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Re: FacePunch Me
« Reply #250 on: October 06, 2015, 11:39:41 AM »
We are going to spend $4500 to have our apartment heat treated for bedbugs (living in NYC is so wonderful!). The regular treatment is only $900 but involves having the apartment soaked in insecticides on 2-3 separate occasions and we're planning to have a baby soon to that's the last thing we want. I guess this is more of a sob story than a request for a facepunch.

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« Reply #251 on: October 06, 2015, 11:40:18 AM »
We are going to spend $4500 to have our apartment heat treated for bedbugs (living in NYC is so wonderful!). The regular treatment is only $900 but involves having the apartment soaked in insecticides on 2-3 separate occasions and we're planning to have a baby soon to that's the last thing we want. I guess this is more of a sob story than a request for a facepunch.

That sucks. Surprised the landlord doesn't split it or something.

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« Reply #252 on: October 06, 2015, 01:07:13 PM »
I also confess to looking at the Coach and Jimmy Choo websites with lust in my heart (curling into fetal position in case someone contributes body blows)....

Only if you had made a purchase. But really, why are you making yourself miserable looking at those websites, if they make you want those things?

I love online shopping. I go to the website, I pick things out, read reviews, put them in my cart and then click out and do something else. It scratches the shopping itch without any money exchanging hands.

That's like the 'rhythm method' of shopping. It works really well until you have just one break in your self control... and then...

More like coitus interruptus: "Honey, I promise I'll pull out on time..."
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« Reply #253 on: October 06, 2015, 01:49:15 PM »
I also confess to looking at the Coach and Jimmy Choo websites with lust in my heart (curling into fetal position in case someone contributes body blows)....

Only if you had made a purchase. But really, why are you making yourself miserable looking at those websites, if they make you want those things?

I love online shopping. I go to the website, I pick things out, read reviews, put them in my cart and then click out and do something else. It scratches the shopping itch without any money exchanging hands.

That's like the 'rhythm method' of shopping. It works really well until you have just one break in your self control... and then...

More like coitus interruptus: "Honey, I promise I'll pull out on time..."

Exactly! Especially if you have CC info already saved to those sites... just asking for trouble!
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« Reply #254 on: October 06, 2015, 02:41:09 PM »
I also confess to looking at the Coach and Jimmy Choo websites with lust in my heart (curling into fetal position in case someone contributes body blows)....

Only if you had made a purchase. But really, why are you making yourself miserable looking at those websites, if they make you want those things?

I love online shopping. I go to the website, I pick things out, read reviews, put them in my cart and then click out and do something else. It scratches the shopping itch without any money exchanging hands.

But if you didn`t go to these sites, you wouldn`t have the itch....

I grew up in a household where shopping, especially for clothing and household goods, was a big part of the bonding. The itch is there and the itch is strong. I like clothes and I like shoes and I like pretty decorative things for my home. Looking online where I know that things might not fit, or the quality isn't what I think it is, or I have to pay for shipping...etc works for me to feel like I'm up to date without spending money. In a store, I have already sunk the time into driving there, finding parking, walking around the store and I can touch and feel and try on things that catch my eye. It's way too easy to spend once you're in a store.
If I try to cut myself off completely, I feel deprived, when I get a chance to still look and I can consciously make the decision not to spend, I do better with my spending.
Is there nothing you have an itch for? Maybe not clothes or handbags, but how about supplies for a hobby, a new bike, or seeds for your garden?

Onehair came to the thread for a facepunch, raised the subject as if she wasn`t as comfortable with this as you. I`m suggesting a different approach that might help the conflicting feelings, and maybe avoid unplanned purchases. Please stay away from my face when I am trying to help.

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« Reply #255 on: October 06, 2015, 03:51:53 PM »
Had a multi-level fail today. I spent $7.50 today because I didn't pack my lunch. And, I just remembered that I have leftovers in the work fridge from yesterday's lunch.

Facepunch me, indeed.

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« Reply #256 on: October 06, 2015, 06:18:17 PM »

So I'm chiming in to say that Jockey sent me a flyer about a new custom bra program for those hard-to-fit girls. The first bra is a shit-ton of money (IIRC, $100), but subsequent bras are less expensive. If you're a regular size, that sounds facepunch worthy, but those of you whose dimensions are non-standard will know that a perfect fitting bra is worth its weight in gold. I haven't tried one personally, but it might be worth a look if the usual places don't carry your size.

thanks for this, DD is impossible to fit in a regular store. 

We might get a Costco, is there a place to try the bras on?

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« Reply #257 on: October 06, 2015, 08:28:16 PM »

So I'm chiming in to say that Jockey sent me a flyer about a new custom bra program for those hard-to-fit girls. The first bra is a shit-ton of money (IIRC, $100), but subsequent bras are less expensive. If you're a regular size, that sounds facepunch worthy, but those of you whose dimensions are non-standard will know that a perfect fitting bra is worth its weight in gold. I haven't tried one personally, but it might be worth a look if the usual places don't carry your size.

thanks for this, DD is impossible to fit in a regular store. 

We might get a Costco, is there a place to try the bras on?

I don't think Costcos usually have a fitting room.  But, they do have a great return policy.  When I have bought clothes there, I just buy several different sizes, try them on at home, pick the one I like best and return the rest.  It's just about as painless as a return can be. 

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« Reply #258 on: October 06, 2015, 10:41:36 PM »
Is it facepunch-worthy to do something stupidly decadent with someone else's money, if it was all their idea and they want to do something nice for you?  I'm leaning towards accepting but it feels really wasteful.
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« Reply #259 on: October 07, 2015, 10:00:36 AM »
What is it you are being offered Vee? Is it a gift with no strings attached?  For the record I have no CC info stored for the Coach or Jimmy Choo site and if I did ever purchase any Jimmy Choo I would expect you all to put me in the ICU.  I also don't have a credit card...

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« Reply #260 on: October 07, 2015, 11:15:51 AM »
What is it you are being offered Vee? Is it a gift with no strings attached?
Yes, a NSA gift.

Mom is offering to pay for a weekend 'staycation' in a nice hotel downtown so I can have a break from a stressful situation at home and get some rest. Last-minute NYC hotel at one of the most expensive times of year... easily $500-$600 or more. I can't deny that it would feel really good right now, and be extremely convenient, but it seems horribly wasteful.
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« Reply #261 on: October 07, 2015, 11:25:51 AM »
We are going to spend $4500 to have our apartment heat treated for bedbugs (living in NYC is so wonderful!). The regular treatment is only $900 but involves having the apartment soaked in insecticides on 2-3 separate occasions and we're planning to have a baby soon to that's the last thing we want. I guess this is more of a sob story than a request for a facepunch.


I got begbugs (real bad!) one time and apparently if begbugs don't have a host-body to live on they die in 3 or 4 days on their own.  I think you need to do more research before accepting this expense.
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« Reply #262 on: October 07, 2015, 11:55:44 AM »
What is it you are being offered Vee? Is it a gift with no strings attached?
Yes, a NSA gift.

Mom is offering to pay for a weekend 'staycation' in a nice hotel downtown so I can have a break from a stressful situation at home and get some rest. Last-minute NYC hotel at one of the most expensive times of year... easily $500-$600 or more. I can't deny that it would feel really good right now, and be extremely convenient, but it seems horribly wasteful.

Did you check for deals on Groupon or Livingsocial?  Or try bidding on Priceline?  There's almost always no reason to pay the hotel's full listed price.  Especially since it seems like you don't care in particular which hotel, it just has to be a nice one.

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« Reply #263 on: October 07, 2015, 12:20:40 PM »
Did you check for deals on Groupon or Livingsocial?  Or try bidding on Priceline?  There's almost always no reason to pay the hotel's full listed price.  Especially since it seems like you don't care in particular which hotel, it just has to be a nice one.
I'm actually an old hand at getting deals on nice hotels in NYC. Before I lived here I used to visit on a regular basis and would spend hours poring over websites, bidding and rebidding, etc. I used to game credit card reward points but haven't done that in a while... my crowning achievement was a free suite (with a killer view of the Empire State Building) on New Year's Eve in midtown Manhattan, list price was $1000+.

Anyway. I decided to take her up on it after hunting down a deal for my #1 favorite, most-incredibly-relaxing hotel in the city for ~$140/night under list price. Still expensive but I feel like it is a good compromise. I think it will make me feel a lot better (plus I'll save over 2 hours of time that would be spent on the subway this weekend) and she seems really happy to be able to help.
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« Reply #264 on: October 07, 2015, 12:23:05 PM »
We are going to spend $4500 to have our apartment heat treated for bedbugs (living in NYC is so wonderful!). The regular treatment is only $900 but involves having the apartment soaked in insecticides on 2-3 separate occasions and we're planning to have a baby soon to that's the last thing we want. I guess this is more of a sob story than a request for a facepunch.


I got begbugs (real bad!) one time and apparently if begbugs don't have a host-body to live on they die in 3 or 4 days on their own.  I think you need to do more research before accepting this expense.


"Bed bugs can go without feeding for 20 to 400 days, depending on temperature and humidity. Older stages of nymphs can survive longer without feeding than younger ones, and adults have survived without food for more than 400 days in the laboratory at low temperatures."

From http://www.ipm.ucdavis.edu/PMG/PESTNOTES/pn7454.html
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« Reply #265 on: October 07, 2015, 01:28:56 PM »
That was probably for lice.  Fleas and bedbugs (as noted already) can go for a long time on their own. 

We are going to spend $4500 to have our apartment heat treated for bedbugs (living in NYC is so wonderful!). The regular treatment is only $900 but involves having the apartment soaked in insecticides on 2-3 separate occasions and we're planning to have a baby soon to that's the last thing we want. I guess this is more of a sob story than a request for a facepunch.


I got begbugs (real bad!) one time and apparently if begbugs don't have a host-body to live on they die in 3 or 4 days on their own.  I think you need to do more research before accepting this expense.

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« Reply #266 on: October 07, 2015, 07:41:41 PM »
I drove to a Wal-Mart less that a mile away to purchase food that lacks nutrition and low-quality alcoholic beverages. 

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« Reply #267 on: October 07, 2015, 08:26:28 PM »
I drove to a Wal-Mart less that a mile away to purchase food that lacks nutrition and low-quality alcoholic beverages.

Sounds fun, invite me =P

I mean, facepunches.
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« Reply #268 on: October 08, 2015, 04:48:43 AM »
1) I donated $50 to a local animal rescue and I don't think it's a registered charity for tax purposes. Very much an emotional donation, but it gave me immense satisfaction.

2) I will get an iPhone 6 in the next few weeks and sign up to a new data plan. I've been realising how important my ye olde iPhone (which is gradually dying) is to my mental health and well being, particularly while going through cancer treatment. I can play games, read forums and blogs that soothe the anxiety or distract me in endless waiting rooms or yukky medical procedures, I can talk to various friends on social media so I feel less isolated and lonely, do online banking anywhere, check the weather (and the all-important UV levels), do quick online research of medical options or people I need to phone, and of course, make phone calls and text people. It's not a financially optimised decision but is optimised for my quality of life over the next couple of years. Online community has been important for me for 20 years (pretty much since I got my first Unix email account at uni).


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« Reply #269 on: October 08, 2015, 09:40:08 AM »
1) I donated $50 to a local animal rescue and I don't think it's a registered charity for tax purposes. Very much an emotional donation, but it gave me immense satisfaction.

2) I will get an iPhone 6 in the next few weeks and sign up to a new data plan. I've been realising how important my ye olde iPhone (which is gradually dying) is to my mental health and well being, particularly while going through cancer treatment. I can play games, read forums and blogs that soothe the anxiety or distract me in endless waiting rooms or yukky medical procedures, I can talk to various friends on social media so I feel less isolated and lonely, do online banking anywhere, check the weather (and the all-important UV levels), do quick online research of medical options or people I need to phone, and of course, make phone calls and text people. It's not a financially optimised decision but is optimised for my quality of life over the next couple of years. Online community has been important for me for 20 years (pretty much since I got my first Unix email account at uni).

Unsure how your insurance works over there, but when my mom was going through chemo, one of the other patients told me he got a partial re-imbursement for his smart phone because he uses apps and timers for all his meds and to send info to his patient navigator.

Worth looking into =) If your current phone no longer works well, and it's central to medical compliance, maybe you can get a little $!

(Keeping you in my thoughts, btw. Cancer sucks- not much else I can say! Sorry it's part of your life right now).
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« Reply #270 on: October 09, 2015, 02:34:45 AM »
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« Reply #271 on: October 09, 2015, 02:45:27 AM »
1) I donated $50 to a local animal rescue and I don't think it's a registered charity for tax purposes. Very much an emotional donation, but it gave me immense satisfaction.

2) I will get an iPhone 6 in the next few weeks and sign up to a new data plan. I've been realising how important my ye olde iPhone (which is gradually dying) is to my mental health and well being, particularly while going through cancer treatment. I can play games, read forums and blogs that soothe the anxiety or distract me in endless waiting rooms or yukky medical procedures, I can talk to various friends on social media so I feel less isolated and lonely, do online banking anywhere, check the weather (and the all-important UV levels), do quick online research of medical options or people I need to phone, and of course, make phone calls and text people. It's not a financially optimised decision but is optimised for my quality of life over the next couple of years. Online community has been important for me for 20 years (pretty much since I got my first Unix email account at uni).

Unsure how your insurance works over there, but when my mom was going through chemo, one of the other patients told me he got a partial re-imbursement for his smart phone because he uses apps and timers for all his meds and to send info to his patient navigator.

Worth looking into =) If your current phone no longer works well, and it's central to medical compliance, maybe you can get a little $!

(Keeping you in my thoughts, btw. Cancer sucks- not much else I can say! Sorry it's part of your life right now).

Thank you, and thanks for the suggestion. Pretty sure our health insurance doesn't give reimbursements for that. I have another medical condition where people often use their smartphones to track measurements (or even plug a medical device straight into their smartphone) and I'm confident I would have been told if insurance would allow you to claim back on that. Luckily(?) my chemo is just an infusion in hospital every few weeks so I don't actually need to track anything. Interesting to know that some treatments do require that, though. I'm intrigued by the concept of a medical navigator. With my bafflement and confusion of how the system works, that sounds like an awesome resource to have, if it literally means medical navigator (never heard the term before, sorry).

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« Reply #272 on: October 09, 2015, 08:35:53 AM »
1) I donated $50 to a local animal rescue and I don't think it's a registered charity for tax purposes. Very much an emotional donation, but it gave me immense satisfaction.

2) I will get an iPhone 6 in the next few weeks and sign up to a new data plan. I've been realising how important my ye olde iPhone (which is gradually dying) is to my mental health and well being, particularly while going through cancer treatment. I can play games, read forums and blogs that soothe the anxiety or distract me in endless waiting rooms or yukky medical procedures, I can talk to various friends on social media so I feel less isolated and lonely, do online banking anywhere, check the weather (and the all-important UV levels), do quick online research of medical options or people I need to phone, and of course, make phone calls and text people. It's not a financially optimised decision but is optimised for my quality of life over the next couple of years. Online community has been important for me for 20 years (pretty much since I got my first Unix email account at uni).

Unsure how your insurance works over there, but when my mom was going through chemo, one of the other patients told me he got a partial re-imbursement for his smart phone because he uses apps and timers for all his meds and to send info to his patient navigator.

Worth looking into =) If your current phone no longer works well, and it's central to medical compliance, maybe you can get a little $!

(Keeping you in my thoughts, btw. Cancer sucks- not much else I can say! Sorry it's part of your life right now).

Thank you, and thanks for the suggestion. Pretty sure our health insurance doesn't give reimbursements for that. I have another medical condition where people often use their smartphones to track measurements (or even plug a medical device straight into their smartphone) and I'm confident I would have been told if insurance would allow you to claim back on that. Luckily(?) my chemo is just an infusion in hospital every few weeks so I don't actually need to track anything. Interesting to know that some treatments do require that, though. I'm intrigued by the concept of a medical navigator. With my bafflement and confusion of how the system works, that sounds like an awesome resource to have, if it literally means medical navigator (never heard the term before, sorry).

That's essentially what it is. A layperson or nurse (I've met both) who help a patient to juggle different docs, schedules, and the resources available to them. Ex- my mom's navigator helped put her in touch with the service to coordinate rides to chemo when I couldn't drive her. Could I have looked this resource up myself? In theory, yes, and I even knew it existed. But I'm sure you understand- it's to easy to forget things and get overwhelmed when all that is going on. The navigator's job is to help with that. And my mom's navigator is actually serving now as one of the 'witness/opinion people' (not sure the name!) for her disability eligibility.

All the navigators I have met are just wonderful people who really feel called to do that job. Not all practices use them, but I know they're becoming more common, at least in the US. I hope they catch on everywhere!
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« Reply #273 on: October 09, 2015, 08:34:45 PM »
1) I donated $50 to a local animal rescue and I don't think it's a registered charity for tax purposes. Very much an emotional donation, but it gave me immense satisfaction.

2) I will get an iPhone 6 in the next few weeks and sign up to a new data plan. I've been realising how important my ye olde iPhone (which is gradually dying) is to my mental health and well being, particularly while going through cancer treatment. I can play games, read forums and blogs that soothe the anxiety or distract me in endless waiting rooms or yukky medical procedures, I can talk to various friends on social media so I feel less isolated and lonely, do online banking anywhere, check the weather (and the all-important UV levels), do quick online research of medical options or people I need to phone, and of course, make phone calls and text people. It's not a financially optimised decision but is optimised for my quality of life over the next couple of years. Online community has been important for me for 20 years (pretty much since I got my first Unix email account at uni).

Unsure how your insurance works over there, but when my mom was going through chemo, one of the other patients told me he got a partial re-imbursement for his smart phone because he uses apps and timers for all his meds and to send info to his patient navigator.

Worth looking into =) If your current phone no longer works well, and it's central to medical compliance, maybe you can get a little $!

(Keeping you in my thoughts, btw. Cancer sucks- not much else I can say! Sorry it's part of your life right now).

Thank you, and thanks for the suggestion. Pretty sure our health insurance doesn't give reimbursements for that. I have another medical condition where people often use their smartphones to track measurements (or even plug a medical device straight into their smartphone) and I'm confident I would have been told if insurance would allow you to claim back on that. Luckily(?) my chemo is just an infusion in hospital every few weeks so I don't actually need to track anything. Interesting to know that some treatments do require that, though. I'm intrigued by the concept of a medical navigator. With my bafflement and confusion of how the system works, that sounds like an awesome resource to have, if it literally means medical navigator (never heard the term before, sorry).

That's essentially what it is. A layperson or nurse (I've met both) who help a patient to juggle different docs, schedules, and the resources available to them. Ex- my mom's navigator helped put her in touch with the service to coordinate rides to chemo when I couldn't drive her. Could I have looked this resource up myself? In theory, yes, and I even knew it existed. But I'm sure you understand- it's to easy to forget things and get overwhelmed when all that is going on. The navigator's job is to help with that. And my mom's navigator is actually serving now as one of the 'witness/opinion people' (not sure the name!) for her disability eligibility.

All the navigators I have met are just wonderful people who really feel called to do that job. Not all practices use them, but I know they're becoming more common, at least in the US. I hope they catch on everywhere!

Wow, what an awesome concept! I do hope they catch on here.

And for something vaguely on topic, today DH and I walked to the local shops and had spontaneous yum cha, without even thinking about what it might cost. It was extremely tasty food, but yeah. Not thought out at all.

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« Reply #274 on: October 10, 2015, 11:37:51 AM »
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« Reply #275 on: October 14, 2015, 10:32:53 AM »
I reacted emotionally to a repair my car needed. I took it to the dealer (facepunch #1) and was quoted a price for the repair. It was only today, about 24 hours after I got the notice, that it occurred to me to get quotes for the repair from other repair shops. The quotes I got were roughly 1/3 of the dealer quote. Unfortunately, I was too late, as the work on the car had already begun.

Many facepunches deserved on that one. From now on, I'm getting quotes before I approve of any work. Ugh.

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« Reply #276 on: October 14, 2015, 10:39:38 AM »
I reacted emotionally to a repair my car needed. I took it to the dealer (facepunch #1) and was quoted a price for the repair. It was only today, about 24 hours after I got the notice, that it occurred to me to get quotes for the repair from other repair shops. The quotes I got were roughly 1/3 of the dealer quote. Unfortunately, I was too late, as the work on the car had already begun.

Many facepunches deserved on that one. From now on, I'm getting quotes before I approve of any work. Ugh.
Unless you've already paid for the work, you might consider calling the service manager and telling him/her about the other quotes. Then ask why their work is so much more expensive. You might get the price lowered or a free oil change/car wash or six thrown in. Heck, even if you've paid, I'd call and politely ask why. They now know that you are less likely to return for more service, and might do something to retain your future business. They won't get it, you're not  going to tell them that, right?
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« Reply #277 on: October 14, 2015, 11:13:00 AM »

Unless you've already paid for the work, you might consider calling the service manager and telling him/her about the other quotes. Then ask why their work is so much more expensive. You might get the price lowered or a free oil change/car wash or six thrown in. Heck, even if you've paid, I'd call and politely ask why. They now know that you are less likely to return for more service, and might do something to retain your future business. They won't get it, you're not  going to tell them that, right?

You bet your sweet bippy! They have gotten a lot of work from me in the past 15 months; I will pull the loyal customer card out along with the quotes and ask if it can be reduced to somewhere near what I was quoted. Regardless, my lesson has been learned and it will be outside repair shops from now on (but not before price comparisons!).

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« Reply #278 on: October 14, 2015, 12:23:14 PM »
I ate out twice during the 3 day weekend. Once Friday and once Saturday.  I've been cooking and bringing my lunch ever since. Facepunches welcome...I was visiting my daughter to get photos of my grandchildren plus to give her already purchased small gifts for the grands such as books, the signs from the fair too plus some dolls for my granddaughter.

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« Reply #279 on: October 14, 2015, 04:19:53 PM »
Just ordered pizza, even though the house is full of food - justifications include that I won't be home the next two nights and DH is lousy at feeding himself, and this will give us leftovers, and it was a good sale, and and and it's still $20 at Pizza Hut...

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« Reply #280 on: October 15, 2015, 07:51:13 AM »
Ahhhh Pizza Hut! That buttery salty crust of theirs I hope hasn't changed.  I usually scratch my pizza itch at Costco. 

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« Reply #281 on: October 18, 2015, 06:59:15 PM »
Ate out on Friday night. We had purchased tickets for a show and it was a charity event for a good cause.

We went there straight from work knowing we would need dinner.

The venue that had provided free space for the show has a restaurant, and organisers encouraged guests to eat at the restaurant to support the venue.

My meal was inedible. I am capable of powering through some pretty average meals but this was awful. I detest paying for food when I can cook better at home. My husband wouldn't let me return it but insisted on ordering me something else to eat when I probably would have been satisfied sharing his meal. So facepunch me for paying for three meals when one would have been enough.

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« Reply #282 on: October 18, 2015, 07:53:28 PM »
I just calculated... and we spend about $500 a year on coffee beans to make coffee at home.

Worse: I am unrepentant. At least it's better than when I was getting lattes at starbucks.
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« Reply #283 on: October 18, 2015, 07:55:01 PM »
Worse: I am unrepentant.

Tut tut, must show repentance during confession. No Hail Marys for you! :D

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« Reply #284 on: October 19, 2015, 06:26:48 AM »
I just calculated... and we spend about $500 a year on coffee beans to make coffee at home.

Worse: I am unrepentant. At least it's better than when I was getting lattes at starbucks.
I, too, am unrepentant.  But I only spend about $200 a year on coffee beans.  We have a local woman who buys the beans and roasts them herself.  Only runs $9 for a pound that lasts about a month.  Yeah, I know this works out to less, but sometimes I like the $17 beans... :)

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« Reply #285 on: October 19, 2015, 09:51:01 AM »
I just calculated... and we spend about $500 a year on coffee beans to make coffee at home.

Worse: I am unrepentant. At least it's better than when I was getting lattes at starbucks.
I, too, am unrepentant.  But I only spend about $200 a year on coffee beans.  We have a local woman who buys the beans and roasts them herself.  Only runs $9 for a pound that lasts about a month.  Yeah, I know this works out to less, but sometimes I like the $17 beans... :)

We buy a 5lb bag from a local roaster every 6 weeks. We've frugalized as possible- 10% off loyalty discount, pick up so we don't pay shipping, use their wholesaler portal (with their blessing) to buy the beans cheaper.... It's just expensive to drink this much premium coffee.
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« Reply #286 on: October 19, 2015, 10:00:55 AM »
Feeling a little bad about driving my 50 cent per mile car to church instead of taking the 25 cent per mile motorcycle...  I have a rule of no riding below freezing over bridges.  It was 27F out when I got up, so I decided to drive.  It was up to 38F by the time I actually left (a couple hours later).

Also, caving and hiring a handyman to help me with some damaged wood siding and my shed doors that are rotted out.  I'm horrible at woodworking, hoping to learn from him.

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« Reply #287 on: October 22, 2015, 02:01:12 PM »
Gah! I was all stoked about finally getting to 75% SR, and then I went (sorta) off the rails. Both of our moms came to visit at the same time. I must have blown at least $200 on meals out, dinner tickets, and last-minute supplies for guest rooms.

This, in and of itself, isn't terrible - they'd never met before, I wanted to make memories, and our town is full of unique tourist attractions, etc.

But I feel like I've somehow undone my steady accumulation of MMM habits, and my spendypants gene got triggered. I've kept the b-day stuff for my wife to a reasonable level - $100 or so, and this is overcompensating for the fact that I botched it last year. But damn, I almost bought a new watch. I almost bought a bunch of other things I really have no need for. I almost feel like I should lock up my credit card for a while and give myself another cash allowance re-education period.

Argh. WTF.
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« Reply #288 on: October 22, 2015, 02:57:46 PM »
Bought a ticket to the World Series. It was $1150 overall.

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« Reply #289 on: October 22, 2015, 03:11:20 PM »
I'm considering buying a +40$ salt mill, just because I really want a salt mill, to put the fancy grey french salt my MIL brought us last time she was here.
I'll probably end up buying in a flea market, but just the fact I'm considering buying it it's facepunch worthy...
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« Reply #290 on: October 22, 2015, 04:07:48 PM »
You can get a perfectly fine salt mill for $2 at Trader Joes or Aldi. It comes with salt in it but is reusable. If you like coarse salt (I do) you can get a tiny dish and spoon made for salt at a flea market.

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« Reply #291 on: October 22, 2015, 06:05:20 PM »
I ate out twice yesterday!  And I am also unrepentant.  Lunch was a great catch-up with a former colleague I haven't seen in a long time, and then I took my daughter out to dinner.

I did learn that the place we ate lunch is not nearly as good as another restaurant of the same cuisine. 

(Ottawa MMMers, Burrito Gringo wins again, and 168 Sushi Buffet is nicer than Red Lobster).

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« Reply #292 on: October 22, 2015, 08:42:19 PM »
I ate out twice yesterday!  And I am also unrepentant.

Shocking, truly shocking.

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« Reply #293 on: October 23, 2015, 07:16:38 AM »
I'm considering buying a +40$ salt mill, just because I really want a salt mill, to put the fancy grey french salt my MIL brought us last time she was here.
I'll probably end up buying in a flea market, but just the fact I'm considering buying it it's facepunch worthy...
Maybe I'm just weird, but I don't think that's a big deal, IF it will last a long time and truly enhance your enjoyment of your own kitchen.

Three years ago, at Christmas, all I asked of my family - mom and two grown sisters with families - was this utterly ridiculous pepper mill. 16 inches of stainless steel, could legitimately be used to fracture a skull, way beyond anyone's needs. And it will probably last till I die, which means the cost divides out to barely a dollar a year. It still makes me happy every time I use it. It's all about rationing your indulgences, if you ask me.
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« Reply #294 on: October 23, 2015, 08:06:46 AM »
I'm considering buying a +40$ salt mill, just because I really want a salt mill, to put the fancy grey french salt my MIL brought us last time she was here.
I'll probably end up buying in a flea market, but just the fact I'm considering buying it it's facepunch worthy...
Maybe I'm just weird, but I don't think that's a big deal, IF it will last a long time and truly enhance your enjoyment of your own kitchen.

Three years ago, at Christmas, all I asked of my family - mom and two grown sisters with families - was this utterly ridiculous pepper mill. 16 inches of stainless steel, could legitimately be used to fracture a skull, way beyond anyone's needs. And it will probably last till I die, which means the cost divides out to barely a dollar a year. It still makes me happy every time I use it. It's all about rationing your indulgences, if you ask me.

That's the thing, I really like it, it's much prettier and it will likely last much longer that a cheap one (I had them and I'd rather not again), altho I don't think I can fracture a skull with it, except maybe a baby's skull, or a small animal.
So I'm gonna check out a big flea market this w-e (I already toured all thrift stores in my area), and if I don't find one, I'll shed a couple of hours of pay to buy something I like.

Here, if you're curious:
http://www.stokesstores.com/en/kitchen-food-prep/salt-pepper/c-m-keswick-p-m-7.html
There are better ones, but I like the transparent part so I see the level, and the wood because I like wooden stuff.
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« Reply #295 on: October 23, 2015, 09:13:27 AM »
Gah! I was all stoked about finally getting to 75% SR, and then I went (sorta) off the rails. Both of our moms came to visit at the same time. I must have blown at least $200 on meals out, dinner tickets, and last-minute supplies for guest rooms.

This, in and of itself, isn't terrible - they'd never met before, I wanted to make memories, and our town is full of unique tourist attractions, etc.

But I feel like I've somehow undone my steady accumulation of MMM habits, and my spendypants gene got triggered. I've kept the b-day stuff for my wife to a reasonable level - $100 or so, and this is overcompensating for the fact that I botched it last year. But damn, I almost bought a new watch. I almost bought a bunch of other things I really have no need for. I almost feel like I should lock up my credit card for a while and give myself another cash allowance re-education period.

Argh. WTF.

Man, I've seen enough of your posts to know your savings are probably in general in the right direction. I don't care if you ended up saving $0.00 for the month, $200 to have some really good experiences with the most important women in each of your lives is worth than money alone.

I love my mom, $200 ain't shit man. Don't feel bad. No face punch from me.

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« Reply #296 on: October 28, 2015, 11:29:33 AM »
I just ordered 2 Fisher Price houses for my grandchildren off Ebay for $67 for Christmas.  Please facepunch me one is gently used one new in box but the Little People I scored on clearance several months ago at Shoppers Food needed a home. 

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« Reply #297 on: October 28, 2015, 11:43:57 AM »
Man, I've seen enough of your posts to know your savings are probably in general in the right direction. I don't care if you ended up saving $0.00 for the month, $200 to have some really good experiences with the most important women in each of your lives is worth than money alone.

I love my mom, $200 ain't shit man. Don't feel bad. No face punch from me.
Hehe.. yeah, it really wasn't the spending that bothered me so much as the feeling that I'd mentally undone some real progress. It took a long time to adjust my attitude and now I'm struggling to climb the same hill.

I'm one of those people that this stuff doesn't come naturally to. I'll be OK though. I still put $5K into the market this month and paid off $1K+ in debt... lmao
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« Reply #298 on: October 28, 2015, 01:19:55 PM »
I just ordered 2 Fisher Price houses for my grandchildren off Ebay for $67 for Christmas.  Please facepunch me one is gently used one new in box but the Little People I scored on clearance several months ago at Shoppers Food needed a home.

Well, if you would have had to leave FP Little People homeless over Christmas....

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« Reply #299 on: October 28, 2015, 01:58:12 PM »
Man, I've seen enough of your posts to know your savings are probably in general in the right direction. I don't care if you ended up saving $0.00 for the month, $200 to have some really good experiences with the most important women in each of your lives is worth than money alone.

I love my mom, $200 ain't shit man. Don't feel bad. No face punch from me.
Hehe.. yeah, it really wasn't the spending that bothered me so much as the feeling that I'd mentally undone some real progress. It took a long time to adjust my attitude and now I'm struggling to climb the same hill.

I'm one of those people that this stuff doesn't come naturally to. I'll be OK though. I still put $5K into the market this month and paid off $1K+ in debt... lmao

Zephyr's circling a very important point that I don't think has been explicitly stated in this thread:

Badassity cures spendypants syndrome!

You think Mr. and Mrs. MMM tell their mothers-in-law "Sorry, no-can-do, no birthday party for you-who-carried-me-for-9-months"

Oh hell no.

What they do is:
1) Prep ahead of time - knowing Pete, he plans next year's birthday celebration WHILE HE'S AT the current one. Then find frugal ways to make things happen.
2) Increase Badassity. Car making a squealing whine? Replace that idler pulley yourself. Bike got a flat? Fix it yourself. Out of peanut butter? Get it from Aldi. Buy crucial goods on super-sale and stock up.

Zephyr hinted at this himself. While he "stumbled" in one way, he then jacked up the Badassity in another way. I do this all the time. I had TWO birthdays I had to pay for in October. I went ahead, bit the bullet and it cost me $300. Wife was extremely happy. Son was extremely happy. Joy Joy Joy.

Outside I was smiling. Inside, I was gritting my teeth and vowing revenge on my transgression. I was able to secure MANY TIMES RETURN by:

1) Getting DW (birthday girl) to up her 401k withdrawals while she was in her receptive state of mind after the party. :-)
2) Side gig will get me the basic $300 back by year's-end.
3) More Goodwill donations for the tax break.

With apologies to Dune:

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Spend is the stash-killer.
Spend is the little-death that obliterates FIRE.
I will face my spend.
I will permit spend to pass over my budget and through my budget.
And when it has gone past I will turn the holy spreadsheet to list its path.
Where the spend has gone there will be badassity. My budget will remain."
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