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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #3550 on: December 11, 2015, 08:19:52 AM »

So you're saying it's only like $50/race? That's really not much. Like, it's well within my personal spending limit of $100/month. Even frugal mustachians can blow money on races like that a couple times a month, how can someone not be able to afford it?

There are LOTS of people who live so close to the line (or below it...) that $50 a month is a lot.  These are people who struggle to get food on the table. But if I were going to give someone in that situation money it would not be for a race with a "free" t-shirt. But for necessities.

My guess is this particular woman isn't in that situation at all though. It's not that she can't afford it, it's just that she thinks other people should pay because she's a special snowflake with #goals.

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #3551 on: December 11, 2015, 08:47:29 AM »

So you're saying it's only like $50/race? That's really not much. Like, it's well within my personal spending limit of $100/month. Even frugal mustachians can blow money on races like that a couple times a month, how can someone not be able to afford it?

There are LOTS of people who live so close to the line (or below it...) that $50 a month is a lot.  These are people who struggle to get food on the table. But if I were going to give someone in that situation money it would not be for a race with a "free" t-shirt. But for necessities.

My guess is this particular woman isn't in that situation at all though. It's not that she can't afford it, it's just that she thinks other people should pay because she's a special snowflake with #goals.

The people who live in poverty are generally not the ones running 5ks. They are instead trying to hustle more to get ahead. The people who run 5ks can definitely afford the entry fees ;).

She's either entitled liek you said, or she just spends so much money on other crap... or both. I'm liking the third option here.

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« Reply #3552 on: December 11, 2015, 09:14:37 AM »

So you're saying it's only like $50/race? That's really not much. Like, it's well within my personal spending limit of $100/month. Even frugal mustachians can blow money on races like that a couple times a month, how can someone not be able to afford it?

There are LOTS of people who live so close to the line (or below it...) that $50 a month is a lot.  These are people who struggle to get food on the table. But if I were going to give someone in that situation money it would not be for a race with a "free" t-shirt. But for necessities.

My guess is this particular woman isn't in that situation at all though. It's not that she can't afford it, it's just that she thinks other people should pay because she's a special snowflake with #goals.
Or that the special attention by posting and organized races is what keeps her motivated. This could be less about money than about getting a team of supporters or commitments around her. Can't stop if your friend gave you the money, etc.

Tastefully done the post would say that and the indicate a 2 for 1 donation somewhere else from her pocket. But we have motivations that we don't realize
, often.

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« Reply #3553 on: December 11, 2015, 09:54:36 AM »
Or that the special attention by posting and organized races is what keeps her motivated. This could be less about money than about getting a team of supporters or commitments around her. Can't stop if your friend gave you the money, etc.

Tastefully done the post would say that and the indicate a 2 for 1 donation somewhere else from her pocket. But we have motivations that we don't realize
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Which is why a lot of people run for charity.
It keeps them motivated to do it, and does a good thing.  Just using your friends money to run a race for the heck of it is just weird, IMO.

We had a friend from the gym run 52 marathons last year. We gave him money; but it wasn't for the entry fees specifically. I don't know if he paid them out of what was raised, or if all the money raised went to his cause.  If he was doing a 5k a month for the same cause, we still would have given him money; though obviously the marathon thing made it even more insane. IIRC, he did one in each state as part of the challenge aspect.  He had one week where he ran 3 marathons. The guy was crazy.

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #3554 on: December 11, 2015, 10:31:38 AM »
I've lost 50 pounds through a weight loss clinic.  My cousin (who sells products for a company I won't even mention because I tried them and they are crap) sent me a message on FB and asked what I did to lose the weight.  I told her and she responded "Well, in case you still have a need for healthy protein shakes yada yada yada you still have an account with [her company]."

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #3555 on: December 11, 2015, 12:18:04 PM »
$50 for a 5K is nuts.  When I was running organized races fairly regularly, I joined the local running club (for $25) and the races were always around $20-25.  The most expensive one was $30, and that was a 5 mile race that included having police stop traffic for the runners, three water stops, chip timers, mile markers, snacks, and a T-shirt (made of the nice thermal material, too).  The only strictly running race I've seen that wasn't a charity run of some kind and cost over $50 was a full or half marathon.

Travel/hotel/food costs for out of town races always cost me more than the race itself.

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #3556 on: December 11, 2015, 02:00:54 PM »
Depends on where it is.  I do the Shamrock Shuffle in Chicago which I paid 40$ for as an early sign up promotion.  Looks like the sign up fee is 50$ normally.  Not defending it or calling it mustachian, but they do shut down some normally busy streets in down town Chicago.  You also get a "free" runner's shirt, tons of coupons (bleh), good race organization, stuff protection, water distribution, and bananas after the race.  I always feel a little stupid for paying 40$ so I can be bombarded with advertisements, get a running shirt I don't need, and run a distance I could run on my own for free.  The good thing is that it motivates me to exercise and gives my SO and I some free activities to do together (the training).

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #3557 on: December 12, 2015, 12:23:25 PM »
There's a mountain bike racing series on the trails at a local park; the races are once a week in the summertime, but they leave the course signage up for the full ten weeks. This year, I went on non-race days a few times and rode the course, but I think I'll sign up for the actual series in 2016. It's a good motivator to do it every week, and besides, I don't mind giving a few dollars to the bike shop that organizes the event. They're excellent advocates for all kinds of cycling in the area.

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #3558 on: December 13, 2015, 03:42:52 PM »
A friend started a new job and her commute is now the ninth circle of hell.

Two trains, and two hours door to door.

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« Reply #3559 on: December 13, 2015, 03:56:09 PM »
There's a mountain bike racing series on the trails at a local park; the races are once a week in the summertime, but they leave the course signage up for the full ten weeks. This year, I went on non-race days a few times and rode the course, but I think I'll sign up for the actual series in 2016. It's a good motivator to do it every week, and besides, I don't mind giving a few dollars to the bike shop that organizes the event. They're excellent advocates for all kinds of cycling in the area.

There's a 5k "mountain" run series at the park up the street from me, during the spring.  It's $35 to enter, and they have snacks and beer at the end.  They use chalk to mark points on the course that aren't obvious.  I took a picture of the route on my phone (they had a satellite photo with a red line, on a large billboard).  And then on a different night, and on weekend mornings, I hiked it with my toddler in the back.

Sadly, there's a good sized section that is pretty loose/ deep sand, so I only did it 2x.  Haven't quite figured out how to do it and skip that section

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« Reply #3560 on: December 14, 2015, 06:13:04 PM »
ARGH.

Mt friend E and her wife are on Facebook, and have always been iffy-but-not-horrid with money (spending on what mattered to them, which was concerts, clothes, and travel to see family, and were otherwise relatively frugal). E's wife (let's call her S) immigrated to Canada a few years ago to be with her. What with immigration red tape, she couldn't work for a few years, so she did favors for friends, kept house, etc, and they lived off E's salary and savings at their usual pace, assuming that S would be able to work shortly. A few days after she got her paperwork in order and got permission to work, she had an episode of a (previously undiagnosed) degenerative disease that's left her functionally disabled. This was a year+ ago, so they've adjusted to their new reality (via a gofundme for moving expenses to a stair-less apartment that S could handle going into, etc).

The past 4 months, however, have featured more spending than I can imagine and I'm NOT disabled and without an income. We're talking live concerts (at least one of them was 400$ tickets PLUS travel and hotel), daily starbucks check-ins, the works. And a (planned, obviously) pregnancy to boot. I'm just saying: if I was planning on having a disabled spouse and a child, the LAST thing I'd spend money on is concert tickets, and I don't CARE who is playing, NO ONE is worth 400$ tickets. Savings! Rent! DIAPERS, FFS!

(Disclaimer: if the posts about the concerts and the starbucks were't interspaced with rants about how it is SO UNFAIR that S's disability payments are so low and how can they be expected to raise a family on this, I'd be more sympathetic. If they have the money, knock yourselves out and do whatever you want with it. Don't post about 400$ concerts and then send me a link to another gofundme, though.)

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #3561 on: December 14, 2015, 06:18:39 PM »
ARGH.

Mt friend E and her wife are on Facebook, and have always been iffy-but-not-horrid with money (spending on what mattered to them, which was concerts, clothes, and travel to see family, and were otherwise relatively frugal). E's wife (let's call her S) immigrated to Canada a few years ago to be with her. What with immigration red tape, she couldn't work for a few years, so she did favors for friends, kept house, etc, and they lived off E's salary and savings at their usual pace, assuming that S would be able to work shortly. A few days after she got her paperwork in order and got permission to work, she had an episode of a (previously undiagnosed) degenerative disease that's left her functionally disabled. This was a year+ ago, so they've adjusted to their new reality (via a gofundme for moving expenses to a stair-less apartment that S could handle going into, etc).

The past 4 months, however, have featured more spending than I can imagine and I'm NOT disabled and without an income. We're talking live concerts (at least one of them was 400$ tickets PLUS travel and hotel), daily starbucks check-ins, the works. And a (planned, obviously) pregnancy to boot. I'm just saying: if I was planning on having a disabled spouse and a child, the LAST thing I'd spend money on is concert tickets, and I don't CARE who is playing, NO ONE is worth 400$ tickets. Savings! Rent! DIAPERS, FFS!

(Disclaimer: if the posts about the concerts and the starbucks were't interspaced with rants about how it is SO UNFAIR that S's disability payments are so low and how can they be expected to raise a family on this, I'd be more sympathetic. If they have the money, knock yourselves out and do whatever you want with it. Don't post about 400$ concerts and then send me a link to another gofundme, though.)

Hmm. Without knowing more, maybe this is a you only live once situation. You say the disease is degenerative. Is the prognosis there is no cure and S only has a short time left to live?

EDIT: Meant to say S not E
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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #3562 on: December 14, 2015, 06:22:37 PM »
ARGH.

Mt friend E and her wife are on Facebook, and have always been iffy-but-not-horrid with money (spending on what mattered to them, which was concerts, clothes, and travel to see family, and were otherwise relatively frugal). E's wife (let's call her S) immigrated to Canada a few years ago to be with her. What with immigration red tape, she couldn't work for a few years, so she did favors for friends, kept house, etc, and they lived off E's salary and savings at their usual pace, assuming that S would be able to work shortly. A few days after she got her paperwork in order and got permission to work, she had an episode of a (previously undiagnosed) degenerative disease that's left her functionally disabled. This was a year+ ago, so they've adjusted to their new reality (via a gofundme for moving expenses to a stair-less apartment that S could handle going into, etc).

The past 4 months, however, have featured more spending than I can imagine and I'm NOT disabled and without an income. We're talking live concerts (at least one of them was 400$ tickets PLUS travel and hotel), daily starbucks check-ins, the works. And a (planned, obviously) pregnancy to boot. I'm just saying: if I was planning on having a disabled spouse and a child, the LAST thing I'd spend money on is concert tickets, and I don't CARE who is playing, NO ONE is worth 400$ tickets. Savings! Rent! DIAPERS, FFS!

(Disclaimer: if the posts about the concerts and the starbucks were't interspaced with rants about how it is SO UNFAIR that S's disability payments are so low and how can they be expected to raise a family on this, I'd be more sympathetic. If they have the money, knock yourselves out and do whatever you want with it. Don't post about 400$ concerts and then send me a link to another gofundme, though.)

Hmm. Without knowing more, maybe this is a you only live once situation. You say the disease is degenerative. Is the prognosis there is no cure and E only has a short time left to live?

It's MS. Same general life expectancy as the rest of the population, overall. Soooo... no, just the rest of one's (natural) lifespan to support.

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #3563 on: December 14, 2015, 08:18:49 PM »
Hmm. Without knowing more, maybe this is a you only live once situation. You say the disease is degenerative. Is the prognosis there is no cure and E only has a short time left to live?

It's MS. Same general life expectancy as the rest of the population, overall. Soooo... no, just the rest of one's (natural) lifespan to support.

*sigh*

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #3564 on: December 15, 2015, 08:47:26 AM »
Oh trust me I would like too...she would totally know it's me though since I"m the only one on her friends list that is financially secure and has said stuff to her about not buying shit in the past.   She's also suffering from depression so that may send her over the edge and I don't want that on me.  On the plus side, it looks like someone else must have said something to her about the amazon wish list.   It's gone as of this morning.  GoFund me is still up but the 4k shit list is no longer linked.

Send the friend "Help Wanted" listings instead of money???

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #3565 on: December 15, 2015, 08:53:08 AM »
ARGH.

Mt friend E and her wife are on Facebook, and have always been iffy-but-not-horrid with money (spending on what mattered to them, which was concerts, clothes, and travel to see family, and were otherwise relatively frugal). E's wife (let's call her S) immigrated to Canada a few years ago to be with her. What with immigration red tape, she couldn't work for a few years, so she did favors for friends, kept house, etc, and they lived off E's salary and savings at their usual pace, assuming that S would be able to work shortly. A few days after she got her paperwork in order and got permission to work, she had an episode of a (previously undiagnosed) degenerative disease that's left her functionally disabled. This was a year+ ago, so they've adjusted to their new reality (via a gofundme for moving expenses to a stair-less apartment that S could handle going into, etc).

The past 4 months, however, have featured more spending than I can imagine and I'm NOT disabled and without an income. We're talking live concerts (at least one of them was 400$ tickets PLUS travel and hotel), daily starbucks check-ins, the works. And a (planned, obviously) pregnancy to boot. I'm just saying: if I was planning on having a disabled spouse and a child, the LAST thing I'd spend money on is concert tickets, and I don't CARE who is playing, NO ONE is worth 400$ tickets. Savings! Rent! DIAPERS, FFS!

(Disclaimer: if the posts about the concerts and the starbucks were't interspaced with rants about how it is SO UNFAIR that S's disability payments are so low and how can they be expected to raise a family on this, I'd be more sympathetic. If they have the money, knock yourselves out and do whatever you want with it. Don't post about 400$ concerts and then send me a link to another gofundme, though.)

Hmm. Without knowing more, maybe this is a you only live once situation. You say the disease is degenerative. Is the prognosis there is no cure and S only has a short time left to live?

EDIT: Meant to say S not E

I'm curious as to what you would think if she was trying to live her life because her disease as made her very aware of her own mortality?

A friend of a friend quit her job a few months back so that she could move to Colorado to climb all the 14ers (believe there are 54) to prove to herself that she's more powerful than her disease (I believe she has an eating disorder). She sold shirts to raise some money, I heard about it too late but likely would have bought a shirt to help support her.

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #3568 on: December 15, 2015, 11:02:34 AM »
http://www.theonion.com/article/man-brings-lunch-from-home-to-cut-down-on-small-jo-37912?utm_source=Facebook&utm_medium=SocialMarketing&utm_campaign=LinkPreview:NA:InFocus

I think someone at the Onion was reading MMM...

I had to send that to my husband.  He'll laugh as he was just asked yesterday from someone who probably gets paid less than him (and who is always going out to eat) what was for lunch when he spied my husband pulling out his lunch bag.  When my husband replied "cheese and crackers" the guy looked shocked and just said "Oh!".

 Probably need to pack him better lunches, but at least he's eating lunch.  He used to not eat anything until dinner.  My husband's income is close to 95K at this point. 

ETA:  Sent this to DH, he proceeded to tell me how today he had beans and rice (from Saturday's dinner) flavored with a random taco bell hot sauce packet for the first layer, and then when he ate that, a soy sauce packet for the 2nd layer.  This cracks me up.  God love him.
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« Reply #3569 on: December 15, 2015, 11:59:24 AM »
$50 for a 5K is nuts.  When I was running organized races fairly regularly, I joined the local running club (for $25) and the races were always around $20-25.  The most expensive one was $30, and that was a 5 mile race that included having police stop traffic for the runners, three water stops, chip timers, mile markers, snacks, and a T-shirt (made of the nice thermal material, too).  The only strictly running race I've seen that wasn't a charity run of some kind and cost over $50 was a full or half marathon.

Travel/hotel/food costs for out of town races always cost me more than the race itself.

Maybe its a matter of perspective and scale, but for me, my coworkers, and most of my friends who just like to run, a 5K is called "Monday." 

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #3570 on: December 15, 2015, 12:15:37 PM »
"Landlords are scum"
which really gets on my nerves because my tenant is making my life miserable since months.
I politely disagreed, and the reply was #notalllandlords and now I want to punch the screen.

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« Reply #3571 on: December 15, 2015, 03:05:54 PM »
"Landlords are scum"
which really gets on my nerves because my tenant is making my life miserable since months.
I politely disagreed, and the reply was #notalllandlords and now I want to punch the screen.

There's a guy I know that posts about his landlord is a terrible person and stuff like that. He's moved at least 4 times in the 4 years that I've known him and each time has multiple posts about how crappy his living arrangement is. A few people I know that have rental properties have politely told him to 'can it,' and told him better ways of resolving his disputes. He asked about living with me and I flat out declined, I don't want to put up with the headache.

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #3572 on: December 15, 2015, 04:22:03 PM »
A work friend was tagged in various Facebook posts over the weekend with pictures of a birthday party her daughter attended. In celebration of someone turning eight, parents not only purchased an incredibly elaborately decorated cake, they rented hotel rooms for a slumber party and gave all the little girls matching pajamas as party favors. I strongly suspect this birthday party cost more than our wedding.

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #3573 on: December 15, 2015, 05:17:38 PM »
Here is conversation I just had a few days ago:

Me: "What are you going to study at WWU? Are you going to commute to Bellingham for school?" (a 45mi drive each way)

Her: "As of now I have to move up there and will be in a dorm. I am studying psychology with a minor in Spanish and business."

Me: "That's awesome! How come you "have" to live in a dorm? Have you been assigned a dorm yet?"

Her: "I was originally going to commute but since we only have the Impreza now and Jake needs to get to work I've gotta move (her boyfriend's car was totalled). The actual dorm assignments come out the 21st, I've got my fingers crossed for *** since my girlfriend's dorm had a sudden opening."

Me: " You know, a beater car would save you thousands of dollars vs. a dorm. And, if you have to move up there, why not live off campus? Rent a room for $500/month vs. the insane dorm room prices. Not to mention you'll save literally thousands by not having a meal plan."

Her: "It was so last minute, there wasn't much for openings outside of everything. I'd do a beater car if it was just me, but I want Jake to be happy and get a car he actually wants to drive. Living on campus was one of the few options I had available since he needs the car to get to work each day and it took until Thursday to even find out what was happening to the Evo." (Fancy pants Mitsubishi Evo, for $40k) I know financially the other options make a ton more sense, hell that's why I planned on commuting in the first place, but for Jake's happiness I'd sacrifice anything. Even living in a dorm with a bunch of teeny boppers."

So, suffice it to say, instead of buying a cheap Honda/Toyota commuter car to do the round trip to the university and back, she's not only going to move their, but she's going to live on campus in the dorms for a year as well. She's a 25yr old, with an associates degree from the community college. She isn't going to University for the dorm experience, or the general College experience. She's going there to further her education to get ahead. But rather than make the smart decision, she's really setting herself up for financial b.s. with much greater expenses than necessary.

That being said, her b.f. earns a good income and they are financially stable with little debt in comparison to the general public. It's just nuts.



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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #3574 on: December 15, 2015, 07:28:36 PM »
Can't imagine being a 25 year old living in an on-campus college dorm. Wow.

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« Reply #3575 on: December 15, 2015, 07:49:06 PM »
Can't imagine being a 25 year old living in an on-campus college dorm. Wow.

Not going to lie, I would love to go back to college and live in a dorm.

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« Reply #3576 on: December 15, 2015, 09:05:22 PM »
Can't imagine being a 25 year old living in an on-campus college dorm. Wow.

Not going to lie, I would love to go back to college and live in a dorm.

I would love to go back to the dorms just to live with my friends again. I miss being able to walk across the hall and flop on someone's bed if I wanted company.

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« Reply #3577 on: December 15, 2015, 11:12:05 PM »
Can't imagine being a 25 year old living in an on-campus college dorm. Wow.

Not going to lie, I would love to go back to college and live in a dorm.

wow, really? With a bunch of dumbass 18-year-olds? good grief, not me.

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« Reply #3578 on: December 16, 2015, 05:54:40 AM »
Can't imagine being a 25 year old living in an on-campus college dorm. Wow.

Not going to lie, I would love to go back to college and live in a dorm.

wow, really? With a bunch of dumbass 18-year-olds? good grief, not me.

I'm 40, but I feel like I'm 20. Until I hang out with a bunch of 20 year olds. Then I'm like, nah, nevermind, I'm 40.

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« Reply #3579 on: December 16, 2015, 06:26:30 AM »
My problem with the dorm vs home post is that she's 25 and going back for a degree in psychology with a minor in Spanish and business?  Business is fine, but I hope she has plans for that psychology degree.

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« Reply #3580 on: December 16, 2015, 06:35:27 AM »
My problem with the dorm vs home post is that she's 25 and going back for a degree in psychology with a minor in Spanish and business?  Business is fine, but I hope she has plans for that psychology degree.
Unless she takes it all the way to a PhD and opens her own practice, it won't earn her any higher wage than just getting a certification and becoming a professional counselor.

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« Reply #3581 on: December 16, 2015, 07:10:53 AM »

Hmm. Without knowing more, maybe this is a you only live once situation. You say the disease is degenerative. Is the prognosis there is no cure and S only has a short time left to live?

EDIT: Meant to say S not E

I'm curious as to what you would think if she was trying to live her life because her disease as made her very aware of her own mortality?

A friend of a friend quit her job a few months back so that she could move to Colorado to climb all the 14ers (believe there are 54) to prove to herself that she's more powerful than her disease (I believe she has an eating disorder). She sold shirts to raise some money, I heard about it too late but likely would have bought a shirt to help support her.

Honestly? If she was in her 50s, had no dependants, and wanted to follow Adele around on concert, that'd be her business. (And if she had the money and just chose to spend it on that, that'd also be her business and definitely none of mine).

But when you're spending money on concerts (at least in the multiple 1000s so far this year, on a total family income that I know for a fact is under 40K, in a city with a mid-to-high cost of living...), with a disabled spouse and a kid on the way, and are simultaneously posting to facebook about not knowing how you'll afford diapers and how you'll be 'forced to live in poverty because of low disability payments'... Yeah. I judge. Because call me old-fashioned, but I generally believe that when you chose to have a kid you're chosing to put the kid's needs above your wants.

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« Reply #3582 on: December 16, 2015, 07:18:51 AM »
Can't imagine being a 25 year old living in an on-campus college dorm. Wow.

Not going to lie, I would love to go back to college and live in a dorm.

wow, really? With a bunch of dumbass 18-year-olds? good grief, not me.

Well I'm a guy and I miss hanging out with 18/19 year old women. I wouldn't actually do it, that time has gone.

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« Reply #3583 on: December 16, 2015, 07:40:03 AM »
Can't imagine being a 25 year old living in an on-campus college dorm. Wow.

Not going to lie, I would love to go back to college and live in a dorm.

wow, really? With a bunch of dumbass 18-year-olds? good grief, not me.

Shit, sign me up.

I'm a community college dropout, but went to a couple of dorm parties at some "good" schools. It looked like shit living to me always, but the easy access to sluts seemed appealing.

So yeah, I'd go as a 31 year old and live in a dorm too. lol

[MOD EDIT:  Let's dump the sexually loaded insults, "slut shaming" and sweeping generalizations.  Thank you.]
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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #3584 on: December 16, 2015, 07:40:31 AM »

So, suffice it to say, instead of buying a cheap Honda/Toyota commuter car to do the round trip to the university and back, she's not only going to move their, but she's going to live on campus in the dorms for a year as well. She's a 25yr old, with an associates degree from the community college. She isn't going to University for the dorm experience, or the general College experience. She's going there to further her education to get ahead. But rather than make the smart decision, she's really setting herself up for financial b.s. with much greater expenses than necessary.

That being said, her b.f. earns a good income and they are financially stable with little debt in comparison to the general public. It's just nuts.

These forums in general are very into living close to work or school and abnormal living situations to save money or get what you want.  Maybe this woman doesn't want to spend an hour and a half each day commuting in addition to school (And work?). Living situation with boyfriend may not be as great as it appears.  Maybe she's concerned by the environmental impact of the commute and prefers to walk and can afford to make it work.

OP posted here for a reason and is likely spot on but it seems a bit incongruous.


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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #3585 on: December 16, 2015, 07:51:01 AM »
Can't imagine being a 25 year old living in an on-campus college dorm. Wow.

Not going to lie, I would love to go back to college and live in a dorm.

Just wait. Those senior living apartment complexes are basically just dorms for old folks.

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #3586 on: December 16, 2015, 08:02:57 AM »
Maybe she'll get to college and discover a guy who doesn't value a $40K car as much. Hey, don't get me wrong - I'm a car guy but I gave up my champagne dreams when we started having kids. Having a nice (but frugal) place to live was more important than something with 300HP.

When the kids are grown and gone, maybe then I'll buy a Ural Tourist or a '65 Mustang 2+2 Fastback.

Different choices made as a couple might make her life (their life) much easier overall.

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #3587 on: December 16, 2015, 08:09:50 AM »
My problem with the dorm vs home post is that she's 25 and going back for a degree in psychology with a minor in Spanish and business?  Business is fine, but I hope she has plans for that psychology degree.
Unless she takes it all the way to a PhD and opens her own practice, it won't earn her any higher wage than just getting a certification and becoming a professional counselor.

That would be a wonderful plan for that degree.

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #3588 on: December 16, 2015, 08:10:42 AM »
Can't imagine being a 25 year old living in an on-campus college dorm. Wow.

Not going to lie, I would love to go back to college and live in a dorm.

Just wait. Those senior living apartment complexes are basically just dorms for old folks.
There's apartment complexes for families and professional/graduate students at most large universities.  People are a little older and generally more mature than the 18 year olds straight out of high school, but there's still plenty of college dumbassery to go around if that's what you're looking for.

It'd be awesome to live that close to all my friends again, but I'm perfectly happy to not have the druggie across the hall run screaming down the central coridor at 3am because he's drunk and took heroin for the first time and thinks he's being chased by the pumpkin king.

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #3589 on: December 16, 2015, 08:13:44 AM »
Can't imagine being a 25 year old living in an on-campus college dorm. Wow.

Not going to lie, I would love to go back to college and live in a dorm.

Just wait. Those senior living apartment complexes are basically just dorms for old folks.

Right down to the STD rates.

(I work in the medical field. This is the population that skipped the 'safe sex' education and are suddenly single/widowed. To predictable results.)

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« Reply #3590 on: December 16, 2015, 08:16:35 AM »



Right down to the STD rates.

(I work in the medical field. This is the population that skipped the 'safe sex' education and are suddenly single/widowed. To predictable results.)

Yes, I've read about that.

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #3591 on: December 16, 2015, 08:20:50 AM »
Can't imagine being a 25 year old living in an on-campus college dorm. Wow.

Not going to lie, I would love to go back to college and live in a dorm.

Just wait. Those senior living apartment complexes are basically just dorms for old folks.

Right down to the STD rates.

(I work in the medical field. This is the population that skipped the 'safe sex' education and are suddenly single/widowed. To predictable results.)

Hey at least they avoid all that "unintended pregnancy" hassle!

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« Reply #3592 on: December 16, 2015, 08:50:03 AM »
Can't imagine being a 25 year old living in an on-campus college dorm. Wow.

Not going to lie, I would love to go back to college and live in a dorm.

Just wait. Those senior living apartment complexes are basically just dorms for old folks.
There's apartment complexes for families and professional/graduate students at most large universities.  People are a little older and generally more mature than the 18 year olds straight out of high school, but there's still plenty of college dumbassery to go around if that's what you're looking for.

It'd be awesome to live that close to all my friends again, but I'm perfectly happy to not have the druggie across the hall run screaming down the central coridor at 3am because he's drunk and took heroin for the first time and thinks he's being chased by the pumpkin king.

Those are probably full at this point, but taking over somebodies sublease near campus is an insanely good deal.  Based on the whole "I just want to make boyfriend happy, I couldn't make him drive a car he doesn't love" she seems a little entitled though.

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #3593 on: December 16, 2015, 10:18:11 AM »
Maybe she'll get to college and discover a guy who doesn't value a $40K car as much. Hey, don't get me wrong - I'm a car guy but I gave up my champagne dreams when we started having kids. Having a nice (but frugal) place to live was more important than something with 300HP.

When the kids are grown and gone, maybe then I'll buy a Ural Tourist or a '65 Mustang 2+2 Fastback.

Different choices made as a couple might make her life (their life) much easier overall.
It's a joint effort. They bought a house together, and have been together for 8 years. I don't see their relationship going anywhere. She worked a full time job along with a part time job while going to the Community College and taking a full course load, so that she could finish her associates degree without a single ounce of debt. Now, all of a sudden she's flipped a switch. It's dumb as hell.

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There's apartment complexes for families and professional/graduate students at most large universities.  People are a little older and generally more mature than the 18 year olds straight out of high school, but there's still plenty of college dumbassery to go around if that's what you're looking for.

It'd be awesome to live that close to all my friends again, but I'm perfectly happy to not have the druggie across the hall run screaming down the central coridor at 3am because he's drunk and took heroin for the first time and thinks he's being chased by the pumpkin king.

It's hard to find a place near this college in the middle of the school year and between quarters. That being said, there are a shit load of houses with a room to rent very close to campus, on the bus line that she could move into.

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Those are probably full at this point, but taking over somebodies sublease near campus is an insanely good deal.  Based on the whole "I just want to make boyfriend happy, I couldn't make him drive a car he doesn't love" she seems a little entitled though.
This part is just dumb. Drive a beater you dumbass!

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These forums in general are very into living close to work or school and abnormal living situations to save money or get what you want.  Maybe this woman doesn't want to spend an hour and a half each day commuting in addition to school (And work?). Living situation with boyfriend may not be as great as it appears.  Maybe she's concerned by the environmental impact of the commute and prefers to walk and can afford to make it work.

OP posted here for a reason and is likely spot on but it seems a bit incongruous.


See above, but these two (bf and gf) are in it for the long haul. We all fully expect to attend their wedding sooner or later. They are fully domesticated. She doesn't work at all right now. As the earnings from her job don't outweigh, in a month, what her bf can earn from a few extra shift of overtime. It's not worth her time according to them. Classes are only about 3-5 hours a day if you plan it correctly without too many breaks. She should be commuting. It's not ideal, but it's a hellavu lot better than the dumbass fees she's signed up for with a dorm, meal plan, and all the other miscellaneous b.s./

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« Reply #3594 on: December 16, 2015, 10:54:40 AM »
I don't see their relationship going anywhere.

We all fully expect to attend their wedding sooner or later.


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« Reply #3596 on: December 16, 2015, 02:34:36 PM »
I don't see their relationship going anywhere.

We all fully expect to attend their wedding sooner or later.



I should have said, "I don't see their relationship falling apart anytime soon." It's solid, and there is a large core group of friends that they fit into quite well.

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« Reply #3597 on: December 16, 2015, 03:07:42 PM »
Can't imagine being a 25 year old living in an on-campus college dorm. Wow.

Not going to lie, I would love to go back to college and live in a dorm.

Just wait. Those senior living apartment complexes are basically just dorms for old folks.
There's apartment complexes for families and professional/graduate students at most large universities.  People are a little older and generally more mature than the 18 year olds straight out of high school, but there's still plenty of college dumbassery to go around if that's what you're looking for.

It'd be awesome to live that close to all my friends again, but I'm perfectly happy to not have the druggie across the hall run screaming down the central coridor at 3am because he's drunk and took heroin for the first time and thinks he's being chased by the pumpkin king.

Wish dorm life had been as much fun as people's stories. Sometimes it was fun, sometimes it was just trying to live like that. The girl's dorms seemed to be populated with females that got along better than the guys. Different personalities?

We had the guys next door that woke up at 5-something in the morn for football practice and do it by cranking the stereo full blast. Or the other guy on the other side that has an alarm set for 7AM but was never there to turn it off - ever (second alarm). Sat/Sun morns were fun after some late night. There was "PigPen" that apparently never, ever bathed or did laundry until his roomies had to wash him forcibly. Am mixing barracks life and dorm life but these people all existed in my life.

Secretively and preemptively flipping the right circuit breaker was helpful for noisy hallmates. About the 4th or 5th time they start to get it. Especially if they had spoiled food in their dorm fridge. ;)

I loved being 25. Didn't so much love being working poor or living in barracks/dorms. Rented a small house after my enlistment rather than revisit dorm life. Nice to be able to study on my schedule. Am highly distractable.

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« Reply #3598 on: December 16, 2015, 03:44:08 PM »
"Landlords are scum"
which really gets on my nerves because my tenant is making my life miserable since months.
I politely disagreed, and the reply was #notalllandlords and now I want to punch the screen.
We get a lot of this - a LOT here on fb, especially on the local sales page from time to time.  People go there to vent, or ask for help finding housing, or to offer up housing for rent.

The rental vacancy here is less than 1%.
The rents have gone through the roof in the last couple of years.
There are a few landlords who own many properties - they are known for not keeping them maintained and screwing their renters.

But that's not always what people are complaining about.
They complain about the 2BR house renting for $3250, when 5 minutes with google will tell you when it sold, and what for - so then you know that the landlord is breaking even.
They complain about landlords "gouging", but never calculate the cost of maintenance, and cleaning, and work when the renter destroys the house.
They complain about how they cannot find a place that will rent to dog owners, but let their dogs either bark all day or wreck the house.

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« Reply #3599 on: December 16, 2015, 03:49:35 PM »
My problem with the dorm vs home post is that she's 25 and going back for a degree in psychology with a minor in Spanish and business?  Business is fine, but I hope she has plans for that psychology degree.
Unless she takes it all the way to a PhD and opens her own practice, it won't earn her any higher wage than just getting a certification and becoming a professional counselor.
My SIL has a psych degree and is making a great living as a HS guidance counselor.
I have several friends with psych degrees who are counselors at a university (drug/alcohol, eating disorders)

Even some tech jobs are heavy in psychology.  My husband's PhD in EE had quite a large psychology component (vision systems), and a local company working in lighting is looking for someone with a relevant degree in vision science, which includes psychology.