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« Reply #950 on: October 18, 2014, 02:45:23 PM »
I feel semi-bad sharing this, because I actually really like this person, but someone posted this on Facebook this morning:

24 more days......I hope Florida is ready for us again!!!!!

This is in reference to another trip to the Magic Kingdom after a mid-September trip. They live in the upper Midwest. The responses were a mixture of incredulity (that was then explained to be jealousy) and "you deserve it!!!" Apparently things have been rather tough at work.

A couple of years ago, a coworker and her husband went to Disneyland for their "babymoon," which was just so bizarre to me at the time. It should be mentioned they drove there (3 hours each way) in their Cadillac Escalade. And Escalade for two people, and Disneyland for the childless -- I had no words. I wish I'd known about this thread then, LOL!


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« Reply #951 on: October 18, 2014, 09:59:12 PM »
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« Reply #952 on: October 19, 2014, 02:59:24 AM »
We're expecting baby #4.  You better believe we're having a babymoon.

But babymoon homehandyparents style is this:

We have a wedding to go to, a 5 hour drive from here, next weekend.  A friend of ours, with children of her own, offers to spend the weekend at our house, look after all our kids and feed our cat, out of the goodness of her heart (and we'll make sure the house is stocked with food that she and her kids will eat - so a junk food fiesta for our kids, and business as usual for hers, but I digress).

We phone other friends of ours who live close to the wedding venue and will be crashing in their spare bedroom on Friday and Saturday nights (Wedding is Saturday afternoon).  The babymoon bit?  The joy of knowing that those children I can hear calling out in the night?  They're not mine.  Kids up and about first thing in the morning?  Not my job to feed them.  A car ride for multiple hours, with no insane children's songs playing on the stereo.  And if we stop anywhere on the way, it will not have to be somewhere with a playground.  And we plan to get to our friends' house early enough on the Friday night to do dessert and play some board games :)

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #953 on: October 19, 2014, 06:59:57 AM »
The mother of my daughter's friend sells for one of these pyramid retailers called Initial Outfitter. They sell monogrammed junk at insane prices. So this lady posts on Facebook looking for people to sell for her, join her "team" or whatever and says, "if you want a debt free Christmas, sign up with me!"  People go into debt for Christmas?!?  What the fuck for?

Of course they have to purchase initial quantities of products as samples for their parties. Gotta spend money to make money right?  Un-flapjackin-believable.

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« Reply #954 on: October 20, 2014, 05:56:55 AM »
I feel semi-bad sharing this, because I actually really like this person, but someone posted this on Facebook this morning:

24 more days......I hope Florida is ready for us again!!!!!

This is in reference to another trip to the Magic Kingdom after a mid-September trip. They live in the upper Midwest. The responses were a mixture of incredulity (that was then explained to be jealousy) and "you deserve it!!!" Apparently things have been rather tough at work.

A couple of years ago, a coworker and her husband went to Disneyland for their "babymoon," which was just so bizarre to me at the time. It should be mentioned they drove there (3 hours each way) in their Cadillac Escalade. And Escalade for two people, and Disneyland for the childless -- I had no words. I wish I'd known about this thread then, LOL!

Eh, I understand Disney without kids. You really get to move through the park and enjoy a lot of things like food/roller coasters, etc. Kids make that a lot more complicated. Now, again, most of this is a lot worse considering their circumstances compared to most of ours so it's probably a stupid move for them.
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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #955 on: October 20, 2014, 07:35:28 AM »
People go into debt for Christmas?!?  What the fuck for?
I had a coworker a couple of years ago saying in March that they were still getting caught up on the mortgage because they got behind during Christmas. I was absolutely flabbergasted that presents too precedence over a roof over their heads

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« Reply #956 on: October 20, 2014, 09:18:47 AM »
Eh, I understand Disney without kids. You really get to move through the park and enjoy a lot of things like food/roller coasters, etc. Kids make that a lot more complicated. Now, again, most of this is a lot worse considering their circumstances compared to most of ours so it's probably a stupid move for them.
Agreed!  My wife and I have taken the kids a few times, and as much as the kids have loved it, we want to go just as a couple some time.

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« Reply #957 on: October 20, 2014, 10:00:08 AM »
Just to pile on the foam a bit...I'd love to go to Disneyland without kids...except then I think about how much my kids will enjoy it and I'll probably never do it.  But I like to sit and people watch, look at the flowers, enjoy the live music, things that are not impossible but certainly harder with small kids - also, we don't do rides they can't ride when we go...so I'd love to ride Space Mountain again. My son just got tall enough for Gadget's Go Coaster.  I'll have to get my thrills from that. Ha! 

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« Reply #958 on: October 20, 2014, 10:06:34 AM »
People have completely turned on it's head what a Babymoon actually is. it's a time of staying in with the newborn baby and just enjoying this new little person. Snuggling in as a family and figuring it all out.

It has nothing to do with a vacation, it is actually very Mustachian.
This is what I thought a babymoon was, I never imagined that taking a vacation before the baby was born was a babymoon!  Just weird.

A babymoon is the first month enjoyed with the baby, the month that you don't leave the house much and get to know your new little one.

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #959 on: October 20, 2014, 11:09:26 AM »
Just to pile on the foam a bit...I'd love to go to Disneyland without kids...except then I think about how much my kids will enjoy it and I'll probably never do it.  But I like to sit and people watch, look at the flowers, enjoy the live music, things that are not impossible but certainly harder with small kids - also, we don't do rides they can't ride when we go...so I'd love to ride Space Mountain again. My son just got tall enough for Gadget's Go Coaster.  I'll have to get my thrills from that. Ha!

Yep, and you can always wait until they're older. My parents took me when I was 15, brother 13, sis 11. We all had a great time, and I suspect my parents too, because we had walkytalkies and they just let us roam (as long as we were always together), while they did their things. We went to lots of rides together, or in various different configurations of family duos and trios, and I think the flexibility of older kids was certainly helpful to enjoy the parks.

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« Reply #960 on: October 20, 2014, 03:00:05 PM »
My mother took us back to Disney World (we had been as younger kids) when I was 17 and my brother was almost 15. We had a BLAST. More fun than any of us had seven years earlier, I would say.
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« Reply #961 on: October 20, 2014, 04:57:44 PM »
People go into debt for Christmas?!?  What the fuck for?
I had a coworker a couple of years ago saying in March that they were still getting caught up on the mortgage because they got behind during Christmas. I was absolutely flabbergasted that presents too precedence over a roof over their heads
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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #962 on: October 21, 2014, 08:45:45 AM »
People go into debt for Christmas?!?  What the fuck for?

Apparently it's not that uncommon, as a CC offer just came in the mail, telling me I'm qualified for $20k limit, "just in time for Christmas."

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« Reply #963 on: October 21, 2014, 08:50:26 AM »
I don't "do" Facebook, but I enjoy reading your posts.  Maybe someone can start a Babymoon thread so that they can post there.

are you saying this thread is getting foamy? :)

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« Reply #964 on: October 21, 2014, 10:04:22 AM »
I don't "do" Facebook, but I enjoy reading your posts.  Maybe someone can start a Babymoon thread so that they can post there.

are you saying this thread is getting foamy? :)

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« Reply #965 on: October 21, 2014, 01:18:46 PM »
People go into debt for Christmas?!?  What the fuck for?

My mom does this, she loves to spend a ton of money every year on useless crap I couldn't care less about.  Then celebrates around Oct/Nov when she finally pays off the previous Christmas so she can start shopping all over again.  I used to beg her not to do it but finally gave up and started an amazon.com wishlist because I figure, if she's going to spend $1,000 on me alone, I might as well get stuff I want.  Unfortunately, she barely looks at it and I still get nothing but useless crap that ends up at Goodwill.  sigh... I really wish she would stop.  Her and my dad don't have much money and are really struggling in retirement, but I have no clue how to make her stop.  She insists it makes her happy.  :(

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« Reply #966 on: October 21, 2014, 02:07:29 PM »
I feel semi-bad sharing this, because I actually really like this person, but someone posted this on Facebook this morning:

24 more days......I hope Florida is ready for us again!!!!!

This is in reference to another trip to the Magic Kingdom after a mid-September trip. They live in the upper Midwest. The responses were a mixture of incredulity (that was then explained to be jealousy) and "you deserve it!!!" Apparently things have been rather tough at work.

A couple of years ago, a coworker and her husband went to Disneyland for their "babymoon," which was just so bizarre to me at the time. It should be mentioned they drove there (3 hours each way) in their Cadillac Escalade. And Escalade for two people, and Disneyland for the childless -- I had no words. I wish I'd known about this thread then, LOL!

Eh, I understand Disney without kids. You really get to move through the park and enjoy a lot of things like food/roller coasters, etc. Kids make that a lot more complicated. Now, again, most of this is a lot worse considering their circumstances compared to most of ours so it's probably a stupid move for them.
Agree.  My wife and I went to Disneyland for a day on our honeymoon, and my sister loves DW.  Obviously there are more mustachian vacations, but I don't see an issue with it being "age appropriate" or whatever for adults.  We're mostly DW people, living in the midwest, and there is a lot to do for adults.

As for justjane's story - if the person is in debt I understand.  However, going multiple times per year isn't an issue to me, either.  I got my sister into MMM, and she's looking to semi-retire in about 10 years, and even with that she goes on a cruise or to DW three times a year.  She's smart about it, she's made it into a side business with Disney travel, but mostly she's single with a good income, a small house and decently low expenses.  Not like most people here, but much better than average.

I don't know. Going to Disneyland twice in the span of one season is pretty extravagant regardless of your finances. I know nothing of how their finances are, but it's a pretty crazy precedent IMO to travel across the country to an expensive locale to unwind from your stressful job. They work at the grocery store in some kind of management capacity. I have no idea what they make.

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #967 on: October 21, 2014, 02:16:49 PM »

My mom does this, she loves to spend a ton of money every year on useless crap I couldn't care less about.  Then celebrates around Oct/Nov when she finally pays off the previous Christmas so she can start shopping all over again.  I used to beg her not to do it but finally gave up and started an amazon.com wishlist because I figure, if she's going to spend $1,000 on me alone, I might as well get stuff I want.  Unfortunately, she barely looks at it and I still get nothing but useless crap that ends up at Goodwill.  sigh... I really wish she would stop.  Her and my dad don't have much money and are really struggling in retirement, but I have no clue how to make her stop.  She insists it makes her happy.  :(

I know this might sound bad, but how about you just refuse outright? "I'm sorry, mom, but I really don't need these things, they don't fit into my house, and I won't take them home. Thank you very much for this one (whatever you do like, to soften the blow), but I'll leave the rest here."

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #968 on: October 21, 2014, 02:21:12 PM »
My mom does this, she loves to spend a ton of money every year on useless crap I couldn't care less about.  Then celebrates around Oct/Nov when she finally pays off the previous Christmas so she can start shopping all over again.  I used to beg her not to do it but finally gave up and started an amazon.com wishlist because I figure, if she's going to spend $1,000 on me alone, I might as well get stuff I want.  Unfortunately, she barely looks at it and I still get nothing but useless crap that ends up at Goodwill.  sigh... I really wish she would stop.  Her and my dad don't have much money and are really struggling in retirement, but I have no clue how to make her stop.  She insists it makes her happy.  :(

Suggest to your Mom something she could spend money on that would really be valuable. Maybe she could contribute to your kids' college fund? Or help you save for a down payment, or help payoff a mortgage early? Something that would be a genuine help to you.

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #969 on: October 21, 2014, 02:30:12 PM »
Bf's ex-roommates (couple) both just got big raises by switching jobs (~40% and ~75% increases). But somehow, I doubt they will find it any more feasible to save for a downpayment than they did before...although for all his eating takeout and having the newest game console and games, he does claim to have paid down $45k in student loans over 2-3 years. So perhaps there's hope...

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« Reply #970 on: October 21, 2014, 02:39:40 PM »
People go into debt for Christmas?!?  What the fuck for?

My mom does this, she loves to spend a ton of money every year on useless crap I couldn't care less about.  Then celebrates around Oct/Nov when she finally pays off the previous Christmas so she can start shopping all over again.  I used to beg her not to do it but finally gave up and started an amazon.com wishlist because I figure, if she's going to spend $1,000 on me alone, I might as well get stuff I want.  Unfortunately, she barely looks at it and I still get nothing but useless crap that ends up at Goodwill.  sigh... I really wish she would stop.  Her and my dad don't have much money and are really struggling in retirement, but I have no clue how to make her stop.  She insists it makes her happy.  :(

I would guess, based on my own and my friends' mothers, that what actually makes her happy is to feel like she's taking care of you, helping you out, contributing to your life. Actually, that might be based on me, too. When I started to only see my little sisters once or twice a year, I started to care a lot more about how good their bday/xmas presents were (although for me that didn't translate into much more $$...maybe a little in the wrapping/presentation). It was a way to show I cared and to be a part of their life. If that's the case, you need to come up with a different way for your  mom to be involved/helpful if you want to eliminate the shopaholic tendency...

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« Reply #971 on: October 22, 2014, 08:46:48 AM »
My mom does this, she loves to spend a ton of money every year on useless crap I couldn't care less about.  Then celebrates around Oct/Nov when she finally pays off the previous Christmas so she can start shopping all over again.  I used to beg her not to do it but finally gave up and started an amazon.com wishlist because I figure, if she's going to spend $1,000 on me alone, I might as well get stuff I want.  Unfortunately, she barely looks at it and I still get nothing but useless crap that ends up at Goodwill.  sigh... I really wish she would stop.  Her and my dad don't have much money and are really struggling in retirement, but I have no clue how to make her stop.  She insists it makes her happy.  :(

Suggest to your Mom something she could spend money on that would really be valuable. Maybe she could contribute to your kids' college fund? Or help you save for a down payment, or help payoff a mortgage early? Something that would be a genuine help to you.
LOL, I've tried that with my mother and it never works.  She wants to buy stuff and then she spends money shipping it to me.  I think it is just a different mindset.

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« Reply #972 on: October 22, 2014, 08:55:25 AM »
My mom does this, she loves to spend a ton of money every year on useless crap I couldn't care less about.  Then celebrates around Oct/Nov when she finally pays off the previous Christmas so she can start shopping all over again.  I used to beg her not to do it but finally gave up and started an amazon.com wishlist because I figure, if she's going to spend $1,000 on me alone, I might as well get stuff I want.  Unfortunately, she barely looks at it and I still get nothing but useless crap that ends up at Goodwill.  sigh... I really wish she would stop.  Her and my dad don't have much money and are really struggling in retirement, but I have no clue how to make her stop.  She insists it makes her happy.  :(



Suggest to your Mom something she could spend money on that would really be valuable. Maybe she could contribute to your kids' college fund? Or help you save for a down payment, or help payoff a mortgage early? Something that would be a genuine help to you.
LOL, I've tried that with my mother and it never works.  She wants to buy stuff and then she spends money shipping it to me.  I think it is just a different mindset.

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #973 on: October 22, 2014, 11:27:47 AM »
OHH wow, I would go crazy if my mom did that.  Not as bad, but it took my mom forever to realize that leaving me a voice mail saying "its mom, call me back" is completely unnecessary because my phone will tell me that I missed a call from her.

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« Reply #974 on: October 22, 2014, 11:48:53 AM »
OHH wow, I would go crazy if my mom did that.  Not as bad, but it took my mom forever to realize that leaving me a voice mail saying "its mom, call me back" is completely unnecessary because my phone will tell me that I missed a call from her.

Hmm. Unless my mom leaves a message, I don't assume I need to call back. I usually do anyway, but unless there's a message I assume she just called to chat, and calling back isn't urgent.

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« Reply #975 on: October 22, 2014, 11:51:07 AM »
now that's tasty foam!  Printing articles and mailing them is priceless :)

I think I'm going to start a new thread to see if we can get more gems like that one.

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« Reply #976 on: October 23, 2014, 02:04:48 PM »
My mom does this, she loves to spend a ton of money every year on useless crap I couldn't care less about.  Then celebrates around Oct/Nov when she finally pays off the previous Christmas so she can start shopping all over again.  I used to beg her not to do it but finally gave up and started an amazon.com wishlist because I figure, if she's going to spend $1,000 on me alone, I might as well get stuff I want.  Unfortunately, she barely looks at it and I still get nothing but useless crap that ends up at Goodwill.  sigh... I really wish she would stop.  Her and my dad don't have much money and are really struggling in retirement, but I have no clue how to make her stop.  She insists it makes her happy.  :(

Trust me, I have REALLY tried. She gets hurt really really easily and cried one year when she found out I didn't want something she gave me, so now I have to pretend.  My mom is not an easy person to deal with, my dad has also been trying for years, they almost ended up divorced because of it so he finally decided it was just not worth it and to let her do it.  Sigh... I've also tried the "please just give me money or gift cards" but it never works either, she just buys stuff claiming it makes her happy.

Suggest to your Mom something she could spend money on that would really be valuable. Maybe she could contribute to your kids' college fund? Or help you save for a down payment, or help payoff a mortgage early? Something that would be a genuine help to you.
LOL, I've tried that with my mother and it never works.  She wants to buy stuff and then she spends money shipping it to me.  I think it is just a different mindset.

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« Reply #977 on: October 23, 2014, 02:15:01 PM »
Bf's ex-roommates (couple) both just got big raises by switching jobs (~40% and ~75% increases). But somehow, I doubt they will find it any more feasible to save for a downpayment than they did before...although for all his eating takeout and having the newest game console and games, he does claim to have paid down $45k in student loans over 2-3 years. So perhaps there's hope...

Not bad, but I converted my spend-a-holic GF ("Mint says $900 spent on resturaunts and bars over my vacation to Singapore... New high score!") into a MMM saver. We're both having austerity month after some unexpected expenses popped up. Unwanted bathroom remodel for me, and some medical things for her.  But... In the last 10 months, she has reduced her student loan debt from 6 figures to $80,000. I've added the same amount to retirement accounts.
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« Reply #978 on: October 23, 2014, 04:45:48 PM »
Bf's ex-roommates (couple) both just got big raises by switching jobs (~40% and ~75% increases). But somehow, I doubt they will find it any more feasible to save for a downpayment than they did before...although for all his eating takeout and having the newest game console and games, he does claim to have paid down $45k in student loans over 2-3 years. So perhaps there's hope...

Not bad, but I converted my spend-a-holic GF ("Mint says $900 spent on resturaunts and bars over my vacation to Singapore... New high score!") into a MMM saver. We're both having austerity month after some unexpected expenses popped up. Unwanted bathroom remodel for me, and some medical things for her.  But... In the last 10 months, she has reduced her student loan debt from 6 figures to $80,000. I've added the same amount to retirement accounts.

So your GF goes on wild bar-hopping sprees when you go out of town, or???

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #979 on: October 23, 2014, 05:15:05 PM »
I've had children in the house for 14 years, and have 9 more until the last one turns 18. Just looking at that math is making me tired.

Erica, I'll get on it. :)
My mom has had kids in the house for 32 years....and 1 more until the youngest is 18. She said there's advantages to having them young, and advantages to having them when your older, but don't do both :)

This is PRICELESS!  I have 6 kids over a 21 year span and I agree 100% with your mom.  She's a very wise lady.  My oldest will be 29 next week and the youngest will be 8 in January.

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« Reply #980 on: October 23, 2014, 08:49:46 PM »
I've had children in the house for 14 years, and have 9 more until the last one turns 18. Just looking at that math is making me tired.

Erica, I'll get on it. :)
My mom has had kids in the house for 32 years....and 1 more until the youngest is 18. She said there's advantages to having them young, and advantages to having them when your older, but don't do both :)

This is PRICELESS!  I have 6 kids over a 21 year span and I agree 100% with your mom.  She's a very wise lady.  My oldest will be 29 next week and the youngest will be 8 in January.
what would you say is the hardest part of it? I am shy of 30, have an almost 10 year old and recently got married... Im pretty set that I dont want any more children; there are other factors of course but one of the biggest one is that big time lapse. Ugghh makes me tired just thinking about starting over at this point...

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« Reply #981 on: October 23, 2014, 10:08:07 PM »
Finally have one.
Friend on welfare that is always complaining about cost of this and that, rent, being so deprived, etc ( lives with bf, kidless but works part time only) ranted tonight about how poor her couldnt find a halloween costume that was both inexpensive and fit her (shes overweight).
I commented on making her own and soon after 3 other ppl followed by posting their own diy costumes on the comment thread to encourage her...its been all evening and no response from her.

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« Reply #982 on: October 24, 2014, 06:47:38 AM »
Bf's ex-roommates (couple) both just got big raises by switching jobs (~40% and ~75% increases). But somehow, I doubt they will find it any more feasible to save for a downpayment than they did before...although for all his eating takeout and having the newest game console and games, he does claim to have paid down $45k in student loans over 2-3 years. So perhaps there's hope...

I was going to say that I used to do this but I really didn't. I'd get a ps2/ps3 at least a year after it came out, on sale (like black friday). But before we tracked every penny, I did end up paying down my student loans (about 25k) in a few years. Man I can't wait till my mortgage is done!
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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #983 on: October 24, 2014, 06:00:21 PM »
I've had children in the house for 14 years, and have 9 more until the last one turns 18. Just looking at that math is making me tired.

Erica, I'll get on it. :)
My mom has had kids in the house for 32 years....and 1 more until the youngest is 18. She said there's advantages to having them young, and advantages to having them when your older, but don't do both :)

This is PRICELESS!  I have 6 kids over a 21 year span and I agree 100% with your mom.  She's a very wise lady.  My oldest will be 29 next week and the youngest will be 8 in January.
what would you say is the hardest part of it? I am shy of 30, have an almost 10 year old and recently got married... Im pretty set that I dont want any more children; there are other factors of course but one of the biggest one is that big time lapse. Ugghh makes me tired just thinking about starting over at this point...

They are always at such different stages in life!  My oldest has a 1yo and the youngest is still in elementary school.  The first 4 were born over a 9 year span then a 7 year gap to #5 and a 5 year gap to #6.  The two youngest are like a second family.  They keep you young but at the same time they wear you out.  If you have a 10yo it will definitely be like starting over but if you are sure you want more then you'll make it work. 

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #984 on: October 25, 2014, 02:30:58 PM »
I knocked out three kids in 34 months-- had a newborn, one, and two year old all by age 29. I also earned a master's degree in the middle of all this breeding. The first five years were the toughest -- reflecting back I have no idea how I did it. 

Now, they're ages 10, 12, and 13 and pretty self-sufficient. I'm glad I had them young. Just turned 40 and there's no way I would be wanting an infant or toddler at this age.

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #985 on: October 25, 2014, 07:31:54 PM »
I knocked out three kids in 34 months-- had a newborn, one, and two year old all by age 29. I also earned a master's degree in the middle of all this breeding. The first five years were the toughest -- reflecting back I have no idea how I did it. 

Now, they're ages 10, 12, and 13 and pretty self-sufficient. I'm glad I had them young. Just turned 40 and there's no way I would be wanting an infant or toddler at this age.
My in-laws did something similar. Had three kids in ....34 months actually :) All while both were in college. DH attended some high level biology classes as a baby. What makes it all even crazier is they later adopted 3 more and all six kids were teenagers at the same time, the twins turned 13 the same year the oldest turned 19.

As for difficulty with having kids younger and older, my mom put it that you have a lot more energy when you're younger, but more patience and generally more stability when you're older. But the flip side of that is you have kids when you're young and not yet stable AND when you're older and wearing down. The #5 in my split family almost drove my mom over the edge because she slept so badly and was only 18 behind #4 who was 26 months behind #3. Mom admits that the first two years of #5's life has a lot of gaps and she can't be held accountable for strange things said/done in that time

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #986 on: October 26, 2014, 12:01:42 PM »
Not on FB, but on reddit:
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Retirement is shorter than you think. Building your life around retirement seems like a strange choice. Half of us will enjoy fewer than 16 years of retirement, assuming they don't shift the retirement age again. (links to life expectancy graph)

Its as if the thought of being able to retire at any age besides 67 has never crossed his/her mind. Sad really

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #987 on: October 26, 2014, 02:49:09 PM »
Not on FB, but on reddit:
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Retirement is shorter than you think. Building your life around retirement seems like a strange choice. Half of us will enjoy fewer than 16 years of retirement, assuming they don't shift the retirement age again. (links to life expectancy graph)

Its as if the thought of being able to retire at any age besides 67 has never crossed his/her mind. Sad really

Or that the government decides when you are "allowed" to retire...

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #988 on: October 27, 2014, 07:37:15 AM »
Ah, shit, a perpetually-broke family friend just announced via Facebook that she has become a Jamberry "sales consultant".

At least when her sister was selling that Pampered Chef crap we got some decent stoneware out of it.

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #989 on: October 27, 2014, 07:57:16 AM »
My friend, who lost her house this summer (underwater and forced relocation for work), has posted the following purchases in the past month:

* New leather jackets for herself and her son
* Entirely new wardrobe for her husband ("And all under $500!")
* 4 pictures of fancy meals out with requisite fancy cocktails
* New vanity car license plates
* 3 new not-cheap outfits for corporate dress-up days
* Branded work-out clothes to go with the expensive work-out systems she buys
* 2 expensive family outings

Last month, she posted about how she wished they could afford for her husband to be a SAHP because it made their lives so much easier, and yet how desperate she was for her husband to get a new job. So he did. It's a 2-hour commute in each direction.

I bite my tongue, but it's hard to watch.

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #990 on: October 27, 2014, 08:44:36 AM »
My friend, who lost her house this summer (underwater and forced relocation for work), has posted the following purchases in the past month:

* New leather jackets for herself and her son
* Entirely new wardrobe for her husband ("And all under $500!")
* 4 pictures of fancy meals out with requisite fancy cocktails
* New vanity car license plates
* 3 new not-cheap outfits for corporate dress-up days
* Branded work-out clothes to go with the expensive work-out systems she buys
* 2 expensive family outings

Last month, she posted about how she wished they could afford for her husband to be a SAHP because it made their lives so much easier, and yet how desperate she was for her husband to get a new job. So he did. It's a 2-hour commute in each direction.

I bite my tongue, but it's hard to watch.


Oh wow.  That would be hard to watch.  It's one thing if they are spendy and happy with the dual incomes.  But to want a SAHP but still be stuck in these bad habits?  Ugh.  And a 2 hour commute!  Eee Gads!

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #991 on: October 27, 2014, 10:37:43 AM »
Back in September I posted on this thread about someone who bought a brand new car rather then repair their old one even though they have almost no money.    A couple of days ago She posted a picture of a nail through one of the tires and she was almost begging if anyone knew if it would be covered by warranty on the car.   She didn't have the $20 a flat repair would cost if she has to pay for it.   She was far less happy when I pointed out that it's pretty close to the sidewall and it may need replaced as they don't patch sidewall damage...     

Still no update on if  tire damage is covered with a new cars warranty...

<EDIT>     Just got an update it wasn't repairable but thank god it was covered by warranty... </edit>
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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #992 on: October 27, 2014, 11:20:04 AM »
What warranty covers nails in tires? I'm just curious if that's sort of a "no questions asked if within x miles" sort of deal.

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #993 on: October 27, 2014, 11:28:12 AM »
What warranty covers nails in tires? I'm just curious if that's sort of a "no questions asked if within x miles" sort of deal.

A lot of tire stores have "road hazard" coverage for this sort of thing; I imagine that the same provision might come with a new car. I don't know, I've never had one.

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #994 on: October 27, 2014, 11:36:56 AM »
apparently there is something called  tire guard which came with the new car.

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #995 on: October 27, 2014, 02:17:03 PM »
What warranty covers nails in tires? I'm just curious if that's sort of a "no questions asked if within x miles" sort of deal.

They call it a warranty, but it's more like a service contract.  Like "free" 2-years roadside assistance, it's a marketing gimmick included in the price of the car.  Most tire places have something similar where they prorate new tires based on mileage or thickness if unrepairable

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #996 on: October 29, 2014, 02:00:40 AM »
This is a sad one... :-(

Half-sister-in-law has been experiencing a long stint of unemployment and has reached the point of 3-day pay rent or quit. She's been trying to sell her possessions, including very expensive rings, couches, and a new washer and dryer set. She has also been begging for help finding employment, even offering to work a week for free to be given a chance (she works in marketing). Unfortunately, and familiar to this forum, she mixes her pleas for help with money with pictures of her at the aquarium, at nice restaurants, having drinks with friends, and so on.

A few hours ago, she posted suicidal thoughts on Facebook and then vanished from everyone's radar. Something like 8 hours later, after hours of people (including a sheriff) driving and calling to find her, they've finally found her back at home. I'm not sure what's happening with her now, but I hope she'll be under surveillance tonight.

It's so difficult to watch her experiencing such hardship, especially since some of it is self-imposed, and even more difficult now that her suicidal thoughts are public.

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #997 on: October 29, 2014, 06:24:32 AM »
This is a sad one... :-(

Half-sister-in-law has been experiencing a long stint of unemployment and has reached the point of 3-day pay rent or quit. She's been trying to sell her possessions, including very expensive rings, couches, and a new washer and dryer set. She has also been begging for help finding employment, even offering to work a week for free to be given a chance (she works in marketing). Unfortunately, and familiar to this forum, she mixes her pleas for help with money with pictures of her at the aquarium, at nice restaurants, having drinks with friends, and so on.

A few hours ago, she posted suicidal thoughts on Facebook and then vanished from everyone's radar. Something like 8 hours later, after hours of people (including a sheriff) driving and calling to find her, they've finally found her back at home. I'm not sure what's happening with her now, but I hope she'll be under surveillance tonight.

It's so difficult to watch her experiencing such hardship, especially since some of it is self-imposed, and even more difficult now that her suicidal thoughts are public.

That is really sad. Hard to watch. Hopefully things turn around for her soon!!!

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #998 on: October 29, 2014, 10:15:52 AM »
Someone I know (single, good professional job) posted a GoFundMe request for her dog's spinal surgery . . .

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #999 on: October 29, 2014, 11:47:54 AM »
Someone I know (single, good professional job) posted a GoFundMe request for her dog's spinal surgery . . .

My friend recently posted a dog plea, a request for a few hundred dollars to finish part of a fence in her yard so that her little dogs would not get beaten up by the big dogs.

She makes a modest, but steady, salary. She's been employed at the same place for 20 years.  She has always been bad with money in that she carefully plots her next large purchase, figures out what the monthly payments will be, and then goes for it.  I suppose that in her mind she is being careful and thoughtful because, hey, she plans for the monthly payments in her budget. But clearly this method has left her with no cushion.

Anyway, I sent her a check for a couple hundred, against DH's wishes. He's a severe Mustachian and doesn't cotton to helping those who don't help themselves. I pointed out to her that I was happy to help this year because we are both still working, but next year I'll be retired and money will be tight. Just to, you know, head off any more requests.

I think she must have received push-back from friends and relatives because the next day, after sending about Email about her GoFundMe request, she apologized. I still wanted the money to go to her, however.