in real life. Yay wealthiest friend! We will see.
Cars I have seen which I found disappointing during our search:
BMW X5: looks like ass, handles like minivan, ages poorly. A high-end Honda CR-V would be better in almost every respect.
Toyota Highlander: wouldn't you think a very fuel efficient 3-row SUV would be just the thing? No, the Highlander tries to be both the RAV4 and the Sienna, and ends up failing at life. Seriously people, if a RAV4 hybrid doesn't work for you, just get a Sienna hybrid.
Cars which exceed expectations (don't get me wrong these also handle like minivan):
Chrysler Pacifica: I heard about it on MMM, so probably not a surprise, but Stow n Go seating is no joke. This feature is now my all time most lusted after automotive feature. You could camp in it! Stack plywood! Make it a limo! Seat 8 people! Road trip!
Volvo XC90: wow, this is one classy car. Not as practical as a minivan, but it is elegant and well made inside and out. It would be right at home pulling into the gated drive of a stone mansion, and yet is not as expensive as the X5 and GLE. It also may be the actual safest vehicle on the road.
Silver linings:
Spouse doesn't like any paint colors except black and white, which are always no cost.
Spouse has no use for any but the smallest engine.
Luxury vehicles usually have the dumb moon roof as an option on all trims.
Well that's it from me, not sure what else I can say about it. Will keep you posted on the outcome.