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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #300 on: March 11, 2014, 11:47:35 AM »
"Well getting ready to turn in another app at the *Local Gas Station*! This will be my 3rd and hopefully lucky time trying!!!! Fingers crossed and praying for God to help me help myself!"


Every few months she posts that she's putting in a job application somewhere and "fingers crossed!". She just turned 25 and hasn't held a job for more than 6 months combined in her life and didn't make it through a full semester in college but seems to think that filling out an application a month is going to work for her.
She's also tried starting an animal rescue...while living in a trailer park, and selling tattoo designs...with no talent (I have zero artistic talent as well, I'm not being mean about it, but she is like me and cannot draw worth a damn). Basically every time she posts something I feel the need to hit my head on my desk

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #301 on: March 11, 2014, 12:17:13 PM »
Not quite Facebook, but I found out a family member's electric bill was $700.
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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #302 on: March 12, 2014, 07:10:05 AM »
"Well getting ready to turn in another app at the *Local Gas Station*! This will be my 3rd and hopefully lucky time trying!!!! Fingers crossed and praying for God to help me help myself!"


Every few months she posts that she's putting in a job application somewhere and "fingers crossed!". She just turned 25 and hasn't held a job for more than 6 months combined in her life and didn't make it through a full semester in college but seems to think that filling out an application a month is going to work for her.
She's also tried starting an animal rescue...while living in a trailer park, and selling tattoo designs...with no talent (I have zero artistic talent as well, I'm not being mean about it, but she is like me and cannot draw worth a damn). Basically every time she posts something I feel the need to hit my head on my desk

Hmm, seems to be trying, but misdirected.  Is this someone who might be receptive to some advice and guidance?  Maybe you could give her some tips on filling out her applications or getting some experience to help build some sort of resume?  End game:  us tax payers DO want her to learn to help herself.

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #303 on: March 12, 2014, 07:50:38 AM »
"Well getting ready to turn in another app at the *Local Gas Station*! This will be my 3rd and hopefully lucky time trying!!!! Fingers crossed and praying for God to help me help myself!"


Every few months she posts that she's putting in a job application somewhere and "fingers crossed!". She just turned 25 and hasn't held a job for more than 6 months combined in her life and didn't make it through a full semester in college but seems to think that filling out an application a month is going to work for her.
She's also tried starting an animal rescue...while living in a trailer park, and selling tattoo designs...with no talent (I have zero artistic talent as well, I'm not being mean about it, but she is like me and cannot draw worth a damn). Basically every time she posts something I feel the need to hit my head on my desk

Hmm, seems to be trying, but misdirected.  Is this someone who might be receptive to some advice and guidance?  Maybe you could give her some tips on filling out her applications or getting some experience to help build some sort of resume?  End game:  us tax payers DO want her to learn to help herself.
I wish. I tried giving advice (and someone even commented on this post with the advice to talk to a manager instead of just waiting for them to call her). She's basically hopeless and doesn't understand life in general. Another example is that the state took away her two kids, held them in foster care for TWO YEARS trying to give her a chance to get her act together (there were no drugs or abuse, just idiots who can't maintain a house/boarderline hoarders) before finally terminating her rights and she swears the system is corrupt and it's not her fault. And since she's family I  have enough information to know that she is definitely not faultless in it

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #304 on: March 12, 2014, 08:24:50 PM »
Oh, I should have known that she's already reproduced.  *headdesk*

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #305 on: March 13, 2014, 05:03:57 PM »
"Well getting ready to turn in another app at the *Local Gas Station*! This will be my 3rd and hopefully lucky time trying!!!! Fingers crossed and praying for God to help me help myself!"


Every few months she posts that she's putting in a job application somewhere and "fingers crossed!". She just turned 25 and hasn't held a job for more than 6 months combined in her life and didn't make it through a full semester in college but seems to think that filling out an application a month is going to work for her.
She's also tried starting an animal rescue...while living in a trailer park, and selling tattoo designs...with no talent (I have zero artistic talent as well, I'm not being mean about it, but she is like me and cannot draw worth a damn). Basically every time she posts something I feel the need to hit my head on my desk

Hmm, seems to be trying, but misdirected.  Is this someone who might be receptive to some advice and guidance?  Maybe you could give her some tips on filling out her applications or getting some experience to help build some sort of resume?  End game:  us tax payers DO want her to learn to help herself.
I wish. I tried giving advice (and someone even commented on this post with the advice to talk to a manager instead of just waiting for them to call her). She's basically hopeless and doesn't understand life in general. Another example is that the state took away her two kids, held them in foster care for TWO YEARS trying to give her a chance to get her act together (there were no drugs or abuse, just idiots who can't maintain a house/boarderline hoarders) before finally terminating her rights and she swears the system is corrupt and it's not her fault. And since she's family I  have enough information to know that she is definitely not faultless in it
Sounds like a large population of my family, unfortunately. The ones that get jobs keep quitting them.

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #306 on: March 18, 2014, 09:30:19 AM »
Step daughter just posted that she's 'lost' the 4th wedding ring in 8 years of marriage.

We stopped acknowledging after the second time.

Either it's time for a newer, bigger, better one again or she just doesn't like being married?


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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #307 on: March 18, 2014, 11:23:49 AM »
Step daughter just posted that she's 'lost' the 4th wedding ring in 8 years of marriage.

We stopped acknowledging after the second time.

Either it's time for a newer, bigger, better one again or she just doesn't like being married?

My husband has lost 3 in 4 years. (Occupational hazard. He's a musician and takes them off to play.) This is why we have cheap rings. And, for added nerd-cred, they're moebius strips.

I fully expected my hubby to lose his ring w/in the first year of marriage.  He's forgetful, and he doesn't like jewelry, so he takes it off all the time at home.  We "lost" it once for about 6 months, until I cleaned up out cardboard kitty scratcher.  Looks like the cats had found a shiny cool toy to play with!

Surprisingly, he didn't really lose it until our 11th year.  I bought him a few titanium ones for under $10 each, so no big deal if he loses them or if the cats find them.  ;)

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #308 on: March 19, 2014, 11:59:16 AM »
Step daughter just posted that she's 'lost' the 4th wedding ring in 8 years of marriage.

We stopped acknowledging after the second time.

Either it's time for a newer, bigger, better one again or she just doesn't like being married?

My husband has lost 3 in 4 years. (Occupational hazard. He's a musician and takes them off to play.) This is why we have cheap rings. And, for added nerd-cred, they're moebius strips.

'K - that I get!  Makes sense to take it off then but . . . forgive my ignorance I had to look up mobius strip as may pertain to a wedding ring (?)

https://www.etsy.com/listing/56299885/wide-mobius-strip-wedding-band-this-ring?utm_source=google&utm_medium=product_listing_promoted&utm_campaign=jewelry_mid&gclid=CPzwhLGVn70CFecWMgod7R0ABg

Love the 'Twig & Leaf'!

I can imagine lots of reasons one might lose a wedding ring in having to take it off as an occupational hazard but . . . ?  I'm still a little puzzled with this situation????

Oh well.

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #309 on: March 19, 2014, 12:07:13 PM »
I've lost one ring and am amazed I have not lost any others.

With the one I lost: my fingers swell when I'm out walking and so I'll put them on my keychain before they started hurting my fingers. I did this a few years ago while we were at a rib fest but that time one of my rings was not there when I went to put them back on later

Also, I'm really fidgety sometimes, but in a minute, not as obvious way as some people are. I tend to fiddle with my rings. I actually bought a spinning worry ring to try to help, but I'll still take the damn thing off and play with it. I don't know how many times I've dropped it but luckily I've always managed to find it so far (had it 7 years now)

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #310 on: March 19, 2014, 04:29:31 PM »
Step daughter just posted that she's 'lost' the 4th wedding ring in 8 years of marriage.

We stopped acknowledging after the second time.

Either it's time for a newer, bigger, better one again or she just doesn't like being married?

My husband has lost 3 in 4 years. (Occupational hazard. He's a musician and takes them off to play.) This is why we have cheap rings. And, for added nerd-cred, they're moebius strips.


My husband designed and made our wedding rings himself, from gold handed  down from his great grandmother. The design is based on a saxon ring found in a horde. On our wedding day he dropped it 3 times - he was fidgeting. Once it nearly went down a drain. We knew he wouldn't be able to wear it much as he works in the field and a laboratory, and he's a drummer and can't play with it on. But after that we put it in a box, and he got the design and engraving tattooed on his shoulder, so he would still wear it. I thought that was the most romantic thing :)

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #311 on: March 20, 2014, 06:21:01 AM »
Perhaps everyone who takes it off often should wear it on a chain on their neck?

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #312 on: March 20, 2014, 09:15:26 AM »
Actually, there IS some pretty funny whatnot on Facebook. Observe! This is a person paraphrasing their daughter

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Daughter(On a Saturday): We're going to the park to play, because we like to have fun. You're going to work, because you like money.

Daughter (on Christmas): You told me this is the most special day all year. How can you have to work?

Dauther (tonight): I know you have to work to make money so we have food... and you help people... I wish you wanted to help me more than other people. I always miss you. All the time.

Awww, poor kiddo.  I worry about this sometimes.  I'm a nurse, so I'll be working every other weekend and every other holiday for the foreseeable future.  DH is in the Navy, so extended separations are the norm.  Right now the kiddos are too young to care, but eventually we're going to start missing important days.     

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #313 on: March 20, 2014, 02:00:14 PM »
Actually, there IS some pretty funny whatnot on Facebook. Observe! This is a person paraphrasing their daughter

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Daughter(On a Saturday): We're going to the park to play, because we like to have fun. You're going to work, because you like money.

Daughter (on Christmas): You told me this is the most special day all year. How can you have to work?

Dauther (tonight): I know you have to work to make money so we have food... and you help people... I wish you wanted to help me more than other people. I always miss you. All the time.

Awww, poor kiddo.  I worry about this sometimes.  I'm a nurse, so I'll be working every other weekend and every other holiday for the foreseeable future.  DH is in the Navy, so extended separations are the norm.  Right now the kiddos are too young to care, but eventually we're going to start missing important days.     

Well, my wife's dad works in the control room at a paper mill. It costs about $2 million to shut down a paper mill and restart it, so someone is there 24/7. He worked nights, weekends, holidays, basically whenever they told him to work, and often they had to cancel vacations if something went wrong and he was told to stay. But she still turned out a lot better than me :)

I will say that my in-laws has a lot to do with why my wife is on board with the early retirement thing. They have their financial ducks in a row by modern society's standards, but they don't seem to understand the connection betweentheir multiple large, new SUVs and full-size pickups, boats, and other toys, and the fact that they will keep working for another 10 years. I hope to retire about the same time!
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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #314 on: March 22, 2014, 02:49:08 PM »
Been meaning to post this.   Besides the obvious anti-mustachianism, its also kind of funny.


Person #1:   Has anyone quit having a gardener mow & blow your lawn and bought a lawn mower and done it yourself instead? Considering, but wondering how realistic it is.

Person #2:  Maybe the other 98%?

Person #1:  Yeah, yeah. I'm wondering if other elitist suburban douchebags like me have done it, though.

Person #3:  Ken did. Now our yard looks like crap.

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #315 on: March 22, 2014, 03:30:52 PM »
Actually, there IS some pretty funny whatnot on Facebook. Observe! This is a person paraphrasing their daughter

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Daughter(On a Saturday): We're going to the park to play, because we like to have fun. You're going to work, because you like money.

Daughter (on Christmas): You told me this is the most special day all year. How can you have to work?

Dauther (tonight): I know you have to work to make money so we have food... and you help people... I wish you wanted to help me more than other people. I always miss you. All the time.


Awww, poor kiddo.  I worry about this sometimes.  I'm a nurse, so I'll be working every other weekend and every other holiday for the foreseeable future.  DH is in the Navy, so extended separations are the norm.  Right now the kiddos are too young to care, but eventually we're going to start missing important days.     


I'm guessing you're around at other times, though, right?

My mother missed most weekends due to work, and my birthday, which is in November, was regularly rescheduled (along with Christmas) because my family is in toys and shipping. But we built new family traditions around postponed Christmas and half birthdays and my mother was usually home when I got home from school.

My dh and I are both nurses too and it was a given that one of us would be working every holiday.  However, we always took our son's BD, Dec. 22, off and would celebrate holidays on a different day so we could all be together.

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #316 on: March 22, 2014, 06:08:26 PM »
Been meaning to post this.   Besides the obvious anti-mustachianism, its also kind of funny.


Person #1:   Has anyone quit having a gardener mow & blow your lawn and bought a lawn mower and done it yourself instead? Considering, but wondering how realistic it is.

Person #2:  Maybe the other 98%?

Person #1:  Yeah, yeah. I'm wondering if other elitist suburban douchebags like me have done it, though.

Person #3:  Ken did. Now our yard looks like crap.

Those people are all hilarious

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #317 on: March 22, 2014, 06:19:32 PM »
Actually, there IS some pretty funny whatnot on Facebook. Observe! This is a person paraphrasing their daughter

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Daughter(On a Saturday): We're going to the park to play, because we like to have fun. You're going to work, because you like money.

Daughter (on Christmas): You told me this is the most special day all year. How can you have to work?

Dauther (tonight): I know you have to work to make money so we have food... and you help people... I wish you wanted to help me more than other people. I always miss you. All the time.

Awww, poor kiddo.  I worry about this sometimes.  I'm a nurse, so I'll be working every other weekend and every other holiday for the foreseeable future.  DH is in the Navy, so extended separations are the norm.  Right now the kiddos are too young to care, but eventually we're going to start missing important days.     
My aunt worked as a vet tech in an emergency clinic my entire youth.  It become normal to have X-mas on a different date.  Personally I never minded.

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #318 on: March 23, 2014, 08:48:54 AM »
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My aunt worked as a vet tech in an emergency clinic my entire youth.  It become normal to have X-mas on a different date.  Personally I never minded

I initially read this as "normal to have X-rays on dates" and wondered why anyone would do that.

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #319 on: March 23, 2014, 09:03:06 AM »
I read that someone was complaining about how much housework she has in a week because her house is so big. It was something like 20 hours a week she spends just to maintain it.

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #320 on: March 24, 2014, 08:12:01 AM »
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Person #1:   Has anyone quit having a gardener mow & blow your lawn and bought a lawn mower and done it yourself instead? Considering, but wondering how realistic it is.

Person #2:  Maybe the other 98%?

Person #1:  Yeah, yeah. I'm wondering if other elitist suburban douchebags like me have done it, though.

Person #3:  Ken did. Now our yard looks like crap.

At least they have some clue about there economic position...
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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #321 on: March 24, 2014, 02:32:19 PM »
I initially read this as "normal to have X-rays on dates" and wondered why anyone would do that.

They always told me that it's what's on the inside that counts.

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #322 on: March 24, 2014, 03:11:05 PM »
I initially read this as "normal to have X-rays on dates" and wondered why anyone would do that.

They always told me that it's what's on the inside that counts.
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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #323 on: March 25, 2014, 01:26:09 PM »

My husband designed and made our wedding rings himself, from gold handed  down from his great grandmother. The design is based on a saxon ring found in a horde. On our wedding day he dropped it 3 times - he was fidgeting. Once it nearly went down a drain. We knew he wouldn't be able to wear it much as he works in the field and a laboratory, and he's a drummer and can't play with it on. But after that we put it in a box, and he got the design and engraving tattooed on his shoulder, so he would still wear it. I thought that was the most romantic thing :)

Oh that is soooooooo romantic.  What a guy you got!  What a fantastic idea!!!!!  Gives me happy chills all over :-)

(And an idea for a side gig is forming in me wee brain as I type.  You could have a next big trend there)

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #324 on: March 25, 2014, 02:40:00 PM »
I will fully admit that I pay a lawn service to cut, edge and blow my suburban lawn. I just got tired of the expense and hassle of maintaining the equipment (!@#$!@#$ trimmers were always breaking/not starting) and buying gas/oil/trim line, not to mention the time and misery. For those that would balk at my clownlike behavior, you're more than welcome to mow my lawn in 100 degF / 99% humidity during the summer -- I'll pay you the same rate ($25 per cut).  You can even take frequent breaks so that you don't get heat stroke! You'll be able to knock it out in a few hours.

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #325 on: March 25, 2014, 02:59:42 PM »
My cousin's wife posted something about

"Which do you hate the most...

a. The amount you pay in taxes
b. The crippling debt
c.  Saving for children's college
d. Not knowing how much to save for retirement"

I wanted to respond but didn't. What I wanted to say was "Worrying over things that I cannot control, such as the tax rate and the country's "crippling" debt, is not something I try to do, especially as the sleep I get is something I value. I don't plan on having any kids so I do not worry about their college education and should I have kids, I hope to teach them to be as self-reliant as possible, which would include funding much of their own way through college (something I wish I had been taught), and for retirement it isn't that complex, I send most of my paycheck to Vanguard and keep myself busy with 'hobbies that don't eat' to paraphrase Ben."

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #326 on: March 25, 2014, 05:24:50 PM »
My cousin's wife posted something about

"Which do you hate the most...

a. The amount you pay in taxes
b. The crippling debt
c.  Saving for children's college
d. Not knowing how much to save for retirement"

Perhaps they are talking about their own debt?  Student loan or otherwise?

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #327 on: March 25, 2014, 07:04:39 PM »
Not of FB but directly from a friend of mine:

The guy bought a house a couple of years ago and it's entirely in his name because a)his then fiancé/now wife has horrible credit and he couldn't have gotten the mortgage if she was on it and b)he didn't really want her on it any because he doesn't seem to have high hopes for the relationship (though he still ended up marrying her...)

Apparently they kept finances separate but she is handling paying all the bills. It sounds like he gives her so much money and she handles the payments. He said that fairly often the mortgage gets paid a little late because of when her paychecks come.....I gathered that she's paid bi-weekly and she doesn't plan for the fact that her check isn't at the same time every month.

Then he said he accidentally opened up a letter the other day saying his mortgage was behind by $4k. He has no idea how since he's been giving her money. He doesn't think she's "stealing" it though he seems to be making a distinction between "stealing" and "not watching spending so spends money that should go for the mortgage on other stuff".

I tried to nicely suggest taking and joint approach to bill paying even if they want to keep actual finances separate...since you know it's his fucking mortgage... but he didn't seem too interested in it saying "she's gotten behind on other bills before but always gotten it sorted out" citing a time she got behind on the electric bill by $600 but got it caught up without his help.

I want to literally facepunch people often enough that I'm about ready to buy a cabin the middle of nowhere so I don't have to resist the temptation every time I engage in human contact!

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #328 on: March 26, 2014, 07:58:24 AM »
Then he said he accidentally opened up a letter the other day saying his mortgage was behind by $4k. He has no idea how since he's been giving her money. He doesn't think she's "stealing" it though he seems to be making a distinction between "stealing" and "not watching spending so spends money that should go for the mortgage on other stuff".

Oh, dear. This happened to my husband's brother as well. Except in his case, wifey was squirreling the money away in anticipation of leaving him. When he found out, she pulled the trigger and filed for divorce. (And they're both lawyers, each making gobs of money--I'm honestly not sure why she opted to just stop paying the mortgage instead of just putting some of her own money away. I guess they shared their money and she didn't want him to find out?)

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #329 on: March 26, 2014, 10:32:09 AM »
I will fully admit that I pay a lawn service to cut, edge and blow my suburban lawn. I just got tired of the expense and hassle of maintaining the equipment (!@#$!@#$ trimmers were always breaking/not starting) and buying gas/oil/trim line, not to mention the time and misery. For those that would balk at my clownlike behavior, you're more than welcome to mow my lawn in 100 degF / 99% humidity during the summer -- I'll pay you the same rate ($25 per cut).  You can even take frequent breaks so that you don't get heat stroke! You'll be able to knock it out in a few hours.

Your county extension can probably help you out with information, but where I am, we have similar weather. But the majority of lawns in our county are cool season grass, so it's meant to go dormant in the Summer. People water all Summer long to keep it green - which means it keeps growing. But ideally, people with hot Summers should have brownish lawns that don't need to be mowed. You give them a minimal level of water to keep them alive, but dormant, and they bounce back once it cools off.

I cancelled our lawn service one Summer when I walked outside and they were mowing my brown lawn and cutting down my raspberry bushes with the weed-wacker (I assume to keep busy?). I was livid. But my anger has saved us a lot of money - when you pay someone, it's easy to lose track of how often they mow when the grass doesn't actually need to be mowed.

Also, when I looked over our old invoices, I saw that we were paying for a mysterious 163-step chemical application that involved treating for grubs four times a year (wtf - was there some kind of grub invasion I was not aware of??). Once I asked them to treat for Chiggers and they just put another grub treatment down! I've barely treated my lawn with anything for the past 5 years and it looks better than it did when I hired someone.

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #330 on: March 28, 2014, 11:56:33 PM »
I can't wait to see how this one turns out:

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(poster was just complaining about getting his wages garnished for some court/rehab related issues)

Poster: Feels good to be a lottery winner, and I didn't even have to enter! $10,000 will get me a car and pay off my fines to get my license back.

Posters Dad: Be careful. Make sure you don't need to give them any banking details or pay any fees first.

Poster: I think I know how to take care of myself dad!
« Last Edit: March 29, 2014, 12:32:23 AM by johnintaiwan »

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #331 on: March 29, 2014, 12:24:21 AM »
Poster: Feels good to be a lottery winner, and I didn't even have to enter! $10,000 will get me a car and pay off my fines to get my license back.

Posters Dad: Be careful. Make sure you don't need to give them any banking details or pay any fees first.

Poster: I think I know how to take of myself dad!

He thinks.
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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #332 on: March 29, 2014, 12:40:39 PM »
My cousin is graduated from a private university with her art degree.  Apparently people really do pay thousands and thousands of dollars to "study" art - who knew?!  Well now she's set up a $5,000 fundraiser through gofundme.com for her trip to Italy ... to study art some more.  I guess art isn't paying the bills?



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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #333 on: March 29, 2014, 02:33:53 PM »
Poster: Feels good to be a lottery winner, and I didn't even have to enter! $10,000 will get me a car and pay off my fines to get my license back.

Posters Dad: Be careful. Make sure you don't need to give them any banking details or pay any fees first.

Poster: I think I know how to take of myself dad!

He thinks.

Can you imagine being the father?  Kid must be a terrible disappointment...

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #334 on: March 30, 2014, 10:44:03 AM »
One of the multi-level marketing types on my Facebook is now doing a 30-day cleanse and fat burning program. Sadly, that doesn't mean eating well and lifting, it means smoothies and packets of soup, etc. She's really been hyping how great it is and how good she feels (and the fact that it includes "healthy chocolate"), so I figured it was something she could get a referral for. I looked it up and the company does indeed have reps, and the 30-day program costs US$375, which is a bit over CA$400 depending on the day and who does the conversion, and there's probably shipping, handling and duties on that too. All for powdered smoothies and soup... Whenever I feel bad about how long I've spent in school and the fact that I'm a broke grad student with a low rate of savings, I'll just remember this, and then I won't feel so bad.
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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #335 on: March 30, 2014, 01:17:53 PM »
I can't wait to see how this one turns out:

Yes.  Please keep us posted.   

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #336 on: March 30, 2014, 01:42:49 PM »
I can't wait to see how this one turns out:

(paraphrased)
(poster was just complaining about getting his wages garnished for some court/rehab related issues)

Poster: Feels good to be a lottery winner, and I didn't even have to enter! $10,000 will get me a car and pay off my fines to get my license back.

Posters Dad: Be careful. Make sure you don't need to give them any banking details or pay any fees first.

Poster: I think I know how to take care of myself dad!

Not overheard on Facebook, but a similar type of thing:
My spouse is a librarian, and people often come into the library to use the computers, and they also depend on the librarians for technical support on how to use email, Microsoft Suite, etc.  One day an elderly man came in and wanted help with his email.  It turned out he was being scammed via email in one of those email scams (can't remember which one it was).  No matter how much she tried to convince him that this was a scam, he wouldn't believe her and was all set to send his banking information to the scammers.  Really, really sad.  :-(
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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #337 on: April 02, 2014, 08:36:59 PM »
I can't wait to see how this one turns out:

(paraphrased)
(poster was just complaining about getting his wages garnished for some court/rehab related issues)

Poster: Feels good to be a lottery winner, and I didn't even have to enter! $10,000 will get me a car and pay off my fines to get my license back.

Posters Dad: Be careful. Make sure you don't need to give them any banking details or pay any fees first.

Poster: I think I know how to take care of myself dad!

It must have worked out. I saw the pics of the new car on FB. Bought a used lexus. Think it was cash.

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #338 on: April 03, 2014, 10:44:34 AM »
I can't wait to see how this one turns out:

(paraphrased)
(poster was just complaining about getting his wages garnished for some court/rehab related issues)

Poster: Feels good to be a lottery winner, and I didn't even have to enter! $10,000 will get me a car and pay off my fines to get my license back.

Posters Dad: Be careful. Make sure you don't need to give them any banking details or pay any fees first.

Poster: I think I know how to take care of myself dad!

Not overheard on Facebook, but a similar type of thing:
My spouse is a librarian, and people often come into the library to use the computers, and they also depend on the librarians for technical support on how to use email, Microsoft Suite, etc.  One day an elderly man came in and wanted help with his email.  It turned out he was being scammed via email in one of those email scams (can't remember which one it was).  No matter how much she tried to convince him that this was a scam, he wouldn't believe her and was all set to send his banking information to the scammers.  Really, really sad.  :-(

Oh man, this reminds me of one time my dad got scammed.  He called me saying he needed my help scanning a Western Union confirmation to send to this guy.  I was like... uh that sounds like a scam.  It was too late though, he was out around $100.  I told him he was lucky it was only $100 -- not too bad for a life lesson (it's not enough to impact his finances).

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #339 on: April 04, 2014, 01:55:56 PM »
I can't wait to see how this one turns out:

(paraphrased)
(poster was just complaining about getting his wages garnished for some court/rehab related issues)

Poster: Feels good to be a lottery winner, and I didn't even have to enter! $10,000 will get me a car and pay off my fines to get my license back.

Posters Dad: Be careful. Make sure you don't need to give them any banking details or pay any fees first.

Poster: I think I know how to take care of myself dad!

Not overheard on Facebook, but a similar type of thing:
My spouse is a librarian, and people often come into the library to use the computers, and they also depend on the librarians for technical support on how to use email, Microsoft Suite, etc.  One day an elderly man came in and wanted help with his email.  It turned out he was being scammed via email in one of those email scams (can't remember which one it was).  No matter how much she tried to convince him that this was a scam, he wouldn't believe her and was all set to send his banking information to the scammers.  Really, really sad.  :-(

Oh man, this reminds me of one time my dad got scammed.  He called me saying he needed my help scanning a Western Union confirmation to send to this guy.  I was like... uh that sounds like a scam.  It was too late though, he was out around $100.  I told him he was lucky it was only $100 -- not too bad for a life lesson (it's not enough to impact his finances).

We had to send a $300 deposit to Peru via Western Union to book a trek we're doing. The Western Union people must have asked us at least 5 times if we were sure it wasn't a scam. I sure hope it wasn't!!

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #340 on: April 04, 2014, 02:18:53 PM »
We had to send a $300 deposit to Peru via Western Union to book a trek we're doing. The Western Union people must have asked us at least 5 times if we were sure it wasn't a scam. I sure hope it wasn't!!

This is the strangest dynamic I can think of.  Is there another job in existence where the employees attempt to talk you out of using their services multiple times before letting you proceed?  I understand why, but it's still really strange.
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« Reply #341 on: April 04, 2014, 02:22:03 PM »
This is the strangest dynamic I can think of.  Is there another job in existence where the employees attempt to talk you out of using their services multiple times before letting you proceed?  I understand why, but it's still really strange.
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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #342 on: April 06, 2014, 10:39:53 PM »
That escalated quickly.

To get us back on a lighter note, I'm pleased to report some good news.  A distant acquaintance on facebook was looking for advice on where to invest her 401k rollover and a number of us were able to convince her to go with Vanguard.

I mean, we didn't really influence things.  Because what she was looking for was to invest in mutual funds as cheaply as possible.  So the battle was already won.

But I was near the battlefield, dammit.

Near.

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #343 on: April 07, 2014, 09:21:36 PM »
I'm paraphrasing this status:

"Yay! We're going overseas to get married! None of you are invited, cos it's overseas.  Donations for the wedding are gratefully received"  (bank account details included).
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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #344 on: April 08, 2014, 07:40:26 AM »
I'm paraphrasing this status:

"Yay! We're going overseas to get married! None of you are invited, cos it's overseas.  Donations for the wedding are gratefully received"  (bank account details included).

My jaw would drop, but I've sadly discovered that weddings bring out the money beast in a way nothing else does and people forget common courtesy.

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #345 on: April 08, 2014, 08:08:57 AM »
I'm paraphrasing this status:

"Yay! We're going overseas to get married! None of you are invited, cos it's overseas.  Donations for the wedding are gratefully received"  (bank account details included).

My jaw would drop, but I've sadly discovered that weddings bring out the money beast in a way nothing else does and people forget common courtesy.

Yeah.  We were stunned when we got my brother's wedding invitation, and it listed where they were registered, and said in lieu of that, they'd accept donations for their home renovations (for the $600K house they'd just paid cash for, while they were on a multi-month vacation after a cashing in on a company buy-out) such as their pool cabana.  I'm actually getting pissed again just thinking about it.  They got the privilege of our showing up and drinking all their drinx.

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Re: Overheard on Facebook
« Reply #346 on: April 08, 2014, 08:30:11 AM »
I'm paraphrasing this status:

"Yay! We're going overseas to get married! None of you are invited, cos it's overseas.  Donations for the wedding are gratefully received"  (bank account details included).

I dunno- not being invited would mean that they weren't expecting you to shell out thousands to go to the wedding either in ADDITION to being expected to give them a gift or donation. DW is still mildly pissed at her brother & sister-in-law for their 'dream' destination wedding that she had to shell out a lot of money she didn't have to be a part of.

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« Reply #347 on: April 08, 2014, 08:47:00 AM »
I'm paraphrasing this status:

"Yay! We're going overseas to get married! None of you are invited, cos it's overseas.  Donations for the wedding are gratefully received"  (bank account details included).

I dunno- not being invited would mean that they weren't expecting you to shell out thousands to go to the wedding either in ADDITION to being expected to give them a gift or donation. DW is still mildly pissed at her brother & sister-in-law for their 'dream' destination wedding that she had to shell out a lot of money she didn't have to be a part of.

Etiquette gurus say you 1) don't ask for money (by giving registry details or worse, providing a cute poem to ask for cold cash), 2) definitely don't from someone you're not inviting to the wedding, and 3) don't need to *tell* people they aren't invited.  That is why it's poor form to invite someone to a shower but not the wedding.  (Although the true gurus note that the shower is spontaneously thrown by friends, and not the bride's family as is so often done these days, so that might happen if they don't know the guest list, and this never used to be a problem in the days when the wedding was simple at church with a cake reception following and everyone was invited.) 

Other very common wedding etiquette errors related to money: honeyfund alluded to above, money dance (commonly done by some cultures and in those, might be viewed differently as not an error), Jack and Jill party (paying for your wedding by asking your friends and family to attend a fundraiser party, same as the other), favors of a gift to charity in the guests honor, cash bar (despite the fact that most people would prefer this to no alcohol at a wedding), insufficient food/seats at a wedding to save money, asking family (parents, grandparents) to pay for the wedding, etc.  There are some pretty bad stories out there, as I know from my time on a wedding board when planning my own wedding.  Basically, the cardinal rule is one most mustachians would appreciate: Host the wedding you can afford and don't ask for others to pay for it.

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« Reply #348 on: April 08, 2014, 08:49:38 AM »
Basically, the cardinal rule is one most mustachians would appreciate: Host the wedding you can afford and don't ask for others to pay for it.

well put.

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« Reply #349 on: April 08, 2014, 12:52:44 PM »
I'm paraphrasing this status:

"Yay! We're going overseas to get married! None of you are invited, cos it's overseas.  Donations for the wedding are gratefully received"  (bank account details included).

I dunno- not being invited would mean that they weren't expecting you to shell out thousands to go to the wedding either in ADDITION to being expected to give them a gift or donation. DW is still mildly pissed at her brother & sister-in-law for their 'dream' destination wedding that she had to shell out a lot of money she didn't have to be a part of.

Etiquette gurus say you 1) don't ask for money (by giving registry details or worse, providing a cute poem to ask for cold cash), 2) definitely don't from someone you're not inviting to the wedding, and 3) don't need to *tell* people they aren't invited.  That is why it's poor form to invite someone to a shower but not the wedding.  (Although the true gurus note that the shower is spontaneously thrown by friends, and not the bride's family as is so often done these days, so that might happen if they don't know the guest list, and this never used to be a problem in the days when the wedding was simple at church with a cake reception following and everyone was invited.) 

Other very common wedding etiquette errors related to money: favors of a gift to charity in the guests honor.  Basically, the cardinal rule is one most mustachians would appreciate: Host the wedding you can afford and don't ask for others to pay for it.

Is it really a problem to donate to charity in the guests' names?  You are giving the wedding that you can afford.  You are also making a statement about your beliefs/commitments.  Should you really have to include some candied almonds or bubbles?