Actually, I think parents who try to force their kids into a certain career or sabotage their children from going into another direction is controlling, no matter what they are trying to force on the kids. Removing options because the parents don't like them is controlling. Let's take SAH vs working off the table for a sec. If your child was good at math, but he or she kept being told his or her gender was not good at that or that he or she should work on english because that is where his/her talents should lie. Why would you think that was ok?
Oooooh -- This sound surprisingly like the thread asking if it was Okay for parents to agree to pay for college only if their kids "chose wisely"... e.g., STEM programs,, Accounting, or Medicine.
I find parents that restrict their kids via college funding to be equally or more limiting than anything dealing with traditional gender roles, simply because so many people in society (Gin1984
)loudly demonstrate / speak up against gender role typing. By the time the kid is 15, they know that Mom and Dad's traditional views are not the only way to look at the world.
Even so, the college funding discussion was split among the MMM respondents -- should parents push kids (using money as carrot / stick) into certain educational and career choices? Is it OK to ever limit a child's options
....Maybe we should move this to its own thread, to allow us to mock FB posts again.... Overheard on FB
My FB post was a friend who recently moved, 800km to cheaper city, as they were out of cc and equity room, and needed to get equity and borrowing capacity again. They have been unable to sell the old home, so is carrying both, with Dad staying in it, while he works to manage it. Yikes.
The FB problem is the "new to them" truck they just bought and posted to FB, so Dad has wheels in the old city (Mom had kids and car at new place).
They only were able to purchase the truck because they know that there will be an inheritance from Great Aunty who was in her final days at the hospital at the time of the truck purchase. (They recently sold a smaller property to get a tiny amount of equity room for emergencies, but have now quickly written a loan against it, until the inheritance comes, I am guessing)
The FB punch is not about the way the treated Great Aunty -- FB friend was the only one around in her final dementia years, visiting weekly or more at the care facility -- but the way they separate out money in their heads from real life -- and spend it before
they get it.
They have huge debts and have already assumed (banked on) a realized value for their future home sale, which has been sitting on the market for several months now, needing mortgage payments, not to mention travel of 800km so dad can see kids and wife once a month.