One of my coworkers told me yesterday that his family does not grocery shop because they 'always eat out' and only make dinner at home about once a month. He explained that this is because he and his wife have 2 kids, ages 4 and 6, and so eating out is easier since they do not have to clean up the mess the kids make. He then said that his kids will sometimes complain "Oh, do we have to go to Carabba's again?" He also mentioned that his daughter has trouble staying awake in school, but they just can't get her to bed any earlier because by the time they go out to dinner, get home, and do their nighttime routine it is after 9pm! I was completely blown away that a family would think it's normal and sensible to eat out every day, but managed to mask my surprise and swallow any critical comments. He also said they've just stopped buying groceries because they just expire before they can use them - all of them also buy lunch everyday. How many people out there are living this way without stopping to think about how much money they're wasting??
omg I can't even! I don't understand people who regularly keep their small children up too late. Yes I was invited to 2 super bowl parties. No I didn't go because bedtime is 7pm. Yep 7pm sorry, sleep come first. We make very rare exceptions to drive back from family events (already in our PJ's). Also how are those kids ever going to learn to cook????? Oy vay. This is
wrong on so many levels not aligned with my values without even considering finances.
7 pm. Ah, 7 pm would be glorious. I wonder how much of this is kid personality, family style, etc.
For the most part, the people I know whose kids go to bed that early (6-7:30 pm) have a stay at home parent. I don't know why there is the difference? But at least in my cohort, that seems to be the case.
We would have a very hard time with 7 pm. We don't get home until 5:30 pm most days (that's just a regular day, not a sports day). We don't finish dinner until 6:30 or 7 pm. There would be no down time, play time bath time.
Neither one of my boys is a sleeper. They are always on the low end for the age. So, if at age 2 you should be sleeping 12-14 hours a day, they would be at 11.5 to 12.
If at a different age, you should be sleeping 10-12, they would be at 10.
In any event, the big boy sleeps from 9 pm to 6:30 or 7 or 7:30 am (he's 10).
The little guy sleeps from 9:30 until 7:30 (he's 4). Plus he naps at preschool, for 1 to 2.5 hours.
The naps kill me (he will go to sleep an hour earlier on weekends when he doesn't nap, important because I go to sleep at 9.) Yesterday he fell asleep on the couch at 4, and napped for 1.5 hours. I knew that was going to be a mistake. I put him to bed as normal and he was STILL AWAKE at 10:35 pm.
I do have two friends who are SAHMs with kids who stay up late. But generally, these families are night owls. So the kids go to bed at 9 (aged 6 and 4), and the parents are up until midnight. The entire "night" is shifted a few hours later.