One of my female friends just put this on Facebook. What the ever-loving fuck?
As I Christian, I just want to clarify for you non-Christians out there that this isn't
in the Bible.
(1) Expectations enhance
relationships. I expect my wife to be faithful and she expects the same of me (Proverbs 5:15)
, I expect her to help me when I am in need (and vice versa) (Galatians 6:2)
and I expect God to fulfill His promises (Philippians 1:6)
(2) You shouldn't have married your husband to be "your protector and provider". What happens if life happens and he is (temporarily but extendedy) out of work? Will you leave him as he isn't "providing"? Actually, God prefers Christians to not get married (Corinthians 8:8)
unless they really can't stand it any more (like when you find someone very special to you). Marrying your husband to be your "protector and provider" is
marrying him with expectations, and while he should generally do those things, that is a very
shallow view of marriage.
(3) The Bible upholds a woman who brings in money and financial support as an example in Proverbs 31: "She does him good, and not harm, all the days of her life. She seeks wool and flax, and works with willing hands. She is like the ships of the merchant; she brings her food from afar. She rises while it is yet night and provides food for her household and portions for her maidens. She considers a field and buys it; with the fruit of her hands she plants a vineyard
." In other words, she uses the couple's shared money under her own authority and makes investments
(4) The general emphasis on serving one another is Biblical (Galatians 5:13, Acts 20:35)
, but it goes both
ways. The man can't work 8 hours a day then come home and do nothing. The Bible calls for balance and fairness (2 Timothy 1:7 (self-control), Luke 10:38-42 (balance in stress/realizing whats important))
and doesn't call for one person to do [thing 1]
in the household while the other does [thing 2]
- unless that is what you and your spouse agree to and what works for you.