Grandpa died fairly young, but very much retired. To give you an idea of the wealth he'd accumulated, my grandmother once commented how nice Ferraris look, so he said he'd get her one, but that it would be her last car. She instead opted for a Dodge Neon that lasted the duration.
Now, all our lives we'd been told there's a small inheritance coming - $2,000. In my teens, my brother began demanding his $2,000, because it's his, after all. My guess is that he needed cash, and started thinking 'where can I get it?' It wasn't altogether unreasonable, until he acted like a fool and was screaming for his money.
Leading up to grandma's passing, she lost her eyesight, and then a leg. However, leading up to that, my brother (who wanted his money!!!!) complained that she was blowing all of grandpa's money.
After 30+ years of having no income, and 5 in a very good nursing home, grandma passed, and the estate was to be settled.
Her 3 sons got everyone over 18 together and said the following:
"The estate is a house and about $280,000. All grandchildren are getting $5,000, the sons will get $70,000, and the sale of the house will be split 3 ways between the sons."
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But wait! There's a bonus for my brother! When grandma - who was spending all the money - died, it was kind of around his birthday. As such, he planned a big birthday outing. When the check came at the fancy-pants restaurant, I jokingly went for my wallet and pulled out a TJ Maxx coupon, and he was so disappointed that I would be so cheap. At this, I realized that he expected us to pay for his birthday outing (he was over 30) that he had planned.
And we did! So maybe I'm the asshole here.