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« Reply #7750 on: October 22, 2018, 09:31:17 AM »
I really like the name they gave to the latest iPhone ó itís very appropriate. The iPhone XS (Excess).

Should be XL!

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« Reply #7751 on: October 23, 2018, 12:36:05 PM »
Facebook friend of mine.  Mom, always dressed to the nines, designer clothes, purses, and shoes.  Mother to a 6YO little girl.

Mom posts a pic of the 6YO daughter and an Asian woman, woman is giving 6YO daughter a side-hug.  Facebook posts says mom is at ďXYZ Nail SalonĒ, and the post is ďLittle Suzy and her 3rd Grandma.  Iím so happy for the bond that these two have formed!Ē

UmmmÖ..you take 6YO Little Suzy to the nail salon so much that the nail tech is considered her ď3rd GrandmaĒ??  How about buying a $1 bottle of nail polish, and mom/daughter spend an hour around the kitchen table creating memories and painting each otherís nails?

I wonder what mom/daughter spend per month getting beautified.  SMH.

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« Reply #7752 on: October 27, 2018, 03:59:34 PM »
Yall I have never posted on this thread but I just can't hold back on this gem any more. 

So a friend of a friend added me on facebook and although I rarely accept requests that I'm not real life friends with, I admit that I added this person solely to see if his life was as big of a train wreck as I've heard.  I don't know him that well but I'm on the fringe of his friend group and what I've heard is just fascinating. 

This person has had two tries at college, pursuing two degrees of the basket weaving persuasion  and dropped out both times, incurring massive student loan debt as a result.  For some strange reason employers weren't falling at his feet to hire him and when he did find a job he would quickly find himself fired due to 'personality conflicts' as well as a general inability to show up, on time or ever.  He insisted that the problem wasn't him (of course not) but the location he lived in and thus spent a few years bouncing around the country looking for 'a place where he belonged,' crashing on the couches of various friends and half-heartedly trying his hand at low paying jobs (retail, food service etc). From what I hear he has never moved FOR A JOB, in fact he has never had a job lined up prior to a move.  Move first, deal with the consequences later.  For some reason these consequences never come as he is unfortunately a charming individual and apparently capable of conning multiple kind-hearted souls into allowing him to stay rent free, sometimes for months, until he decides to move along to the next place that would be SO MUCH BETTER FOR HIM than wherever he was at the moment.

The newest attempt at adulting is in my city.  Once again instead of finding a job first he moved with no plan and plopped himself down on the couch of a very sweet and overly trusting friend of mine.  He stayed there for one of his longest stints ever, close to a YEAR before he found a job.  The arrangement, according to my friend, was supposed to be very temporary and he was supposed to be taking on a majority of the housework in lieu of rent.  This did not happen and in fact he quickly became the biggest slob in the house and seemed in no hurry to find a job.  Close to a year in he and my friend had a falling out.  Now to be fair I have no idea what his version of events is but according to my friend it involved a party my friend was hosting (at the house the moocher was staying at rent free) and inviting someone the moocher did not like.  When my friend refused to take this person off the guest list, moocher immediately grabbed all of his stuff and left the house, taking several of my friend's possessions with him that he claimed as his, and went to stay at yet another kind-hearted (and by this point I think we can add very naive) person's house.  Friend says he never paid a dime for the entire time he stayed there and only let him stay so long because he was saying he'd be on the street if he got kicked out.  This was apparently a lie as he immediately found a new place to stay after their argument (I think he sensed an impending collision for this particular gravy train). 

Well moocher added me onto facebook around this time and it's been about a year since he left my friend's residence.  The trainwreck is everything I could have imagined and more.  Moocher did manage to get yet another low paying job but this time he also got his own apartment (!!!) along with a roommate (victim) of course.  I knew when this happened because he bragged about it for weeks as if he'd cured cancer.  Despite being in his THIRTIES apparently any sliver of real adulting is worth celebrating.  Fine.  Good for him.  Except that almost immediately after he moved in he began posting about the Struggle of Rent. Constant memes about how rough our generation has it (and I legitimately believe our generation has it pretty rough so the fact that I'm side eyeing this tells you how bad it is), how everything is and has always been against him, how he'll have sleep for dinner again tonight, sad emojis everywhere.  WHILE SIMULTANEOUSLY posting pictures of fast food and of himself at concerts and sporting events. 

All I can think of is that poor roommate and who the hell did he con this time.

What finally got me to post here is that in recent months the moocher has apparently been "bitten by the travel bug" and is on his third trip by PLANE this year.  His trips are of course well documented with selfies and memes about the Joy of Travel.  This has apparently made his money situation particularly desperate so he has gone from subtle asks for money ("woe is me I'm so poor how will I eat" quickly followed by "it sure would be nice if a pizza magically appeared on my doorstep."  I wish I was joking.) to not-so-subtle asks.  I mean directly saying "give me money, any money, even a dollar will do" in increasingly creative ways ranging from cutesy to straight up begging.  The frequency of these posts is directly proportional to the frequency of his travel posts and how excited he is to "go off on his next adventure."  Today's post was what pushed me over the edge:  Directions on how to give directly to his paypal because he doesn't know how he'll pay rent (again, that poor roommate) the same day as posting that he bought yet another plane ticket.

I want to comment so bad.  So so bad.  It's taking a lot of restraint not to do so.  But I also don't want to find myself blocked so I can keep on watching this train wreck.  I've always had a thing for bad TV. 

Edit:  You know what the worst part is?  People apparently can't put two and two together because he gets sympathetic comments all the time on his pity posts and congratulatory comments on his travel posts.  He once posted his amazon wishlist and told people to buy him stuff on it because it wasn't fair that people who got married got presents and he'd never get married so he should get presents just because (???).  AND SOMEONE POSTED THEY WOULD BUY SOMETHING OFF IT.  At some point I don't know who is worse, the moocher or his enablers. 
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« Reply #7753 on: October 27, 2018, 04:15:02 PM »
^^!

I do agree with the moocher about weddings... well, about wedding SHOWERS.   They used to be to provide small useful household gifts for setting up a new home.    Of course, most people have lived on their own / with their partner for YEARS before getting married, so these gifts are not needed.

Instead, I think we should be giving our young adults "First Real Apartment" showers with house warming gifts, instead of Wedding Showers.     I will see if I can do that for my nephew in a couple of years when he graduates.

>> you can still have a bridal lunch with the ladies, before your event, if you like, but not a gift-giving event in addition to a Wedding<<

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« Reply #7754 on: October 27, 2018, 04:21:16 PM »
^^!

I do agree with the moocher about weddings... well, about wedding SHOWERS.   They used to be to provide small useful household gifts for setting up a new home.    Of course, most people have lived on their own / with their partner for YEARS before getting married, so these gifts are not needed.

Instead, I think we should be giving our young adults "First Real Apartment" showers with house warming gifts, instead of Wedding Showers.     I will see if I can do that for my nephew in a couple of years when he graduates.

>> you can still have a bridal lunch with the ladies, before your event, if you like, but not a gift-giving event in addition to a Wedding<<

It's not so much the idea of getting a gift for your first apartment over a wedding that bothers me as much as it is yet another manipulative trick in this guy's never ending arsenal of ploys to get free stuff from his friends and family.  The ridiculousness is up there with those Nigerian prince scams and yet otherwise intelligent people keep falling for it.  Do they not realize that when they buy him food or household items or god forbid actually give him money what they're actually doing is subsidizing a lavish lifestyle that most people can't afford for themselves?  I'd love to go on three plane trips a year if someone else was paying for my rent!  Even my own boyfriend, who is closer to him than I am, admits he fell for this once and got him McDonald's because he bought the 'I'm starving' crap.  It's baffling.
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« Reply #7755 on: October 27, 2018, 05:34:23 PM »
There are a number of these people around. One I know was moving house and was told by their mother, "Since you'll be living alone, I'll pay half your rent." Not even, "half up to $200" or whatever, but "half your rent." And their father's the same. The parents are divorced so there's probably a bit of making up for guilt etc going on there. But again: there are many people like this.

Of course, when someone else is in need, this person has not offered even a kind word.

It's all in the upbringing, I think.

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« Reply #7756 on: October 28, 2018, 08:46:50 AM »
I had a "friend" like that on Facebook, actually someone I went to HS (I think she was an exchange student). Actually when she was younger she had an interesting job working for a board game company. I'm not sure exactly what happened with her life, but as she had 2 teens with no mention of husband I'm assuming she was divorced. Her life was just OVERLY drama filled. She was posting either how this Wonderful job opportunity fell into her lap, and then after a few weeks the drama stories of the job would start, a lot of time interpersonal conflicts with customers posted in quite detail (like if you worked there you could figure out who they were) including expletives. There would be the stories of her father in law whom she had ahem "strong" negative feelings towards. Also super loving posts of her daughter followed by how her daughter is acting like a complete ungrateful BITCH. Or posts about how super amazing and wonderful her son is, and how proud she is of him, followed by an angry post how his friends destroyed her house.
I also ashamedly kept her as friend because it did make me feel better about my own life, or at least my ability to filter what I tell other people!
I finally unfollowed her when she posted this tirade how she was really happy that they passed this bill (In Germany? France?) how people couldn't label say veggie sausage veggie sausage, and almond milk with the "milk" term. The reasoning which is that only bourgeois people can afford those type of people while other poor people cannot afford these products therefore should be outlawed! I stupidly put my 2 cents in (a) the people who were pushing for this ruling were the dairy and meat councils, and b) many are transition foods to help people become more vegetarian, and c) I don't think anyone is actually confused that almond or soy milk has actual milk in it). Apparently what I said was incredibly offensive and it ludicrously escalated from there to the point I had to block her.

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« Reply #7757 on: October 28, 2018, 01:26:12 PM »
nd c) I don't think anyone is actually confused that almond or soy milk has actual milk in it).
Have you ever made fresh almond or soy milk? It's quite the horror, getting up at 4am to milk those tiny buggers!

But Facebook drama I agree with, made me delete my account a few years ago and have been much happier since. Only use the wife's account occasionally for a specific support group, but even there the drama is quite the energy drain.

Ontopic: one of the most recent drama was a mom complaining that she didn't get a modified stroller but a wheelchair for her son. I get that the city wanted to provide the wheelchair and not the stroller but she felt that her son's disability was put on showcase. To be fair, he's 8 and a modified stroller is like 800 euros which won't break most banks. If I were in the same position of even prefer the wheelchair, of only that for his age it would be more appropriate and raise less eyebrows.
(This is part of the welfare society, those in need of extra support beyond what is expected of a family to provide can request their city to contribute. Most cities have various rules as to what will and won't be provided. Both our sons receive subsidized care based on the early intervention program, both are genuinely in need of it too though.)

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« Reply #7758 on: October 28, 2018, 11:01:39 PM »
one of the most recent drama was a mom complaining that she didn't get a modified stroller but a wheelchair for her son. I get that the city wanted to provide the wheelchair and not the stroller but she felt that her son's disability was put on showcase. To be fair, he's 8 and a modified stroller is like 800 euros which won't break most banks. If I were in the same position of even prefer the wheelchair, of only that for his age it would be more appropriate and raise less eyebrows.
If he's 8 and in a pram, they're getting looks either way. And wheelchairs are pretty expensive, usually more than prams, so it may not have been a financial decision by the city.

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« Reply #7759 on: October 28, 2018, 11:34:58 PM »
one of the most recent drama was a mom complaining that she didn't get a modified stroller but a wheelchair for her son. I get that the city wanted to provide the wheelchair and not the stroller but she felt that her son's disability was put on showcase. To be fair, he's 8 and a modified stroller is like 800 euros which won't break most banks. If I were in the same position of even prefer the wheelchair, of only that for his age it would be more appropriate and raise less eyebrows.
If he's 8 and in a pram, they're getting looks either way. And wheelchairs are pretty expensive, usually more than prams, so it may not have been a financial decision by the city.
Oh, it was definitely financial. Almost all decisions in this case are.

The wheelchair with a 5-point child-safe safety belt is something like 400 euros whereas the stroller is 800 commercially. The city has bulk buying discounts on the wheelchair but not the stroller (not enough users).

Recently there was a lawsuit though, filed by a supportgroup because a city denied a request immediately based on cost and advised the standard solution which was a lot cheaper.  The group won it too because the request was adjusted to that families situation and the law provides that any request should be judged on suitability and not cost (within limits). Made to measure may be more expensive but it may also allow for a more humane way of living, choice of carer etc.
Also, the supplied solutions by the city are generic which is why they are cheap. In our case we would have an accountmanager, 3 workers of various generic specialties at 12 euro an hour and no communication between them and other parties. Fortunately we got our request approved and now have a specialist who does all the work, meets with DSs school teacher to line up her work with theirs, meets with DS2s physiotherapist, speech therapist AND meets with the school where we intend to send him where she has a file a mile long which she uses to prove that he can do this if they only allow for minor adjustments.

She takes so much work off our hands I would pay her fee out of pocket, if I could. But even if she is more expensive she saves the city money in the long run simply because of all the other people I don't need which wouldn't be the case with the generic solution. And best of all, she gives us peace of mind that thing will end up OK even though now may be bleak.

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« Reply #7760 on: October 29, 2018, 03:11:02 AM »


What finally got me to post here is that in recent months the moocher has apparently been "bitten by the travel bug" and is on his third trip by PLANE this year.  His trips are of course well documented with selfies and memes about the Joy of Travel.  This has apparently made his money situation particularly desperate so he has gone from subtle asks for money ("woe is me I'm so poor how will I eat" quickly followed by "it sure would be nice if a pizza magically appeared on my doorstep."  I wish I was joking.) to not-so-subtle asks.  I mean directly saying "give me money, any money, even a dollar will do" in increasingly creative ways ranging from cutesy to straight up begging.  The frequency of these posts is directly proportional to the frequency of his travel posts and how excited he is to "go off on his next adventure."  Today's post was what pushed me over the edge:  Directions on how to give directly to his paypal because he doesn't know how he'll pay rent (again, that poor roommate) the same day as posting that he bought yet another plane ticket.

We have a lady like that at our mosque, she is always complaining about how she is hungry, how she has no food in the house, etc. She has repeatedly stated that she has government disability payments monthly but is frequently posting on FB about how she has bought new art supplies or she has gotten a new tattoo. Now, I live a good ways from the mosque, about 1/2 hour on public transport. I live very near to the only pay-what-you-can grocery in Canada.  Offered to take her there, since I had to go home anyway.  She refused, saying, ę Thanks, that would be nice but then I would have to cook the food Ľ. I just said, ę okay, let me know if you ever need a ride over there. Salaam aleikum Ľ and then left.  Iíve been told that other people have given her food many times but I canít see that as helpful or sustainable.

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« Reply #7761 on: October 29, 2018, 12:41:45 PM »
I was asked for money by a friend on facebook the other week. I was so steamed by it that it took me a while to decide to post it on here. The guy used to be a close friend but has drifted away over time. His page constantly shows him at various restaurants, including several that I have wanted to eat but haven't due to its cost. He also has expensive tastes when it does come to drinking, cars, and many more things. Suffice it to say, he spends a ton of money. I 'unfollowed' him a while back so I don't see any of his current posts.

Which is why when he asked for a loan I declined saying that money is tight. He got all huffy about it and said that he was good for it. I mentioned that last time I lent him money I had to wait a long time to get it back (only $100 but it's the principle of the matter, my friend clearly just hoped that I would forget about it).

He called me an "ungrateful friend," to which I asked what I should be grateful for. I told him to unfriend if he feels that way.

Haven't heard anything from him since, he hasn't unfriended me.

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« Reply #7762 on: October 29, 2018, 02:09:41 PM »


What finally got me to post here is that in recent months the moocher has apparently been "bitten by the travel bug" and is on his third trip by PLANE this year.  His trips are of course well documented with selfies and memes about the Joy of Travel.  This has apparently made his money situation particularly desperate so he has gone from subtle asks for money ("woe is me I'm so poor how will I eat" quickly followed by "it sure would be nice if a pizza magically appeared on my doorstep."  I wish I was joking.) to not-so-subtle asks.  I mean directly saying "give me money, any money, even a dollar will do" in increasingly creative ways ranging from cutesy to straight up begging.  The frequency of these posts is directly proportional to the frequency of his travel posts and how excited he is to "go off on his next adventure."  Today's post was what pushed me over the edge:  Directions on how to give directly to his paypal because he doesn't know how he'll pay rent (again, that poor roommate) the same day as posting that he bought yet another plane ticket.

We have a lady like that at our mosque, she is always complaining about how she is hungry, how she has no food in the house, etc. She has repeatedly stated that she has government disability payments monthly but is frequently posting on FB about how she has bought new art supplies or she has gotten a new tattoo. Now, I live a good ways from the mosque, about 1/2 hour on public transport. I live very near to the only pay-what-you-can grocery in Canada.  Offered to take her there, since I had to go home anyway.  She refused, saying, ę Thanks, that would be nice but then I would have to cook the food Ľ. I just said, ę okay, let me know if you ever need a ride over there. Salaam aleikum Ľ and then left.  Iíve been told that other people have given her food many times but I canít see that as helpful or sustainable.

What is Islam's stance on tattoos I wonder? I know orthodox jews do not and I was raised eastern orthodox Christian, and at least when I was growing up tattoos were a definite no no.

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« Reply #7763 on: October 30, 2018, 08:27:02 AM »


What finally got me to post here is that in recent months the moocher has apparently been "bitten by the travel bug" and is on his third trip by PLANE this year.  His trips are of course well documented with selfies and memes about the Joy of Travel.  This has apparently made his money situation particularly desperate so he has gone from subtle asks for money ("woe is me I'm so poor how will I eat" quickly followed by "it sure would be nice if a pizza magically appeared on my doorstep."  I wish I was joking.) to not-so-subtle asks.  I mean directly saying "give me money, any money, even a dollar will do" in increasingly creative ways ranging from cutesy to straight up begging.  The frequency of these posts is directly proportional to the frequency of his travel posts and how excited he is to "go off on his next adventure."  Today's post was what pushed me over the edge:  Directions on how to give directly to his paypal because he doesn't know how he'll pay rent (again, that poor roommate) the same day as posting that he bought yet another plane ticket.

We have a lady like that at our mosque, she is always complaining about how she is hungry, how she has no food in the house, etc. She has repeatedly stated that she has government disability payments monthly but is frequently posting on FB about how she has bought new art supplies or she has gotten a new tattoo. Now, I live a good ways from the mosque, about 1/2 hour on public transport. I live very near to the only pay-what-you-can grocery in Canada.  Offered to take her there, since I had to go home anyway.  She refused, saying, ę Thanks, that would be nice but then I would have to cook the food Ľ. I just said, ę okay, let me know if you ever need a ride over there. Salaam aleikum Ľ and then left.  Iíve been told that other people have given her food many times but I canít see that as helpful or sustainable.

What is Islam's stance on tattoos I wonder? I know orthodox jews do not and I was raised eastern orthodox Christian, and at least when I was growing up tattoos were a definite no no.

I asked a Muslim guy this once. He said tattoos were frowned upon because they were changing what God created.

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« Reply #7764 on: October 30, 2018, 08:48:43 AM »

I asked a Muslim guy this once. He said tattoos were frowned upon because they were changing what God created.

Isn't this technically the Christian stance too? I mean Leviticus clearly says no tattoos, though it doesn't say why.

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« Reply #7765 on: October 30, 2018, 08:59:03 AM »

I asked a Muslim guy this once. He said tattoos were frowned upon because they were changing what God created.

Isn't this technically the Christian stance too? I mean Leviticus clearly says no tattoos, though it doesn't say why.

I mean, for most Christian sects the Pentateuch and the entire OT is generally seen as non-binding because Christians are bound by the New Covenant from the last supper, and not the laws of the OT.  Otherwise christians would keep kosher, etc.  But I guess you could look at 1 Corinthians and get "no tattoos" out of 6:19's language about your body being a temple.

Even for Jews/OT adherents I think there is an argument Leviticus was talking about Canaanite ritual scarification and not tattoos if you read Kings.

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« Reply #7766 on: October 30, 2018, 09:25:00 AM »

I asked a Muslim guy this once. He said tattoos were frowned upon because they were changing what God created.

Isn't this technically the Christian stance too? I mean Leviticus clearly says no tattoos, though it doesn't say why.

I mean, for most Christian sects the Pentateuch and the entire OT is generally seen as non-binding because Christians are bound by the New Covenant from the last supper, and not the laws of the OT.  Otherwise christians would keep kosher, etc.  But I guess you could look at 1 Corinthians and get "no tattoos" out of 6:19's language about your body being a temple.

Even for Jews/OT adherents I think there is an argument Leviticus was talking about Canaanite ritual scarification and not tattoos if you read Kings.

Yeah, Leviticus only matters when it's about the gays.

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« Reply #7767 on: October 30, 2018, 01:36:16 PM »

I asked a Muslim guy this once. He said tattoos were frowned upon because they were changing what God created.

Isn't this technically the Christian stance too? I mean Leviticus clearly says no tattoos, though it doesn't say why.


Well, Jesus did say that the old laws weren't really that important. Love thy enemy, do unto others, and turn the other cheek, rather than eye for an eye and kill every last one, leave no woman or child to seek revenge.
I mean, for most Christian sects the Pentateuch and the entire OT is generally seen as non-binding because Christians are bound by the New Covenant from the last supper, and not the laws of the OT.  Otherwise christians would keep kosher, etc.  But I guess you could look at 1 Corinthians and get "no tattoos" out of 6:19's language about your body being a temple.

Even for Jews/OT adherents I think there is an argument Leviticus was talking about Canaanite ritual scarification and not tattoos if you read Kings.

Yeah, Leviticus only matters when it's about the gays.

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« Reply #7768 on: October 30, 2018, 08:40:04 PM »
Ugh!  I can't take it anymore!  The former high school classmate Facebook friend of mine that has spent the last 2 years posting about how they really need to win the lottery to have any chance of paying off debts while posting photos of a brand new big screen tv and new huge dodge truck and complaining about their "loan place"(payday loans), and not making ends meet just posted that they crashed their SO's car and posted a photo of a brand new jeep SUV as the replacement.  I just don't understand how people can be so wrapped up in consumerism that they can completely destroy their own future for that new car smell today. 

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« Reply #7769 on: October 31, 2018, 01:08:14 PM »

I asked a Muslim guy this once. He said tattoos were frowned upon because they were changing what God created.

Isn't this technically the Christian stance too? I mean Leviticus clearly says no tattoos, though it doesn't say why.

I mean, for most Christian sects the Pentateuch and the entire OT is generally seen as non-binding because Christians are bound by the New Covenant from the last supper, and not the laws of the OT.  Otherwise christians would keep kosher, etc.  But I guess you could look at 1 Corinthians and get "no tattoos" out of 6:19's language about your body being a temple.

Even for Jews/OT adherents I think there is an argument Leviticus was talking about Canaanite ritual scarification and not tattoos if you read Kings.

Yeah, Leviticus only matters when it's about the gays.

I brought this up the last time I heard a Christian friend talking about the evils of homosexuality. He quickly changed the subject. The guy was eating pork at the time.....

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« Reply #7770 on: October 31, 2018, 01:22:18 PM »

I asked a Muslim guy this once. He said tattoos were frowned upon because they were changing what God created.

Isn't this technically the Christian stance too? I mean Leviticus clearly says no tattoos, though it doesn't say why.

I mean, for most Christian sects the Pentateuch and the entire OT is generally seen as non-binding because Christians are bound by the New Covenant from the last supper, and not the laws of the OT.  Otherwise christians would keep kosher, etc.  But I guess you could look at 1 Corinthians and get "no tattoos" out of 6:19's language about your body being a temple.

Even for Jews/OT adherents I think there is an argument Leviticus was talking about Canaanite ritual scarification and not tattoos if you read Kings.

Yeah, Leviticus only matters when it's about the gays.

I brought this up the last time I heard a Christian friend talking about the evils of homosexuality. He quickly changed the subject. The guy was eating pork at the time.....
Paul does talk about homosexuality, but it's the ONLY gospel to do so... and in the context of him trying to find common ground with Romans (hey, we hate them, too!)... not super compelling.  The whole point of christianity is the new covenant.... not appending belief in Jesus on to Judaism (see, e.g. Mike Pence inviting a "Messianic Jew" to lead the prayer services yesterday).

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #7771 on: October 31, 2018, 01:49:36 PM »
Hey, has anyone overheard anything good on Facebook lately? [/end hint]

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« Reply #7772 on: October 31, 2018, 02:13:11 PM »
Hey, has anyone overheard anything good on Facebook lately? [/end hint]

If you want, I can find a post about how the Bible says gays are bad.  Or at least how Steve King says they are.  Dumbshit Steve King is taking up way too much of my facebook feed.

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« Reply #7773 on: November 04, 2018, 04:57:34 PM »
Hey, has anyone overheard anything good on Facebook lately? [/end hint]

A reasonably frugal friend was in the US for work recently.

He visited an outlet mall to pick up new running shoes for about half the price he would pay in Australia.

A colleague he was travelling with had a go at him for "wasting money on shoes".

The colleague is a pack of day smoker who pays more than a dollar each for every cigarette.
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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #7774 on: November 04, 2018, 08:42:37 PM »
Hey, has anyone overheard anything good on Facebook lately? [/end hint]

A reasonably frugal friend was in the US for work recently.

He visited an outlet mall to pick up new running shoes for about half the price he would pay in Australia.

A colleague he was travelling with started had a go at him for "wasting money on shoes".

The colleague is a pack of day smoker who pays more than a dollar each for every cigarette.

You donít get shoe withdrawal if you donít buy more shoes

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #7775 on: November 05, 2018, 07:10:10 AM »
Hey, has anyone overheard anything good on Facebook lately? [/end hint]

A reasonably frugal friend was in the US for work recently.

He visited an outlet mall to pick up new running shoes for about half the price he would pay in Australia.

A colleague he was travelling with started had a go at him for "wasting money on shoes".

The colleague is a pack of day smoker who pays more than a dollar each for every cigarette.

You donít get shoe withdrawal if you donít buy more shoes

Really? Looking at some of my colleagues, you'd certainly think otherwise.

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #7776 on: November 05, 2018, 09:28:23 AM »
Hey, has anyone overheard anything good on Facebook lately? [/end hint]

A reasonably frugal friend was in the US for work recently.

He visited an outlet mall to pick up new running shoes for about half the price he would pay in Australia.

A colleague he was travelling with started had a go at him for "wasting money on shoes".

The colleague is a pack of day smoker who pays more than a dollar each for every cigarette.

You donít get shoe withdrawal if you donít buy more shoes

Really? Looking at some of my colleagues, you'd certainly think otherwise.

Me too.  And the worst offender is one of the guys.  I swear he has a pair of sneakers to match every single t-shirt he owns.  And I'm over here wearing 15 year-old Doc Martens with holes in them because I can't find new ones that I like for a price I want to pay (okay, and they are broken in and comfy). 

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #7777 on: November 05, 2018, 11:31:16 PM »
Hey, has anyone overheard anything good on Facebook lately? [/end hint]

A reasonably frugal friend was in the US for work recently.

He visited an outlet mall to pick up new running shoes for about half the price he would pay in Australia.

A colleague he was travelling with started had a go at him for "wasting money on shoes".

The colleague is a pack of day smoker who pays more than a dollar each for every cigarette.

You donít get shoe withdrawal if you donít buy more shoes

Really? Looking at some of my colleagues, you'd certainly think otherwise.

Me too.  And the worst offender is one of the guys.  I swear he has a pair of sneakers to match every single t-shirt he owns.  And I'm over here wearing 15 year-old Doc Martens with holes in them because I can't find new ones that I like for a price I want to pay (okay, and they are broken in and comfy).

Ok I will stretch a pair for as long as I can, but even I know (from experience) that old worn out shoes lead to blisters and foot problems pretty quickly.

Bite the bullet and get a new pair. Will save you much more in podiatry costs down the road.

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #7778 on: November 06, 2018, 09:37:22 AM »
I just got another FB friend invite from my FIL. I searched for his name and found six accounts he has opened up over time.
It appears that he forgets his password or otherwise gets messed up and so instead of figuring it out or asking for help, he just opens a new account.

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« Reply #7779 on: November 07, 2018, 11:23:46 AM »
This just came up on a community based page that I'm a part of on FB:

"I need info about homeschool .
I'm wonting to take my child out of public school .any parents on here willing to tell me how I go about doing it. .
All info is appreciated."

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #7780 on: November 07, 2018, 11:35:31 AM »


What finally got me to post here is that in recent months the moocher has apparently been "bitten by the travel bug" and is on his third trip by PLANE this year.  His trips are of course well documented with selfies and memes about the Joy of Travel.  This has apparently made his money situation particularly desperate so he has gone from subtle asks for money ("woe is me I'm so poor how will I eat" quickly followed by "it sure would be nice if a pizza magically appeared on my doorstep."  I wish I was joking.) to not-so-subtle asks.  I mean directly saying "give me money, any money, even a dollar will do" in increasingly creative ways ranging from cutesy to straight up begging.  The frequency of these posts is directly proportional to the frequency of his travel posts and how excited he is to "go off on his next adventure."  Today's post was what pushed me over the edge:  Directions on how to give directly to his paypal because he doesn't know how he'll pay rent (again, that poor roommate) the same day as posting that he bought yet another plane ticket.

We have a lady like that at our mosque, she is always complaining about how she is hungry, how she has no food in the house, etc. She has repeatedly stated that she has government disability payments monthly but is frequently posting on FB about how she has bought new art supplies or she has gotten a new tattoo. Now, I live a good ways from the mosque, about 1/2 hour on public transport. I live very near to the only pay-what-you-can grocery in Canada.  Offered to take her there, since I had to go home anyway.  She refused, saying, ę Thanks, that would be nice but then I would have to cook the food Ľ. I just said, ę okay, let me know if you ever need a ride over there. Salaam aleikum Ľ and then left.  Iíve been told that other people have given her food many times but I canít see that as helpful or sustainable.

i have to admit once i cooked a bowl of plain white rice and offered it to a guy that was always bitching about how hungry he was.  i was young, maybe it was uncooth, but i used to eat a lot of plain rice so i know he wasnt really hungry bc he rejected it

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #7781 on: November 07, 2018, 11:45:32 AM »
I just booted up my new iPhone 8 that I got because my employer gave it to me for free. I had previously planned on using my iPhone 6 until screen and battery replacements were no longer sufficient to keep it going. I have to say, I wouldnít buy this new phone myself but I am enjoying all of its fancy fancy. :) Here is hoping the phone will take me to FIRE!

someone gave me an iphone 5 when my burner phoen died.
and the iphone sucks ,  doesnt receive calls or anything. 
i guess i can get this moto g6 and maye a SIM adapter and put the iphoen's SIM card in it with no problem  ?

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #7782 on: November 07, 2018, 12:43:47 PM »
I just got another FB friend invite from my FIL. I searched for his name and found six accounts he has opened up over time.
It appears that he forgets his password or otherwise gets messed up and so instead of figuring it out or asking for help, he just opens a new account.

Those could be scam accounts.  There is a scam where the scammer opens an account with your name, your profile picture, and starts sending friends requests to your existing friends list. This happened to me once and I've since made my friends list private (by default it's public).

https://www.webopedia.com/TERM/F/facebook-clone-scam.html

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« Reply #7783 on: November 07, 2018, 12:46:41 PM »
I think that is a question for Google, not for me. :)

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #7784 on: November 07, 2018, 12:54:35 PM »
I just got another FB friend invite from my FIL. I searched for his name and found six accounts he has opened up over time.
It appears that he forgets his password or otherwise gets messed up and so instead of figuring it out or asking for help, he just opens a new account.

Those could be scam accounts.  There is a scam where the scammer opens an account with your name, your profile picture, and starts sending friends requests to your existing friends list. This happened to me once and I've since made my friends list private (by default it's public).

https://www.webopedia.com/TERM/F/facebook-clone-scam.html
I am pretty sure he just doesn’t know how to operate technology. A new account gets opened every few months and he posts the same photos to several of them. It is like he is logged into one FB account on the phone, another on the iPad, and a third on the computer....

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« Reply #7785 on: November 13, 2018, 07:47:07 AM »
I just got another FB friend invite from my FIL. I searched for his name and found six accounts he has opened up over time.
It appears that he forgets his password or otherwise gets messed up and so instead of figuring it out or asking for help, he just opens a new account.
My MIL is the same. I have 4 accounts that are all her, but she ups the game by using a different name every time. So frustrating.

We have a relative that asks their grown kids and grandkids for IT support. Everyone has varying skill levels. DW does IT support as part of her job.

DW will find abandoned accounts, passwords nobody wrote down, click here solutions and no awareness of what software or app they are using to "see the pictures" (social media). Even recovering passwords by email can be an adventure.

Too many cooks in the kitchen.

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #7786 on: November 14, 2018, 10:22:19 AM »
I just got another FB friend invite from my FIL. I searched for his name and found six accounts he has opened up over time.
It appears that he forgets his password or otherwise gets messed up and so instead of figuring it out or asking for help, he just opens a new account.
My MIL is the same. I have 4 accounts that are all her, but she ups the game by using a different name every time. So frustrating.

We have a relative that asks their grown kids and grandkids for IT support. Everyone has varying skill levels. DW does IT support as part of her job.

DW will find abandoned accounts, passwords nobody wrote down, click here solutions and no awareness of what software or app they are using to "see the pictures" (social media). Even recovering passwords by email can be an adventure.

Too many cooks in the kitchen.

Last time I helped someone was when a colleague asked me to help with his audio system because it could be linked to his TV control (that was an interesting new concept at the time). I helped, he payed barely enough to cover my travel expenses and appearently told his manager that I'd help out if he payed me. So next thing I know is the manager asking me to help him for a few Ä, I refused.

After that I realized that everyone wants to sit up front for pennies and that if they really wanted my help they should pay my hourly tariff based on my experience and knowledge (50Ä before tax). I used to get a reply that their nephew or some such was a lot cheaper and could do it too - so why not ask the nephew in stead of asking me! Eventually the requests stopped.

I have done a few charity cases in the meantime but it usually bit me in the backside so now you pay full deterrent price (75Ä :P) or no support, period. It also helps to give a sob story about the family situation which everyone knows about anyway to emphasyze my point - my time is more valuable than your money.

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #7787 on: November 14, 2018, 02:10:17 PM »


What finally got me to post here is that in recent months the moocher has apparently been "bitten by the travel bug" and is on his third trip by PLANE this year.  His trips are of course well documented with selfies and memes about the Joy of Travel.  This has apparently made his money situation particularly desperate so he has gone from subtle asks for money ("woe is me I'm so poor how will I eat" quickly followed by "it sure would be nice if a pizza magically appeared on my doorstep."  I wish I was joking.) to not-so-subtle asks.  I mean directly saying "give me money, any money, even a dollar will do" in increasingly creative ways ranging from cutesy to straight up begging.  The frequency of these posts is directly proportional to the frequency of his travel posts and how excited he is to "go off on his next adventure."  Today's post was what pushed me over the edge:  Directions on how to give directly to his paypal because he doesn't know how he'll pay rent (again, that poor roommate) the same day as posting that he bought yet another plane ticket.

We have a lady like that at our mosque, she is always complaining about how she is hungry, how she has no food in the house, etc. She has repeatedly stated that she has government disability payments monthly but is frequently posting on FB about how she has bought new art supplies or she has gotten a new tattoo. Now, I live a good ways from the mosque, about 1/2 hour on public transport. I live very near to the only pay-what-you-can grocery in Canada.  Offered to take her there, since I had to go home anyway.  She refused, saying, ę Thanks, that would be nice but then I would have to cook the food Ľ. I just said, ę okay, let me know if you ever need a ride over there. Salaam aleikum Ľ and then left.  Iíve been told that other people have given her food many times but I canít see that as helpful or sustainable.

i have to admit once i cooked a bowl of plain white rice and offered it to a guy that was always bitching about how hungry he was.  i was young, maybe it was uncooth, but i used to eat a lot of plain rice so i know he wasnt really hungry bc he rejected it

Yea I have a FB friend like this...she used to be HORRIBLE (she's earlier in the thread with some of the stories).  Then she got better for a while, but has recently re started, and now it's rent, food, AND booze and weed that she is begging for.

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #7788 on: November 14, 2018, 04:15:09 PM »


What finally got me to post here is that in recent months the moocher has apparently been "bitten by the travel bug" and is on his third trip by PLANE this year.  His trips are of course well documented with selfies and memes about the Joy of Travel.  This has apparently made his money situation particularly desperate so he has gone from subtle asks for money ("woe is me I'm so poor how will I eat" quickly followed by "it sure would be nice if a pizza magically appeared on my doorstep."  I wish I was joking.) to not-so-subtle asks.  I mean directly saying "give me money, any money, even a dollar will do" in increasingly creative ways ranging from cutesy to straight up begging.  The frequency of these posts is directly proportional to the frequency of his travel posts and how excited he is to "go off on his next adventure."  Today's post was what pushed me over the edge:  Directions on how to give directly to his paypal because he doesn't know how he'll pay rent (again, that poor roommate) the same day as posting that he bought yet another plane ticket.

We have a lady like that at our mosque, she is always complaining about how she is hungry, how she has no food in the house, etc. She has repeatedly stated that she has government disability payments monthly but is frequently posting on FB about how she has bought new art supplies or she has gotten a new tattoo. Now, I live a good ways from the mosque, about 1/2 hour on public transport. I live very near to the only pay-what-you-can grocery in Canada.  Offered to take her there, since I had to go home anyway.  She refused, saying, ę Thanks, that would be nice but then I would have to cook the food Ľ. I just said, ę okay, let me know if you ever need a ride over there. Salaam aleikum Ľ and then left.  Iíve been told that other people have given her food many times but I canít see that as helpful or sustainable.

i have to admit once i cooked a bowl of plain white rice and offered it to a guy that was always bitching about how hungry he was.  i was young, maybe it was uncooth, but i used to eat a lot of plain rice so i know he wasnt really hungry bc he rejected it

Yea I have a FB friend like this...she used to be HORRIBLE (she's earlier in the thread with some of the stories).  Then she got better for a while, but has recently re started, and now it's rent, food, AND booze and weed that she is begging for.

Don't tell me that Madame Bovary burned through yet another meal ticket, and is looking for a new codependent KISSASS?

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #7789 on: November 14, 2018, 04:37:08 PM »

i have to admit once i cooked a bowl of plain white rice and offered it to a guy that was always bitching about how hungry he was.  i was young, maybe it was uncooth, but i used to eat a lot of plain rice so i know he wasnt really hungry bc he rejected it

I did something similar.  I helped a family who recently moved here from another country to get out of a horrible living situation (the 5 of them were staying with a relative and the hosting family's patience had obviously run out about 3 months prior).   What I did was help to find household donations for them, picked it all up, moved it all into their new basement suite, helped them fill out paperwork that they needed to stay in the country, offered to walk them from the bus stop to their lawyer's because they (she) was nervous about getting there without a car, etc.

After moving the second load of donations into their place, she said that they did not have any food and was worried.  She had refused to have me bring her to sign up at the food back previously.   I was a bit puzzled because obviously the family / relations that they moved away from were well enough off, and should have been very thankful that they were now in their own place, so I know I would have easily bought them some groceries... but maybe not.  Not my place to pry.

So, I went home, looked at my own cupboard, and packaged up some of the sweet potatoes, some onions, potatoes, 1/2 gallon of cooking oil, a lb of carrots, a handful of apples, oatmeal, and a few pounds of rice, dried chickpeas and some beans.   Most of this from my own personal "super size bulk" supplies, which is so much cheaper to get but needs ready cash when you do.  I added in salt, a bit of spices (whatever I had in bulk),  a lb of sugar and some cheap tea bags that I was not using up very quickly.

And I dropped it off.   There were smiles, a bit of puzzled look, and a thank-you.

And I was never asked by them again for food "donations" although I know many others in the community were repeatedly asked.

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #7790 on: November 14, 2018, 05:22:30 PM »

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« Reply #7791 on: November 15, 2018, 07:47:09 AM »
Last time I helped someone was when a colleague asked me to help with his audio system because it could be linked to his TV control (that was an interesting new concept at the time). I helped, he payed barely enough to cover my travel expenses and appearently told his manager that I'd help out if he payed me. So next thing I know is the manager asking me to help him for a few Ä, I refused.

After that I realized that everyone wants to sit up front for pennies and that if they really wanted my help they should pay my hourly tariff based on my experience and knowledge (50Ä before tax). I used to get a reply that their nephew or some such was a lot cheaper and could do it too - so why not ask the nephew in stead of asking me! Eventually the requests stopped.

I have done a few charity cases in the meantime but it usually bit me in the backside so now you pay full deterrent price (75Ä :P) or no support, period. It also helps to give a sob story about the family situation which everyone knows about anyway to emphasyze my point - my time is more valuable than your money.

That's what YouTube and Google is for. A colleague had a printer problem recently. All he knew was that he had a printer, nothing else. After we established the details and I sent him three YT links. Tada!!!

I am a big fan of "teaching a man to fish" but sometimes it feels like I'm doing someone's homework for them. ;)

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #7792 on: November 15, 2018, 10:56:01 AM »
<snipped a food charity story>

And I dropped it off.   There were smiles, a bit of puzzled look, and a thank-you.

And I was never asked by them again for food "donations" although I know many others in the community were repeatedly asked.

Food culture is interesting. People seem to have a preference for eating what they grew up with and what they know how to prepare. One person's staple might be inedible to someone else from a different culture who doesn't know how to prepare it, and it's not entirely a global thing.

There are also people who truly do not know how to cook. One of my tenants had to be taught how to make spaghetti or soup for himself using pre-packaged options. He'd always lived with other family members who had done the cooking and who had discouraged him from so much as stepping into the kitchen. If someone were to have handed this fellow a potato or some dried beans, he'd have been verbally polite but with the same deer-in-the-headlights response you described.

A person living in a house who does not contribute by performing basic household operations such as cooking wears out his or her welcome pretty quickly. You described a family of five.

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« Reply #7793 on: November 15, 2018, 11:37:47 AM »
<snipped a food charity story>

And I dropped it off.   There were smiles, a bit of puzzled look, and a thank-you.

And I was never asked by them again for food "donations" although I know many others in the community were repeatedly asked.

Food culture is interesting. People seem to have a preference for eating what they grew up with and what they know how to prepare. One person's staple might be inedible to someone else from a different culture who doesn't know how to prepare it, and it's not entirely a global thing.


Agree, I tutor at a refugee center, and even when the most basic food (like eggs or corn) are set out in the share basket, we always put instructions on what you can do with it, beyond just a recipe.

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« Reply #7794 on: November 15, 2018, 02:59:18 PM »


There are also people who truly do not know how to cook. One of my tenants had to be taught how to make spaghetti or soup for himself using pre-packaged options. He'd always lived with other family members who had done the cooking and who had discouraged him from so much as stepping into the kitchen. If someone were to have handed this fellow a potato or some dried beans, he'd have been verbally polite but with the same deer-in-the-headlights response you described.


Due to circumstances, a grown-up man aged 50 in my family suddenly has no one to cook for him anymore, and won't for another two months.

He has been calling relatives in desperation for money to pay ffood because he couldn't afford eating out every day and he has been hungry for a while. His siblings didn't want to give him money, understandably (due to other circumstances this guy never has money although he has a good income, a cheap home and no dependants - there's more to this story of course) but if he made a shopping list, they'd drop off a couple of bags of groceries. He absolutely had no idea what to put on a grocery shopping list, because he's never cooked for himself and apparantly rarely even shops for groceries himself. Seems he's been living on bread and canned hotdogs for a few weeks now.

There's a lot more to this story and I don't feel a lot of sympathy for this guy, but it's sad that a grown man can't even imagine going to the grocery store and picking up canned soup, microwave meals or frozen pizza. These days you can even buy meal kits with seasoned meat, chopped up vegetables and fresh noodles that you just have to stir fry for a few minutes. I'm sure there are youtube tutorials about boiling and frying eggs. But this grown-up man sincerely can't feed himself and he's not accepting any help from anyone.

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« Reply #7795 on: November 15, 2018, 05:04:17 PM »

A 'potato', oh interesting. Never heard of a potato, looks pretty good.

You laugh, but Caitlyn Flanagan once wrote in the Atlantic of going to a friend's house as a child. The friend and her mother were in the kitchen, doing something with brown lumps and knives. "What are you doing?" asked Caitlyn.  "Uh... we're making mashed potatoes," was the reply.  She was incredulous, because she knew mashed potatoes, and she knew they were flakes that came in a box.

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #7796 on: November 16, 2018, 05:31:40 AM »


What finally got me to post here is that in recent months the moocher has apparently been "bitten by the travel bug" and is on his third trip by PLANE this year.  His trips are of course well documented with selfies and memes about the Joy of Travel.  This has apparently made his money situation particularly desperate so he has gone from subtle asks for money ("woe is me I'm so poor how will I eat" quickly followed by "it sure would be nice if a pizza magically appeared on my doorstep."  I wish I was joking.) to not-so-subtle asks.  I mean directly saying "give me money, any money, even a dollar will do" in increasingly creative ways ranging from cutesy to straight up begging.  The frequency of these posts is directly proportional to the frequency of his travel posts and how excited he is to "go off on his next adventure."  Today's post was what pushed me over the edge:  Directions on how to give directly to his paypal because he doesn't know how he'll pay rent (again, that poor roommate) the same day as posting that he bought yet another plane ticket.

We have a lady like that at our mosque, she is always complaining about how she is hungry, how she has no food in the house, etc. She has repeatedly stated that she has government disability payments monthly but is frequently posting on FB about how she has bought new art supplies or she has gotten a new tattoo. Now, I live a good ways from the mosque, about 1/2 hour on public transport. I live very near to the only pay-what-you-can grocery in Canada.  Offered to take her there, since I had to go home anyway.  She refused, saying, ę Thanks, that would be nice but then I would have to cook the food Ľ. I just said, ę okay, let me know if you ever need a ride over there. Salaam aleikum Ľ and then left.  Iíve been told that other people have given her food many times but I canít see that as helpful or sustainable.

i have to admit once i cooked a bowl of plain white rice and offered it to a guy that was always bitching about how hungry he was.  i was young, maybe it was uncooth, but i used to eat a lot of plain rice so i know he wasnt really hungry bc he rejected it

Yea I have a FB friend like this...she used to be HORRIBLE (she's earlier in the thread with some of the stories).  Then she got better for a while, but has recently re started, and now it's rent, food, AND booze and weed that she is begging for.

Don't tell me that Madame Bovary burned through yet another meal ticket, and is looking for a new codependent KISSASS?

Surprisingly she is still with the ex husbands best friend.  However, as a dishonorably discharged vet he has trouble finding employment, and she well, barely graduated high school and has always been pretty lazy, so a hard week of work is 2-3 part time days.  So you know, money problems out the ears. 

He gets rent help from one of the local vet organizations so they now have a place to live (after being evicted from a few a couple of years ago).  He however kicks her out every six months or so when he gets bored or finds a temporary new piece.  So it's "the world is burning down and everyone hates me please send me rent money" on facebook for a while, then she's right back in it again.

And of course, none of their circumstances are their fault.  It's the damn dirty illegal immigrants and that horrible caravan that "took er jobs". 


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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #7797 on: November 16, 2018, 11:30:28 AM »


There are also people who truly do not know how to cook. One of my tenants had to be taught how to make spaghetti or soup for himself using pre-packaged options. He'd always lived with other family members who had done the cooking and who had discouraged him from so much as stepping into the kitchen. If someone were to have handed this fellow a potato or some dried beans, he'd have been verbally polite but with the same deer-in-the-headlights response you described.


Due to circumstances, a grown-up man aged 50 in my family suddenly has no one to cook for him anymore, and won't for another two months.

He has been calling relatives in desperation for money to pay ffood because he couldn't afford eating out every day and he has been hungry for a while. His siblings didn't want to give him money, understandably (due to other circumstances this guy never has money although he has a good income, a cheap home and no dependants - there's more to this story of course) but if he made a shopping list, they'd drop off a couple of bags of groceries. He absolutely had no idea what to put on a grocery shopping list, because he's never cooked for himself and apparantly rarely even shops for groceries himself. Seems he's been living on bread and canned hotdogs for a few weeks now.

There's a lot more to this story and I don't feel a lot of sympathy for this guy, but it's sad that a grown man can't even imagine going to the grocery store and picking up canned soup, microwave meals or frozen pizza. These days you can even buy meal kits with seasoned meat, chopped up vegetables and fresh noodles that you just have to stir fry for a few minutes. I'm sure there are youtube tutorials about boiling and frying eggs. But this grown-up man sincerely can't feed himself and he's not accepting any help from anyone.

Wow. It sounds like my 12 and 15 year olds know how to prepare more food than this fellow, and I feel their skills are basic. They can both make their own sandwiches and lunches, the oldest can fry a hamburger and make simple recipes, and youngest can make sandwiches, reheat things and make oatmeal, cut fruit and salads. She can crack eggs and flip pancakes, but her technique for those needs work.

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #7798 on: November 16, 2018, 11:39:48 AM »
I have no sympathy for people like that. I used to have a receptionist that would eat out each lunch while grumbling at how little she made. When asked why she didn't cook she would mention that she never learned how to cook. I didn't, my mom actively told me not to learn for whatever reason but I figured some things out and now I cook nearly all my meals.

Nowadays there's Youtube, meal kits, and many other ways to get started. Heck if you just post on Facebook, "Anyone wanna help me learn to buy groceries and cook?" He'll likely get scores of responses from people wiling to help him.

People need to want to improve in order to do so.

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #7799 on: November 16, 2018, 12:00:29 PM »
It's ironic because both grandmothers were excellent cooks, parents are decent to good cooks, and my Dad is in the restaurant business, but I didn't learn how to cook until I went to college. No one showed me. My sister and I were only allowed to do food prep (like peel and cut vegetables, etc) not allowed or shown how to cook. In college I had a very limited budget so living off campus and cooking my own food was much less expensive, plus during that time I was not eating refined sugar which meant I had to make almost all my food. Had a group of like minded people where not only made meals, but baked goods and breads (including sourdough) yogurt, and homemade mayonaise. And there was always a group of hungry students to eat the food (even if the experiments were not 100% successful!) I look on those days with fondness. Anyways I am not going to make the same mistake and shoo my kids out of the kitchen.
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