My family visited this week, and left this morning. I'm now officially scared for my sister's future and fear she and her future husband will be featured here again .....
Husband to be has been in the picture for years, but I don't live near the rest of my family, so I don't know him well. Sister has dated him for years and the two of them actually got officially engaged this week.
Future BIL is broke...knew that. What I didn't know is that he is seriously in the hole too. Has been a college student for 6ish years, theater degree (love theater, but I know how hard it will be to get jobs!), and has a year left still. Future BIL has taken out nearly 60 thousand dollars in student loans, and isn't shy about sharing this fact. In front of everyone in my home, he called an aunt and discussed her covering his auto insurance payment until NEXT MONTH because he couldn't afford the payment this month. He and my sister talk about losing weight and buying expensive health supplements, but he also buys diet sodas, junk food, and eats out regularly. While they were here future BIL actually asked my husband to cover a box of cold medicine for him (he started feeling sickly while in town), and my sister paid for it because my husband had already covered their ice cream/treats out the two nights before. They are planning on marrying in May and asked my husband and I how much to expect my parents to contribute to the wedding. Um, newsflash -- our parents contributed nothing but tux money and dress money to our siblings for my husband's and my wedding, we covered the rest ourselves. My parents paid for a new laptop for my sister, even though she makes plenty of money. She almost can't pay for her classes each semester, even though she lives at home and has almost no living expenses. She and future BIL eat out all the time and spend money on legos and cute crap instead of school classes or saving for a replacement laptop when hers was obviously dying for 9 months.
Its frightening... My sister was always the most spendy of the siblings, but doesn't have debt (yet) from her schooling. She almost failed to save for her classes (as noted) and my parents created an account in their name that they force her to give them money to fund each semester so she doesn't have to take school loans. She seems perfectly ok with her future husband's horrible spending habits, and even more shockingly, my normally semi-frugal parents seem to at least be semi-enabling them. They judge future BIL spending on junk, but have apparently bought him a mattress, bought my sister a laptop, and do the budgeting for my sister so that she has money for school. They think they are helping, but I'm confidant their "help" isn't actually teaching either of these two anything at all!
I'm concerned they will be the topic of future posts..... :(