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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #17400 on: May 04, 2017, 12:44:34 PM »
Maybe they have a *chilled* pool! :P

(FWIW, chilled pools *are* a thing.  On a business trip to Qatar, I saw a hotel or high rise that advertised its chilled pool.  Yes, it gets hot/humid enough  (120 degrees, 90% humidity) there that you actually need to cool your pool down)

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #17401 on: May 04, 2017, 12:53:33 PM »
Maybe they have a *chilled* pool! :P

(FWIW, chilled pools *are* a thing.  On a business trip to Qatar, I saw a hotel or high rise that advertised its chilled pool.  Yes, it gets hot/humid enough  (120 degrees, 90% humidity) there that you actually need to cool your pool down)

Could you use the excess heat in the pool to generate electricity, cooling it down in the process?

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #17402 on: May 04, 2017, 01:19:56 PM »
Maybe they have a *chilled* pool! :P

(FWIW, chilled pools *are* a thing.  On a business trip to Qatar, I saw a hotel or high rise that advertised its chilled pool.  Yes, it gets hot/humid enough  (120 degrees, 90% humidity) there that you actually need to cool your pool down)

Could you use the excess heat in the pool to generate electricity, cooling it down in the process?
Only if you have some large, cool mass to transfer the heat into

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« Reply #17403 on: May 04, 2017, 01:26:10 PM »
Maybe they have a *chilled* pool! :P

(FWIW, chilled pools *are* a thing.  On a business trip to Qatar, I saw a hotel or high rise that advertised its chilled pool.  Yes, it gets hot/humid enough  (120 degrees, 90% humidity) there that you actually need to cool your pool down)

Could you use the excess heat in the pool to generate electricity, cooling it down in the process?
Only if you have some large, cool mass to transfer the heat into

What kind of loser only has one pool? Obviously you cool the outdoor pool by transferring the heat into the indoor pool, which you cool in turn with the house's air conditioning. Duh.

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #17404 on: May 04, 2017, 01:39:59 PM »
That likely was not an "Import Tax" but the VAT, which is 24% in Finland.
Of course if you import things then that VAT is applied as import tax, because you can't put a VAT on imports. Legal nitpicking.

Oh, didn't know that Finland had a lower VAT.  In the rest of Scandinavia, it's 25% for most items. ;)

But for many cars, theres also additional taxes, which can be crazy high in e.g. Denmark and Norway.  Trust me, you don't want to know how high.  You might blow a fuse. 

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #17405 on: May 04, 2017, 03:37:30 PM »
What kind of loser only has one pool? Obviously you cool the outdoor pool by transferring the heat into the indoor pool, which you cool in turn with the house's air conditioning. Duh.

No, no, no... What you do is leave the patio doors open so that the a/c spills out and cools the patio area which is outside and hot... ;)

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #17406 on: May 05, 2017, 12:47:25 AM »
What kind of loser only has one pool? Obviously you cool the outdoor pool by transferring the heat into the indoor pool, which you cool in turn with the house's air conditioning. Duh.

No, no, no... What you do is leave the patio doors open so that the a/c spills out and cools the patio area which is outside and hot... ;)

Dubai has air-conditioned bus shelters. They already air-condition outside.

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #17407 on: May 05, 2017, 09:58:44 AM »
What kind of loser only has one pool? Obviously you cool the outdoor pool by transferring the heat into the indoor pool, which you cool in turn with the house's air conditioning. Duh.

No, no, no... What you do is leave the patio doors open so that the a/c spills out and cools the patio area which is outside and hot... ;)

Dubai has air-conditioned bus shelters. They already air-condition outside.

Here in MN we have some bus stops that you push a button to turn on a heater in the wintertime - so I guess it's not that different

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #17408 on: May 05, 2017, 10:03:19 AM »
It boggles my mind that people choose to live (or continue living) in places like that where the weather is so inhospitable that you can't even wait at a bus shelter without risking heat stroke or frost bite. I'll take my high cost of housing with my perfect weather over that nonsense any day of the week.

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #17409 on: May 05, 2017, 10:41:18 AM »
Here is one more for you.

Remember I was telling about my 66 year old colleague with a car loan? Well, we had a nice chat and turned out that he actually wants (!) to retire! To my question why was he still working, he answered that he actually applied for Social Security and started receiving a check but sends it in full to pay off his "debts". Obviously he has more than car loan to pay off. I was actually surprised that you can continue working, receiving salary and start receiving social security. Interesting..

Another colleague just turned 65 and plans to retire in a month! I congratulated her and told "Freedom!!" )). In reply she was not that enthusiastic. I questioned that and she told that she would need to continue working at least part time to avoid poverty. Me - ??? She told that she was eligible for social security and had Pension Plan from our employer. I suggested that her 401K plan would be very useful to avoid working. She told that she did not have one!! "I made bad choices earlier in my life. O well.." - was her reply. Amazing!

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #17410 on: May 05, 2017, 10:51:47 AM »
Here is one more for you.

Remember I was telling about my 66 year old colleague with a car loan? Well, we had a nice chat and turned out that he actually wants (!) to retire! To my question why was he still working, he answered that he actually applied for Social Security and started receiving a check but sends it in full to pay off his "debts". Obviously he has more than car loan to pay off. I was actually surprised that you can continue working, receiving salary and start receiving social security. Interesting..

Another colleague just turned 65 and plans to retire in a month! I congratulated her and told "Freedom!!" )). In reply she was not that enthusiastic. I questioned that and she told that she would need to continue working at least part time to avoid poverty. Me - ??? She told that she was eligible for social security and had Pension Plan from our employer. I suggested that her 401K plan would be very useful to avoid working. She told that she did not have one!! "I made bad choices earlier in my life. O well.." - was her reply. Amazing!

More like depressing.

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #17411 on: May 05, 2017, 10:52:43 AM »
It boggles my mind that people choose to live (or continue living) in places like that where the weather is so inhospitable that you can't even wait at a bus shelter without risking heat stroke or frost bite. I'll take my high cost of housing with my perfect weather over that nonsense any day of the week.

Haha that's fair. I don't mind cold because it's extremely easy to just put on a layer or two. Can't stand the heat though because you can only take off so many clothes.

I also can't imagine living without seasons my entire life - I "followed the summer" for a year by switching hemispheres traveling around the world and it was fun, but I learned I enjoy having different seasons

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #17412 on: May 05, 2017, 11:20:46 AM »
It boggles my mind that people choose to live (or continue living) in places like that where the weather is so inhospitable that you can't even wait at a bus shelter without risking heat stroke or frost bite. I'll take my high cost of housing with my perfect weather over that nonsense any day of the week.

It's not like it's "inhospitable" all (or even most) of the time in any of these places.  Pshh, I biked in the winter; I see how inhospitable that was - everyone thought I was crazy.  But, last I checked, I still have all of my fingers, toes, etc.

Weather's a good thing to have on your side, but it's not the only thing.

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #17413 on: May 05, 2017, 11:47:46 AM »
It boggles my mind that people choose to live (or continue living) in places like that where the weather is so inhospitable that you can't even wait at a bus shelter without risking heat stroke or frost bite. I'll take my high cost of housing with my perfect weather over that nonsense any day of the week.

On the flip side, the weather here, while always nice, is never exciting.  I miss things like a hot summer day suddenly dropping 20 degrees and knowing a killer thunderstorm is coming that's going to rattle the dishes in the cabinets.  Or 2 feet of beautiful fresh snowfall covering everything.
 And the change of seasons help create a feeling of the passage of time.  Time passes by quicker here, I've noticed, because it's always the same.  I can never complain about the weather in the bay area, but it's definitely not 'perfect' for everyone.

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #17414 on: May 05, 2017, 01:49:32 PM »
It boggles my mind that people choose to live (or continue living) in places like that where the weather is so inhospitable that you can't even wait at a bus shelter without risking heat stroke or frost bite. I'll take my high cost of housing with my perfect weather over that nonsense any day of the week.

Um... we have heaters in the shelters for the commuter train into Toronto.  But I wouldn't say that it's inhospitable to live here. That's harsh.

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #17415 on: May 05, 2017, 02:07:46 PM »
It boggles my mind that people choose to live (or continue living) in places like that where the weather is so inhospitable that you can't even wait at a bus shelter without risking heat stroke or frost bite. I'll take my high cost of housing with my perfect weather over that nonsense any day of the week.

On the flip side, the weather here, while always nice, is never exciting.  I miss things like a hot summer day suddenly dropping 20 degrees and knowing a killer thunderstorm is coming that's going to rattle the dishes in the cabinets.  Or 2 feet of beautiful fresh snowfall covering everything.
 And the change of seasons help create a feeling of the passage of time.  Time passes by quicker here, I've noticed, because it's always the same.  I can never complain about the weather in the bay area, but it's definitely not 'perfect' for everyone.

It's hard to appreciate good weather without bad weather.  I've always lived somewhere with seasons, and so I've always had the excitement of a warm spring day, enjoyed the ritual of getting the lawn mower out and putting the snowblower away, looked forward to the first top down drive, savored that one or two nice days in late February that you know won't last, etc.  Similarly, there's the bittersweet crisp fall days that show a let-up of the summer heat, the beauty of the foliage, the bundling up in sweaters and sweatshirts after a summer of shorts and tshirts.  There are activities that feel 'wrong' in the warmth, like sitting in the stands watching football or raking leaves or drinking a bourbon by a fire.  Yeah, by the time March rolls around winter sucks, but that doesn't mean the first real snowfall in December or January isn't beautiful and fun to play around in with the kids.  I fantasize about living in San Diego or Hawaii, but I know I'd miss real seasons. 

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #17416 on: May 05, 2017, 02:46:24 PM »
It boggles my mind that people choose to live (or continue living) in places like that where the weather is so inhospitable that you can't even wait at a bus shelter without risking heat stroke or frost bite. I'll take my high cost of housing with my perfect weather over that nonsense any day of the week.

Um... we have heaters in the shelters for the commuter train into Toronto.  But I wouldn't say that it's inhospitable to live here. That's harsh.


Ours have heat lamps. And hopefully your stop has a shelter.


I've lived though 2 very nasty Chicago winters, 1 mild one, and two that can only be described as WTF. All things considered, I'll take the nasty ones. And this is from somebody from New Mexico who is pretty sensitive to cold. And I'll take the cold over the humidity any day of the week.

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #17417 on: May 05, 2017, 04:29:17 PM »
Like many things in life, I imagine a lot of what we prefer is related to what we grew up with and what we are used to. I spent a winter living in the Denver area and a year in France, both places admittedly have relatively wild weather, but still harsher than what I grew up with. As a kid I would read about snow and thought it sounded so fun and romantic. I completely agree that heat sucks because you can only take off so many clothes and if you are still hot, all you can do is suffer. If you have the right clothes, cold can be okay, as long as you don't have to shovel or scrape or drive.

I travel regularly though not frequent for work across the US. I have only ever been on one trip where I wasn't immensely grateful to be back home again after, and that was this lovely boondoggle trip to the San Juan islands. :) I certainly hear people appreciate four seasons and more power to you. It is way more important to me to never have to think about what measures I have to take to mentally and physically steel myself to fight the uncomfortable elements. The older I get the greater a source of joy that is for me. Again, to each their own.

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #17418 on: May 05, 2017, 04:57:50 PM »
I fantasize about living in San Diego or Hawaii, but I know I'd miss real seasons.

We have seasons in San Diego!
- Fish Taco season
- Carne Asada season
- Guacamole season
- Craft Beer season

If it's weather you're after, it changes too! We have nice, nicer, and excellent weather.

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #17419 on: May 05, 2017, 10:58:52 PM »
It's extremely frustrating, but it seems like the cycle is being set up to repeat itself:
I have a beautiful young lady on my team at work.  She would be about 22 yrs old, earns about $40K/year...

Her master plan is to find a high earning young man to look after her.   It makes me sad.  She is bright and could easily be a self sufficient young woman.   

I feel like that many times leads to what was mentioned earlier in this thread:

...The coworker had just divorced her husband who, as a head of a hospital wing, was bringing in over half a million dollars a year... So they divorced, the judge didn't award alimony, and she had to go back to work after many years of staying at home.  She landed in my group, earning less than one tenth of what her ex used to bring home. 
...boy, dealing with a fallen socialite is something I will not miss.

Hopefully you can influence her onto the path of self sufficiency! FWIW, I'm a male engineer and some of the brightest people I know are independent female engineers that work at my company.

I feel like female engineers have much more drive than their male counterparts in most cases.  They are out to prove they can hack it in what is traditionally male dominated.  My wife is one and she has issues with RE b/c of the drive to prove she can do it all ... many others i run into are quite similar.  - more so in the millenial generation than previous generations as well.  maybe its not true everywhere but alot of the older been around the block female engineers i run into are space taker uppers b/c they know they are satisfying a diversification spot just being there.

Reminds me of a "small talk" conversation with a male boss from another office recently.  I'm not an engineer but am in a Male dominated industry.  He mentioned that he notices we women seemed to really say what we mean.  Umm myself and the other woman he was talking about are "senior" (have been in the industry for 10+ years) I'm not sure when it happens but after having to continually prove ourselves sometime between 5-15 years in you develop a case of the "I don't give a fucks" with a lot of office politics/small talk.

ETA:  early on in my career I had a boss tell me I should modify the way I talk, "stop talking like a girl" because guys don't want to deal with their wives at work.  I didn't report him because he honestly thought that he was giving me solid career advise.  It was hard to take him seriously after that.

In fairness it's also hard to take a person seriously if they're trying to communicate in baby talk using words like "tummy", "brekkie" and "vacay". It's even worse when they're making their voices artificially high and infantile, and ending? each phrase? with a rising inflection? as though they're asking a question? in an obvious attempt to act insignificant, nonthreatening, and therefore incompetent. I have yet to meet a person who identifies as male be that obviously beta.

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #17420 on: May 06, 2017, 02:35:53 AM »
Coworker who makes about 85K/year. Recently sold her duplex which was only a couple miles from work because she was getting married and going to start a family (her unit was a 2 bed/2 bath, probably 1100 sf). Bought a 400K+ "dream house" in the countryside with space for her two horses to live in the backyard (or whatever you call your backyard when it has horses living in it).

"We'll be making a monthly payment to the hospital for, like, the rest of our lives. No, seriously. For like the next 50 years. It's an $80K bill."

This bill is for anti venom for a snake bite that her now husband incurred at their OLD, awesome duplex house, before they got married, when he didn't have health insurance. And they STILL bought the far-away, big dream house. Bummer.


I got bit by a snake while in my backyard.  Anti-venom bill for that was 160k   Total bill was 180k.  Thank God I had insurance from a previous job where they offered severance and benefit continuation, along with the insurance at my new job.  I didn't pay a nickel

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #17421 on: May 06, 2017, 03:00:46 AM »
Coworker who makes about 85K/year. Recently sold her duplex which was only a couple miles from work because she was getting married and going to start a family (her unit was a 2 bed/2 bath, probably 1100 sf). Bought a 400K+ "dream house" in the countryside with space for her two horses to live in the backyard (or whatever you call your backyard when it has horses living in it).

"We'll be making a monthly payment to the hospital for, like, the rest of our lives. No, seriously. For like the next 50 years. It's an $80K bill."

This bill is for anti venom for a snake bite that her now husband incurred at their OLD, awesome duplex house, before they got married, when he didn't have health insurance. And they STILL bought the far-away, big dream house. Bummer.

I got bit by a snake while in my backyard.  Anti-venom bill for that was 160k   Total bill was 180k.  Thank God I had insurance from a previous job where they offered severance and benefit continuation, along with the insurance at my new job.  I didn't pay a nickel
Holy crap! I had no idea antivenom was that expensive! I wasn't scared of snakes before, but I might consider it now.

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #17422 on: May 06, 2017, 07:44:05 AM »
There is a side business right there. Raising snakes and collecting venom. (No thanks...)

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #17423 on: May 06, 2017, 08:19:56 AM »
It boggles my mind that people choose to live (or continue living) in places like that where the weather is so inhospitable that you can't even wait at a bus shelter without risking heat stroke or frost bite. I'll take my high cost of housing with my perfect weather over that nonsense any day of the week.

On the flip side, the weather here, while always nice, is never exciting.  I miss things like a hot summer day suddenly dropping 20 degrees and knowing a killer thunderstorm is coming that's going to rattle the dishes in the cabinets.  Or 2 feet of beautiful fresh snowfall covering everything.
 And the change of seasons help create a feeling of the passage of time.  Time passes by quicker here, I've noticed, because it's always the same.  I can never complain about the weather in the bay area, but it's definitely not 'perfect' for everyone.

Shoot, we dropped 40 degrees in 10-12 hours recently.

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #17424 on: May 06, 2017, 08:33:46 PM »
It boggles my mind that people choose to live (or continue living) in places like that where the weather is so inhospitable that you can't even wait at a bus shelter without risking heat stroke or frost bite. I'll take my high cost of housing with my perfect weather over that nonsense any day of the week.

On the flip side, the weather here, while always nice, is never exciting.  I miss things like a hot summer day suddenly dropping 20 degrees and knowing a killer thunderstorm is coming that's going to rattle the dishes in the cabinets.  Or 2 feet of beautiful fresh snowfall covering everything.
 And the change of seasons help create a feeling of the passage of time.  Time passes by quicker here, I've noticed, because it's always the same.  I can never complain about the weather in the bay area, but it's definitely not 'perfect' for everyone.

Shoot, we dropped 40 degrees in 10-12 hours recently.

This happens all the time in Colorado. 80 degrees one day, snow the next.

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #17425 on: May 07, 2017, 01:49:52 AM »
In fairness it's also hard to take a person seriously if they're trying to communicate in baby talk using words like "tummy", "brekkie" and "vacay". It's even worse when they're making their voices artificially high and infantile, and ending? each phrase? with a rising inflection? as though they're asking a question? in an obvious attempt to act insignificant, nonthreatening, and therefore incompetent. I have yet to meet a person who identifies as male be that obviously beta.

1. Don't come to Australia. If the garbos get a sore tummy from eating an off avo for brekkie, they might need an ambo.
2. While I don't consider all abbreviations to be baby talk, I'm with you on chronic baby talk and the rising inflection.

http://www.askamanager.org/2013/05/how-to-get-an-employee-to-stop-using-baby-talk-in-the-office.html

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« Reply #17426 on: May 07, 2017, 01:51:29 AM »
In fairness it's also hard to take a person seriously if they're trying to communicate in baby talk using words like "tummy", "brekkie" and "vacay". It's even worse when they're making their voices artificially high and infantile, and ending? each phrase? with a rising inflection? as though they're asking a question? in an obvious attempt to act insignificant, nonthreatening, and therefore incompetent. I have yet to meet a person who identifies as male be that obviously beta.

1. Don't come to Australia. If the garbos get a sore tummy from eating an off avo for brekkie, they might need an ambo.
2. While I don't consider all abbreviations to be baby talk, I'm with you on chronic baby talk and the rising inflection.

http://www.askamanager.org/2013/05/how-to-get-an-employee-to-stop-using-baby-talk-in-the-office.html

Ps. I'm devo* that Marty isn't here to back me up on this. (He's on adventure in Bostwana.)


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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #17427 on: May 07, 2017, 06:47:05 AM »
Like many things in life, I imagine a lot of what we prefer is related to what we grew up with and what we are used to. I spent a winter living in the Denver area and a year in France, both places admittedly have relatively wild weather, but still harsher than what I grew up with. As a kid I would read about snow and thought it sounded so fun and romantic. I completely agree that heat sucks because you can only take off so many clothes and if you are still hot, all you can do is suffer. If you have the right clothes, cold can be okay, as long as you don't have to shovel or scrape or drive.

I travel regularly though not frequent for work across the US. I have only ever been on one trip where I wasn't immensely grateful to be back home again after, and that was this lovely boondoggle trip to the San Juan islands. :) I certainly hear people appreciate four seasons and more power to you. It is way more important to me to never have to think about what measures I have to take to mentally and physically steel myself to fight the uncomfortable elements. The older I get the greater a source of joy that is for me. Again, to each their own.

You have major earthquake prep instead.    ;-)

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #17428 on: May 07, 2017, 01:41:47 PM »
It's extremely frustrating, but it seems like the cycle is being set up to repeat itself:
I have a beautiful young lady on my team at work.  She would be about 22 yrs old, earns about $40K/year...

Her master plan is to find a high earning young man to look after her.   It makes me sad.  She is bright and could easily be a self sufficient young woman.   

I feel like that many times leads to what was mentioned earlier in this thread:

...The coworker had just divorced her husband who, as a head of a hospital wing, was bringing in over half a million dollars a year... So they divorced, the judge didn't award alimony, and she had to go back to work after many years of staying at home.  She landed in my group, earning less than one tenth of what her ex used to bring home. 
...boy, dealing with a fallen socialite is something I will not miss.

Hopefully you can influence her onto the path of self sufficiency! FWIW, I'm a male engineer and some of the brightest people I know are independent female engineers that work at my company.

I feel like female engineers have much more drive than their male counterparts in most cases.  They are out to prove they can hack it in what is traditionally male dominated.  My wife is one and she has issues with RE b/c of the drive to prove she can do it all ... many others i run into are quite similar.  - more so in the millenial generation than previous generations as well.  maybe its not true everywhere but alot of the older been around the block female engineers i run into are space taker uppers b/c they know they are satisfying a diversification spot just being there.

Reminds me of a "small talk" conversation with a male boss from another office recently.  I'm not an engineer but am in a Male dominated industry.  He mentioned that he notices we women seemed to really say what we mean.  Umm myself and the other woman he was talking about are "senior" (have been in the industry for 10+ years) I'm not sure when it happens but after having to continually prove ourselves sometime between 5-15 years in you develop a case of the "I don't give a fucks" with a lot of office politics/small talk.

ETA:  early on in my career I had a boss tell me I should modify the way I talk, "stop talking like a girl" because guys don't want to deal with their wives at work.  I didn't report him because he honestly thought that he was giving me solid career advise.  It was hard to take him seriously after that.

In fairness it's also hard to take a person seriously if they're trying to communicate in baby talk using words like "tummy", "brekkie" and "vacay". It's even worse when they're making their voices artificially high and infantile, and ending? each phrase? with a rising inflection? as though they're asking a question? in an obvious attempt to act insignificant, nonthreatening, and therefore incompetent. I have yet to meet a person who identifies as male be that obviously beta.

I have a (male) coworker who does that (plus the occasional exaggerated lispy voice, e.g. "Thtaaaap ihhht").

Fortunately he's not here today, so I can work in peace. :D

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« Reply #17429 on: May 07, 2017, 03:00:18 PM »
After my servitude with Ginormocorp ends, I hope to whatever deity is out there that I NEVER hear these expressions again:

Cool beans
Cool-cool
Awesomesauce--this one in particular can go die in a fire
"I know THAT'S right"
Miss or Mister (name) (WTF, I'm not your owner)

In addition:

Grown women speaking in baby talk
Grown men whining
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« Reply #17430 on: May 08, 2017, 10:08:17 AM »
There is a side business right there. Raising snakes and collecting venom. (No thanks...)

All profit could go right out the window with one bite. Or would you get a discount for being in the supply chain?

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« Reply #17431 on: May 08, 2017, 10:45:35 AM »
After my servitude with Ginormocorp ends...

That is a great way of putting it. I'm definitely stealing this.

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« Reply #17432 on: May 08, 2017, 11:11:04 AM »
In fairness it's also hard to take a person seriously if they're trying to communicate in baby talk using words like "tummy", "brekkie" and "vacay". It's even worse when they're making their voices artificially high and infantile, and ending? each phrase? with a rising inflection? as though they're asking a question? in an obvious attempt to act insignificant, nonthreatening, and therefore incompetent. I have yet to meet a person who identifies as male be that obviously beta.

1. Don't come to Australia. If the garbos get a sore tummy from eating an off avo for brekkie, they might need an ambo.
2. While I don't consider all abbreviations to be baby talk, I'm with you on chronic baby talk and the rising inflection.

http://www.askamanager.org/2013/05/how-to-get-an-employee-to-stop-using-baby-talk-in-the-office.html

I used to hear this growing up in the 80s. Usually well off women who stayed at home (no career). Was a friendly greeting to reach out to each other. Like a clique thing.  We didn't do this with our kids, do do this to the family dog sometimes. Can't imagine doing it in a professional setting.

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« Reply #17433 on: May 08, 2017, 08:18:44 PM »
It boggles my mind that people choose to live (or continue living) in places like that where the weather is so inhospitable that you can't even wait at a bus shelter without risking heat stroke or frost bite. I'll take my high cost of housing with my perfect weather over that nonsense any day of the week.

When I lived in Southern California (where the residents obsess about the fantastic weather as if it's the most amazing thing possible) I used to say, "Nice weather doesn't make up for mean people!" (I found Southern Californians to be rather selfish). I then moved to the Pacific Northwest, where the weather is terrible and the people are amazing! And that's when I realized that nice weather DOES kind of make up for mean people! ;)

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« Reply #17434 on: May 09, 2017, 11:14:10 AM »
In l fairness, as a Bay Area native, I can say that southern California is practically a different state. :)

Back to the earthquake comment, that is a risk, but something that happens every decade or two or three. Bad weather is something you deal with all day, day after day. I've been here almost all of my life and have lived through two major earthquakes. Obviously you can't predict which fault will go next, but there is a lot you can do to prepare with earthquake retrofitting, not doing silly things like having lots of glass figurines in a free-standing cabinet, and buying insurance.

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« Reply #17435 on: May 09, 2017, 01:21:50 PM »
It boggles my mind that people choose to live (or continue living) in places like that where the weather is so inhospitable that you can't even wait at a bus shelter without risking heat stroke or frost bite. I'll take my high cost of housing with my perfect weather over that nonsense any day of the week.

When I lived in Southern California (where the residents obsess about the fantastic weather as if it's the most amazing thing possible) I used to say, "Nice weather doesn't make up for mean people!" (I found Southern Californians to be rather selfish). I then moved to the Pacific Northwest, where the weather is terrible and the people are amazing! And that's when I realized that nice weather DOES kind of make up for mean people! ;)
True that.  I had a hard time when I moved here (Central/ So Cal).  Everyone I met talked about how "awesome" and "friendly" they were.

But it was all superficial.  Not actually friendly.  It took awhile to make friends.  Mostly my friends were grad students, but they kept graduating.  The locals are a hard nut to crack.

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #17436 on: May 09, 2017, 03:57:12 PM »
In fairness it's also hard to take a person seriously if they're trying to communicate in baby talk using words like "tummy", "brekkie" and "vacay". It's even worse when they're making their voices artificially high and infantile, and ending? each phrase? with a rising inflection? as though they're asking a question? in an obvious attempt to act insignificant, nonthreatening, and therefore incompetent. I have yet to meet a person who identifies as male be that obviously beta.

1. Don't come to Australia. If the garbos get a sore tummy from eating an off avo for brekkie, they might need an ambo.
2. While I don't consider all abbreviations to be baby talk, I'm with you on chronic baby talk and the rising inflection.

http://www.askamanager.org/2013/05/how-to-get-an-employee-to-stop-using-baby-talk-in-the-office.html

Ps. I'm devo* that Marty isn't here to back me up on this. (He's on adventure in Bostwana.)


* Full disclosure: I can't stand this expression!

I will back you up, Aussies abbreviate most things, and I have been told by both Americans and British that we end phrases with a rising inflection like we are asking questions. I am not sure if that's true though

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« Reply #17437 on: May 09, 2017, 05:23:29 PM »

I will back you up, Aussies abbreviate most things, and I have been told by both Americans and British that we end phrases with a rising inflection like we are asking questions. I am not sure if that's true though ?

Fixed the punctuation for you.

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« Reply #17438 on: May 09, 2017, 06:10:02 PM »

I will back you up, Aussies abbreviate most things, and I have been told by both Americans and British that we end phrases with a rising inflection like we are asking questions. I am not sure if that's true though ?

Fixed the punctuation for you.
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« Reply #17439 on: May 09, 2017, 06:13:12 PM »

I will back you up, Aussies abbreviate most things, and I have been told by both Americans and British that we end phrases with a rising inflection like we are asking questions. I am not sure if that's true though ?

Fixed the punctuation for you.
You'd feel right at home in Canada, eh?

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« Reply #17440 on: May 09, 2017, 07:25:01 PM »
I love that we assume I was talking baby talk, I've never done so in my life.  I also don't end my statements with a question.  Nope I'm not exactly sure how I talked like a girl.

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« Reply #17441 on: May 09, 2017, 08:39:03 PM »
I was talking to my CW today about buying stuff off of kijiji (like Craigslist).

CW: I used to sell a lot of vehicles on there. My wife and I used to trade in our vehicles every couple of years. We don't do that anymore, though, because we're poor.
Me: I see...
Inside Voice Me: aaaaarrrrggghhhh! 1. You are not "poor" (combined household at least 150k I am sure); that is an insult to ACTUAL poor people. 2. You commute in a fancy 2016 pick-up truck, so it's not as though you've stopped this behaviour. 3. YOUR VEHICLE HABITS ARE KEEPING YOU "POOR"!!

Maybe one day I'll forward him an MMM article or mention something... he'd think it was completely off the wall, but maybe it would plant a seed.

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« Reply #17442 on: May 09, 2017, 09:05:25 PM »
Maybe one day I'll forward him an MMM article or mention something... he'd think it was completely off the wall, but maybe it would plant a seed.

This brings up an interesting point. I think we can all agree that MMM is very solidly on one end of the spectrum when it comes to frugality and personal finance... Does anyone know any "middle of the road" reference material to at least get people to start to think more frugally?

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« Reply #17443 on: May 09, 2017, 10:09:23 PM »
Maybe one day I'll forward him an MMM article or mention something... he'd think it was completely off the wall, but maybe it would plant a seed.

This brings up an interesting point. I think we can all agree that MMM is very solidly on one end of the spectrum when it comes to frugality and personal finance... Does anyone know any "middle of the road" reference material to at least get people to start to think more frugally?

Jacob (ERE) was on one end of the spectrum.  I would say MMM IS middle of the road for frugality.  I think you want something on the other end of the frugality spectrum.  A 'little bit' frugal, for people that are not at all frugal.  I would say any of the mainstream personal finance people.  Ramsey, TSD, GRS, etc.

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #17444 on: May 10, 2017, 07:01:19 AM »
Need to get a mainstream FatFIRE blogger going.  that would work for those of us with high incomes in LCOL areas.  i'm a cafeteria mustachian.  we live 20 miles from our jobs lake front with a boat and travel constantly -   but traveling is done with travel hacking.  we dont go out much at all ... we cook all our food at home for the most part grocery shop intelligently.  no cable tv. 22 dollar amonth cell phone bills.  thermostat setting that would kill most people.  we live a lifestyle that costs the avg american over 120k a year and it costs us around 40k plus mortgage.  a FatFIRE blogger would get people to dip their toes in the water and see what it feels like. Maybe they'd be more extreme maybe they'd settle for less.  But really if it could just make them invest and understand indexing they'd be miles ahead of the competition.

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« Reply #17445 on: May 10, 2017, 08:01:03 AM »
Need to get a mainstream FatFIRE blogger going.  that would work for those of us with high incomes in LCOL areas.  i'm a cafeteria mustachian.  we live 20 miles from our jobs lake front with a boat and travel constantly -   but traveling is done with travel hacking.  we dont go out much at all ... we cook all our food at home for the most part grocery shop intelligently.  no cable tv. 22 dollar amonth cell phone bills.  thermostat setting that would kill most people.  we live a lifestyle that costs the avg american over 120k a year and it costs us around 40k plus mortgage.  a FatFIRE blogger would get people to dip their toes in the water and see what it feels like. Maybe they'd be more extreme maybe they'd settle for less.  But really if it could just make them invest and understand indexing they'd be miles ahead of the competition.

I'm in a similar boat.  My wife and I each make 6 figures at relatively low-stress middle management jobs, and aren't looking to retire particularly early (probably in our 50s; we're mid-30s).  Our friend group has similar (or higher!) incomes, so we feel frugal doing things like keeping $30k cars 8 years instead of leasing $50-60k cars every 2 years, or living in a nice updated $350k house instead of a $500-600k house like a lot of them.  We're not interested in squeezing every last nickel like a true mustachian, because honestly, we don't have to in order to meet our financial goals.  I would be interested in a more 'middle of the road' blog, especially if it focused on things like buying lasting quality to save money in the long run (where does it make sense to do so versus where does it not?  What products are worth a premium and which ones are just more expensive?), or buying self-supporting vacation/rental properties. 

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #17446 on: May 10, 2017, 08:26:34 AM »
Need to get a mainstream FatFIRE blogger going.  that would work for those of us with high incomes in LCOL areas.  i'm a cafeteria mustachian.  we live 20 miles from our jobs lake front with a boat and travel constantly -   but traveling is done with travel hacking.  we dont go out much at all ... we cook all our food at home for the most part grocery shop intelligently.  no cable tv. 22 dollar amonth cell phone bills.  thermostat setting that would kill most people.  we live a lifestyle that costs the avg american over 120k a year and it costs us around 40k plus mortgage.  a FatFIRE blogger would get people to dip their toes in the water and see what it feels like. Maybe they'd be more extreme maybe they'd settle for less.  But really if it could just make them invest and understand indexing they'd be miles ahead of the competition.

I'm in a similar boat.  My wife and I each make 6 figures at relatively low-stress middle management jobs, and aren't looking to retire particularly early (probably in our 50s; we're mid-30s).  Our friend group has similar (or higher!) incomes, so we feel frugal doing things like keeping $30k cars 8 years instead of leasing $50-60k cars every 2 years, or living in a nice updated $350k house instead of a $500-600k house like a lot of them.  We're not interested in squeezing every last nickel like a true mustachian, because honestly, we don't have to in order to meet our financial goals.  I would be interested in a more 'middle of the road' blog, especially if it focused on things like buying lasting quality to save money in the long run (where does it make sense to do so versus where does it not?  What products are worth a premium and which ones are just more expensive?), or buying self-supporting vacation/rental properties.

Me too.  I think "cafeteria mustachian" describes me perfectly.  Six figure income, half a million nest egg, in my late 30s, LCOL area, but my peers think I'm a cheap bastard for not living larger than I do.  Plan on working another 20 years to pay for kids college and ensure we can live the lifestyle we want, so not really focused on retiring ASAP.  I have the McMansion, but a 10 year old car and don't take $5K vacations every year.  I like this forum for ideas on where to potentially cut without my wife noticing and for finding good value for luxury items that I refuse to cut out of my life (boarder42 gave me a good wine tip a month or so ago), but there's a lot of "hair on fire" noobie stuff to weed through to find it.

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #17447 on: May 10, 2017, 08:41:23 AM »
Need to get a mainstream FatFIRE blogger going.  that would work for those of us with high incomes in LCOL areas.  i'm a cafeteria mustachian.  we live 20 miles from our jobs lake front with a boat and travel constantly -   but traveling is done with travel hacking.  we dont go out much at all ... we cook all our food at home for the most part grocery shop intelligently.  no cable tv. 22 dollar amonth cell phone bills.  thermostat setting that would kill most people.  we live a lifestyle that costs the avg american over 120k a year and it costs us around 40k plus mortgage.  a FatFIRE blogger would get people to dip their toes in the water and see what it feels like. Maybe they'd be more extreme maybe they'd settle for less.  But really if it could just make them invest and understand indexing they'd be miles ahead of the competition.

I'm in a similar boat.  My wife and I each make 6 figures at relatively low-stress middle management jobs, and aren't looking to retire particularly early (probably in our 50s; we're mid-30s).  Our friend group has similar (or higher!) incomes, so we feel frugal doing things like keeping $30k cars 8 years instead of leasing $50-60k cars every 2 years, or living in a nice updated $350k house instead of a $500-600k house like a lot of them.  We're not interested in squeezing every last nickel like a true mustachian, because honestly, we don't have to in order to meet our financial goals.  I would be interested in a more 'middle of the road' blog, especially if it focused on things like buying lasting quality to save money in the long run (where does it make sense to do so versus where does it not?  What products are worth a premium and which ones are just more expensive?), or buying self-supporting vacation/rental properties.

Me too.  I think "cafeteria mustachian" describes me perfectly.  Six figure income, half a million nest egg, in my late 30s, LCOL area, but my peers think I'm a cheap bastard for not living larger than I do.  Plan on working another 20 years to pay for kids college and ensure we can live the lifestyle we want, so not really focused on retiring ASAP.  I have the McMansion, but a 10 year old car and don't take $5K vacations every year.  I like this forum for ideas on where to potentially cut without my wife noticing and for finding good value for luxury items that I refuse to cut out of my life (boarder42 gave me a good wine tip a month or so ago), but there's a lot of "hair on fire" noobie stuff to weed through to find it.

I really would like to start one to show people how to stretch 40k into a 120k lifestyle b/c thats what i do and what we live. 
I think the biggest miss for people trying to live the FatFIRE (and normal FIRE for that matter life) is HOW to buy things.  We have it all b/c of how i purchase things.  for example you want that high quality item you've determined is what you "want" ... setup some slickdeal alerts and just wait for it to come up for sale.  almost everything is a want not a need.  Basically you can apply the MMM grocery shopping principal to just about every thing you buy.  the boat we have i searched for 2-3 years waiting on the deal to upgrade our older less functional boat to.  and bought it 33%+ under market value.  i still have equity in a boat --- wtf boat equity you're crazy --- also our house we live in a lake community and wanted to be lake front.  we waited an searched for 3-4 years waiting for the right house then bought it 20% under market value.  it was more house than we wanted but it had the equity value and building what we wanted would have cost 30-40% more.  you can apply this to any consumer purchase and everything we as humans purchase is almost entirely consumer based.  and we're done working at 37 still ... crazy to think thats how long it takes to build that wealth. 

and that purchasing mind set applies to everything from TVs to cars to home reno's.

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« Reply #17448 on: May 10, 2017, 09:19:27 AM »
This is an Overseen At Work.

Most people in the state I work in and more specifically the job I work at drive trucks(RAM 5000- and the like- I am not a car person but that is how they look like) and Jeeps(Wranglers- mostly). And also our jobs don't need us to have trucks(pretty standard divide between office and factory workers). But what I find funny is:
  • People after or before work sit in their trucks or take naps or take breaks in their car as the car is running.
  • I have seen people get new trucks(one lady - two trucks brand new in the last 6 months-she parks in the same spot daily that is how I know)
  • Why do so many people have trucks and jeep wranglers when we live in the most likely one of the most flattest place in the USA?!

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« Reply #17449 on: May 10, 2017, 05:43:18 PM »
This is an Overseen At Work.

Most people in the state I work in and more specifically the job I work at drive trucks(RAM 5000- and the like- I am not a car person but that is how they look like) and Jeeps(Wranglers- mostly). And also our jobs don't need us to have trucks(pretty standard divide between office and factory workers). But what I find funny is:
  • People after or before work sit in their trucks or take naps or take breaks in their car as the car is running.
  • I have seen people get new trucks(one lady - two trucks brand new in the last 6 months-she parks in the same spot daily that is how I know)
  • Why do so many people have trucks and jeep wranglers when we live in the most likely one of the most flattest place in the USA?!

I've been wondering the same thing since I was 16.  I think it's because people aspire to think of themselves and rugged, manual labor types when they will realistically off-road in the Jeep  or truly need the hauling capacity of the truck 1-2x per year, if ever. 

I've needed the ability to haul boxes of shoes and clothes for my job for over a decade.  I probably use my vehicle for that purpose 50-75x a year.  I had a Ford Windstar minivan out of college with a dent on every panel and the back seats removed.  I got it with 198k miles and it died at around 245k.  Then I bought a 2001 Honda CRV with 110k miles for $4,500 and I still have it 7 years later.  We have had 12-15 part-time employees at my job over the past 6-7 years.  Mostly high school or college aged.  I can think of 2 that have driven cheaper cars than me.  I don't make a killing, about $70k last year, but I don't want to drive my net worth around.