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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #16750 on: February 12, 2017, 02:14:26 PM »
Anyone ever thought that perhaps all the short term choices by our government and short term thinking by some businesses leads to short term thinking by consumers? Makes it easier to encourage people to make poor choices that keeps them poor?

It definitely normalizes the behavior. However I don't believe consumers need help thinking in the short term; they manage it stunningly well all by themselves. Otherwise the credit card industry wouldn't be anywhere near as well established as it is.

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #16751 on: February 12, 2017, 07:12:40 PM »
My boss told me that my co-worker had called him last weekend to ask if he could get $25 out of the petty cash so he could pay his cell phone bill before it gets turned off. A few days later that co-worker proceeded to tell me that he had gone bowling that Saturday night and ate out with his family at Red Lobster. Probably a $100 night. What the actual fuck?

That... seems like something the boss should not be sharing.  Sort of a * move.

I'd be upset if I was the coworker in that situation.
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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #16752 on: February 13, 2017, 06:28:47 AM »
My coworkers were late to our usual 'coffee run' (to the kitchen to use the company-provided Keurigs), because they were shopping. Apparently Lids is having a huge sale on MLB gear. One guy said he bought 10 shirts - I said I recently had to pare down my clothing because dresser was full, and his response was 'that's when you overflow to the guest bedroom closets'. Kidding? Not sure.

The bad part is...I'm thinking about buying a couple things too. *facepalm*
Though I won't feel guilty at all about buying a few gift items (because it is a good deal), it's the things I want but don't need that are haunting me.

Same coworker as above said he's just careful not to keep too much in checking account because he will spend it all (guess it's good to know yourself). He has a huge DVD collection, and video games -- he unwraps unplayed video games so wife doesn't realize how many haven't been used yet. Really awesome guy, just definitely not mustachian.

My coworkers are currently all trying to convince me to buy a new car, or a sports car, or anything fancier than my last car ('05 Prius). I am shopping for a car (totalled the last one), but they really can't seem to understand that for me a car is a functional vehicle and hardly any of the "features" are important to me. "Don't you want an audio jack?" gets them a blank stare and an "I don't think I had one in my last car." I understand that these things matter to some people, but if they don't matter to me why should I pay for them?

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #16753 on: February 13, 2017, 08:22:32 AM »
My coworkers are currently all trying to convince me to buy a new car, or a sports car, or anything fancier than my last car ('05 Prius). I am shopping for a car (totalled the last one), but they really can't seem to understand that for me a car is a functional vehicle and hardly any of the "features" are important to me. "Don't you want an audio jack?" gets them a blank stare and an "I don't think I had one in my last car." I understand that these things matter to some people, but if they don't matter to me why should I pay for them?
Not just that, but an audio jack in particular is a pretty dumb reason to get one car over another.  My current car has one (2009), but I got one with my aftermarket radio in my last car (1992) which set me back all of ~$40 (the radio, not the car).

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #16754 on: February 13, 2017, 09:41:17 AM »
My coworkers are currently all trying to convince me to buy a new car, or a sports car, or anything fancier than my last car ('05 Prius). I am shopping for a car (totalled the last one), but they really can't seem to understand that for me a car is a functional vehicle and hardly any of the "features" are important to me. "Don't you want an audio jack?" gets them a blank stare and an "I don't think I had one in my last car." I understand that these things matter to some people, but if they don't matter to me why should I pay for them?
Not just that, but an audio jack in particular is a pretty dumb reason to get one car over another.  My current car has one (2009), but I got one with my aftermarket radio in my last car (1992) which set me back all of ~$40 (the radio, not the car).

Same here! My 2004 Camry has a tape deck that stopped working (loved using it to listen to my Ipod) and so I just bought an aftermarket system and installed it.

My parents are trying to convince me to buy a new car because it has 160k miles on it, my response is to ask, "Are you planning on paying for it?" I don't get the point of buying a Toyota car unless you're looking to run it to the ground because they are well-built and aside from regular maintenance I've had no issues with it (knock on wood). I want to get as much mileage out of this car as I can and hopefully by the time I look for a new car Tesla's Model 3 will be readily available and there will be additional electric cars out there in the market.

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #16755 on: February 13, 2017, 09:57:24 AM »
My coworkers are currently all trying to convince me to buy a new car, or a sports car, or anything fancier than my last car ('05 Prius). I am shopping for a car (totalled the last one), but they really can't seem to understand that for me a car is a functional vehicle and hardly any of the "features" are important to me. "Don't you want an audio jack?" gets them a blank stare and an "I don't think I had one in my last car." I understand that these things matter to some people, but if they don't matter to me why should I pay for them?
Not just that, but an audio jack in particular is a pretty dumb reason to get one car over another.  My current car has one (2009), but I got one with my aftermarket radio in my last car (1992) which set me back all of ~$40 (the radio, not the car).

Same here! My 2004 Camry has a tape deck that stopped working (loved using it to listen to my Ipod) and so I just bought an aftermarket system and installed it.

My parents are trying to convince me to buy a new car because it has 160k miles on it, my response is to ask, "Are you planning on paying for it?" I don't get the point of buying a Toyota car unless you're looking to run it to the ground because they are well-built and aside from regular maintenance I've had no issues with it (knock on wood). I want to get as much mileage out of this car as I can and hopefully by the time I look for a new car Tesla's Model 3 will be readily available and there will be additional electric cars out there in the market.

"I don't get the point of buying a Toyota car unless you're looking to run it to the ground"

This. So much this. By and large, they're all just uninspiring, boring appliances that do exactly what they need to reliably and inexpensively. We were just at the auto show this weekend. Sat in a ton of cars. There were exactly two Toyotas that I liked--the 4Runner and the Tacoma. Everything else, I just don't see the point in unless you're going to buy it to drive it forever. Otherwise, why not get something with some mojo?

(Disclaimer: Car nut here, have owned 3 different Toyotas and will likely own one again in the future)

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #16756 on: February 13, 2017, 10:01:19 AM »
My coworkers are currently all trying to convince me to buy a new car, or a sports car, or anything fancier than my last car ('05 Prius). I am shopping for a car (totalled the last one), but they really can't seem to understand that for me a car is a functional vehicle and hardly any of the "features" are important to me. "Don't you want an audio jack?" gets them a blank stare and an "I don't think I had one in my last car." I understand that these things matter to some people, but if they don't matter to me why should I pay for them?
Not just that, but an audio jack in particular is a pretty dumb reason to get one car over another.  My current car has one (2009), but I got one with my aftermarket radio in my last car (1992) which set me back all of ~$40 (the radio, not the car).

Same here! My 2004 Camry has a tape deck that stopped working (loved using it to listen to my Ipod) and so I just bought an aftermarket system and installed it.

My parents are trying to convince me to buy a new car because it has 160k miles on it, my response is to ask, "Are you planning on paying for it?" I don't get the point of buying a Toyota car unless you're looking to run it to the ground because they are well-built and aside from regular maintenance I've had no issues with it (knock on wood). I want to get as much mileage out of this car as I can and hopefully by the time I look for a new car Tesla's Model 3 will be readily available and there will be additional electric cars out there in the market.

Exactly! I feel like right now is a terrible time to buy a new car, because great electric cars are just around the corner. It's crazy to think that my next car will probably be electric. At least I hope, I'm at 150k miles but it's a Mitsubishi so we'll see about reliability. I see several over 200k miles on Craigslist, but not too many of them over 300k...but it's possible because no one is selling some that high? Also, my car is notorious for being abused by idiots and teenagers.

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #16757 on: February 13, 2017, 10:13:19 AM »
Exactly! I feel like right now is a terrible time to buy a new car, because great electric cars are just around the corner. It's crazy to think that my next car will probably be electric. At least I hope, I'm at 150k miles but it's a Mitsubishi so we'll see about reliability. I see several over 200k miles on Craigslist, but not too many of them over 300k...but it's possible because no one is selling some that high? Also, my car is notorious for being abused by idiots and teenagers.
Same boat.  If my 2006 Sentra gets to 200K miles, probably buying another car then simply because if I'm doing my math right and future mileage is around the projection, I'll have been driving this thing for around 25 years, so 15 years from now, electric cars are likely to be AMAZING.

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #16758 on: February 13, 2017, 10:22:30 AM »
My coworkers are currently all trying to convince me to buy a new car, or a sports car, or anything fancier than my last car ('05 Prius). I am shopping for a car (totalled the last one), but they really can't seem to understand that for me a car is a functional vehicle and hardly any of the "features" are important to me. "Don't you want an audio jack?" gets them a blank stare and an "I don't think I had one in my last car." I understand that these things matter to some people, but if they don't matter to me why should I pay for them?
Not just that, but an audio jack in particular is a pretty dumb reason to get one car over another.  My current car has one (2009), but I got one with my aftermarket radio in my last car (1992) which set me back all of ~$40 (the radio, not the car).
Since my car has a USB port I don't think I'll ever go back to wanting an audio jack.

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #16759 on: February 13, 2017, 10:34:16 AM »
My coworkers are currently all trying to convince me to buy a new car, or a sports car, or anything fancier than my last car ('05 Prius). I am shopping for a car (totalled the last one), but they really can't seem to understand that for me a car is a functional vehicle and hardly any of the "features" are important to me. "Don't you want an audio jack?" gets them a blank stare and an "I don't think I had one in my last car." I understand that these things matter to some people, but if they don't matter to me why should I pay for them?
Not just that, but an audio jack in particular is a pretty dumb reason to get one car over another.  My current car has one (2009), but I got one with my aftermarket radio in my last car (1992) which set me back all of ~$40 (the radio, not the car).
Since my car has a USB port I don't think I'll ever go back to wanting an audio jack.
Does the USB port typically do anything other than play audio files off a flash drive?  I have one too but I'm pretty sure that's all mine does (and I know it doesn't have enough juice to charge anything).

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #16760 on: February 13, 2017, 10:42:32 AM »
My coworkers are currently all trying to convince me to buy a new car, or a sports car, or anything fancier than my last car ('05 Prius). I am shopping for a car (totalled the last one), but they really can't seem to understand that for me a car is a functional vehicle and hardly any of the "features" are important to me. "Don't you want an audio jack?" gets them a blank stare and an "I don't think I had one in my last car." I understand that these things matter to some people, but if they don't matter to me why should I pay for them?
Not just that, but an audio jack in particular is a pretty dumb reason to get one car over another.  My current car has one (2009), but I got one with my aftermarket radio in my last car (1992) which set me back all of ~$40 (the radio, not the car).
Since my car has a USB port I don't think I'll ever go back to wanting an audio jack.
Does the USB port typically do anything other than play audio files off a flash drive?  I have one too but I'm pretty sure that's all mine does (and I know it doesn't have enough juice to charge anything).

You can also use it to charge your phone should the need arise.

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #16761 on: February 13, 2017, 11:33:09 AM »
The USB port does something OTHER than charge my phone?  2014 Mazda3, bought used so no real walk through.

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #16762 on: February 13, 2017, 11:45:28 AM »
The USB port does something OTHER than charge my phone?  2014 Mazda3, bought used so no real walk through.

Yep, here's your specific car: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mr46e5fCDtk&t=57s

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #16763 on: February 13, 2017, 12:11:15 PM »
So we got 2 new interns at work today and I finally have a story. The girl got dropped off by her dad who apparently took 2 weeks off to drop her off every day. It would take approx 75 min for her one way to get there, using cheap public transport or a bit less than an hour if she took the train. Counting in real time connections and delays.

The guy though was even more of a charm. He asked me if there were 'smoskes' ordered somewhere at the company. Smoskes is Flemish closest translation I could find is something like the sandwiches from Subway. Normal price 3-4 Euros a piece. Sadly I couldn't help him more than referring him to the HR department (small company) as they order sandwiches before a certain hour there. I had the idea that packing a lunchbox was a very new thing for him. And he had some problems understanding why you don't ask people about their wage.

I just amn't sure if I am just too frugal or they are quite spendy.

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #16764 on: February 13, 2017, 01:17:16 PM »
So we got 2 new interns at work today and I finally have a story. The girl got dropped off by her dad who apparently took 2 weeks off to drop her off every day. It would take approx 75 min for her one way to get there, using cheap public transport or a bit less than an hour if she took the train. Counting in real time connections and delays.

The guy though was even more of a charm. He asked me if there were 'smoskes' ordered somewhere at the company. Smoskes is Flemish closest translation I could find is something like the sandwiches from Subway. Normal price 3-4 Euros a piece. Sadly I couldn't help him more than referring him to the HR department (small company) as they order sandwiches before a certain hour there. I had the idea that packing a lunchbox was a very new thing for him. And he had some problems understanding why you don't ask people about their wage.

I just amn't sure if I am just too frugal or they are quite spendy.

Is the internship only two weeks and her dad is just going to drop her off every day?

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #16765 on: February 13, 2017, 03:30:16 PM »
And he had some problems understanding why you don't ask people about their wage.

A friend of mine is an immigrant from South Korea, and he told me that in Korea, asking someone how much money they make is polite conversation when you're getting to know someone.  I kind of wish it was more common to discuss salaries, at least with coworkers.

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« Reply #16766 on: February 13, 2017, 03:32:49 PM »
So we got 2 new interns at work today and I finally have a story. The girl got dropped off by her dad who apparently took 2 weeks off to drop her off every day. It would take approx 75 min for her one way to get there, using cheap public transport or a bit less than an hour if she took the train. Counting in real time connections and delays.

The guy though was even more of a charm. He asked me if there were 'smoskes' ordered somewhere at the company. Smoskes is Flemish closest translation I could find is something like the sandwiches from Subway. Normal price 3-4 Euros a piece. Sadly I couldn't help him more than referring him to the HR department (small company) as they order sandwiches before a certain hour there. I had the idea that packing a lunchbox was a very new thing for him. And he had some problems understanding why you don't ask people about their wage.

I just amn't am just not sure if I am just too frugal or they are quite spendy.

The word "am" doesn't have contractions the way "are" and "is" do.  English is a silly language.

I had a new coworker years ago who was asking everyone about their salaries and other personal financial info.  We quickly took him aside and told him it was inappropriate.  It turns out that in his birthplace (part of China), those were very normal questions to ask.  But then we had a second new guy, years later, who told everyone all of his own personal info (what he paid in rent, how much money was in his bank account).  That second guy was born in the US; he was just a braggart.

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #16767 on: February 13, 2017, 03:39:30 PM »
The word "am" doesn't have contractions the way "are" and "is" do.  English is a silly language.
Yeah, I wish "amn't" was a more widely-accepted term. :(

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« Reply #16768 on: February 13, 2017, 04:30:03 PM »
... we had a second new guy, years later, who told everyone all of his own personal info (what he paid in rent, how much money was in his bank account) ... he was just a braggart.

Was he bragging about paying a lot or a little in rent?

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« Reply #16769 on: February 13, 2017, 04:43:59 PM »
The word "am" doesn't have contractions the way "are" and "is" do.  English is a silly language.
Yeah, I wish "amn't" was a more widely-accepted term. :(

Well, it ain't.

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« Reply #16770 on: February 13, 2017, 05:20:37 PM »
My family had a Korean student living with them as he completed high school in the US.  He told us how when he first came to the country, he thought Americans were rude, condescending, and racist for casually smiling at him. 

Apparently in South Korea it is not common to smile at strangers.  You could smile at children or the mentally disabled to make them feel comfortable.  So if a passing stranger smiled at you, they were implying they believed you were a bit slow mentally.

It took a while before he realized these people were smiling at everyone, not just him, and it was just a thing Americans did.

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #16771 on: February 13, 2017, 05:24:33 PM »
My coworkers are currently all trying to convince me to buy a new car, or a sports car, or anything fancier than my last car ('05 Prius). I am shopping for a car (totalled the last one), but they really can't seem to understand that for me a car is a functional vehicle and hardly any of the "features" are important to me. "Don't you want an audio jack?" gets them a blank stare and an "I don't think I had one in my last car." I understand that these things matter to some people, but if they don't matter to me why should I pay for them?
Not just that, but an audio jack in particular is a pretty dumb reason to get one car over another.  My current car has one (2009), but I got one with my aftermarket radio in my last car (1992) which set me back all of ~$40 (the radio, not the car).
Since my car has a USB port I don't think I'll ever go back to wanting an audio jack.
Does the USB port typically do anything other than play audio files off a flash drive?  I have one too but I'm pretty sure that's all mine does (and I know it doesn't have enough juice to charge anything).

You can also use it to charge your phone should the need arise.

You missed sentence two of his post.  :)

Typically that should work though, but apparently not with his.
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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #16772 on: February 13, 2017, 05:29:07 PM »
... we had a second new guy, years later, who told everyone all of his own personal info (what he paid in rent, how much money was in his bank account) ... he was just a braggart.

Was he bragging about paying a lot or a little in rent?

I think it was a lot, as in "look how fancy an apartment I have!"  He gave us so much personal info, I almost think we could have gotten his SSN just by asking.  We called him "Topper," like the Dilbert character, because he had to "top" the stories anyone else told.

Normal person to group:  "I ran a 5K last weekend.  It was pretty fun, so I might do this more regularly."
Our Topper replies: "When I was in high school, I was on track and was top of my division!"

Normal person to group: "I saw this guy on the subway who was breakdancing!  It was really cool."
Our Topper replies: "That's nothing!  When I lived in Specific City, there was this guy who got on the subway and was soooo druuuunk he threw up over everything!"

My family had a Korean student living with them as he completed high school in the US.  He told us how when he first came to the country, he thought Americans were rude, condescending, and racist for casually smiling at him. 

Apparently in South Korea it is not common to smile at strangers.  You could smile at children or the mentally disabled to make them feel comfortable.  So if a passing stranger smiled at you, they were implying they believed you were a bit slow mentally.

It took a while before he realized these people were smiling at everyone, not just him, and it was just a thing Americans did.

Oh wow!  I would be really interested in a culture shock thread, if anyone knows of one that is going on the forums.

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #16773 on: February 14, 2017, 03:54:33 AM »
My colleague for whom I am mentor, told me today that she also had brought lunch from home, and calculated after lunch how much she had saved. It's good to have inspired someone else to save money.

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #16774 on: February 14, 2017, 06:25:55 AM »
The word "am" doesn't have contractions the way "are" and "is" do.  English is a silly language.
Yeah, I wish "amn't" was a more widely-accepted term. :(

Well, it ain't.

I'm just being argumentative on the internet today, so: I studied English grammar as part of an Eng lit/lang degree. Most grammar rules were made up in the 18th century to give English some sort of gravitas in line with Latin, instead of it being viewed as a mongrel language. People were quite anxious for English to be seen as a legitimate language, because of snobbery.

Since then a lot of grammar 'rules' have gradually come into being through common usage. A lot of the rules have vanished over time.

The only rule we were given as gospel was that *as long as* people understand your meaning, your grammar is fine.

So when correcting someone's grammar, you have no real basis for doing so. Grammar was not invented by some divine being, it's just trial and error. If enough people say amn't, it will come into being.

Right throw stuff at me if you want now.

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #16775 on: February 14, 2017, 08:42:28 AM »
The word "am" doesn't have contractions the way "are" and "is" do.  English is a silly language.
Yeah, I wish "amn't" was a more widely-accepted term. :(

Well, it ain't.

I'm just being argumentative on the internet today, so: I studied English grammar as part of an Eng lit/lang degree. Most grammar rules were made up in the 18th century to give English some sort of gravitas in line with Latin, instead of it being viewed as a mongrel language. People were quite anxious for English to be seen as a legitimate language, because of snobbery.

Since then a lot of grammar 'rules' have gradually come into being through common usage. A lot of the rules have vanished over time.

The only rule we were given as gospel was that *as long as* people understand your meaning, your grammar is fine.

So when correcting someone's grammar, you have no real basis for doing so. Grammar was not invented by some divine being, it's just trial and error. If enough people say amn't, it will come into being.

Right throw stuff at me if you want now.

I'll throw the first stone:  as someone from an Appalachian coal town, I can tell you that grammar and pronunciation matters.  I have a degree from a top law school and people still think I'm a dirty stupid hillbilly because my grammar isn't perfect and I can drift back into that old twang/slurred speech when I'm excited or feeling relaxed.  It's worth learning and following the "rules."
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« Reply #16776 on: February 14, 2017, 09:24:03 AM »
The word "am" doesn't have contractions the way "are" and "is" do.  English is a silly language.
Yeah, I wish "amn't" was a more widely-accepted term. :(

Well, it ain't.

I'm just being argumentative on the internet today, so: I studied English grammar as part of an Eng lit/lang degree. Most grammar rules were made up in the 18th century to give English some sort of gravitas in line with Latin, instead of it being viewed as a mongrel language. People were quite anxious for English to be seen as a legitimate language, because of snobbery.

Since then a lot of grammar 'rules' have gradually come into being through common usage. A lot of the rules have vanished over time.

The only rule we were given as gospel was that *as long as* people understand your meaning, your grammar is fine.

So when correcting someone's grammar, you have no real basis for doing so. Grammar was not invented by some divine being, it's just trial and error. If enough people say amn't, it will come into being.

Right throw stuff at me if you want now.

I'll throw the first stone:  as someone from an Appalachian coal town, I can tell you that grammar and pronunciation matters.  I have a degree from a top law school and people still think I'm a dirty stupid hillbilly because my grammar isn't perfect and I can drift back into that old twang/slurred speach when I'm excited or feeling relaxed.  It's worth learning and following the "rules."

If you want to be taken seriously, grammar matters.

A co-worker was telling me how his previous company sent him out with the sales team for a new financial product. He noticed that the brochure had some mistakes, the most glaring example being apostrophes used incorrectly. He said the meeting was the best he'd ever been to. The CEO of the prospective client company read through the brochure, circled every mistake with a red pen, handed it back and said "If you can't even get this right, why do you think I'd be interested in your product?".

On another note, it was funny to hear amn't again. It was frequently used by Dubliners when I was a kid...not so sure about these days.

From an online source: "The NOAD has a note about using aren't, and amn't: The contraction aren't is used in standard English to mean "am not" in questions, as in "I'm right, aren't I?" ... The nonstandard (although logical) form amn't is restricted to Scottish, Irish, and dialect use."

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« Reply #16777 on: February 14, 2017, 09:29:41 AM »
The word "am" doesn't have contractions the way "are" and "is" do.  English is a silly language.
Yeah, I wish "amn't" was a more widely-accepted term. :(

Well, it ain't.

I'm just being argumentative on the internet today, so: I studied English grammar as part of an Eng lit/lang degree. Most grammar rules were made up in the 18th century to give English some sort of gravitas in line with Latin, instead of it being viewed as a mongrel language. People were quite anxious for English to be seen as a legitimate language, because of snobbery.

Since then a lot of grammar 'rules' have gradually come into being through common usage. A lot of the rules have vanished over time.

The only rule we were given as gospel was that *as long as* people understand your meaning, your grammar is fine.

So when correcting someone's grammar, you have no real basis for doing so. Grammar was not invented by some divine being, it's just trial and error. If enough people say amn't, it will come into being.

Right throw stuff at me if you want now.

I'll throw the first stone:  as someone from an Appalachian coal town, I can tell you that grammar and pronunciation matters.  I have a degree from a top law school and people still think I'm a dirty stupid hillbilly because my grammar isn't perfect and I can drift back into that old twang/slurred speach when I'm excited or feeling relaxed.  It's worth learning and following the "rules."

Both can be useful.  There are times when you want your audience to know you are well-educated and intelligent, and there are times when, if they think you're a little less sophisticated or educated, that's okay too.  Sometimes you want them to think less of you because they'll feel you are less formidable, sometimes because it makes you seem less threatening.  I don't talk to my guys in the shop the same way I talk to the CEO. 

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« Reply #16778 on: February 14, 2017, 09:36:23 AM »
Grammar matters because we rely on language to communicate. Using poor speech shifts the burden of understanding to your conversation partners and signals that you simply don't care. I have no interest in trying to parse poor communicators' unpunctuated streams of consciousness on the off-chance that there may be something of interest in there.

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« Reply #16779 on: February 14, 2017, 09:46:23 AM »
I have no interest in trying to parse poor communicators' unpunctuated streams of consciousness on the off-chance that there may be something of interest in there.

You would not enjoy Tumblr.

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« Reply #16780 on: February 14, 2017, 09:50:50 AM »
While I absolutely agree with everything Paul just said, I was thrilled to see "amn't" in the wild. It's creative, fresh, and makes perfect sense. "Of course you would contract 'am not' into amn't!", I said to myself.

Grammar matters, and mis-use of grammar is bad. But this wasn't a mis-use of grammar. IMHYCO.

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« Reply #16781 on: February 14, 2017, 09:51:34 AM »
True. Much good comments :)

I think grammar matters sometimes (I and it's useful, and I studied it because I found it fascinating. (It's like a map of a small part of your brain!!)

And sure there are many settings (professional, meeting your other half's parents) when you'd want to be articulate and make a good impression.

However when I see people pulling others up on their 'incorrect' use of grammar I just think... uugh why. Why though. Just leave them alone. If you understood what they meant, then they successfully communicated. Job done.




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« Reply #16782 on: February 14, 2017, 09:53:56 AM »


A co-worker was telling me how his previous company sent him out with the sales team for a new financial product. He noticed that the brochure had some mistakes, the most glaring example being apostrophes used incorrectly. He said the meeting was the best he'd ever been to. The CEO of the prospective client company read through the brochure, circled every mistake with a red pen, handed it back and said "If you can't even get this right, why do you think I'd be interested in your product?".


Yeah that is a fair bit of criticism. It frustrates me to no end when my dad sends out long emails to customers because his grammar absolutely sucks. Thankfully he'll email what he wants to say to me and I'll clean it up for him though every once in a while he'll forget to do so.

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« Reply #16783 on: February 14, 2017, 09:54:25 AM »
True. Much good comments :)

I think grammar matters sometimes (I and it's useful, and I studied it because I found it fascinating. (It's like a map of a small part of your brain!!)

And sure there are many settings (professional, meeting your other half's parents) when you'd want to be articulate and make a good impression.

However when I see people pulling others up on their 'incorrect' use of grammar I just think... uugh why. Why though. Just leave them alone. If you understood what they meant, then they successfully communicated. Job done.

Ironically all my posts are riddled with typos.

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #16784 on: February 14, 2017, 09:56:31 AM »
I have no interest in trying to parse poor communicators' unpunctuated streams of consciousness on the off-chance that there may be something of interest in there.
You would not enjoy Tumblr.

Tumblr feels like "Darmok and Jalad at Tanagra" only with gifs.  Every once in a while I try, but my brain doesn't like working that way. 

And yes, I am aware that I am complaining about allusions by using one of my own.

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« Reply #16785 on: February 14, 2017, 10:43:09 AM »
My coworkers are currently all trying to convince me to buy a new car, or a sports car, or anything fancier than my last car ('05 Prius). I am shopping for a car (totalled the last one), but they really can't seem to understand that for me a car is a functional vehicle and hardly any of the "features" are important to me. "Don't you want an audio jack?" gets them a blank stare and an "I don't think I had one in my last car." I understand that these things matter to some people, but if they don't matter to me why should I pay for them?
Not just that, but an audio jack in particular is a pretty dumb reason to get one car over another.  My current car has one (2009), but I got one with my aftermarket radio in my last car (1992) which set me back all of ~$40 (the radio, not the car).
Since my car has a USB port I don't think I'll ever go back to wanting an audio jack.
Does the USB port typically do anything other than play audio files off a flash drive?  I have one too but I'm pretty sure that's all mine does (and I know it doesn't have enough juice to charge anything).

You can also use it to charge your phone should the need arise.

You can get a plug for the 'cigarette' socket that has usb ports, then plug in both your phone and mp3 player for long trips.  That's what I did with my recently totaled 2009 Corolla (with audio jack cord).

Coworkers and retired boss are convinced that I need a 4-wheel drive new (or very low mileage) car, since once or twice a year I go on a road trip up north at the holidays.  Granted, the accident happened because of snow, but I don't think that's a reason to buy a new Subaru.  In fact, I'm looking at another '09 Toyota with 100k miles on it.  They are of the opinion that it's just not safe without all the new tech.

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #16786 on: February 14, 2017, 10:53:23 AM »
However when I see people pulling others up on their 'incorrect' use of grammar I just think... uugh why. Why though. Just leave them alone. If you understood what they meant, then they successfully communicated. Job done.

With This Herring was very POLITELY pointing out English conjugation to a poster who is from Belgium. WTH even said "English is a silly language" to make clear that they weren't mocking the OP but pointing out something that might seem logical but is not actually correct. In my experience, people who are not native English speakers would rather be gently corrected than continue to say something incorrectly.

The word "am" doesn't have contractions the way "are" and "is" do.  English is a silly language.

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« Reply #16787 on: February 14, 2017, 10:56:05 AM »
I have no interest in trying to parse poor communicators' unpunctuated streams of consciousness on the off-chance that there may be something of interest in there.
You would not enjoy Tumblr.

Tumblr feels like "Darmok and Jalad at Tanagra" only with gifs.  Every once in a while I try, but my brain doesn't like working that way. 

And yes, I am aware that I am complaining about allusions by using one of my own.

Tumblr is worse than what went down at Tanagra

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« Reply #16788 on: February 14, 2017, 11:31:29 AM »
My coworkers are currently all trying to convince me to buy a new car, or a sports car, or anything fancier than my last car ('05 Prius). I am shopping for a car (totalled the last one), but they really can't seem to understand that for me a car is a functional vehicle and hardly any of the "features" are important to me. "Don't you want an audio jack?" gets them a blank stare and an "I don't think I had one in my last car." I understand that these things matter to some people, but if they don't matter to me why should I pay for them?
Not just that, but an audio jack in particular is a pretty dumb reason to get one car over another.  My current car has one (2009), but I got one with my aftermarket radio in my last car (1992) which set me back all of ~$40 (the radio, not the car).
Since my car has a USB port I don't think I'll ever go back to wanting an audio jack.
Does the USB port typically do anything other than play audio files off a flash drive?  I have one too but I'm pretty sure that's all mine does (and I know it doesn't have enough juice to charge anything).

You can also use it to charge your phone should the need arise.

You can get a plug for the 'cigarette' socket that has usb ports, then plug in both your phone and mp3 player for long trips.  That's what I did with my recently totaled 2009 Corolla (with audio jack cord).

Coworkers and retired boss are convinced that I need a 4-wheel drive new (or very low mileage) car, since once or twice a year I go on a road trip up north at the holidays.  Granted, the accident happened because of snow, but I don't think that's a reason to buy a new Subaru.  In fact, I'm looking at another '09 Toyota with 100k miles on it.  They are of the opinion that it's just not safe without all the new tech.

I personally don't care about charging, but that's probably because I don't have an MP3 player and my dumb phone battery lasts for days without needing a charge.

Typically all you need are snow tires. A two-wheel drive car with snow tires will perform significantly better in the snow than a four/all-wheel drive car with all-season tires.

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« Reply #16789 on: February 14, 2017, 11:33:36 AM »
So we got 2 new interns at work today and I finally have a story. The girl got dropped off by her dad who apparently took 2 weeks off to drop her off every day. It would take approx 75 min for her one way to get there, using cheap public transport or a bit less than an hour if she took the train. Counting in real time connections and delays.

The guy though was even more of a charm. He asked me if there were 'smoskes' ordered somewhere at the company. Smoskes is Flemish closest translation I could find is something like the sandwiches from Subway. Normal price 3-4 Euros a piece. Sadly I couldn't help him more than referring him to the HR department (small company) as they order sandwiches before a certain hour there. I had the idea that packing a lunchbox was a very new thing for him. And he had some problems understanding why you don't ask people about their wage.

I just amn't sure if I am just too frugal or they are quite spendy.

Is the internship only two weeks and her dad is just going to drop her off every day?

You got it :)

And guys, I don't mind the correction, I just learned something new. For the people who think grammar is important, please note that it can be very important in more formal settings and correcting foreigners is fine. But unless you speak another language as fluent as them don't be a grammar nazi. It just doesn't make your true wonderful self come out as nicely ;).
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« Reply #16790 on: February 14, 2017, 12:33:36 PM »
I was thrilled to see "amn't" in the wild. It's creative, fresh, and makes perfect sense. "Of course you would contract 'am not' into amn't!", I said to myself.

Double for me.  Love the word!  After I saw it, I re-read the entire post and saw (what I thought was) perfect grammar and sentence structure and word use in every other way.  The good grammar was the only tip-off to me that the poster could not possibly have learned English in the U.S. 

Guys, we suck at our own language.  Call it evolution if you want, but we really need to try harder if we want to be understood.  Americans are kind of dumb.  Can someone please dig out that old thread about Grammar Police?  I think Miss Primm started it.

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« Reply #16791 on: February 14, 2017, 03:44:01 PM »
My family had a Korean student living with them as he completed high school in the US.  He told us how when he first came to the country, he thought Americans were rude, condescending, and racist for casually smiling at him. 

Apparently in South Korea it is not common to smile at strangers.  You could smile at children or the mentally disabled to make them feel comfortable.  So if a passing stranger smiled at you, they were implying they believed you were a bit slow mentally.

It took a while before he realized these people were smiling at everyone, not just him, and it was just a thing Americans did.

Oh wow!  I would be really interested in a culture shock thread, if anyone knows of one that is going on the forums.

I would also be very interested in a thread on this topic.  I'm leaving the US in 3 1/2 weeks to visit Guatemala for 4 weeks, including a family homestay.  Aside from what I would consider respectful guest behavior, I'd love to hear any pointers specific to the local culture.

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Re: Overheard at Work
« Reply #16792 on: February 14, 2017, 07:28:39 PM »
A coworker and I were talking about meat smokers today.

I asked: "Don't you have one?"
He replied: "No - I'm saving up my Cabella's points so I get a free one"

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« Reply #16793 on: February 15, 2017, 03:26:40 AM »
However when I see people pulling others up on their 'incorrect' use of grammar I just think... uugh why. Why though. Just leave them alone. If you understood what they meant, then they successfully communicated. Job done.

With This Herring was very POLITELY pointing out English conjugation to a poster who is from Belgium. WTH even said "English is a silly language" to make clear that they weren't mocking the OP but pointing out something that might seem logical but is not actually correct. In my experience, people who are not native English speakers would rather be gently corrected than continue to say something incorrectly.

The word "am" doesn't have contractions the way "are" and "is" do.  English is a silly language.

Sure, I meant no harm. I didn't intend my rant at all as a personal attack on With This Herring although I can see it very much looked like that, so I'm sorry for causing any offense.

I get a rage-klaxon going off in my head sometimes when grammar corrections happen. Yeah I am so much fun at parties.

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« Reply #16794 on: February 15, 2017, 05:48:15 AM »
Not necessarily heard, but during an interview with a 20 year old community college student who also works seasonally in the lawn/snow business who lives at home. 

Me:  What do you drive
Him:  A leased 2016 F150 truck.

Mental Face-palm

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« Reply #16795 on: February 15, 2017, 06:22:29 AM »
... who lives at home. 


I never understood saying this when it is meant that somebody lives with their parents. Like, of course he lives at home. Where else do people live? I live at home too, it just happens to be my home.

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« Reply #16796 on: February 15, 2017, 07:11:04 AM »
Aren't alot of people implying a person ought to be working towards being self-sufficient at that age rather than spending wildly in ways that will delay this transition (launch to adulthood)?
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« Reply #16797 on: February 15, 2017, 07:13:28 AM »
... who lives at home. 
I never understood saying this when it is meant that somebody lives with their parents. Like, of course he lives at home. Where else do people live? I live at home too, it just happens to be my home.

My first two years of university I lived in campus housing.

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« Reply #16798 on: February 15, 2017, 07:45:35 AM »
Son of an English teacher here...I try to use what I understand to be correct grammar. However, language has two uses: conveying information via the meaning, and conveying social information through the subtext/social signalling of the speech.

Using non-standard constructions, words, or even blatantly falsifying statements can be an important tool of social meaning, i.e. conveying that you are a member of a desirable social group.

I choose to convey that I am a member of the "my mom beat these grammar rules into my head far more than anyone should" group.

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« Reply #16799 on: February 15, 2017, 08:53:37 AM »
... who lives at home. 
I never understood saying this when it is meant that somebody lives with their parents. Like, of course he lives at home. Where else do people live? I live at home too, it just happens to be my home.

My first two years of university I lived in campus housing.
Ok, but he goes to community college, so campus housing isn't a thing. Doesn't that mean that wherever he is staying (w/parents, in an apartment, in a rental, or owns a house) would still technically be "home" seeing as it's a permanent residence?

I kind of understand it for students at a 4 year university that stay in temporary housing during the school year, but if you're not in a situation where you can differentiate "school" and "home" then it just seems silly.

Example, a co-worker of mine at my last job was a college graduate that lived with his parents so that he could save money. People would say he "lives at home." My first thought as his peer who, at the time, rented a house was "well no shit, where else does somebody live?"

A more accurate statement for somebody in this situation should be "lives with his/her parents" as opposed to assuming that everybody considers their parents' house to be "home."
If I own a house, but I decide to sell it and move back in with my parents, many people would say I was "moving back home," but wouldn't I just be moving out of one home and into another? It just doesn't make sense to me.