I guess it is judgemental of me, and I work hard not to be
No I disagree, I don't think you're being judgmental. Though I understanding you could feel so.
Maybe it is just jealousy in a way, because I decided to stop having kids at 2, partly for financial reasons. I feel like way too many women who are undecided about having another kid are persuaded to have another and to "follow your heart". Or "you'll never regret having another kid". My feeling is a lot of people do regret it but won't admit it.
Yeah, that's how I feel. I can't say I understand your position as I do not have kids, but I know a ton of people that have kids that they can't afford and then will complain about they are "unlucky," due to a random event, which I don't are all that random (if you have an older house, there is more upkeep required, and must plan for expenses that crop up).
3 is the new 2, don'tcha know!
It's interesting because I feel like when I was in my 20s, maybe early 30s, when most normal people I know were having kids, it was 2, maybe only 1. Money, environment - whatever reason. Two.
(I say "normal people" because I was 35.75 and 42 when I had mine).
Now it seems like there are a lot more 3s and 4s. I have a couple of friends with 4, several with 3. And in my "toddler" group, there are a LOT of women having a 3rd, compared to my older son's group (where there is one person with 3 and two with 4, but most are at 2.)
I've had a few people actually tell me to have a third. Now, I know that I *look* young, but at least a couple of these people KNOW that I'm almost 46 years old. Um, guys, eggs are toast and even if there were one or two good ones, nope. Hubs took care of that.