I take time to go there to help my mum and aunt.
(Side note, my mum and aunt are borderline poverty level, but educated)
I go with her around the house, and she is interested in the big value items.
But I notice that my gramps has accumulated maybe 200 to 400 tech/history magazines from the 1950 to 1980, i tell her that those are worth 5 to 20€ each on EBay, so at least 2000€ net.
Same thing with books and other things, all in all a minimum of 15000€, and I also offer to buy some books that have a sentimental value above EBay prices etc.
I also offer that between my sister, cousin (aunt's daughter) we take charge of that and only skim enough to pay postage on the items as neither my Aunt or Mum "do" internet...
Aunt starts to get $ signs in her eyes, starts getting suspicious, says that me coming to help is strange, and finally says to my mum that I'm dishonest and probably there to steal them...
And she shuts the whole thing down..
At that moment, my sister, brother, cousin and I had started to create a common EBay account so we could divide the work and help our Mums by donating time and hassle:
- Sister would do the clothes as she is good at floging that.
- Brother would do all the small but valuable.
- Cousin would do all the big items (very nice furniture, decorative items...)
- I would do the magazines and books...
Both brother and sister had to cancel booked flights etc, when aunt lost it.
In the end, we salvaged bits and bobs, and the big ticket items got sold way too cheap...
Both my mum were totally incapable of selling anything else...
The books and furniture got donated, the rest went in the trash.
All in all my mum and aunt pissed on at least 20 000€ (one year of post tax earning each) because they could not trust their kids... All of us have jobs, families and no history of shenanigans, so I am lost for words about their behaviour and some valuable (to me) heirlooms of my gramp are in some trash heap somewhere.