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Re: Do any of your parents hoard and try to give you crap and other dumb stuff?
« Reply #400 on: December 05, 2018, 04:49:29 PM »
Just got a new one from my in-law: A bag full (full!!) of old matchbooks. 

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Re: Do any of your parents hoard and try to give you crap and other dumb stuff?
« Reply #401 on: December 05, 2018, 04:56:35 PM »
I noticed on Etsy that people are painting antiques and selling them so maybe they will used in this new way by younger people.

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Re: Do any of your parents hoard and try to give you crap and other dumb stuff?
« Reply #402 on: December 05, 2018, 09:03:24 PM »
Just got a new one from my in-law: A bag full (full!!) of old matchbooks.

Hahaha. *sobs*

I received a swag flashlight from the 90s that doesn't work and a mobile power bank that would've been helpful in 2005 (it's pre-USB and very under-powered).

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Re: Do any of your parents hoard and try to give you crap and other dumb stuff?
« Reply #403 on: December 06, 2018, 10:33:11 AM »
My parents are hoarders (not Hoarder the show level hoarders), but they can't seem to downsize. My mom has a serious clothes problem (Goodwill is her friend) and the extra bedrooms that the kids lived in are now closets. She also has an earring buying problem and probably has thousands I think.

My dad has serious garage hoarding and can't get rid of anything out in his garage. They don't give me stuff right now, but what they will give me and my siblings is all of their stuff upon death. I quake at just the thought of going through all of it. Maybe I could just set the house afire? I look at it all and see months and months of work. Some of the stuff is worth something.

My mom also hoards clothes from Goodwill. Piles and piles, 3 feet high, spread out over multiple bedrooms.

As the closest child, and the one with lots of free time, it'll be up to me to clear it. I'm thinking a dumpster (or two) dropped off in the driveway is the way to go. I'll hire some day laborers and they can wheelbarrow it out.

When I was visiting this past week, all I could think of was how many thousands and thousands of dollars and wasted resources are sitting in piles, unused and forgotten.

Such a terrible illness! and such a waste!  Could you find some charitable groups who would be willing to take the clothes?  For instance, groups for the homeless and refugees are always glad for winter coats and warm clothes; women's shelters often collect professional clothes for job interviews. In my hometown we do big collections a couple times a season; sounds like you could supply an entire collection in one fell swoop!

How about doing a cursory go-through to take anything of value for yourself first. Then putting a giant Craigslist ad in the Free Stuff section, and opening the doors. Stuff will grow legs and walk away like you wouldn't believe. People will clear the house out like locusts on a ripe crop.

And you won't have to sort or cull, or take to Goodwill, or manage any of it. Seriously, it's fabulous (I've done it!).

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Re: Do any of your parents hoard and try to give you crap and other dumb stuff?
« Reply #404 on: December 06, 2018, 09:00:08 PM »
My parents are hoarders (not Hoarder the show level hoarders), but they can't seem to downsize. My mom has a serious clothes problem (Goodwill is her friend) and the extra bedrooms that the kids lived in are now closets. She also has an earring buying problem and probably has thousands I think.

My dad has serious garage hoarding and can't get rid of anything out in his garage. They don't give me stuff right now, but what they will give me and my siblings is all of their stuff upon death. I quake at just the thought of going through all of it. Maybe I could just set the house afire? I look at it all and see months and months of work. Some of the stuff is worth something.

My mom also hoards clothes from Goodwill. Piles and piles, 3 feet high, spread out over multiple bedrooms.

As the closest child, and the one with lots of free time, it'll be up to me to clear it. I'm thinking a dumpster (or two) dropped off in the driveway is the way to go. I'll hire some day laborers and they can wheelbarrow it out.

When I was visiting this past week, all I could think of was how many thousands and thousands of dollars and wasted resources are sitting in piles, unused and forgotten.

Such a terrible illness! and such a waste!  Could you find some charitable groups who would be willing to take the clothes?  For instance, groups for the homeless and refugees are always glad for winter coats and warm clothes; women's shelters often collect professional clothes for job interviews. In my hometown we do big collections a couple times a season; sounds like you could supply an entire collection in one fell swoop!

How about doing a cursory go-through to take anything of value for yourself first. Then putting a giant Craigslist ad in the Free Stuff section, and opening the doors. Stuff will grow legs and walk away like you wouldn't believe. People will clear the house out like locusts on a ripe crop.

Around here, this would be a great way to lose all the copper wiring in the walls, plus the heat pump or furnace, plus the hot water heater and any copper pipes.

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Re: Do any of your parents hoard and try to give you crap and other dumb stuff?
« Reply #405 on: December 07, 2018, 07:20:31 AM »
Post "guards" at front and rear doors?

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Re: Do any of your parents hoard and try to give you crap and other dumb stuff?
« Reply #406 on: December 10, 2018, 07:56:07 AM »
goodwill is a scam bc they are a for-profit operation

we found a grass roots org around here and let's ppl with needs come straight to the warehouse and take stuff away for free

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Re: Do any of your parents hoard and try to give you crap and other dumb stuff?
« Reply #407 on: December 10, 2018, 08:25:30 AM »
My parents are hoarders (not Hoarder the show level hoarders), but they can't seem to downsize. My mom has a serious clothes problem (Goodwill is her friend) and the extra bedrooms that the kids lived in are now closets. She also has an earring buying problem and probably has thousands I think.

My dad has serious garage hoarding and can't get rid of anything out in his garage. They don't give me stuff right now, but what they will give me and my siblings is all of their stuff upon death. I quake at just the thought of going through all of it. Maybe I could just set the house afire? I look at it all and see months and months of work. Some of the stuff is worth something.

My mom also hoards clothes from Goodwill. Piles and piles, 3 feet high, spread out over multiple bedrooms.

As the closest child, and the one with lots of free time, it'll be up to me to clear it. I'm thinking a dumpster (or two) dropped off in the driveway is the way to go. I'll hire some day laborers and they can wheelbarrow it out.

When I was visiting this past week, all I could think of was how many thousands and thousands of dollars and wasted resources are sitting in piles, unused and forgotten.

Such a terrible illness! and such a waste!  Could you find some charitable groups who would be willing to take the clothes?  For instance, groups for the homeless and refugees are always glad for winter coats and warm clothes; women's shelters often collect professional clothes for job interviews. In my hometown we do big collections a couple times a season; sounds like you could supply an entire collection in one fell swoop!

How about doing a cursory go-through to take anything of value for yourself first. Then putting a giant Craigslist ad in the Free Stuff section, and opening the doors. Stuff will grow legs and walk away like you wouldn't believe. People will clear the house out like locusts on a ripe crop.

Around here, this would be a great way to lose all the copper wiring in the walls, plus the heat pump or furnace, plus the hot water heater and any copper pipes.

If you are going to empty out a house anyway, you could first have the laborers put the stuff out into the garage or driveway before it hits the dumpster. Tell people on Craigslist that they can come by between  certain hours to take stuff away, like a free tag sale, and let them know that any uncourteous behavior will result in an uninvitation to be on your property.  That way nobody will be entering the house, but you will have less waste and pay fewer disposal fees.  Who knows, you could even have people pay you some early bird fees to be allowed to come and take away as much as they can carry in an hour

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Re: Do any of your parents hoard and try to give you crap and other dumb stuff?
« Reply #408 on: December 10, 2018, 09:54:56 AM »
goodwill is a scam bc they are a for-profit operation

we found a grass roots org around here and let's ppl with needs come straight to the warehouse and take stuff away for free

I donít understand the Goodwill hate. They take my old stuff so it doesnít end up in a landfill.  That is what I want from them.  I am not donating to charity!  Iím getting rid of stuff!

Iím aware of what they sell it for because I can see the prices.  I think they are supposed to offer job training to people ó maybe that isnít true? I use for-profit companies for everything else in my life, I donít understand why this instance would villainize the company.  At least they arenít mass-producing consumerist crap like a lot of other companies.

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Re: Do any of your parents hoard and try to give you crap and other dumb stuff?
« Reply #409 on: December 10, 2018, 10:15:26 AM »
Garage sale the first weekend, everything is free the second weekend. Sell it from the driveway, have a pickup truck ready to carry off the remains to a charity at the end of the day.

We skip the garage sale. Just go straight to charity. I just don't have the time and energy to set up a garage sale...

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Re: Do any of your parents hoard and try to give you crap and other dumb stuff?
« Reply #410 on: December 10, 2018, 11:20:01 AM »
In my profession we worked closely with goodwill for years. How helpful they are depends on who runs them. For years they hired our people with  disabilities who couldnít hold jobs in a competitive setting.  They made money by selling the donations.   Then management changed and they fired everyone that had a disability. Locally I wonít donate to them. Many programs like the Salvation Army give people recovering from addiction a place to live and feed them. In return they work in their thrift stores or are kettle ringers at Xmas.  They refer clients to agencies that help them find employment.   They make money selling donations and asking for monetary donations also.