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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #17550 on: May 04, 2017, 12:25:26 PM »
Guy at work who lives in Arizona, said his electric bill over the summer is $600 a month because his kids are home all day. I know it's hot there but still...no outdoor activities? Hanging out at their pool all day? Summer camp?

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #17551 on: May 04, 2017, 12:33:36 PM »
Guy at work who lives in Arizona, said his electric bill over the summer is $600 a month because his kids are home all day. I know it's hot there but still...no outdoor activities? Hanging out at their pool all day? Summer camp?

When we lived in Arizona our electric bill was never over ~$200, and was usually much less during the summer. And we didn't even turn up the thermostat when we were at work during the day...

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« Reply #17552 on: May 04, 2017, 12:44:34 PM »
Maybe they have a *chilled* pool! :P

(FWIW, chilled pools *are* a thing.  On a business trip to Qatar, I saw a hotel or high rise that advertised its chilled pool.  Yes, it gets hot/humid enough  (120 degrees, 90% humidity) there that you actually need to cool your pool down)

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« Reply #17553 on: May 04, 2017, 12:53:33 PM »
Maybe they have a *chilled* pool! :P

(FWIW, chilled pools *are* a thing.  On a business trip to Qatar, I saw a hotel or high rise that advertised its chilled pool.  Yes, it gets hot/humid enough  (120 degrees, 90% humidity) there that you actually need to cool your pool down)

Could you use the excess heat in the pool to generate electricity, cooling it down in the process?

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« Reply #17554 on: May 04, 2017, 01:19:56 PM »
Maybe they have a *chilled* pool! :P

(FWIW, chilled pools *are* a thing.  On a business trip to Qatar, I saw a hotel or high rise that advertised its chilled pool.  Yes, it gets hot/humid enough  (120 degrees, 90% humidity) there that you actually need to cool your pool down)

Could you use the excess heat in the pool to generate electricity, cooling it down in the process?
Only if you have some large, cool mass to transfer the heat into

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #17555 on: May 04, 2017, 01:26:10 PM »
Maybe they have a *chilled* pool! :P

(FWIW, chilled pools *are* a thing.  On a business trip to Qatar, I saw a hotel or high rise that advertised its chilled pool.  Yes, it gets hot/humid enough  (120 degrees, 90% humidity) there that you actually need to cool your pool down)

Could you use the excess heat in the pool to generate electricity, cooling it down in the process?
Only if you have some large, cool mass to transfer the heat into

What kind of loser only has one pool? Obviously you cool the outdoor pool by transferring the heat into the indoor pool, which you cool in turn with the house's air conditioning. Duh.

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #17556 on: May 04, 2017, 01:39:59 PM »
That likely was not an "Import Tax" but the VAT, which is 24% in Finland.
Of course if you import things then that VAT is applied as import tax, because you can't put a VAT on imports. Legal nitpicking.

Oh, didn't know that Finland had a lower VAT.  In the rest of Scandinavia, it's 25% for most items. ;)

But for many cars, theres also additional taxes, which can be crazy high in e.g. Denmark and Norway.  Trust me, you don't want to know how high.  You might blow a fuse. 

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #17557 on: May 04, 2017, 03:37:30 PM »
What kind of loser only has one pool? Obviously you cool the outdoor pool by transferring the heat into the indoor pool, which you cool in turn with the house's air conditioning. Duh.

No, no, no... What you do is leave the patio doors open so that the a/c spills out and cools the patio area which is outside and hot... ;)

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« Reply #17558 on: May 05, 2017, 12:47:25 AM »
What kind of loser only has one pool? Obviously you cool the outdoor pool by transferring the heat into the indoor pool, which you cool in turn with the house's air conditioning. Duh.

No, no, no... What you do is leave the patio doors open so that the a/c spills out and cools the patio area which is outside and hot... ;)

Dubai has air-conditioned bus shelters. They already air-condition outside.

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« Reply #17559 on: May 05, 2017, 09:58:44 AM »
What kind of loser only has one pool? Obviously you cool the outdoor pool by transferring the heat into the indoor pool, which you cool in turn with the house's air conditioning. Duh.

No, no, no... What you do is leave the patio doors open so that the a/c spills out and cools the patio area which is outside and hot... ;)

Dubai has air-conditioned bus shelters. They already air-condition outside.

Here in MN we have some bus stops that you push a button to turn on a heater in the wintertime - so I guess it's not that different

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #17560 on: May 05, 2017, 10:03:19 AM »
It boggles my mind that people choose to live (or continue living) in places like that where the weather is so inhospitable that you can't even wait at a bus shelter without risking heat stroke or frost bite. I'll take my high cost of housing with my perfect weather over that nonsense any day of the week.
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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #17561 on: May 05, 2017, 10:41:18 AM »
Here is one more for you.

Remember I was telling about my 66 year old colleague with a car loan? Well, we had a nice chat and turned out that he actually wants (!) to retire! To my question why was he still working, he answered that he actually applied for Social Security and started receiving a check but sends it in full to pay off his "debts". Obviously he has more than car loan to pay off. I was actually surprised that you can continue working, receiving salary and start receiving social security. Interesting..

Another colleague just turned 65 and plans to retire in a month! I congratulated her and told "Freedom!!" )). In reply she was not that enthusiastic. I questioned that and she told that she would need to continue working at least part time to avoid poverty. Me - ??? She told that she was eligible for social security and had Pension Plan from our employer. I suggested that her 401K plan would be very useful to avoid working. She told that she did not have one!! "I made bad choices earlier in my life. O well.." - was her reply. Amazing!

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #17562 on: May 05, 2017, 10:51:47 AM »
Here is one more for you.

Remember I was telling about my 66 year old colleague with a car loan? Well, we had a nice chat and turned out that he actually wants (!) to retire! To my question why was he still working, he answered that he actually applied for Social Security and started receiving a check but sends it in full to pay off his "debts". Obviously he has more than car loan to pay off. I was actually surprised that you can continue working, receiving salary and start receiving social security. Interesting..

Another colleague just turned 65 and plans to retire in a month! I congratulated her and told "Freedom!!" )). In reply she was not that enthusiastic. I questioned that and she told that she would need to continue working at least part time to avoid poverty. Me - ??? She told that she was eligible for social security and had Pension Plan from our employer. I suggested that her 401K plan would be very useful to avoid working. She told that she did not have one!! "I made bad choices earlier in my life. O well.." - was her reply. Amazing!

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #17563 on: May 05, 2017, 10:52:43 AM »
It boggles my mind that people choose to live (or continue living) in places like that where the weather is so inhospitable that you can't even wait at a bus shelter without risking heat stroke or frost bite. I'll take my high cost of housing with my perfect weather over that nonsense any day of the week.

Haha that's fair. I don't mind cold because it's extremely easy to just put on a layer or two. Can't stand the heat though because you can only take off so many clothes.

I also can't imagine living without seasons my entire life - I "followed the summer" for a year by switching hemispheres traveling around the world and it was fun, but I learned I enjoy having different seasons

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #17564 on: May 05, 2017, 11:20:46 AM »
It boggles my mind that people choose to live (or continue living) in places like that where the weather is so inhospitable that you can't even wait at a bus shelter without risking heat stroke or frost bite. I'll take my high cost of housing with my perfect weather over that nonsense any day of the week.

It's not like it's "inhospitable" all (or even most) of the time in any of these places.  Pshh, I biked in the winter; I see how inhospitable that was - everyone thought I was crazy.  But, last I checked, I still have all of my fingers, toes, etc.

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #17565 on: May 05, 2017, 11:47:46 AM »
It boggles my mind that people choose to live (or continue living) in places like that where the weather is so inhospitable that you can't even wait at a bus shelter without risking heat stroke or frost bite. I'll take my high cost of housing with my perfect weather over that nonsense any day of the week.

On the flip side, the weather here, while always nice, is never exciting.  I miss things like a hot summer day suddenly dropping 20 degrees and knowing a killer thunderstorm is coming that's going to rattle the dishes in the cabinets.  Or 2 feet of beautiful fresh snowfall covering everything.
 And the change of seasons help create a feeling of the passage of time.  Time passes by quicker here, I've noticed, because it's always the same.  I can never complain about the weather in the bay area, but it's definitely not 'perfect' for everyone.

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #17566 on: May 05, 2017, 01:49:32 PM »
It boggles my mind that people choose to live (or continue living) in places like that where the weather is so inhospitable that you can't even wait at a bus shelter without risking heat stroke or frost bite. I'll take my high cost of housing with my perfect weather over that nonsense any day of the week.

Um... we have heaters in the shelters for the commuter train into Toronto.  But I wouldn't say that it's inhospitable to live here. That's harsh.

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #17567 on: May 05, 2017, 02:07:46 PM »
It boggles my mind that people choose to live (or continue living) in places like that where the weather is so inhospitable that you can't even wait at a bus shelter without risking heat stroke or frost bite. I'll take my high cost of housing with my perfect weather over that nonsense any day of the week.

On the flip side, the weather here, while always nice, is never exciting.  I miss things like a hot summer day suddenly dropping 20 degrees and knowing a killer thunderstorm is coming that's going to rattle the dishes in the cabinets.  Or 2 feet of beautiful fresh snowfall covering everything.
 And the change of seasons help create a feeling of the passage of time.  Time passes by quicker here, I've noticed, because it's always the same.  I can never complain about the weather in the bay area, but it's definitely not 'perfect' for everyone.

It's hard to appreciate good weather without bad weather.  I've always lived somewhere with seasons, and so I've always had the excitement of a warm spring day, enjoyed the ritual of getting the lawn mower out and putting the snowblower away, looked forward to the first top down drive, savored that one or two nice days in late February that you know won't last, etc.  Similarly, there's the bittersweet crisp fall days that show a let-up of the summer heat, the beauty of the foliage, the bundling up in sweaters and sweatshirts after a summer of shorts and tshirts.  There are activities that feel 'wrong' in the warmth, like sitting in the stands watching football or raking leaves or drinking a bourbon by a fire.  Yeah, by the time March rolls around winter sucks, but that doesn't mean the first real snowfall in December or January isn't beautiful and fun to play around in with the kids.  I fantasize about living in San Diego or Hawaii, but I know I'd miss real seasons. 
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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #17568 on: May 05, 2017, 02:46:24 PM »
It boggles my mind that people choose to live (or continue living) in places like that where the weather is so inhospitable that you can't even wait at a bus shelter without risking heat stroke or frost bite. I'll take my high cost of housing with my perfect weather over that nonsense any day of the week.

Um... we have heaters in the shelters for the commuter train into Toronto.  But I wouldn't say that it's inhospitable to live here. That's harsh.


Ours have heat lamps. And hopefully your stop has a shelter.


I've lived though 2 very nasty Chicago winters, 1 mild one, and two that can only be described as WTF. All things considered, I'll take the nasty ones. And this is from somebody from New Mexico who is pretty sensitive to cold. And I'll take the cold over the humidity any day of the week.
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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #17569 on: May 05, 2017, 04:29:17 PM »
Like many things in life, I imagine a lot of what we prefer is related to what we grew up with and what we are used to. I spent a winter living in the Denver area and a year in France, both places admittedly have relatively wild weather, but still harsher than what I grew up with. As a kid I would read about snow and thought it sounded so fun and romantic. I completely agree that heat sucks because you can only take off so many clothes and if you are still hot, all you can do is suffer. If you have the right clothes, cold can be okay, as long as you don't have to shovel or scrape or drive.

I travel regularly though not frequent for work across the US. I have only ever been on one trip where I wasn't immensely grateful to be back home again after, and that was this lovely boondoggle trip to the San Juan islands. :) I certainly hear people appreciate four seasons and more power to you. It is way more important to me to never have to think about what measures I have to take to mentally and physically steel myself to fight the uncomfortable elements. The older I get the greater a source of joy that is for me. Again, to each their own.
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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #17570 on: May 05, 2017, 04:57:50 PM »
I fantasize about living in San Diego or Hawaii, but I know I'd miss real seasons.

We have seasons in San Diego!
- Fish Taco season
- Carne Asada season
- Guacamole season
- Craft Beer season

If it's weather you're after, it changes too! We have nice, nicer, and excellent weather.

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #17571 on: May 05, 2017, 10:58:52 PM »
It's extremely frustrating, but it seems like the cycle is being set up to repeat itself:
I have a beautiful young lady on my team at work.  She would be about 22 yrs old, earns about $40K/year...

Her master plan is to find a high earning young man to look after her.   It makes me sad.  She is bright and could easily be a self sufficient young woman.   

I feel like that many times leads to what was mentioned earlier in this thread:

...The coworker had just divorced her husband who, as a head of a hospital wing, was bringing in over half a million dollars a year... So they divorced, the judge didn't award alimony, and she had to go back to work after many years of staying at home.  She landed in my group, earning less than one tenth of what her ex used to bring home. 
...boy, dealing with a fallen socialite is something I will not miss.

Hopefully you can influence her onto the path of self sufficiency! FWIW, I'm a male engineer and some of the brightest people I know are independent female engineers that work at my company.

I feel like female engineers have much more drive than their male counterparts in most cases.  They are out to prove they can hack it in what is traditionally male dominated.  My wife is one and she has issues with RE b/c of the drive to prove she can do it all ... many others i run into are quite similar.  - more so in the millenial generation than previous generations as well.  maybe its not true everywhere but alot of the older been around the block female engineers i run into are space taker uppers b/c they know they are satisfying a diversification spot just being there.

Reminds me of a "small talk" conversation with a male boss from another office recently.  I'm not an engineer but am in a Male dominated industry.  He mentioned that he notices we women seemed to really say what we mean.  Umm myself and the other woman he was talking about are "senior" (have been in the industry for 10+ years) I'm not sure when it happens but after having to continually prove ourselves sometime between 5-15 years in you develop a case of the "I don't give a fucks" with a lot of office politics/small talk.

ETA:  early on in my career I had a boss tell me I should modify the way I talk, "stop talking like a girl" because guys don't want to deal with their wives at work.  I didn't report him because he honestly thought that he was giving me solid career advise.  It was hard to take him seriously after that.

In fairness it's also hard to take a person seriously if they're trying to communicate in baby talk using words like "tummy", "brekkie" and "vacay". It's even worse when they're making their voices artificially high and infantile, and ending? each phrase? with a rising inflection? as though they're asking a question? in an obvious attempt to act insignificant, nonthreatening, and therefore incompetent. I have yet to meet a person who identifies as male be that obviously beta.
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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #17572 on: May 06, 2017, 02:35:53 AM »
Coworker who makes about 85K/year. Recently sold her duplex which was only a couple miles from work because she was getting married and going to start a family (her unit was a 2 bed/2 bath, probably 1100 sf). Bought a 400K+ "dream house" in the countryside with space for her two horses to live in the backyard (or whatever you call your backyard when it has horses living in it).

"We'll be making a monthly payment to the hospital for, like, the rest of our lives. No, seriously. For like the next 50 years. It's an $80K bill."

This bill is for anti venom for a snake bite that her now husband incurred at their OLD, awesome duplex house, before they got married, when he didn't have health insurance. And they STILL bought the far-away, big dream house. Bummer.


I got bit by a snake while in my backyard.  Anti-venom bill for that was 160k   Total bill was 180k.  Thank God I had insurance from a previous job where they offered severance and benefit continuation, along with the insurance at my new job.  I didn't pay a nickel

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #17573 on: May 06, 2017, 03:00:46 AM »
Coworker who makes about 85K/year. Recently sold her duplex which was only a couple miles from work because she was getting married and going to start a family (her unit was a 2 bed/2 bath, probably 1100 sf). Bought a 400K+ "dream house" in the countryside with space for her two horses to live in the backyard (or whatever you call your backyard when it has horses living in it).

"We'll be making a monthly payment to the hospital for, like, the rest of our lives. No, seriously. For like the next 50 years. It's an $80K bill."

This bill is for anti venom for a snake bite that her now husband incurred at their OLD, awesome duplex house, before they got married, when he didn't have health insurance. And they STILL bought the far-away, big dream house. Bummer.

I got bit by a snake while in my backyard.  Anti-venom bill for that was 160k   Total bill was 180k.  Thank God I had insurance from a previous job where they offered severance and benefit continuation, along with the insurance at my new job.  I didn't pay a nickel
Holy crap! I had no idea antivenom was that expensive! I wasn't scared of snakes before, but I might consider it now.
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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #17574 on: May 06, 2017, 07:44:05 AM »
There is a side business right there. Raising snakes and collecting venom. (No thanks...)

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #17575 on: May 06, 2017, 08:19:56 AM »
It boggles my mind that people choose to live (or continue living) in places like that where the weather is so inhospitable that you can't even wait at a bus shelter without risking heat stroke or frost bite. I'll take my high cost of housing with my perfect weather over that nonsense any day of the week.

On the flip side, the weather here, while always nice, is never exciting.  I miss things like a hot summer day suddenly dropping 20 degrees and knowing a killer thunderstorm is coming that's going to rattle the dishes in the cabinets.  Or 2 feet of beautiful fresh snowfall covering everything.
 And the change of seasons help create a feeling of the passage of time.  Time passes by quicker here, I've noticed, because it's always the same.  I can never complain about the weather in the bay area, but it's definitely not 'perfect' for everyone.

Shoot, we dropped 40 degrees in 10-12 hours recently.
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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #17576 on: May 06, 2017, 08:33:46 PM »
It boggles my mind that people choose to live (or continue living) in places like that where the weather is so inhospitable that you can't even wait at a bus shelter without risking heat stroke or frost bite. I'll take my high cost of housing with my perfect weather over that nonsense any day of the week.

On the flip side, the weather here, while always nice, is never exciting.  I miss things like a hot summer day suddenly dropping 20 degrees and knowing a killer thunderstorm is coming that's going to rattle the dishes in the cabinets.  Or 2 feet of beautiful fresh snowfall covering everything.
 And the change of seasons help create a feeling of the passage of time.  Time passes by quicker here, I've noticed, because it's always the same.  I can never complain about the weather in the bay area, but it's definitely not 'perfect' for everyone.

Shoot, we dropped 40 degrees in 10-12 hours recently.

This happens all the time in Colorado. 80 degrees one day, snow the next.
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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #17577 on: May 07, 2017, 01:49:52 AM »
In fairness it's also hard to take a person seriously if they're trying to communicate in baby talk using words like "tummy", "brekkie" and "vacay". It's even worse when they're making their voices artificially high and infantile, and ending? each phrase? with a rising inflection? as though they're asking a question? in an obvious attempt to act insignificant, nonthreatening, and therefore incompetent. I have yet to meet a person who identifies as male be that obviously beta.

1. Don't come to Australia. If the garbos get a sore tummy from eating an off avo for brekkie, they might need an ambo.
2. While I don't consider all abbreviations to be baby talk, I'm with you on chronic baby talk and the rising inflection.

http://www.askamanager.org/2013/05/how-to-get-an-employee-to-stop-using-baby-talk-in-the-office.html

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #17578 on: May 07, 2017, 01:51:29 AM »
In fairness it's also hard to take a person seriously if they're trying to communicate in baby talk using words like "tummy", "brekkie" and "vacay". It's even worse when they're making their voices artificially high and infantile, and ending? each phrase? with a rising inflection? as though they're asking a question? in an obvious attempt to act insignificant, nonthreatening, and therefore incompetent. I have yet to meet a person who identifies as male be that obviously beta.

1. Don't come to Australia. If the garbos get a sore tummy from eating an off avo for brekkie, they might need an ambo.
2. While I don't consider all abbreviations to be baby talk, I'm with you on chronic baby talk and the rising inflection.

http://www.askamanager.org/2013/05/how-to-get-an-employee-to-stop-using-baby-talk-in-the-office.html

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #17579 on: May 07, 2017, 06:47:05 AM »
Like many things in life, I imagine a lot of what we prefer is related to what we grew up with and what we are used to. I spent a winter living in the Denver area and a year in France, both places admittedly have relatively wild weather, but still harsher than what I grew up with. As a kid I would read about snow and thought it sounded so fun and romantic. I completely agree that heat sucks because you can only take off so many clothes and if you are still hot, all you can do is suffer. If you have the right clothes, cold can be okay, as long as you don't have to shovel or scrape or drive.

I travel regularly though not frequent for work across the US. I have only ever been on one trip where I wasn't immensely grateful to be back home again after, and that was this lovely boondoggle trip to the San Juan islands. :) I certainly hear people appreciate four seasons and more power to you. It is way more important to me to never have to think about what measures I have to take to mentally and physically steel myself to fight the uncomfortable elements. The older I get the greater a source of joy that is for me. Again, to each their own.

You have major earthquake prep instead.    ;-)
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« Reply #17580 on: May 07, 2017, 01:41:47 PM »
It's extremely frustrating, but it seems like the cycle is being set up to repeat itself:
I have a beautiful young lady on my team at work.  She would be about 22 yrs old, earns about $40K/year...

Her master plan is to find a high earning young man to look after her.   It makes me sad.  She is bright and could easily be a self sufficient young woman.   

I feel like that many times leads to what was mentioned earlier in this thread:

...The coworker had just divorced her husband who, as a head of a hospital wing, was bringing in over half a million dollars a year... So they divorced, the judge didn't award alimony, and she had to go back to work after many years of staying at home.  She landed in my group, earning less than one tenth of what her ex used to bring home. 
...boy, dealing with a fallen socialite is something I will not miss.

Hopefully you can influence her onto the path of self sufficiency! FWIW, I'm a male engineer and some of the brightest people I know are independent female engineers that work at my company.

I feel like female engineers have much more drive than their male counterparts in most cases.  They are out to prove they can hack it in what is traditionally male dominated.  My wife is one and she has issues with RE b/c of the drive to prove she can do it all ... many others i run into are quite similar.  - more so in the millenial generation than previous generations as well.  maybe its not true everywhere but alot of the older been around the block female engineers i run into are space taker uppers b/c they know they are satisfying a diversification spot just being there.

Reminds me of a "small talk" conversation with a male boss from another office recently.  I'm not an engineer but am in a Male dominated industry.  He mentioned that he notices we women seemed to really say what we mean.  Umm myself and the other woman he was talking about are "senior" (have been in the industry for 10+ years) I'm not sure when it happens but after having to continually prove ourselves sometime between 5-15 years in you develop a case of the "I don't give a fucks" with a lot of office politics/small talk.

ETA:  early on in my career I had a boss tell me I should modify the way I talk, "stop talking like a girl" because guys don't want to deal with their wives at work.  I didn't report him because he honestly thought that he was giving me solid career advise.  It was hard to take him seriously after that.

In fairness it's also hard to take a person seriously if they're trying to communicate in baby talk using words like "tummy", "brekkie" and "vacay". It's even worse when they're making their voices artificially high and infantile, and ending? each phrase? with a rising inflection? as though they're asking a question? in an obvious attempt to act insignificant, nonthreatening, and therefore incompetent. I have yet to meet a person who identifies as male be that obviously beta.

I have a (male) coworker who does that (plus the occasional exaggerated lispy voice, e.g. "Thtaaaap ihhht").

Fortunately he's not here today, so I can work in peace. :D

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« Reply #17581 on: May 07, 2017, 03:00:18 PM »
After my servitude with Ginormocorp ends, I hope to whatever deity is out there that I NEVER hear these expressions again:

Cool beans
Cool-cool
Awesomesauce--this one in particular can go die in a fire
"I know THAT'S right"
Miss or Mister (name) (WTF, I'm not your owner)

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Grown men whining
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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #17582 on: May 08, 2017, 10:08:17 AM »
There is a side business right there. Raising snakes and collecting venom. (No thanks...)

All profit could go right out the window with one bite. Or would you get a discount for being in the supply chain?

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #17583 on: May 08, 2017, 10:45:35 AM »
After my servitude with Ginormocorp ends...

That is a great way of putting it. I'm definitely stealing this.
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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #17584 on: May 08, 2017, 11:11:04 AM »
In fairness it's also hard to take a person seriously if they're trying to communicate in baby talk using words like "tummy", "brekkie" and "vacay". It's even worse when they're making their voices artificially high and infantile, and ending? each phrase? with a rising inflection? as though they're asking a question? in an obvious attempt to act insignificant, nonthreatening, and therefore incompetent. I have yet to meet a person who identifies as male be that obviously beta.

1. Don't come to Australia. If the garbos get a sore tummy from eating an off avo for brekkie, they might need an ambo.
2. While I don't consider all abbreviations to be baby talk, I'm with you on chronic baby talk and the rising inflection.

http://www.askamanager.org/2013/05/how-to-get-an-employee-to-stop-using-baby-talk-in-the-office.html

I used to hear this growing up in the 80s. Usually well off women who stayed at home (no career). Was a friendly greeting to reach out to each other. Like a clique thing.  We didn't do this with our kids, do do this to the family dog sometimes. Can't imagine doing it in a professional setting.

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #17585 on: May 08, 2017, 08:18:44 PM »
It boggles my mind that people choose to live (or continue living) in places like that where the weather is so inhospitable that you can't even wait at a bus shelter without risking heat stroke or frost bite. I'll take my high cost of housing with my perfect weather over that nonsense any day of the week.

When I lived in Southern California (where the residents obsess about the fantastic weather as if it's the most amazing thing possible) I used to say, "Nice weather doesn't make up for mean people!" (I found Southern Californians to be rather selfish). I then moved to the Pacific Northwest, where the weather is terrible and the people are amazing! And that's when I realized that nice weather DOES kind of make up for mean people! ;)

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« Reply #17586 on: May 09, 2017, 11:14:10 AM »
In l fairness, as a Bay Area native, I can say that southern California is practically a different state. :)

Back to the earthquake comment, that is a risk, but something that happens every decade or two or three. Bad weather is something you deal with all day, day after day. I've been here almost all of my life and have lived through two major earthquakes. Obviously you can't predict which fault will go next, but there is a lot you can do to prepare with earthquake retrofitting, not doing silly things like having lots of glass figurines in a free-standing cabinet, and buying insurance.
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« Reply #17587 on: May 09, 2017, 01:21:50 PM »
It boggles my mind that people choose to live (or continue living) in places like that where the weather is so inhospitable that you can't even wait at a bus shelter without risking heat stroke or frost bite. I'll take my high cost of housing with my perfect weather over that nonsense any day of the week.

When I lived in Southern California (where the residents obsess about the fantastic weather as if it's the most amazing thing possible) I used to say, "Nice weather doesn't make up for mean people!" (I found Southern Californians to be rather selfish). I then moved to the Pacific Northwest, where the weather is terrible and the people are amazing! And that's when I realized that nice weather DOES kind of make up for mean people! ;)
True that.  I had a hard time when I moved here (Central/ So Cal).  Everyone I met talked about how "awesome" and "friendly" they were.

But it was all superficial.  Not actually friendly.  It took awhile to make friends.  Mostly my friends were grad students, but they kept graduating.  The locals are a hard nut to crack.

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #17588 on: May 09, 2017, 03:57:12 PM »
In fairness it's also hard to take a person seriously if they're trying to communicate in baby talk using words like "tummy", "brekkie" and "vacay". It's even worse when they're making their voices artificially high and infantile, and ending? each phrase? with a rising inflection? as though they're asking a question? in an obvious attempt to act insignificant, nonthreatening, and therefore incompetent. I have yet to meet a person who identifies as male be that obviously beta.

1. Don't come to Australia. If the garbos get a sore tummy from eating an off avo for brekkie, they might need an ambo.
2. While I don't consider all abbreviations to be baby talk, I'm with you on chronic baby talk and the rising inflection.

http://www.askamanager.org/2013/05/how-to-get-an-employee-to-stop-using-baby-talk-in-the-office.html

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* Full disclosure: I can't stand this expression!

I will back you up, Aussies abbreviate most things, and I have been told by both Americans and British that we end phrases with a rising inflection like we are asking questions. I am not sure if that's true though

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« Reply #17589 on: May 09, 2017, 05:23:29 PM »

I will back you up, Aussies abbreviate most things, and I have been told by both Americans and British that we end phrases with a rising inflection like we are asking questions. I am not sure if that's true though ?

Fixed the punctuation for you.

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #17590 on: May 09, 2017, 06:10:02 PM »

I will back you up, Aussies abbreviate most things, and I have been told by both Americans and British that we end phrases with a rising inflection like we are asking questions. I am not sure if that's true though ?

Fixed the punctuation for you.
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« Reply #17591 on: May 09, 2017, 06:13:12 PM »

I will back you up, Aussies abbreviate most things, and I have been told by both Americans and British that we end phrases with a rising inflection like we are asking questions. I am not sure if that's true though ?

Fixed the punctuation for you.
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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #17592 on: May 09, 2017, 07:25:01 PM »
I love that we assume I was talking baby talk, I've never done so in my life.  I also don't end my statements with a question.  Nope I'm not exactly sure how I talked like a girl.

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #17593 on: May 09, 2017, 08:39:03 PM »
I was talking to my CW today about buying stuff off of kijiji (like Craigslist).

CW: I used to sell a lot of vehicles on there. My wife and I used to trade in our vehicles every couple of years. We don't do that anymore, though, because we're poor.
Me: I see...
Inside Voice Me: aaaaarrrrggghhhh! 1. You are not "poor" (combined household at least 150k I am sure); that is an insult to ACTUAL poor people. 2. You commute in a fancy 2016 pick-up truck, so it's not as though you've stopped this behaviour. 3. YOUR VEHICLE HABITS ARE KEEPING YOU "POOR"!!

Maybe one day I'll forward him an MMM article or mention something... he'd think it was completely off the wall, but maybe it would plant a seed.
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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #17594 on: May 09, 2017, 09:05:25 PM »
Maybe one day I'll forward him an MMM article or mention something... he'd think it was completely off the wall, but maybe it would plant a seed.

This brings up an interesting point. I think we can all agree that MMM is very solidly on one end of the spectrum when it comes to frugality and personal finance... Does anyone know any "middle of the road" reference material to at least get people to start to think more frugally?
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« Reply #17595 on: May 09, 2017, 10:09:23 PM »
Maybe one day I'll forward him an MMM article or mention something... he'd think it was completely off the wall, but maybe it would plant a seed.

This brings up an interesting point. I think we can all agree that MMM is very solidly on one end of the spectrum when it comes to frugality and personal finance... Does anyone know any "middle of the road" reference material to at least get people to start to think more frugally?

Jacob (ERE) was on one end of the spectrum.  I would say MMM IS middle of the road for frugality.  I think you want something on the other end of the frugality spectrum.  A 'little bit' frugal, for people that are not at all frugal.  I would say any of the mainstream personal finance people.  Ramsey, TSD, GRS, etc.

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« Reply #17596 on: May 10, 2017, 07:01:19 AM »
Need to get a mainstream FatFIRE blogger going.  that would work for those of us with high incomes in LCOL areas.  i'm a cafeteria mustachian.  we live 20 miles from our jobs lake front with a boat and travel constantly -   but traveling is done with travel hacking.  we dont go out much at all ... we cook all our food at home for the most part grocery shop intelligently.  no cable tv. 22 dollar amonth cell phone bills.  thermostat setting that would kill most people.  we live a lifestyle that costs the avg american over 120k a year and it costs us around 40k plus mortgage.  a FatFIRE blogger would get people to dip their toes in the water and see what it feels like. Maybe they'd be more extreme maybe they'd settle for less.  But really if it could just make them invest and understand indexing they'd be miles ahead of the competition.
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« Reply #17597 on: May 10, 2017, 08:01:03 AM »
Need to get a mainstream FatFIRE blogger going.  that would work for those of us with high incomes in LCOL areas.  i'm a cafeteria mustachian.  we live 20 miles from our jobs lake front with a boat and travel constantly -   but traveling is done with travel hacking.  we dont go out much at all ... we cook all our food at home for the most part grocery shop intelligently.  no cable tv. 22 dollar amonth cell phone bills.  thermostat setting that would kill most people.  we live a lifestyle that costs the avg american over 120k a year and it costs us around 40k plus mortgage.  a FatFIRE blogger would get people to dip their toes in the water and see what it feels like. Maybe they'd be more extreme maybe they'd settle for less.  But really if it could just make them invest and understand indexing they'd be miles ahead of the competition.

I'm in a similar boat.  My wife and I each make 6 figures at relatively low-stress middle management jobs, and aren't looking to retire particularly early (probably in our 50s; we're mid-30s).  Our friend group has similar (or higher!) incomes, so we feel frugal doing things like keeping $30k cars 8 years instead of leasing $50-60k cars every 2 years, or living in a nice updated $350k house instead of a $500-600k house like a lot of them.  We're not interested in squeezing every last nickel like a true mustachian, because honestly, we don't have to in order to meet our financial goals.  I would be interested in a more 'middle of the road' blog, especially if it focused on things like buying lasting quality to save money in the long run (where does it make sense to do so versus where does it not?  What products are worth a premium and which ones are just more expensive?), or buying self-supporting vacation/rental properties. 
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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #17598 on: May 10, 2017, 08:26:34 AM »
Need to get a mainstream FatFIRE blogger going.  that would work for those of us with high incomes in LCOL areas.  i'm a cafeteria mustachian.  we live 20 miles from our jobs lake front with a boat and travel constantly -   but traveling is done with travel hacking.  we dont go out much at all ... we cook all our food at home for the most part grocery shop intelligently.  no cable tv. 22 dollar amonth cell phone bills.  thermostat setting that would kill most people.  we live a lifestyle that costs the avg american over 120k a year and it costs us around 40k plus mortgage.  a FatFIRE blogger would get people to dip their toes in the water and see what it feels like. Maybe they'd be more extreme maybe they'd settle for less.  But really if it could just make them invest and understand indexing they'd be miles ahead of the competition.

I'm in a similar boat.  My wife and I each make 6 figures at relatively low-stress middle management jobs, and aren't looking to retire particularly early (probably in our 50s; we're mid-30s).  Our friend group has similar (or higher!) incomes, so we feel frugal doing things like keeping $30k cars 8 years instead of leasing $50-60k cars every 2 years, or living in a nice updated $350k house instead of a $500-600k house like a lot of them.  We're not interested in squeezing every last nickel like a true mustachian, because honestly, we don't have to in order to meet our financial goals.  I would be interested in a more 'middle of the road' blog, especially if it focused on things like buying lasting quality to save money in the long run (where does it make sense to do so versus where does it not?  What products are worth a premium and which ones are just more expensive?), or buying self-supporting vacation/rental properties.

Me too.  I think "cafeteria mustachian" describes me perfectly.  Six figure income, half a million nest egg, in my late 30s, LCOL area, but my peers think I'm a cheap bastard for not living larger than I do.  Plan on working another 20 years to pay for kids college and ensure we can live the lifestyle we want, so not really focused on retiring ASAP.  I have the McMansion, but a 10 year old car and don't take $5K vacations every year.  I like this forum for ideas on where to potentially cut without my wife noticing and for finding good value for luxury items that I refuse to cut out of my life (boarder42 gave me a good wine tip a month or so ago), but there's a lot of "hair on fire" noobie stuff to weed through to find it.

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #17599 on: May 10, 2017, 08:41:23 AM »
Need to get a mainstream FatFIRE blogger going.  that would work for those of us with high incomes in LCOL areas.  i'm a cafeteria mustachian.  we live 20 miles from our jobs lake front with a boat and travel constantly -   but traveling is done with travel hacking.  we dont go out much at all ... we cook all our food at home for the most part grocery shop intelligently.  no cable tv. 22 dollar amonth cell phone bills.  thermostat setting that would kill most people.  we live a lifestyle that costs the avg american over 120k a year and it costs us around 40k plus mortgage.  a FatFIRE blogger would get people to dip their toes in the water and see what it feels like. Maybe they'd be more extreme maybe they'd settle for less.  But really if it could just make them invest and understand indexing they'd be miles ahead of the competition.

I'm in a similar boat.  My wife and I each make 6 figures at relatively low-stress middle management jobs, and aren't looking to retire particularly early (probably in our 50s; we're mid-30s).  Our friend group has similar (or higher!) incomes, so we feel frugal doing things like keeping $30k cars 8 years instead of leasing $50-60k cars every 2 years, or living in a nice updated $350k house instead of a $500-600k house like a lot of them.  We're not interested in squeezing every last nickel like a true mustachian, because honestly, we don't have to in order to meet our financial goals.  I would be interested in a more 'middle of the road' blog, especially if it focused on things like buying lasting quality to save money in the long run (where does it make sense to do so versus where does it not?  What products are worth a premium and which ones are just more expensive?), or buying self-supporting vacation/rental properties.

Me too.  I think "cafeteria mustachian" describes me perfectly.  Six figure income, half a million nest egg, in my late 30s, LCOL area, but my peers think I'm a cheap bastard for not living larger than I do.  Plan on working another 20 years to pay for kids college and ensure we can live the lifestyle we want, so not really focused on retiring ASAP.  I have the McMansion, but a 10 year old car and don't take $5K vacations every year.  I like this forum for ideas on where to potentially cut without my wife noticing and for finding good value for luxury items that I refuse to cut out of my life (boarder42 gave me a good wine tip a month or so ago), but there's a lot of "hair on fire" noobie stuff to weed through to find it.

I really would like to start one to show people how to stretch 40k into a 120k lifestyle b/c thats what i do and what we live. 
I think the biggest miss for people trying to live the FatFIRE (and normal FIRE for that matter life) is HOW to buy things.  We have it all b/c of how i purchase things.  for example you want that high quality item you've determined is what you "want" ... setup some slickdeal alerts and just wait for it to come up for sale.  almost everything is a want not a need.  Basically you can apply the MMM grocery shopping principal to just about every thing you buy.  the boat we have i searched for 2-3 years waiting on the deal to upgrade our older less functional boat to.  and bought it 33%+ under market value.  i still have equity in a boat --- wtf boat equity you're crazy --- also our house we live in a lake community and wanted to be lake front.  we waited an searched for 3-4 years waiting for the right house then bought it 20% under market value.  it was more house than we wanted but it had the equity value and building what we wanted would have cost 30-40% more.  you can apply this to any consumer purchase and everything we as humans purchase is almost entirely consumer based.  and we're done working at 37 still ... crazy to think thats how long it takes to build that wealth. 

and that purchasing mind set applies to everything from TVs to cars to home reno's.
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