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« Reply #8150 on: May 10, 2019, 10:54:10 AM »
I can’t understand the resistance to this vaccine. It is literally a vaccine against CANCER, you know, that thing people fundraise for and do walkathons for and wear ribbons of various colors for. What could be less controversial than trying to eliminate cancer?

We Americans have such a weird prudish hangup over everything related to sex. It is disappointingly juvenile and Victorian all at the same time.

While it is a very important vaccine, it is NOT a literal vaccination against cancer.  It is a vaccination against subtypes of a virus that can cause cancer.  Boys and girls should be vaccinated to greatly reduce the risk of women developing cervical cancer.

My apologies, I know for most of the world this is not important difference but very salient my previous life.  I can't help myself...
Yes, this is a very good discussion.  My teen just got the HPV vaccination.  I realized it was widespread (2 of my sisters had cervical cancer in the 1990s), but not how widespread.  My doc says that almost everyone has been exposed (I've always come up clean, but then I've been married for 23 years now...so anything else would surprise me at this point.)

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« Reply #8151 on: May 10, 2019, 06:47:49 PM »
I can’t understand the resistance to this vaccine. It is literally a vaccine against CANCER, you know, that thing people fundraise for and do walkathons for and wear ribbons of various colors for. What could be less controversial than trying to eliminate cancer?

We Americans have such a weird prudish hangup over everything related to sex. It is disappointingly juvenile and Victorian all at the same time.

While it is a very important vaccine, it is NOT a literal vaccination against cancer.  It is a vaccination against subtypes of a virus that can cause cancer.  Boys and girls should be vaccinated to greatly reduce the risk of women developing cervical cancer.

My apologies, I know for most of the world this is not important difference but very salient my previous life.  I can't help myself...
Totally fair! Thanks for the clarification

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« Reply #8152 on: May 10, 2019, 07:43:26 PM »
I just had an exchange (on a Choose FI Facebook group no less) that really got me riled up.

The Antimustachian in question is concerned about certain tax changes if the opposition party wins the upcoming election. She stands to lose a certain amount of tax credits, which indicates she has a share portfolio well over a million dollars, possibly $1.3million, earning dividend income in a zero tax retirement sheltered account.

Instead of selling a small amount (in the order of ~1% or $10,000) to make up for the loss of tax credits each year, she was proposing to blow the entire million, just so she could access the government age pension worth $33k a year, which is really meant for people of little means.

I am so sick of old people who not only don't understand basic maths, (a share portfolio that returns $70-$100k a year basically tax free indefinitely, vs a government pension on the poverty line), but also old people who simply want to milk the taxpayer because they feel like they are entitled to it.

Honestly feel like there should be an age cap on the right to vote sometimes.
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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #8153 on: May 10, 2019, 08:04:15 PM »
How would she blow a million dollars without gaining any hard assets?  Is there no asset test?

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« Reply #8154 on: May 10, 2019, 08:34:29 PM »
In Australia, ludicrously, there is no assets test on one's primary residence, and even aside from that, you can have several hundred thousand dollars in green bills sitting there and still get a generous pension.

One reason why old Australians suck the rest of us dry. They are all entitled, just some (like the woman in question) more so.

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« Reply #8155 on: May 10, 2019, 08:35:02 PM »
How would she blow a million dollars without gaining any hard assets?  Is there no asset test?

Easy as all get out.

Buy 3 million dollars worth of items on credit and quit paying when you run out of money.   The stuff gets repossessed and you're left with nothing.


And yes, I know multiple people who not only did that, they also lost everything they owned, including stuff like a fully paid for house they owned before they got that multi-million dollar windfall.

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« Reply #8156 on: May 10, 2019, 09:00:06 PM »
How would she blow a million dollars without gaining any hard assets?  Is there no asset test?

Easy as all get out.

Buy 3 million dollars worth of items on credit and quit paying when you run out of money.   The stuff gets repossessed and you're left with nothing.


And yes, I know multiple people who not only did that, they also lost everything they owned, including stuff like a fully paid for house they owned before they got that multi-million dollar windfall.

Doesn’t really sound like any fun though

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« Reply #8157 on: May 10, 2019, 09:04:11 PM »
How would she blow a million dollars without gaining any hard assets?  Is there no asset test?

Easy as all get out.

Buy 3 million dollars worth of items on credit and quit paying when you run out of money.   The stuff gets repossessed and you're left with nothing.


And yes, I know multiple people who not only did that, they also lost everything they owned, including stuff like a fully paid for house they owned before they got that multi-million dollar windfall.

Doesn’t really sound like any fun though

No, it wasn't.  The family self-destructed.  Wife divorced husband, husband got drunk and passed out in his driveway and died from the cold, wife went completely broke, son took over family business and ran it into the ground and lost the house he had built and paid for before all this money hit the family and went broke.  Daughter kept her head.   75% failure rate on handling the money in this family.   They were such a nice couple, too.

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« Reply #8158 on: May 11, 2019, 04:10:31 PM »
I recently took all my vaccine records (except flu shots, apparently I don't save those) to the doctor and asked for boosters on whatever I needed. They appreciated the complete-ish record, sorted through all of it, asked questions about my lifestyle, and determined I needed 3 things. HPV was one as I missed the original age cutoff. Also got the pneumonia one cause if I got sick it'd be really bad. Don't remember the 3rd.

That's in addition to me getting TDAP a couple years ago cause I poked myself with a rusty nail, needed tetanus booster, and TDAP was available.

You got the HPV vaccine as a sexually active adult? I was also too old to get it when it was introduced and was refused the shot later because I was already sexually active. I guess I need to talk to my doctor again sometime! The HPV shot take up rate is something like 40% where I live. The argument I've heard most is that it's an STD and the parents are sure their daughter is a "decent girl" who won't sleep around. Well, for one, you have no idea what your young daughter's sexual behaviour will be like when they grow up, and you can also contract HPV through involuntary sexual contact and even from the only sexual partner you'll ever have. I really don't understand why we only vaccinate girls and not boys. 

I am also immunocompromised and can't get some shots. The ones I can get, I absolutely make sure I get, including boosters. My immune system needs all the help it can get.

You vaccinate the girls because HPV specifically causes cervical cancer, which boys... don't have. (Also penile and throat cancers, equally devastating though less frequent).

That said, the Quebec government does recommend it for boys, and I seem to recall the CDC does too.

And you CAN get vaccinated once you're sexually active - the public plan here won't cover it over age (I believe) 25, but theres no indication to NOT, unless you just want to assume you've caught it already... seems irresponsible from a medical standpoint, and I would definitely push further

I will definitely ask again next time I see my doctor (a different one than the doctor who said I couldn't get it).

As an adult, I know I have to pay for it out of pocket but as it costs less than €200 that's a very easy choice for me to make. I recently had a meningitis booster that cost €70. That's a no-brainer to me.

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #8159 on: May 13, 2019, 06:53:48 AM »
https://www.medpagetoday.com/obgyn/cervicalcancer/75551

For what it's worth, the FDA in the US approved the HPV vaccine for up to age 45.

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« Reply #8160 on: June 06, 2019, 11:46:06 AM »
Reviving this one today. On the Facebook mom group today I saw a "what is a local place to get yummy avocado toast" post. There were 31 comments with people replying about crazy high end places. I was tempted to chime in with "I make it myself at home when avocados are on sale"...but I didn't. This is the same group that has people regularly ask about cosmetic surgery, house cleaners, etc. I would ditch the place entirely except it's helpful if I want to know what's going on (total group of busybodies) and it's an excellent source of free stuff to pick up and pass along to a local refugee group in a different neighborhood...

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« Reply #8161 on: June 06, 2019, 12:44:09 PM »
Avocado is a staple in my diet and always has been, and I have yet to see avocado toast on a menu or order it. After hearing about it derided so much recently I am keen to give it a try.

A favorite breakfast for me is avocado cheese sandwich, bonus points for adding an egg. Pretty much every food is better with some avocado on top!

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« Reply #8162 on: June 06, 2019, 02:12:17 PM »
Avocado is a staple in my diet and always has been, and I have yet to see avocado toast on a menu or order it. After hearing about it derided so much recently I am keen to give it a try.

A favorite breakfast for me is avocado cheese sandwich, bonus points for adding an egg. Pretty much every food is better with some avocado on top!

I've never ordered it anywhere either! We toast whole wheat bread, fry an egg, slice an avocado on top. Pretty much my favorite breakfast...but only when avocados are on sale or our co-worker (who has a farm) brings some in the office for free.

I was at an airport earlier this year on business when a young man ordered a very specific avocado toast with several modifications (gluten free bread, vegan cheese, etc). First time I'd ever even seen avocado toast on a menu. Fortunately it was a business trip and I had an incredible salad from the same place, still well under per diem.

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« Reply #8163 on: June 06, 2019, 03:28:43 PM »
I love eating avocado toast at home and I have a very specific way of making it. I toast the bread, put smashed avocado on top (sliced avocado likes to fall off), sprinkle with salt and sirarcha, and then a fried egg on top. It is heavenly

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« Reply #8164 on: June 06, 2019, 04:23:59 PM »
@bracken_joy introduced me to avocado on bread with the addition of Trader Joe’s chili lime seasoning. YUM

Incidentally that seasoning is what my 5 year-old calls “my favorite spice”. She will literally eat it directly off a plate with her finger

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« Reply #8165 on: June 06, 2019, 05:02:14 PM »
I love eating avocado toast at home and I have a very specific way of making it. I toast the bread, put smashed avocado on top (sliced avocado likes to fall off), sprinkle with salt and sirarcha, and then a fried egg on top. It is heavenly
Change the sriracha to "everything but the bagel seasoning" and ... same

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« Reply #8166 on: June 06, 2019, 08:41:07 PM »

Avocado is a staple in my diet and always has been, and I have yet to see avocado toast on a menu or order it. After hearing about it derided so much recently I am keen to give it a try.

A favorite breakfast for me is avocado cheese sandwich, bonus points for adding an egg. Pretty much every food is better with some avocado on top!

I've never ordered it anywhere either! We toast whole wheat bread, fry an egg, slice an avocado on top. Pretty much my favorite breakfast...but only when avocados are on sale or our co-worker (who has a farm) brings some in the office for free.

I was at an airport earlier this year on business when a young man ordered a very specific avocado toast with several modifications (gluten free bread, vegan cheese, etc). First time I'd ever even seen avocado toast on a menu. Fortunately it was a business trip and I had an incredible salad from the same place, still well under per diem.

I think it's more popular in Australia.  I see tons of guacamole on menus, or sliced avocado, but never seen "smashed and spread on toast"

P.S. FU trump for driving up Avocado prices

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #8167 on: June 07, 2019, 05:21:35 AM »
I love eating avocado toast at home and I have a very specific way of making it. I toast the bread, put smashed avocado on top (sliced avocado likes to fall off), sprinkle with salt and sirarcha, and then a fried egg on top. It is heavenly
Change the sriracha to "everything but the bagel seasoning" and ... same

Add lime juice to the sriracha and I'm right there with you. Yum.

But yum at-home food, for like 1$/portion...

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« Reply #8168 on: June 11, 2019, 06:17:15 AM »
Not from Facebook, but I had to share what my husband told me yesterday. My husband and some of his friends went camping the week of Memorial Day. They started talking about money and when my husband mentioned how much personal spending money he gets every month ($400, this includes a few small bills that he pays and any spending on booze or restaurants) his friends freaked out because......... that wasn't enough money, how could he possibly have any fun or do anything on that amount?!!
These guys make really good money, like really good money (100k-200k) but between the cars, vacations, and "toys",  they'll be lucky to retire at 67.

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« Reply #8169 on: June 11, 2019, 06:26:31 AM »
Not from Facebook, but I had to share what my husband told me yesterday. My husband and some of his friends went camping the week of Memorial Day. They started talking about money and when my husband mentioned how much personal spending money he gets every month ($400, this includes a few small bills that he pays and any spending on booze or restaurants) his friends freaked out because......... that wasn't enough money, how could he possibly have any fun or do anything on that amount?!!
These guys make really good money, like really good money (100k-200k) but between the cars, vacations, and "toys",  they'll be lucky to retire at 67.

???????? 400$ OMFG!

(For comparison: my husband and I make over 100K, and generally spend 50-60$/month on personal stuff - books for me, music for him, the occasional coffee or lunch out with friends... And this is not feeling deprived. This is genuinely how much I want to spend on a few books and a few lunches with friends. Exactly how much free time am I supposed to have that needs filling???)

Caveat: work pays for half my cell phone and my husband's is completely paid for by his work, and neither of us watch much TV but we keep netflix around as a family expense because sometimes a half hour of Octonauts is what lets us get dinner ready and chores done.

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« Reply #8170 on: June 11, 2019, 06:49:34 AM »
Not from Facebook, but I had to share what my husband told me yesterday. My husband and some of his friends went camping the week of Memorial Day. They started talking about money and when my husband mentioned how much personal spending money he gets every month ($400, this includes a few small bills that he pays and any spending on booze or restaurants) his friends freaked out because......... that wasn't enough money, how could he possibly have any fun or do anything on that amount?!!
These guys make really good money, like really good money (100k-200k) but between the cars, vacations, and "toys",  they'll be lucky to retire at 67.


???????? 400$ OMFG!

(For comparison: my husband and I make over 100K, and generally spend 50-60$/month on personal stuff - books for me, music for him, the occasional coffee or lunch out with friends... And this is not feeling deprived. This is genuinely how much I want to spend on a few books and a few lunches with friends. Exactly how much free time am I supposed to have that needs filling???)

Caveat: work pays for half my cell phone and my husband's is completely paid for by his work, and neither of us watch much TV but we keep netflix around as a family expense because sometimes a half hour of Octonauts is what lets us get dinner ready and chores done.

Yep, $400 is a ridiculous amount of money, which is why my eyes about popped out when I heard his friends thought that was peanuts. That money also goes for things you're probably not including in your personal spending money like the gas for his car, his haircuts, netflix, yearly member pass to local museum/village. What makes it worse, he didn't mention any of that to his friends, they thought that was the amount he can spend on whatever.

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« Reply #8171 on: June 11, 2019, 07:08:35 AM »
Not from Facebook, but I had to share what my husband told me yesterday. My husband and some of his friends went camping the week of Memorial Day. They started talking about money and when my husband mentioned how much personal spending money he gets every month ($400, this includes a few small bills that he pays and any spending on booze or restaurants) his friends freaked out because......... that wasn't enough money, how could he possibly have any fun or do anything on that amount?!!
These guys make really good money, like really good money (100k-200k) but between the cars, vacations, and "toys",  they'll be lucky to retire at 67.


???????? 400$ OMFG!

(For comparison: my husband and I make over 100K, and generally spend 50-60$/month on personal stuff - books for me, music for him, the occasional coffee or lunch out with friends... And this is not feeling deprived. This is genuinely how much I want to spend on a few books and a few lunches with friends. Exactly how much free time am I supposed to have that needs filling???)

Caveat: work pays for half my cell phone and my husband's is completely paid for by his work, and neither of us watch much TV but we keep netflix around as a family expense because sometimes a half hour of Octonauts is what lets us get dinner ready and chores done.

Yep, $400 is a ridiculous amount of money, which is why my eyes about popped out when I heard his friends thought that was peanuts. That money also goes for things you're probably not including in your personal spending money like the gas for his car, his haircuts, netflix, yearly member pass to local museum/village. What makes it worse, he didn't mention any of that to his friends, they thought that was the amount he can spend on whatever.

Yeah, we live in the country and commute to work together (dropping the kids off at daycare and school on the way), so gas is a family expense. Haircuts are actually part of the personal budget, but my husband has hair down to his waist and asks me for a trim when he gets split ends, and I get 22$ haircuts twice a year, so ... minimal impact. And local passes to whatever do get covered by our personal budget, so... barring gas, that's not that different, and the gas is a function of location, for us, rather than choice (like, we can't CHOOSE public transit to work, we'd have to choose to move).

And to be fair: if one month one of us is like 'I wanna do Expensive Thing', then we up the budget for that month. Which has happened... twice, maybe? In 4 years of finance tracking. Let's say it's not usual enough to budget more tightly.

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #8172 on: June 11, 2019, 08:23:27 AM »
Not from Facebook, but I had to share what my husband told me yesterday. My husband and some of his friends went camping the week of Memorial Day. They started talking about money and when my husband mentioned how much personal spending money he gets every month ($400, this includes a few small bills that he pays and any spending on booze or restaurants) his friends freaked out because......... that wasn't enough money, how could he possibly have any fun or do anything on that amount?!!
These guys make really good money, like really good money (100k-200k) but between the cars, vacations, and "toys",  they'll be lucky to retire at 67.

???????? 400$ OMFG!

(For comparison: my husband and I make over 100K, and generally spend 50-60$/month on personal stuff - books for me, music for him, the occasional coffee or lunch out with friends... And this is not feeling deprived. This is genuinely how much I want to spend on a few books and a few lunches with friends. Exactly how much free time am I supposed to have that needs filling???)

Caveat: work pays for half my cell phone and my husband's is completely paid for by his work, and neither of us watch much TV but we keep netflix around as a family expense because sometimes a half hour of Octonauts is what lets us get dinner ready and chores done.

Yeah, we're budgeted $150/month each, but that includes things like almost all clothing and any meals out/activities without the rest of the family.  The only reason it's as high as $150 is because DW eats a lot of lunches out at work and I had to increase it to accommodate.  Aside from that, it's much closer to $50/month.  I'm building up quite a surplus currently.

$400 is a ton IMO, but I know there are plenty of people who spend that and much more. 

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #8173 on: June 21, 2019, 01:37:49 PM »
I recently got dragged into a convo about babysitting. There's a mom asking a group what a reasonable price would be for a sitter for 4 kids 5 and under (three age 4, one infant).

Well, mostly the responses were $25-30 an hour, maybe $20.

But she didn't really like that.  So I pointed out that it's FOUR kids UNDER the age of 5.  The # of kids and the age of the kids matter.   Then she and two others went on a HUGE rant about how can ANYONE afford to go out, and that's ridiculous.

It moved on to "well, preschool teachers get $15 / hour for 8 kids under 5!"

I mean, aside from the fact that preschool teachers get benefits AND experienced ones get more than that AND they work close to full time - what are you expecting?  Because my babysitter is/was a preschool teacher.  She's in her 30's.  She's WELL WORTH the extra $ because she plays with the kids and they are asleep in their beds when we get home. 

She needs to make a living too, yes?  And $15 / hour is really peanuts here.  Cleaning ladies make $20+.

(FWIW, I was paying $15-18/hr for 2 kids who were 6 and 12).

I didn't SAY it (but thought about it): Look, you don't like the numbers, don't go out.  You find the unicorn willing to watch your four kids under five, and get them to bed, for $12-15 an hour?  Great, enjoy it.  Otherwise?  Find someone to swap with, or do what we did for 10 years.  Don't go out!  The sitters will tell you what they charge, pay it or stay home.

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« Reply #8174 on: June 21, 2019, 01:54:03 PM »
Someone on nextdoor posted she is looking for a babysitter for a 1 and 4 year old, 7am-5pm, Monday-Friday, and she will pay $200/week.

That's 50 hours a week - for $4/hr - for two toddlers. There's no way she'll find any one like that.

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« Reply #8175 on: June 21, 2019, 03:44:14 PM »
Someone on nextdoor posted she is looking for a babysitter for a 1 and 4 year old, 7am-5pm, Monday-Friday, and she will pay $200/week.

That's 50 hours a week - for $4/hr - for two toddlers. There's no way she'll find any one like that.

She might actually be able to get an in-home daycare for that price, depending on the area. When my older son was about a year old, I paid $20/day.

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« Reply #8176 on: June 21, 2019, 04:26:47 PM »
I didn't get past the $200/week for groceries for a family of 4.

Yeah, that seemed excessive too.

I'm dying to understand how $200/week for a family of 4 can be excessive. How can you possibly eat well (not just subsist on rice & dried beans) with $1.20/person/meal, for example? My family of 2 (although we eat 3 people's worth, tall and active) struggles to hit $200/week. Best I can figure, the only way you can do it is to eat more cheap grains & cheap fats. We eat a lot of produce; even in season & on sale, it's not very good in calories per dollar.

Edit: I guess worth noting we refuse to buy anything made with soy or corn syrup. Mostly we make everything at home, but this does occasionally drive us to more expensive products.
The thing is, it is going to depend a LOT on:
- where you live
- what you eat
- how you shop
- time

I spent years whittling my grocery bill down and down and down.  Down to a science!

It's definitely changed a lot.  Last year we came in at $150/week for 4.  And that was HARD, yo!  This year, I cannot even get it under $170/week.  And my kids get free lunch at school!  But mm1970, why is this?

1.  I live in California.  Food is more expensive here because of higher overhead and gas.
2.  I live in California.  I have access to year round fresh produce.  So yes, while I *could* shop for vegetables exclusively at Sprouts and the 99 cent store (and save BANK), I don't.  I prefer, honestly, to get my produce from the local farmers.  Which costs more.  And we eat a LOT of it.  Because we can.  My produce cost, per week, is about $65-70.  Just produce.
3.  I have two boys.  They are getting bigger.
4.  I like to eat fresh food.  And on top of that, I balance organic/ free range.   And packaging.  I pay a little extra to buy my rice and nuts from the bulk bins, because I can use my own containers and not generate more plastic.
5.  I can't tolerate wheat anymore.  Wheat products are cheap.
6.  I'm kind of over it.  When I was super duper saving money?  Yep, I bought cheaper veggies, I made my own bread.  I can't even eat bread, so I don't make it anymore.  I'm super tired of being the only person who figures out what the fuck to make for dinner too.  So, I buy some things that are just easier to prep because I don't do much of the weekday cooking any more.  I work late almost every day.

I was just reading looking back on this thread and I had to comment.

I totally agree with you!

For over a decade I was solely responsible for feeding a family of 5 on $400 a month in our HCOL area, and it almost drove me insane. It was like a second job; checking 10 or more different flyers all the time, driving to shops all over town to pick up super deals when available, special trips to buy our meat from a local farmer, cooking even staples like yogurt, bread, etc myself, constantly researching ways to do it better and cheaper, lugging massive bags of bulk items home by myself when hugely pregnant LOL.

And the irony is, when I look back on it, I could have just worked an extra evening a week at a part-time job and come out ahead on the budget savings. And the fact that I actually made career sacrifices so that I could spend more time sourcing cheaper groceries is insane! I didn't realize it at the time, perhaps temporary insanity?, but I actually spent less time on my school work and studying for the LSAT to get into law school so I could devote my time to saving pennies at the grocery store instead.

I wonder what I could have accomplished in that time for myself in my career, instead of working miracles at budgeting only to hide from myself the fact that my spouse was irresponsible with money and my marriage was doomed.

I don't mean to imply that the effort isn't worthwhile, but I'm just suggesting that we shouldn't undervalue our own time in doing so.

As much as I love to be independent and resourceful, there is a reason why professional bakers have been a thing since the Mesopotamian era, because it's often cheaper and more cost effective and more environmentally-friendly to leave some things to the experts sometimes.

Do the math yourself and see if it makes sense in your situation!  The Tightwad Gazette books are great for help in doing your calculations and I can't recommend them highly enough. See if your library has them!!

Sorry about this off-topic rant!!

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #8177 on: June 21, 2019, 06:19:10 PM »
Someone on nextdoor posted she is looking for a babysitter for a 1 and 4 year old, 7am-5pm, Monday-Friday, and she will pay $200/week.

That's 50 hours a week - for $4/hr - for two toddlers. There's no way she'll find any one like that.

She might actually be able to get an in-home daycare for that price, depending on the area. When my older son was about a year old, I paid $20/day.
Yes, but around here, when they are looking on FB for a babysitter, they want someone in their own home.  They aren't interested in "sharing" (aka, paying a licensed home daycare).

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #8178 on: June 24, 2019, 05:29:31 AM »
Someone on nextdoor posted she is looking for a babysitter for a 1 and 4 year old, 7am-5pm, Monday-Friday, and she will pay $200/week.

That's 50 hours a week - for $4/hr - for two toddlers. There's no way she'll find any one like that.

She might actually be able to get an in-home daycare for that price, depending on the area. When my older son was about a year old, I paid $20/day.
Yes, but around here, when they are looking on FB for a babysitter, they want someone in their own home.  They aren't interested in "sharing" (aka, paying a licensed home daycare).

Around here, that means that they are looking for a SAHM who will watch their kids in addition to her own.  The entire thing will be under the table.  And there will probably be at least three different people offering to do it.  But then again, $100/kid/week in this area is not *that* much lower than what a center will cost.

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #8179 on: June 24, 2019, 06:25:36 AM »
Someone on nextdoor posted she is looking for a babysitter for a 1 and 4 year old, 7am-5pm, Monday-Friday, and she will pay $200/week.

That's 50 hours a week - for $4/hr - for two toddlers. There's no way she'll find any one like that.

She might actually be able to get an in-home daycare for that price, depending on the area. When my older son was about a year old, I paid $20/day.
Yes, but around here, when they are looking on FB for a babysitter, they want someone in their own home.  They aren't interested in "sharing" (aka, paying a licensed home daycare).

Around here, that means that they are looking for a SAHM who will watch their kids in addition to her own.  The entire thing will be under the table.  And there will probably be at least three different people offering to do it.  But then again, $100/kid/week in this area is not *that* much lower than what a center will cost.

For the three months between when my wife went back to work and the start of summer, we paid a SAHM $25/day. Her kids were old enough to be in school, and she was bored. It worked out to be a great deal for us. It's certainly possible to get those kinds of prices.

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #8180 on: June 24, 2019, 01:32:00 PM »
IDK... I still think this would be a hard sell for $10/day per kid, with one kid under 2 years old.   $30/day per kid was the going rate here 15 years ago, for kids over 30 months... with private homes taking them in at $20-$25/day.   per kid...

OTOH, $10/day per kid for before/ after school care can be had, fairly easily.  (older kids, part day)
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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #8181 on: July 06, 2019, 02:31:51 AM »
Someone I know has just started a Gofundme page for a city trip. She is recently engaged so this will be her last trip as a single person which is apparantly a big deal. Begging people to donate money towards your vacation is shameless enough but I know for a fact she already went on two trips this year. Begging people for money for your third holiday this year is so bad I can't even find the words.

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #8182 on: July 06, 2019, 08:19:37 AM »
I'm seeing more GoFundMe pleas for funds.

Several "So and so is broke, you should help them because they were so much fun in this club."

Yeah, I would have been more fun in that club, too, if I had spent all my money and time on it instead of providing for my (and my family's) future.   No thank you, you had good middle class jobs for way longer than we did.   We had to start a business to just to afford to participate in that club at all, why didn't you save?  If you had saved just the $1500 a year we made from that business for the 8 years we ran it and invested it 30 years ago, you would have solved your current funding problem and then some.

A tree fell and crushed both our cars.  GoFundMe!    You're grown-assed middle-aged adults, both of you have middle class jobs and you lived in government supplied housing as part of your job for years.   I'd loan a car for a few days till things settle down, but it's your own damn fault you never bothered to save enough to deal with this.  Where's your insurance?  That's what it's for.

No, if it was someone poor who asked for help, or someone just starting out, that would be different.   But some of these folks had decent jobs for 45 years and just plain chose not to save.

At least I don't have any FB friends who ask for funding to go on vacations.  Would be fun to comment on it, though.

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #8183 on: July 12, 2019, 06:07:14 AM »
I saw one yesterday, and many people agreeing.

"I wish my bank account looked like my car odometer."

It broke my heart.

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #8184 on: July 12, 2019, 06:31:23 AM »
I saw one yesterday, and many people agreeing.

"I wish my bank account looked like my car odometer."

It broke my heart.
Well, my car's odometer shows over 228,000, so I wouldn't mind if my bank account looked like that.  Well, as long as my retirement accounts remained untouched...

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #8185 on: July 12, 2019, 06:48:56 AM »
I took bank account to mean net worth.  My car only has 80k, and if my actual bank account looked like that, I would be moving some money.

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #8186 on: July 12, 2019, 02:00:43 PM »
Hmmm, 10K miles every year aka $10K every year? No thanks... ;)

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #8187 on: July 12, 2019, 06:25:21 PM »
I saw one yesterday, and many people agreeing.

"I wish my bank account looked like my car odometer."

It broke my heart.
Hmm. My car has about 14,500km on it, bought in November 2015.

I guess that's part of why my bank account is better than some.

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #8188 on: July 13, 2019, 03:34:39 PM »
I saw one yesterday, and many people agreeing.

"I wish my bank account looked like my car odometer."

It broke my heart.
Well, my car's odometer shows over 228,000, so I wouldn't mind if my bank account looked like that.  Well, as long as my retirement accounts remained untouched...

Hah same.

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #8189 on: July 13, 2019, 03:46:13 PM »
Given that facebook (at least used to be) a younger demographic, I can understand this sentiment as they haven't had the time to amass significant funds.

I'd happily take that arrangement, with no conditions about touching other retirement funds. Would you like to chose the 114k one, or the 132k?

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #8190 on: July 17, 2019, 10:05:02 AM »
Given that facebook (at least used to be) a younger demographic, I can understand this sentiment as they haven't had the time to amass significant funds.

It's all old people over there now, at least in the USA! The average age of a facebook user is 40.5 years old, and 65% are over the age of 35.

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #8191 on: July 17, 2019, 10:32:59 AM »
Given that facebook (at least used to be) a younger demographic, I can understand this sentiment as they haven't had the time to amass significant funds.

I'd happily take that arrangement, with no conditions about touching other retirement funds. Would you like to chose the 114k one, or the 132k?

It used to be, but time passed and there weren't a lot of younger users joining so the curve keeps shifting upward.

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #8192 on: July 17, 2019, 01:11:01 PM »
Not exactly FB, but close enough:  I have gotten a series of emails from my credit union trying to tempt me into taking out a loan for a recreational vehicle at "Great Rates!"  What are these rates?  6% for 63 months on used RVs.  But wait, I can also take out a $2000 summer loan for....whatever....at "as low as" 2.9% for 12 months.  And if I act now, I can take advantage of the Summer-Skip-A-Payment offer and build up some extra interest by not paying July and August payments on any current loans I might have. 



No thank you.

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #8193 on: July 17, 2019, 03:16:51 PM »
Not from Facebook, but I had to share what my husband told me yesterday. My husband and some of his friends went camping the week of Memorial Day. They started talking about money and when my husband mentioned how much personal spending money he gets every month ($400, this includes a few small bills that he pays and any spending on booze or restaurants) his friends freaked out because......... that wasn't enough money, how could he possibly have any fun or do anything on that amount?!!
These guys make really good money, like really good money (100k-200k) but between the cars, vacations, and "toys",  they'll be lucky to retire at 67.

???????? 400$ OMFG!

(For comparison: my husband and I make over 100K, and generally spend 50-60$/month on personal stuff - books for me, music for him, the occasional coffee or lunch out with friends... And this is not feeling deprived. This is genuinely how much I want to spend on a few books and a few lunches with friends. Exactly how much free time am I supposed to have that needs filling???)

Caveat: work pays for half my cell phone and my husband's is completely paid for by his work, and neither of us watch much TV but we keep netflix around as a family expense because sometimes a half hour of Octonauts is what lets us get dinner ready and chores done.

Yeah, we're budgeted $150/month each, but that includes things like almost all clothing and any meals out/activities without the rest of the family.  The only reason it's as high as $150 is because DW eats a lot of lunches out at work and I had to increase it to accommodate.  Aside from that, it's much closer to $50/month.  I'm building up quite a surplus currently.

$400 is a ton IMO, but I know there are plenty of people who spend that and much more.

I spend $600/month on discretionary stuff, and it’s all pretty mindful. Restaurants, special events and parties, clothing/hair/drycleaning, gym, public transit, gifts. I wouldn’t want to give any of that up. After all, who cares how much people spend on necessities vs. discretionary stuff if the savings rate is high enough?

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #8194 on: July 18, 2019, 10:55:04 AM »
Not on FB but wife is. Her friend's husband started a new business, with 7 employees right out of the gate.

Friend: "His grant was delayed because they changed the name of the business"
Wife: "Oh that sucks, how is he funding the operation?"
Friend: "Some investors put in money"
Wife: "Oh good, so he's not dealing with an emergency then"
Friend: "Right, thankfully he's got enough for the next 3 weeks"

#facepunch

Yikes, that is a company I wouldn't want to do work for or be employed by. Is anyone reading this going to be surprised when payroll doesn't get paid for awhile after those 3 weeks? Surprise! Grant delayed again for whatever reason so no pay guys! I'm all for entrepreneurship but this is reckless.

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #8195 on: July 29, 2019, 10:12:26 AM »
Not from Facebook, but I had to share what my husband told me yesterday. My husband and some of his friends went camping the week of Memorial Day. They started talking about money and when my husband mentioned how much personal spending money he gets every month ($400, this includes a few small bills that he pays and any spending on booze or restaurants) his friends freaked out because......... that wasn't enough money, how could he possibly have any fun or do anything on that amount?!!
These guys make really good money, like really good money (100k-200k) but between the cars, vacations, and "toys",  they'll be lucky to retire at 67.

???????? 400$ OMFG!

(For comparison: my husband and I make over 100K, and generally spend 50-60$/month on personal stuff - books for me, music for him, the occasional coffee or lunch out with friends... And this is not feeling deprived. This is genuinely how much I want to spend on a few books and a few lunches with friends. Exactly how much free time am I supposed to have that needs filling???)

Caveat: work pays for half my cell phone and my husband's is completely paid for by his work, and neither of us watch much TV but we keep netflix around as a family expense because sometimes a half hour of Octonauts is what lets us get dinner ready and chores done.

Yeah, we're budgeted $150/month each, but that includes things like almost all clothing and any meals out/activities without the rest of the family.  The only reason it's as high as $150 is because DW eats a lot of lunches out at work and I had to increase it to accommodate.  Aside from that, it's much closer to $50/month.  I'm building up quite a surplus currently.

$400 is a ton IMO, but I know there are plenty of people who spend that and much more.

I spend $600/month on discretionary stuff, and it’s all pretty mindful. Restaurants, special events and parties, clothing/hair/drycleaning, gym, public transit, gifts. I wouldn’t want to give any of that up. After all, who cares how much people spend on necessities vs. discretionary stuff if the savings rate is high enough?

You'll probably get criticized by someone on here (not me) about spending that much......my belief is that as long as you're making thoughtful decisions about how you spend your money and it adds value to your life, it's your money.   Also, if you're making $200K a year, spending less than 10% of your take home pay seems reasonable.....if you make $20K a year, spending 50% of your take home pay on discretionary things is not.
Also, what some folks call 'needs' really should be in the discretionary category.    A car may be a necessity, a $80K BMW is not.   Food is a necessity, t-bone steaks nightly is not. 

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #8196 on: August 06, 2019, 05:56:13 PM »
I saw one yesterday, and many people agreeing.

"I wish my bank account looked like my car odometer."

It broke my heart.

Today he posted his new car, and the 7 miles on the odometer.  He mentioned they now match. 

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #8197 on: August 06, 2019, 07:00:58 PM »
I saw one yesterday, and many people agreeing.

"I wish my bank account looked like my car odometer."

It broke my heart.

Today he posted his new car, and the 7 miles on the odometer.  He mentioned they now match.

Ha. If it's true, well that's a little sad, but I can still appreciate a good callback joke

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #8198 on: September 02, 2019, 11:06:35 PM »
I posted to the ChooseFI Facebook group this morning how my new Korean telecomm insists I should have had a higher tier data plan just in case I go over the limit.  The lowest tier they offered was 2GB, but after a carefree month of Facebook, new apps, and navigation I didn't even break 600MB.  Most of the responses from other Facebook members were:

"I use 2, 4, 10, 15, 20, 26, 76, and 96GBs each month."  Only one of them said this was WiFi data.  Only one of them expressed concern over their cell phone costs.  All of this is coming from a group that is supposed to be trying to control costs and hack their lifestyle choices.



Edit: (regarding my 500MB/mo data usage) "great, but doesn’t work for anyone that wants to listen to music or watch videos throughout the work day."

I sat there shocked for an hour before I could formulate a response to that.

Edit: I was called a troll and making people angry for suggesting he put down the phone and get back to work.
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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #8199 on: September 07, 2019, 07:28:31 AM »
Not finance related but I had to share...

We had a hurricane go up the west coast of Korea this afternoon.  Heavy winds swept up the peninsula.  On base we lost a number of trees and a wood/metal/brick barbecue gazebo collapsed.  Conversation on the photo on Facebook went like this:

Soldier A: Is that by our barracks?
Soldier B: Yep.
Soldier A: Jesus.
Soldier B: Nope, I think this will take more than 3 days to come back.