When my ex-in-laws died, they had left half the estate in 5 parts, once part to each of their children; and the other half to the middle son, who was the executor. Knowing all the offspring and having been divorced from one of them, I thought this a recipe for catastrophe, but it actually revealed their real insight into their children's characters. I am decades out of the marriage that connected me to them, but still see him with pleasure and admiration. Back when the parents were still alive, it was he who persuaded them to set up education trusts for each of the grandchildren, then invested them and doled them out, at least initially. The other siblings were, and are, bubbling in a vat of dysfunction, envy, and barely-suppressed conflict. He served honorably as the executor and wound up his parents' lives without the help of his siblings though with their complaint and sniping, so that when the first half of the estate was parted out, there was more money for each of them than there would have been. He accepted the other half of the inheritance and grew it. He told them he did not want to screw his brothers and sisters, but if they could not behave, he would. This largely checked their unruliness and public misbehavior, though it did nothing to stem the bitching. When all was settled, he split the second inheritance into 5 parts. Though it was his to keep by will and by right, he gave it to them equally. I don't know if any of them ever thanked him, and from a fullness of experience, very much doubt any did. The parents recognized his frugality, competence, generous spirit, and general crustiness, and they were right about him. To my children he is and will always be the favorite Reprobate Uncle. I conclude from his example that there are some very large people among us, and many of those they benefit will never realize they have been supported by a better than they.